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#mystery solved

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Ice on a cliff (at Mountain City, Tennessee)

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i dont get offended at white people jokes even though im white because: 

i can recognize white people as a whole have systemically oppressed POC in america, which is where i live 

most people when they make white people jokes only mean the shitty white people and i am not a shitty white person 

im not a pissbaby

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If you spot this Green Quaker Parrot outside in the Chicago area or just in general, please please notify me. She escaped and I’m absolutely devastated. Please, please reblog and spread the word.

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Superman #680, November 2008, cover by Alex Ross

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hey @ goyim could y'all reblog this if you're actually willing to listen to Jewish people and protect us?

we really need allies right now, and I know seeing this on people’s blogs could be comforting to other Jewish people.

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Bubbasaurus enjoys his glam pool. #quakerparrot #birblr #birds (at Bristol, Virginia)

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Why are you taking my picture? #catsofinstagram #cat (at Bristol, Virginia)

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Poor baby got carsick on our ride. (at Bristol, Virginia)

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Ok. I need to add to this. First, what you are describing in far more common for young men (under 25) than for older. I suspect it's that older women as a rule are less subtle in showing interest and older men tend to not be quite so affection starved.

So, how do we bridge the sexiness gap?

1. Effort: Guys, something you almost certainly don't comprehend right now, and may not for a long time, is that the difference between the girl that makes your eyes lock on her from across the room and the one your eyes slide across without noticing is about an hour spent in the bathroom each morning. The girl you find sexy as hell has put time, effort and money into makeup, clothes, hair product, etc. They have taken the time to learn how to make themselves look good. If you're anything like me as a young man, you probably shower and make sure you wear deodorant, then put on your least smelly jeans and head out. You can be born an 8, being a 10 takes work. Put in some effort.

2. Confidence: This is the biggest single thing. Confidence is sexy. Full stop. This is why girls date assholes. Assholes are cocky, and cocky asshole looks close enough to confidence to fool women the first few times they see it. Most "nice guys" who bitch about being friendzoned just lack confidence and wait too long to show interest. Fortunately, confidence is very much a fake it till you make it thing. Pretend to be confident and before you know it, you will be.

3. Appearance: Honestly, this isn't that important for most girls. If you can wear clean clothes, carry on a conversation, treat them like people and act like you like yourself, you're gonna do fine.

But in the spirit of examples, I'll tell you what my wife finds sexy. Every woman is different, so these may or may not work.

Cologne. Be careful with it! Fragrances are meant to be applied in small quantities to areas of your body with high blood flow, typically wrist and throat. The scent is altered by the pH of your skin oils and body heat. This is what makes it smell really good. If you put too much on, it can't work. A man's scent should be a reward for someone who gets close to him, not an advertisement smelled across the room.

Chest hair. Yup, she actually unbuttons my polos when she sees me wearing one. Some women prefer a shaved chest.

Clothes- study the color wheel. Learn about complementary colors and contrasting colors. Don't wear clothes with holes in them.

Hygene. Shave your neck. If your facial hair is patchy, don't try to wear a beard. If you shave, do it daily. Stubble is like sandpaper. Use a good shave butter with Shea butter in it. Gives you softer skin and helps control acne. Take a shower. Brush. Floss. Manscape. Yes, down there.

4. Entitlement. Remember at all times, she is a person, she wants and needs her own things, unrelated to what you want. She does not owe you anything. No matter how nice you have been, or how much emotional support you have given, you are not owed anything. Nothing will doom your chances of being sexy like feeling entitled.

That's all I got, guys. Hope it helps.

(note: I have no romantic or sexualized experience myself, so I admit *some* of these points rely entirely on secondhand stuff and media)

One thing I think is not talked about very much is that straight men live pretty much desexualized lives if we’re not actually having sex at that moment, and then there’s not much room to be the object rather than subject.

As I’ve said before, we men don’t have clothing options for “dressing sexy” in masculine clothing (there is cross dressing but that is different). There’s no male equivalent to the short skirt or low cut top. There’s no male lingerie that isn’t seen as a joke.

Further, we just don’t get validation for our sexuality outside of a sexual partner. We are almost never complimented for our looks or sexiness from platonic friends like women are, especially same sex friends.

There really aren’t many straight male role models for raw aesthetic sexiness in mainstream culture (besides unnaturally muscled men). In fiction, male characters are almost never attractive for embodying sexiness but rather for doing things (saving the world, being extremely witty, being a genius, winning the tournament, etc.). Their sexiness is non-aesthetic and sometimes is in spite of their aesthetics.

Anecdotally, it seems like a lot of men aren’t even called physically hot and sexy by their own sexual partners, who themselves focus on personality. There’s not much room to fulfill the role of passive sexism object for you partner for many/most men.

I think it is telling that a lot of porn for men ignores the man’s personality and has a woman just throwing themselves at the man, overcome with lust.

Also there the fact that women seem to rarely approach men and some seem to often expect the man to do most of the sexual escalation, especially in the early stages.

We talk about women of color or women who are disabled being sexualized, but we don’t talk about how all straight men are desexualized and denied the ability to be sexualized object.

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Everything said above is fine, but ALSO, the standard for affordability in rent is that the cost of rent is one third your net income. I.e., if you net $1500 a month, you can reasonably afford to pay $500 for rent.

Just an example:

My wife and I together make $2800 a month net. Her before net includes our health insurance. So we can afford up to $866 or so. We pay $750 because small town. Then add about $80 for phone, $40 for internet, $250 for all utilities, and a car payment of nearly $390, we have about $1200 left to buy groceries, feed the pets, other expenses and hopefully save a bit for retirement.

We live in a tiny town, with a low cost of living. We have two incomes and no kids. We are educated and can get decent jobs. If you put us back in Seattle with the same income, we would be in serious trouble. A house like ours costs around $1800 a month to rent. that plus our bills would leave us $100 a month for groceries and gas and the rest. God forbid either of us ever got sick or hurt.

Now imagine I was a single parent. Now it goes from hard to impossible.

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When I accidentally used it on my wife.

reblog if you’ve ever been horrified by your own Customer Service voice

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My thinking on this is that it's not a mistake that each primarch is "the best" at something. The Big E was making generals for the ultimate war. I think he took his own genome and spliced it differently in each case, attempting to hyperexpress certain traits that would be vital to war on that scale.

Charisma, aggression, guile, math, geometry, creativity, passion, artistry. Each of those traits is given form in one or more primarchs. Horus was always meant to be his#2. He was built for it, from the ground up. Of course he looks like the Emperor. He was designed to be followed.

Do you have any pics of Emps in lab gear? It occurs to me he was a scientist, yet you only ever see him in armor or dresswear.

I exist to provide this kind of content, co-fault of @ultramarineblues this time. We were having a conversation about how unsafe His long hair is in a gene-lab environment…

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I love this so much.

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I can’t stop thinking about crocodiles for some reason so here’s some cool pictures I found of probably the second largest one in captivity, his name is Utan:

isn’t he beautiful

listen to the SOUND when he bites

and that’s not even a real power bite, that’s mostly just heavy bone falling on heavy bone from his jaws and the air rushing out from between them

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Rex Velvet "kidnapped" make a wish kids and took them out on Lake Washington so that Pheonix Jones could rescue them.

Washington State (not DC) is the only state in the union where you can legally have a fistfight with somebody (with police as referees) to settle your differences