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The number of people under, like, 50 who are into opera is not that large. And the number of people who are into feedism (or at least openly into feedism) is also not that large. So like, it's kind of surprising to me how many people I've encountered who are into both? Like is it because something something something fat lady or what

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nvm it tasted delicious

complete devastation: this cake did not come out looking good

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complete devastation: this cake did not come out looking good

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I'll make a separate post but big happy Juneteenth!!! us black folks are far from freedom as we are still systemically oppressed, but today we celebrate the day where we get a step closer to liberation.

big hearts for black folks out there, especially black trans people who carry the American LGBT movement on their backs yet don't receive much flowers. ily

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Plus speedpaint <3

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oh you think feedism is bad for people to engage in because it presents a risk for their health? of course, sure, that seems like an easy position to defend. I gotta say though it must be tough to oppose extreme sports, alcohol, tobacco, driving a car, swimming, hormonal birth control, pregnancy, most over the counter painkillers and objects small enough to be accidentally swallowed. what? you don't? that's weird. seems like you might just hate fat people for some reason.

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Days since hammering myself in the tit with a dumbbell: 0

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In the era of ozempic, fatphobia, and weight loss…you better be subscribing your fats/gainers/stuffers/f**dees (I can’t believe I’m censoring this, fuck tumblr) content!!

You should be on your hands and knees thanking us for our existence!!! Especially since we’ve lost a few due to the time we’re in rn. Being a f**dee doesn’t mean you don’t feel societal pressure to lose weight.

SUB TO UR FUCKING F**DIST CONTENT CREATORS THAT AREN’T SUBMITTING TO THE SOCIETAL PRESSURES OF WEIGHT LOSS OR BEING THIN. WE ARE DOING THE LORDS WORK AROUND HERE AND I EXPECT TO BE TREATED LIKE IT!!!

LIFE IS HARD, PAY US FOR THE WORK WE ARE DOING!!! YOU COULDN’T GET UR DICK UP WITHOUT US!!

(Feel free to reblog this with links to your sites. We deserve to make a living doing what we do best, providing this community with the masturbation material they would wither away without.)

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I can't tell if people are being willfully oblivious or just haven't actually listened to people's complaints about us or what but like, the people who are most vocal and have actual things to say about hating feedism, like the NAAFA crowd, aren't saying that feedism is evil because liking fat people is gross, they're saying feedism is evil because it's full of thin feeders who nonconsensually objectify fat women, engage in feedism without consent with people, and take advantage of body size power dynamics to manipulate and abuse fat people.

There are obviously fatphobic implications in the way these perceptions are generalized and extrapolated from (such as saying all feedees are powerless and delusional otherwise why would they stay on inherently abusive relationships and they have to be saved from themselves), and how they get twisted into the message that all fat people should be suspicious of anyone who finds them attractive because only an evil fetishist would be into them.

But reducing the argument against feedism to 'they just hate fat people' just makes us seem ignorantly ridiculous and just not responding in good faith, I'm sorry.

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So I guess my sex fetish is an eating disorder now, huh?

Been seeing a lot of these posts going around about the feedism censorship, so I thought I'd make my own so as not to derail other people's discussions, but here are my own thoughts on the very good points I feel are being made by my fellow members of the community.

That feedism often goes hand in hand with fat acceptance and fat liberation, unlearning fatphobia including internalized fatphobia, and RECOVERING from eating disorders and not just the restrictive ones. For a lot of people, feedism has been a gateway to repairing our relationship with our bodies and food, so to have it become a censorable offense on par with promoting anorexia is a huge smack in the face. I mean, it would be one thing to go 'we've flagged this as mature because you're posing for pictures in your underpants', which, I would still disagree with because there are posters of models wearing underpants in every shopping mall you've ever walked into and that's not a problem even if people do bring their whole families there, so like...huge double-standard. But we're not getting flagged for being sexy, are we? We're being condemned for being '''dangerous'''. But I'm just preaching to the choir right now, aren't I?

I'm seeing a lot of rebuttal against the common misconceptions that outsiders have against this kink, such as 'not all feeders are abusive manipulators' and 'not all feedees are manipulated victims,' and while I do see the importance of meeting outsiders on a middle-ground, I worry that this sort of rhetoric, or at least, phrasing it like that, tends to throw certain feedists under the bus? To the feedists that want to engage exclusively with the soft and healing brand of feedism, I see and salute you. But I think that framing it as "not all feedists are bad" creates a divide and implies a certain degree of "well, I'm not like *those* feedists"--and like...we still understand the concept of roleplay, right? We get that saying "I'm not like the bad ones" just invites other people to demand that we prove it, right? Those videos where the feedee 'doesn't want it' and then the feeder shoves more cake into their mouth anyway--we get that those are actors, right? We get that just because other kinksters practice kink in a way that we might think is scary does NOT automatically imply an absence of consent, right? Oh, but what am I thinking. The censorship isn't about sex or consent, it's about '''''health''''.

Which brings me to my next point, and this one is JUST for the civvies: health is not the price we owe society anyway. Life shouldn't be a vending machine that you have to drop health coins into until human decency falls out. And what exactly is anyone hoping to accomplish by ragging on someone else's kink because 'ooooh, what if you hurt your health?' Are they really trying to save anyone? Or are they just trying to wrap themselves up in the false security blanket of 'well, if I work out and *eat clean* then nothing bad can possibly happen to ME, here, I'll prove it, if you follow my advice then nothing bad will happen to YOU, either! This is why I'm smarter than you and this is why I deserve the social leverage I've been granted by a set of arbitrary beauty standards carefully crafted to benefit capitalism!' Newsflash, honey bunches: bad things can happen to anyone. Tomorrow any one of us could wake up and get hit by a shark or eaten by a bus or what have you.

Anyway, thanks for tuning in. Feel free to add on if I've missed anything or you have something else to say, but there will be NO sex-negativity or ridiculous health-elitism on my post, capisce?

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today at the gym i sat down at the upright row machine and the silver fox butch who's the only other person at the gym when i go was like "oh no, i haven't wiped that down yet!" and i was like HAVE NO FEAR MA'AM! NOT ONLY DO I HAVE A STRONG IMMUNE SYSTEM, I AM ALSO COMPLETELY NORMAL ABOUT BEING WHERE YOUR SWEATY BODY WAS

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now having bitched about that i do want to say that i think it's important that people who want to and are trying to gain weight have space to talk about it bc it does a lot to push back against the default background noise on weight gain only ever being a negative and uncontrollable process. when a friend starts looking glowy and more at ease with some additional weight on them or when somebody excitedly talks about managing to eat consistently and gain 20 pounds it makes me smile and it feels like a push against the constant slog of weight loss encouragement and every fear i've ever had about getting or staying fat. weight gain and getting bigger aren't choices for everyone, but that doesn't mean it's not something to celebrate for those striving towards it; fatness cannot be condemned to only ever be neutral-at-best. if you're trying to gain weight i'm wishing the best for you and i hope you get to eat something phenomenal today

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everyone makes fun of English cuisine but everyone wants to eat hobbit food... 🤔🤔🤔

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IDEA: boudoir photos taken in front of an open fridge. do you hear me. Do you hear me. midnight snack themed boudoir photo shoot. the fridge getting emptier and the tummy getting visibly fuller as the shoot goes on

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trying to plan a L.ord of the R.ings themed potluck w some like-minded local buddies and the problem is I want to cook EVERYTHING

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you don't have to apologize for not answering for long! As you can see, I'm a busy person myself 😅

so, my most favorite trope/scenario in wg is when a character is also "rags to riches". Like, they were poor and maybe couldn't even afford food, but something happens and they are lifted to the top of power and now the luxurious lifestyle has an effect on their figure... The uplift can happen fast (the "lost prince/princess" situation) or maybe they're some cunning schemer making their way to the top as their waistline grows with their political power🤭 Fat generally has symbolised authority and the ability to live well/to indulge for me as long as I remember myself, so tropes with these things together have always been my favorite! I'm interested, what do you think about that?

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YES... HA HA HA... YES!!!

Rags-to-riches weight gain also goes so well with weight gain as recovery / healing... The visible, physical, tangible benefits of not only finally being able to have enough but being able to have more than enough. GOD it's so good ...

I've thought about rags-to-riches stuff before in the context of, like, a starving artist getting a sugar patron feeder... but I hadn't considered the cunning schemer self-starter angle before, which is wild to me because I very much enjoy a cunning schemer. A scrappy little bastard making their way up in the world, getting less scrappy and less little as they go... getting soft without ever getting soft, if you know what I mean.

AND there's lots of narrative possibilities for fun little scenes! like maybe they're so used to food insecurity that their first instinct is always to eat as much as they can any time they can... like they've never been in a situation before where there was more food than they could eat, so stopping while there's food still on the table has simply never entered their mind as a possibility. But when the table keeps getting replenished, well, cue our hero stuffing themself absolutely stupid before they realize it is actually possible to eat until they're not hungry anymore. in fact, it's possible to eat until their belly strains against their fine new clothes. until they can barely speak in between belching and moaning and gasping to breathe around the fresh weight of all the rich food they've crammed into themself. until they realize the new ache in their stretched, swollen belly comes from overindulgence, not the much more familiar twinges of hunger.

... and then, perhaps after some discreet belly rubs from their polite, obsequious servants, and maybe a small glass of fine brandy... it's possible to eat a little more.

Well, with multiple meals a day and the instinct to eat like that whenever they get the chance... I think they'd be needing those fine new clothes re-tailored pretty soon, don't you?

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guy who pretends not to know the most recent medical advice on field first aid for snake bites just so he can homoerotically suck the venom from his buddy's wound