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a reminder to unfollow if you are:

• racist • xenophobic • anti-semitic • transphobic / a terf • homophobic • ableist • a trump supporter • a nazi?? like i didn’t think i had to make that obvious but

you are NOT welcome here. this is a safe space for trans kids and your bigotry does not belong anywhere close to us. scram.

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Happy TDOV

I'm sorry our blog isn't constantly updated and questions aren't always answered right away, but the fact that you guys still follow means a lot! If anyone wants to be a mod, we're accepting applications!! In celebration of TDOV, I thought it would be really cool if you guys could send in some of your positive coming out stories for us to share with our followers. Good vibes never hurt!

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Hey, I saw your blog while scrolling through a "trans help" tag, I was wandering if you give advise or something? I find I need it.

We give advice that we think we're able to give, and if we don't think we're necessarily able to answer your question we try to post it to ask our followers if they have any advice. Though I'll admit that right now the blog is running awfully slowly, so.

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How do we send in a mod application?

Just send this account a message with answers to the questions on the application. Please, if anyone wants to be a mod send in an application! I don't really have the time to constantly be checking this blog, and clearly the other mods don't either so we'd all really appreciate it!-Zeke

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Hey, I just got my first binder and I'm super excited! I tried it on and my chest was flat as all hell, it felt amazing to see that even if my chest was the tiniest bit tight (I think it's because that's my first time wearing a binder, my body isn't used to it). So, I was wondering if anyone knew any important stuff to remember about my body and my binder and how I can look after it. Help please?

Don't wear it if you're sick!Start wearing it for only and hour or two at a time then work your way up!If you feel any discomfort, take it off!If you feel pain, try to go a day or two without wearing it!After you take it off, cough!Wash it by hand and hang it up to dry!If any followers have anything else to add, feel free!-Zeke

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I'm trans fem. I can't find shoes. My Tribble is that I have large feet, I wear a 15 wide in women's sizes. I can't find anywhere that sells decent shoes that large. Online it's just men's/unisex boots or costumey pumps. Do you know of anywhere?

Check online.

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Do you have any advice for passing as more masculine for someone who's pretty curvy,has a feminine face, n hasn't started T & probably won't for a while?

Contour👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻There are a lot of charts online for how to contour your face to make it look more masculine and it was a lifesaver for me. -Zeke

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Hey guys! I'm an afab genderfluid and I've experienced a lot of dysphoria lately (also because of my period). I'm young and my period is not regular yet, so I use pills that my gynecologist prescribed me. I asked my mum if I could use the pills everyday, because menstruhation makes me feel really really bad, but she thinks it's not healthy. (also I'm not out, she knows I'm having some kind of "identity crisis", but that's all) So,Is it possible to use pills so avoid menstruhation? Is it healthy?

It is possible, but it is not good to do often! If needed you can use it to postpone your period, but you shouldn't do that for longer than a week or so because it can make your body sick. If you want to stop your period altogether I'd recommend you talk to your doctor about the depo shot. -Zeke

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Hello, my bestfriend friend is having his top surgery in 7 months and has asked me to come along with his girlfriend and mother. He is basically like my brother and was more than honored when he asked me. I'm nervous I'm not going to be prepared for him. I want to be as prepared as I can be for him. Do you have any tips for me? Anything would be greatly appreciated.

All you need is a positive and supportive attitude, and it already seems like you have that! I say he's lucky to have a pal like you. Also, make sure he follows the doctors orders. Being happy and positive is important, but make sure he stays in bed and doesn't do anything that the doctor says he shouldn't. Be the parental friend while he needs it. -Zeke

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Heyo, I'm planning on coming out as trans to my parents, I have a script and the most transphobic thing they've ever done is take a "smile-and-nod-he's-just-old" approach to a caitlyn jenner joke from my grandpa, and that's all fine and dandy, but I was wondering if you might have any tips for coming out? Esp since im in MS and you know people here don't take kindly to that. Thank ya so much! -- A very anxious transboy

When I came out to my mom to her face finally, she just told me to "fake it 'til you make it', as in pretend to be a girl and I'll figure out it was just a faze. I say no matter what happens, use that logic backwards. Pretend you're happy and don't care what anyone tells you until it eventually becomes the truth and you don't care what they say. Aside from that, make sure you're in a safe situation to come out.

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So, I'm mtf and 9 months into HRT and having a really hard time passing. I introduce myself as [female name] and get strange looks from people who will even sometimes ask, "sorry did you say [male name that sounds like female name]?" It makes me feel really awful. I know that transfolk don't need to pass, but I'm not transitioning so that I can be obviously trans, you know? I'm transitioning so that people see me as a woman and I'm worried that people just look at me and see a freak.

I'm so sorry this is your experience 😞Just try doing things that make you feel better about yourself and boost your esteem. For me personally, if I'm trying to pass and I'm feeling put down by people misgendering me I do things like wear cologne or comfortable boxers or sometimes I'll put makeup on so it looks like I have stubble. So when you're feeling down, maybe try wearing laced underwear or going to a spa or something else that might make you feel better about yourself. Try it and see what works for you☺️-Zeke

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My s/o is nonbinary but has a very feminine body. Lately they have had a lot of dysphoria. Is there any way I can help them feel better about themselves or that they can pass better?

This might just be a question for your s/o. Some things that could potentially help would be to shower your s/o with compliments (without it seeming fake), always being there to listen when they need to rant, and especially letting them know that if they need anything, you'll always be available to help to the best of your abilities! Aside from that, all people are different so communicating with them to see what help they need from you is your best bet. How they need up could be very different from what any of the mods on here need. -Zeke

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For anyone who is fearing their family rejecting them: if they are willing to turn you away, they aren't really family. You can reject them right back. Surround yourself with good people and turn away haters. Remember, "family don't end in blood".

This !!!

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I am ftm trans and I want to transition, get top surgery and go on hormones, that is. I am so scared for my future relationships when I pass as male, yet still have a vagina. I don't want bottom surgery. I fear that I will be rejected, even hurt physically by both being trans and having a vagina. This world is so fucked up these days and I truly am scared. So scared that some days I consider not transitioning at all and living life in a body that is not mine. advice?

Fear of rejection is totally legitimate. When I first started to transition I couldn't even think about getting surgery because my biggest fear is that I still wouldn't pass and be rejected even more than I already would. My advice would be to cross that bridge when it comes. If you want top surgery, get it! If you don't want bottom surgery, don't get it! I'm not going to tell you that every single person you meet will be accepting of that, because that's not necessarily true. However, I will tell you that some people will, and that's all you really have to focus on. People on the street won't even know, and it could be a good thing when it comes to a relationship! If you're in a relationship with someone who isn't accepting of trans people but they don't know you're trans, that could put you in a really uncomfortable situation. If you choose not to get surgery it'll cast out all those negative people from the get-go, and I'm sure you will find people who are accepting of it. Hope that helps!-Zeke

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I'm trans (ftm) and im 100% sure about it. The only thing is, I know my family will not believe me and think im going through a phase. I know I will get shit on for it and my mother will cry because she wants me to be a girly girl and she can't deal with it. I am 16 and I want to go on hormones, but I can't exactly do that without coming out. Any suggestions about coming out?

Super late !! I'm so sorry!!I was in a really similar situation before I came out. Honestly, do whatever makes you most comfortable. If you think she might cry and you don't want to be around for it, maybe leave her a letter or something on your table when you leave for school. If you think she might have a lot of questions maybe let her know in person if you think you would be willing to sit through the tears if needed. I wrote a long coming out post and put in on Facebook without tagging my mom in it, and even though she saw it she pretended not to, so maybe don't go about it that way. For my dad I wrote a very long letter including a lot of information and definitions to back myself up and left it on a table for him. -Zeke

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Looking For New Admins !!

Hey, original creator of the blog here !! I haven't used this blog in quite a long time, sorry about that, but I'm glad to see that other admins have kept it going! That being said, it doesn't seem to be super active so I was thinking some new admins would be helpful to get this thing back up and running. If you're interested please send in an application with your age, gender, sexuality, a bit about yourself, and why you think you should be an admin or mod or whatever you'd like to call it and we'll go from there. Also to whoever was a mod on here, I changed the password, sorry. Just shoot this blog a message and I'll let you know what the new password is. -Zeke

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2.)I'm transitioning into a boy, but I still really love wearing dresses and makeup. I know that boys wearing that stuff is very very normal. But because it doesn't exactly go with the gender roles, people might not take me seriously...

The people who don’t take you seriously because you like that stuff don’t take you seriously anyways. The people who respect you will continue to respect you no matter how you dress, and the people who don’t want to respect you will come up with excuses for their transphobia no matter what you do. If they have some sort of authority over your transition -- like a doctor prescribing hrt, for instance -- then their opinion unfortunately does matter even if it’s wrong, and it might be worthwhile to try and conform to their ideas around them so they don’t hold up your transition. But the average transphobic jerk on the street? Their opinions are annoying and worthless and should be ignored as much as possible.

Alan