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ID: tumblr tag that says “cloth mother website”

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Pissed off right now.

My partner has an appointment with a gender clinic today (it went well) and his clinician said something along the lines of;

"Please ignore the deadname on my email, I'm intersex and I've legally changed my name but I'm not 'technically trans' so higher ups say they won't change it on my professional email."

Hello???? He works at a gender clinic????

A name change is a name change regardless???

Fuck

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You can replace [ACTIVITY YOU ENJOY] with [SCROLLING] but watch out. This sucks bad 👍

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something to be said about how hard it can be to find the balance between crip joy and/or disabled pride and like. feeling trapped by narratives of inspiration porn and the happy cripple. it feels like expression of pride for our own sake is too easily coopted into pressure to have pride all day every day and like. when among this do we just get to be human people who experience a broad range of feelings about their bodies and circumstances

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Being an adult in this recession and being like wow I am totally "splurging" on 3 new sets of cotton underwear and 3 pairs of socks like whoaaaaa hold your horses duke of the land where's all this money gonna come from

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“Girls and the gays” is so interesting because even though both parts of that statement describe lesbians, I always get the feeling that the people who say it are not thinking about lesbians at all

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Do not come on my posts with “Black Women Are Superhuman Beings Who Can Handle Anything” takes. That’s a dangerous and reductive rhetoric rife with misogynoir. No, black women cannot take more negative and harmful attacks than other women can. Black women are not primed to withstand more attacks and harassment than women of other races. Stop. That is horrifying. Black women deserve grace, compassion, and a soft place to rest, not constant burdens.

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i really hate how so many disabled people will be like “it’s okay to use the accessible stall/priority seating/etc.!! no one should judge you because you might be invisibly disabled 🥰 [hearts around face emoji]” to abled people. okay but they’re not though. they’re not invisibly disabled.

also simply being disabled does not give you the right to use every single thing that’s designated for disabled people unless you need it for YOUR disability. some invisible disabilities do require use of those things but so so many don’t…and i’m the bitter mean cripple for pointing out that you should just use a different fucking seat/stall/whatever

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Friendly psa that if your disability is visible thanks to aids/devices, that does make you visibly disabled, but you'll probably have different experiences to people who look physically different, and that's okay. Different experiences are cool and it's not cool to talk over each other/diminish others' experiences, thanks for coming to my ted talk.

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wonderful pair of posts on the dash tonight

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Today a very friendly Golden Retriever came up to me and I said "hey buddy :D" and the owner asked "do you know each other?" like his dog had a social life he didn't know about

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Am I wrong to be disappointed in the gettys queer history exhibit? I adored seeing everything and everyone don't get me wrong, but there was one photograph for intersex people. It was someone's genitals. The info board only said they didn't know the name of the subject and it was likely taken for medical purposes. People were gathering in that corner and gawking. My only representation in the queer art history space was a nonconsentual picture of genitals. That was it. The only representation they had for intersex history was a waist down picture of someone's genitals. Not our activism, not Hermaphrodites with Attitude, not our lives, not our faces, not our books, not the celebrities or athletes with variations, not our myths or statues or ancient art, just genitals. I left the event early, because I couldn't stop looking at people and knowing that if I talked to them about being intersex all they would see would be genitals, because I knew that after the whole exhibit they would all only know me as genitals.

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The solution to ableism isn't for me to "stop calling myself disabled", it's for everyone to stop treating "disabled" as a bad word

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-deep breath-

A 'no questions asked' food pantry means no questions asked.

When we're stocking our pantry, we are not looking at a person's clothes or their accessories or what kind of car they drove there in. We are HAPPY to see it BEING USED AT ALL.

I don't know anyone's situation. Maybe they got that designer bag at a thrift shop. Maybe its a knockoff. Maybe it was a gift. Maybe they got it when they had money and now they don't have money. Maybe they're getting stuff for a friend.

Maybe they have plenty of money, don't need to be taking stuff from the pantry, but they are anyway because we said-

NO QUESTIONS ASKED.

Do you know what happens when someone takes from our pantry when they don't need it? We're down one item. But maybe they tell someone that the pantry is there. Or maybe they come back to it when they need it. Or maybe they throw a dollar in the donation box. Or maybe they put an item on the shelf. Or maybe they come to our food drive.

WE DONT CARE.

We don't care who used it.

We care that it was used.

Im not a cop. Don't make me do cop stuff, I wont do it.

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every so often the discourse comes around again that basically boils down to “is it feminist for a woman to want men to be attracted to her” and it’s like. no, it’s not. it’s also not anti feminist. it’s not relevant. it’s nothing. a woman wanting to have sex with men has nothing to do with feminism. being a lesbian or celibate is not “more feminist” than being a straight woman. the point was always “women should not have to dress in a way that is attractive to men solely in order to be acknowledged by them at all” not “women should never dress in a way that is attractive to men for any reason.” sometimes a woman wants men to want to have sex with her. that’s not anti feminist. that’s average. it’s also not feminist just because it’s her choice to do it. it is not related. feminism is about women’s human rights. that doesn’t mean it’s a feminist act every time a woman makes a choice.