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Everyone who got annoyed at me over the cis woman who couldn't understand a man knowing what experiencing misogyny is like post is proving my point btw.

Everyone who had something to say about "do you want to be seen as a man or not" is proving my exact point that people cannot fully accept the notion of men who are not welcomed into the boys club of cis manhood. The notion of "Man" is entwined inextricably with Power, Control, if I am a man that must mean I wear The Boot because Man means Wearing The Boot. You want me to chose between my sense of self and my lived experiences because to you, a "real man" would not have had my experiences.

You people are incapable of understanding gender as an internal sense of self and not as a magic spell. You fail to progress your feminism past a no boys allowed sign hung on the door of a playhouse. You are deeply fucking unserious and it's frankly embarrassing.

There's a serious problem in progressive spaces wrt seeing people as entire people with flexible experiences and not just identities listed like Pokémon types. Be better.

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if you're in the throes of cosmic despair i cannot recommend museums enough. art or science or history it doesn't matter. oh we're all connected, all of us and everything, throughout all time and space, and no one, no one, no one is alone? awesome. that's what i thought i just wanted to make sure.

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this website's negativity, knee-jerk reaction to assume the worst and utilize bad faith assumptions, and toxicity will eat you alive if you're not careful. i'm not proud to admit that the same happened to me for 3 years. i became a progressively more bitter and hateful person as i immersed myself more in this website's culture, especially the queer community on here. i found myself talking more about what i hated than what i loved. i found myself focusing on making sure that i wasn't anything like what i hated instead of becoming a person i loved. i didn't love myself, i only saw what i hated.

don't let it do the same to you. my quality of life was nonexistent during those years of my life. i was so negative, it took until people in my life pointed it out for me to see it. i only cared about talking about how i didn't want to be what i hated, i never spoke about what i wanted to be. i lost my interests. i stopped drawing, i stopped interacting others' art. i stopped playing video games. i stopped chatting with friends. i stopped taking care of myself. all i became was a walking vessel for my political beliefs.

i was just virtue signaling all day long. i wasn't helping anyone, especially not myself. that's not what activism is.. i'm not proud to admit it, but it's what was happening for 3 straight years of my life. fighting for a cause ultimately means nothing if you're causing more harm than good. hurting more people than you help isn't worth it. hurting yourself isn't worth it, either. making yourself sick and miserable over trying to do some good isn't helping in the long run.

it's so easy to get sucked into the trap of toxic virtue signaling and moral grandstanding on here. it's so easy to want to show everyone that you're one of the good guys. it's so easy to profess what you hate and how you're nothing like that, because it's all anyone else on here does. be careful. i finally realized it and am digging myself out of it. if you've found yourself in this pit, you can dig yourself out, too. it takes some time and effort, but it's worth it.

focus on what you love, not on what you hate. you can dislike peoples' actions without it ruling your life. it's fine to feel hatred, but it's not okay for it to be your only motivator in life. you're becoming the people you hate when you let this happen to you. it took me far too long to see it was happening to me, but the important part is that i'm putting in the effort to make change. you can do it, too. it's worth it.

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King of the Hill is back! Don't forget Jonathan Joss (John Redcorn) didn't just die he was murdered for being gay and married to a trans man.

The next hearing for his murderer is August 18th I think. They asshole is more offended that he's being called a homophobe (he has a gay brother gasp!) than murderer (which isn't even in question he confessed immediatly and there were at minimum 5 witnesses)

The media tried to blame it on Joss’ past mental health and addiction issues. He's somehow also supernaturally strong and big and scary and that's not racist at all says white cops.

Please don't forget him. He was so proud and excited for king of the hill. You don't deserve to be murdered because a white dude says u need to die

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a note on "going nonverbal"

nonverbal refers to a permanent state of not talking. it means months, years, decades of no talking.

not being able to talk for a few minutes to hours at a time is not nonverbal. i don't want anyone to feel dismissed by saying this. not being able to talk is distressing. it is frustrating and scary. if not being able to talk for short periods is distressing, imagine how nonverbal people feel 24/7.

to quote one of my favorite movies "you keep using that word. i do not think it means what you think it means," the princess bride (1987).

when nonverbal people try to talk about their experiences, it is flooded with people talking about 'going nonverbal'. our voices get drowned out in our own community. it feels incredibly isolating and makes it really hard for us to be listened to or even find others who are nonverbal.

also, we have been saying this for YEARS. but every time we bring it up, y'all act like this is a new concept. that just tells me you have not meaningfully interacted with the nonverbal community, or the MSN/HSN community. it is not new, y'all just don't listen.

what to say instead of "going nonverbal". speech loss / losing speech / speech loss episode. vocal rest. verbal shutdown / vocal shutdown. words are offline. verbal loss. PS - vocal rest is GREAT if you don't want to mention why you can't speak, or have to mask. musicians say they are on vocal rest all the time to protect their voice before performing.

"But Chrome! that doesn't sound as serious as "going nonverbal!" people won't take you seriously either way, sorry. i have had periods of my life where i can talk sometimes and periods where i can't ever. they aren't going to take you seriously if you use our language because they don't take you seriously at all. because of the ableism.

"my therapist / SLP / doctor says 'going nonverbal, though -" that doesn't mean it's ok. professionals don't always listen to the people they are attempting to serve. they should, but they don't. because of the ableism. and racism, sexism, etc.

the autism community already has a problem with driving out higher support needs autistics, nonverbal autistics and especially autistic people of Color. you can be part of the solution. you can support marginalized autistic voices and make your community safer and more inclusive. but first you have to listen.

thank you for listening. i hope something good happens to you today!

with love, chrome.

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every major structural social problem right now is basically "we don't have enough skilled workers on the ground" and the reason is always "well we've been intentionally underpaying and understaffng them for decades to increase corporate profits" and somehow the news always just mentions the "shortage" without digging into the cause

air travel is a mess? shortage of air traffic controllers - for some mysterious reason

logistics a mess? shortage of truck drivers - for some mysterious reason

public transit can't meet demand? shortage of bus drivers - for some mysterious reason

We even mysteriously have shortages of doctors, nurses, teachers... FOR SOME MYSTERIOUS REASON

FUCKING PAY PEOPLE AND HIRE ENOUGH STAFF

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i think any time a politician so much as suggests creating a national public registry of a minority group they should lose their job immediately, and then be shot

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i hate seeing people now making fun of those who care about privacy online. i've seen people saying things like "well they already have your data. what are companies going to do with it" and it's like, that's not the point. it's that companies /shouldn't/ be able to have my data and sell it. am i aware they probably already have my data? yes, absolutely. but i'm still going to try and keep them from monetizing it any further, why are we defending companies selling data they shouldn't have to begin with though?

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we need to invent a way to explain how deep running and pervasive and subliminal racism and antiblackness is without immediately sounding like an insane conspiracy theorist

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People still tend to lump JK Rowling in with the category of ~problematic artists~ and I need everyone to understand that is not the problem with her. She is not comparable to anyone who wrote a piece of fiction you hate, or someone who made rude comments in 2015 and has since learned better.

She is far more like Elon Musk. She is a radicalized person with an extreme amount of social and financial power, and for YEARS she has been using that power to try to influence her government into hurting vulnerable people, on purpose. And she has succeeded. THAT is the problem with her, and THAT is why spending money on her books is so dangerous, not because her books aged badly.

Critiquing her work is fine, of course (I personally was never a fan so I really don’t care) but you NEED to understand that fiction is not the main issue here. And I truly think acting like she’s the same as the rest of any giant list of ~problematic creators of the week~ waters down how dangerous she is.

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How good are you at spotting AI?

I'm doing an experiment. I've included two paragraphs: one written by ChatGPT and one by me ghostwriting. Take a guess which one is AI!

Option 1:Grilled cheese sandwiches are a go-to food for children, but can also be elevated to finer cuisine with the addition of meats or specialty cheeses. They require little culinary skill to prepare and can be made with affordable ingredients. Some drawbacks include a high amount of calories and their lack of fiber and vegetables matter. They are not suitable for people with dairy allergies.

Option 2: Peanut butter and jelly sandwiches are a classic, convenient meal option loved for their sweet and savory flavor combination. They’re easy to make, require no cooking, and are affordable, making them ideal for quick lunches or snacks. However, they can be high in sugar and calories, especially with overly processed ingredients. People with peanut allergies must also avoid them entirely, and the nutritional value can vary widely depending on the bread and spreads used.

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This whole thing about scanning your face to prove tour age is making me remember, in 2018 while out in paris we got our wallet stolen during a particularly busy night at a lesbian bar. It was very late and with no money to buy metro tickets we were effectively stranded, but some people helped us and we ended up staying the night at a really sweet older man's place. His face was deeply scarred and he was missing an eye. We chatted on our way and he told me about his life, probably to help calm me down. He explained he had been stuck in a house fire 20 years ago and had had multiple rounds of facial reconstruction and a skin graft, but there's only so much surgery can do so he just learned to live with it. I remember he said he liked the queer bars because they're the only place people don't really stare at him.

At some point I took out my phone, and at the time I was using face unlock. This prompted him to tell me all the ways this technology doesn't work on him. How his phone selfie camera doesn't focus right because it's not a detecting a face. How he had to update his ID the old fashioned way, because the website kept rejecting his photos. And how it was becoming more and more common, and how it was making his life way harder.

This was 7 years ago, and now whenever I see this sort of technology I think of how that guy can't use it. And how house fires are pretty common, and how anything from being born this way to a skin condition to heavy tattooing can probably cause the same issue. Can these people get age verified ? Will they just lose access to all social media, which are increasingly necessary in society, if this becomes the norm ? These are people who are already driven out of public spaces due to how they look, and they're getting pushed out online too all in the interest of companies wanting more money.

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shout out to people who's family isnt entirely bad or entirely good, but something in between and you dont know how to feel about them. you feel angry but you also feel guilty, because you know they genuinely love and care about you, but sometimes they show it in a way you know its not okay. your feelings are valid, your anger and sadness and grief are valid, and you dont have to prove this to no one. bigger shout out to those with memory issues who know something isnt right but can't recall all of the bad events, only the feelings, which only increases the guilt.

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The thing is, even if you were lucky and your parents taught you how to clean, they probably didn't teach you how to clean the stuff you clean stuff with, like brushes, mops, sponges, rags, and so on. Or how to clean your cleaning appliances, like a dish washer, clothes washing machine, and clothes dryer and its ducts (if you have a ducted dryer), or a carpet cleaner, vacuum, Or how to clean up clean messes, like spilled bleach or detergent.

My parents threw away all of these things (even the vacuum cleaners and the dryer) when they got too dirty to function, because no one even told them THAT they could be cleaned. Cost them thousands of dollars over the years.

All I'm saying is that cleaning is not intuitive, and not knowing how to clean is not a moral failing, but it is something you can learn.

I'm going to reblog this post with resources for learning how to clean things and how to clean cleaning things (I'm not at my desk at the moment). If you have any favorites, please feel free to add them in too!