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I can’t believe I needs to say this, but “I can reclaim x slur” does not mean “I can use that slur against others as a slur, specifically in order to denigrate them due to their marginalized identity.”

You can reclaim fag, sure. You can’t go around calling gay people you hate “degenerate fags,” and then hide behind “but I can reclaim it!” when people rightly call you out. You can reclaim retard, or cripple. But you can’t expect people to nod and agree and coddle you when you call people with developmental disabilities “fucking retards” and make fun of all the “whiny cripples” who need mobility aids, or braille, or closed captioning, or other accessibility accommodations.

You fundamentally can’t reclaim a slur in order to harm others – that’s not reclaiming the slur, that’s just using it.

Slur reclamation is not and was never a super special license to use slurs against others (provided that you yourself are sufficiently oppressed). It was never about that.

Some of y’all just want permission to be the bullies, and it shows.

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is this a safe space to say that the additions to the LGBT flag (“progress flag”) are well meaning but undermine the fact that the original colors symbolized vague concepts that could apply to anyone, rather than signifying specific types of human beings, which is, ironically, more “exclusionary” since it begs the question of why “X specific group of humans” aren’t being represented in the imagery now. the original flag completely avoided that conundrum. also it’s a little ugly. But don’t mind me lol.

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Small joys on Tumblr:

When your notes make a perfect cat

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Normalizing loving plurality. Not even your own.

Normalize treating new potential headmates in other systems like a default positive until otherwise. Normalize hearing "I think there's a new guy in here" and saying "Wow! Do you wanna talk to them?" instead of "Oh, no :(" And, of course, normalize treating new headmates who front out of nowhere with no idea where they are with kindness, patience, and understanding. Normalize being a rock they can stand on while they get their footing.

Normalize being frustrated you can't physically hold all your friends in a separate system the way you might hold a non-plural friend group. Normalize adoring your friend's headmates. Normalize being happy for them when they talk about their plurality.

Normalize loving plurality.

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I'm keeping an eye out for heat stroke in my area and I can't figure out what a full body flush would look like on dark skin since all the pictures are just fake training pictures. Anyone have video/pics of a heat stroke flush on black skin?

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you should consider joining the discord server carnis courtyard, it's a safe space for NPDs! look up carnis courtyard on tumblr and you'll see the invite link

ty :333

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Someone should hit him over the head with a lead pipe.

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giving birth sucks tbh. not only do you and the baby you’re birthing almost die, usually you shit yourself and often you tear your taint. then you have to push an organ out of your body (placenta) and if even a little of that remains in your body, you can hemorrhage to death or develop an infection that essentially rots your body from the inside out. even if you had a relatively “easy birth”, you bleed for weeks on end. even after that stops, your body and brain is changed for the rest of your life, the pregnancy leeched minerals from your bones, that can cause osteoporosis later. minor urinary incontinence is not uncommon, brain scans of people who gave birth show permanent changes in their brain, you’re never quite the same.

I say all of this not to say giving birth is disgusting but it is a harrowing and visceral experience. society downplays how fucking awful it is and makes it out to be a ~magical~ experience but it isn’t a magical transformative experience for everyone. it can be an extremely traumatic experience for someone who wanted to carry a pregnancy to term, much more so for someone who did not want to be pregnant in the first place or someone who knows their baby won’t survive the birth. anyway, abortion is a right. pregnancy and birth aren’t just inconvenient, it’s fucking awful.

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We all know what erectile dysfunction is but literally no one is ever taught what vaginismus is and it can cause people to feel extremely lost, broken, and cause people to take their own lives. Raise. Awareness.

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LESBOY LESBOY LESBOY

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sometimes i struggle to use the word ‘bootlicker’ in a negative sense because of sexual desires i will not disclose here

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i love the -with mama trend but sometimes i get sad because that is clearly papa and he aint getting any credit raising those darn kids...

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I think I found a next good brush.

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I’ve seen a shocking amount of people attribute weird or weird but focused content as “fetish content”, while seemingly not thinking once that people can be interested in those nonsexually

Like I’m gonna be real - I don’t think five minute crafts is a secret fetish account. Does “engagement bait” not occur to you? They make weird content because their money is made from people freaking out about it and giving them millions of likes and views.

“TLC is fetish content!!” It’s called shock value. That’s it. They get people watching because their viewers are curious about the weird and “shocking” lives shown on the screen.

Like it’s not as if there are people with fetishes who can enjoy the content because it features their fetish, but if this is your like for dedicated fetish content? I don’t think you’ve seen nearly enough

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contact discourse is about if contact is abusive, coercive, or otherwise unsafe this isn't infighting over if mspec lesbians are valid some of y'all need to get so fucking real

stop acting surprised that side that thinks contact is abusive thinks contact is abusive

"but they hate all paraphiles it doesn't matter the contact stance 🥺" mhm mhm have you considered that one stance is okay with things I think are abusive? have you considered that I and people of the opinion that abuse is wrong do not want to ally with people who think abuse is okay?