bubukhwahish

[bubukhwahish]

The job of the feet is walking but the hobby is dancing...! Not much to write on this day as I truly believe in expressing through a beautiful art form of dance.... So lets dance in the sun with wild flowers🌸🌼 in our hands..... Dance, when you're broken open. Dance, if you've torn the bandage off. Dance in the middle of the fighting. Dance in your blood.🫀 Dance when you're perfectly free🌎.... The only way to make sense of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance. Happy International Dance Day!.... Today even share your dancing experiences and relive them . 🌙....... Regards, khwahish 🌙

[bubukhwahish]

Don't judge a book by the chapter you walked in to...

So let's discuss about something we don't generally discuss but rather perform it on a regular basis. So just imagine a you are in a shopping mall and you see a girl wearing an off-shoulder crop top and shorts. What would be your first thought about her be ?.  Yeah everyone reading this might have understood what kind of thought I  am talking about. Here my concern is this that why should we even have an opinion about her attire. Let her dress as she wants. Even in our daily lives when we wear something unusual/ not something preferably worn by people like short dresses, body cons , off-shoulder etc....Even body are judged wrongly if a girl is thin she is asked to eat more, if a girl is fat she is asked to maintain herself, if she is curvy indirect comments are passed on to her to get her figure right ...I mean why?  Why can't we let people be happy with their own body rather then making them insecure about their waist line. This judgement thing majorly happens with women only if a woman wears a bikini she is seen with a very wrong point of view  

But no one bothered about the male  moving topless the the same time. Males moving around in a underwear is fair but women's visible bra strap isn't....!

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In our society we easily judge people

by their appearance,attire, body structure, and what not .But judging people do not define them it defines our character. You don't know what it took for that person to get out of the bed,look and feel as presentable as possible and face the struggles of the day. And we don't even hesitate a second before passing irrelevant judgements about them.

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Sadly, we are always critiqued, By the people that we know. By title or occupation, 

And by the possessions that we show.We judge by skin color, Or by awards received.

We're judged by what we spend, Or by what we give

. We're judged by age and gender,...... or ?And by where we live.

We're judged by our past, And by our education, By the language that we speak, Or by our nation.

We evaluate cosmetically. We judge both fat and small(means). We judge by ones appearance. 

Fact is, we judge it all!

Some judge because they're paid to. Some judge intentionally.

Some judge to build self worth, Some judge unwillingly.

BEWARE, for there is only One, Who evaluates every stain and smudge. Good luck amateur critics of humanity, When you face that Judge

Appearances can be deceptive and oftentimes do not represent an accurate measurement of someone's behavior... God always looks on the heart and not on the appearance. He Himself declared, "Judge not according to the appearance."

So the next time you see a person being insecure about his/her appearance don't make random judgements instead up to him/her and tell that you look beautiful no matter what people think about you. This small sentence can boost someone self confidence and can make him comfortable in his own body and attire

So all the girls out there keep your hand on your heart ❤️ and say along

I will wear what I want and will not let the society judge me by the pieces of fabrics on my body. I won't hesitate to take a stand for my own and will love myself as I am 💞

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[bubukhwahish]

Silent Sufferers 👤

Whenever we listen to the word domestic violence or sexual abuse we make a crystal clear image in our mind of a woman being a victim and suffering through it. I totally agree that violence against women is a severe issue in our society but we should not neglect the fact that violence doesn't comprise to sexes. If women in our community are abused so are men the difference is that we don't term it as abuse. ( Being a feminist I respect all the genders). "you are a boy! boys don't cry!"," be a man and just do it", " boys are supposed to be like this"  and many more examples from daily life show a kind of abuse towards men.

🙊Do you know that 17% of reported domestic violence victims in Canada are men? It is even said that many more don't officially file cases. Did you laugh? Yeah, that is why more men don't tell others of the violence they are facing from their partners. It is reported that every 14.37 seconds a man gets brutally abused. 🙊

The image of a man being an abuser and not a victim is fit in our minds and the reason for this is that women are more victimized in our country and men do not get importance. Well it is fascinating to see that in our modern society even the abused and abuser has an assigned gender which we are not willing to change.

It is common for us to see a man beating a woman but when the situation is reversed we feel something is unusual. Why? 

Spousal abuse is not something that is faced by only one gender. The general presumption or preconceived notions that have been in our society since bygone is that men are supposed to be strong, and mighty and they are generally supposed to bottle up their emotions. If they show or expose their vulnerabilities then they are labeled as being sissy, effeminate, and many other derogatory terms 

So we are living in a modern society where a particular gender needs to fight for acceptance as victims or survivors. Be it male or be it female abuse is abuse without any excuse and should be punished

There are many reasons why men often do not reveal the violence they face by their spouses or by their intimate partners.

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General Stereotypes against males– Men often feel discriminated against or feel uneasy in opening up about the violence that they face because they feel ashamed that they will be judged and will be labeled as wimpy and effeminate. They think their struggle against violence will go in vain because of gender-specific laws and provisions that are given in the Indian Constitution. They feel that they have failed the role of protector in nurturing their families.

Fear of fake cases– Men often feel that revealing the violence can cause unnecessary nuisance and they do not want to face the legal consequences because of the gender-biased or gender-specific laws in our Constitution. They feel that they have to leave their families and they don’t want to lose custody of their children which is often a cumbersome process.

Societal and family pressure– Most Indians continue to live with their families even after their marriage. Because of this factor, men feel ashamed of opening up about the violence. Society also plays a crucial role in nurturing gender-biased laws and stereotypes against a particular gender. 

Denial– Most people feel that domestic violence can only happen to a woman. And they live in denial when they get to know that man can also be a victim of domestic violence. So, basically, people never really want to talk about it.

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Gender-neutral laws are the need of the hour. Human rights and gender equality belong to both men and women. In today’s times where men are falsely accused of rapes, domestic violence, and sexual assault, gender-neutral laws are needed for the hour. Domestic violence, this term nowhere indicates that only women can be the victim of domestic violence, men can also be the victim and not the only perpetrator. Domestic violence should be considered as spousal violence as it is not only restricted to women.

Sexism is the foundation where all tyranny is built. Every social form of hierarchy and abuse is built on a male over female domination only when it comes to being abusers it is vice versa for victims. Society views men as physically stronger sexes and females as physically weaker ones, therefore men are initially assumed as perpetrators in response to domestic violence "pseudo feminists typically argue that intimate partner violence is committed only by men against women. Will society's view on crime, abuse, and domestic violence has an impact on the number of times the cases are reported?  

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After the infamous case of Jhonny Depp, people are being aware of the crimes of women against men. This man highlighted the issue of male abuse and fought for it till the very end, after all, receiving justice. He took the standing world will never forget. Yet till now, there is no law in India protecting men against domestic violence or sexual abuse.

In recent times due to modernization and westernization, societal values, culture, and norms have changed a lot. Earlier men were seen as protectors of their families but nowadays both men and women are equally working, raising, and managing their homes with equal contributions to their incomes. Men have now opened up about the domestic violence that they face and now they have started sharing their pain, agony, and their struggles openly. Men are no longer stronger than women.

violence needs to be stopped be it male or female, be the abuser male or female needs to be punished and the victim male or female needs to get justice. If its a crime to beat a woman it is also a crime to beat a man.

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[bubukhwahish]

🌈🌈🌈RAISING MY RAINBOWS   🌈🌈🌈

 

For those who did not understand the title this blog is about homosexuality. Felt awkward right? Don't worry after reading the blog I am sure that I will be able to vanish about twenty per cent of the awkwardness towards this particular topic.

So the term LGBTQ stands for Lesbian, Gay, bisexual, Trans and Queer. These are the people who are attracted to people of the same gender. 

We all live in the twenty first century - the Era of Acceptance( as I call it). We all have accepted that love does'nt confide religions,countries,age,boundries,economical status,languages. So why not add another word to it GENDER. The richness,beauty and depths of love can only be fully experienced in a climate of complete openess, honesty and vulnerability. Even the Hindu Mythology has themes of homosexuality don't we all worship the divine Ardhnareshwar - The combination of Lord Shiva and Godess Parvati. The holy Laxmi Narayan, The great archer Arjuna as Brihannala,Shikhandi , Vishnu as Mohini who later gave birth to Ayyappa. So you can't fight the community by saying that its against our Hindu culture. What really makes, at least to me , this fact even more grave that Homosexuality has had a place in Indian History since ancient India, as far as we know; and yet it is still isn't seen as a full Indian Community nor they are considered a part of it. 

We all know that disapproving this community is'nt the right decision so why do we keep doing that? Even now we are hesistated to talk about it in a gathering or in front of family.

💚💙It is common for a man holding guns rather than a man holding hands. 💙💚

So the only queer people are the ones who don't love somebody.It is logicless to disapporve homosexuality it is like disapproving rain! 

Talking about equality. Equality is more than passing laws. The struggle is really won in the hearts and minds of people where it really counts. 

We all say that they have unique features, they are special in their own way, these all statements indirectly point out that they are different. But the thing is they are not, we treat them as different. Homosexuality is very much normal. 

Being L,G,B or T is not a "problem" nor its a choice as such. LGBTQ individuals are merely individuals who have sexual preferences that differ from what would appear to be "normal" due to differing learned behaviours and, you know having a personal perspective and mindset that differs from everyone else's. Saying that it's objectively wrong for people to have sexual preferences that differ from the normal is objectively wrong itself !

Being L,G,B,T or Q is like being left handed some people are most people aren't and nobody really nows why. It's not right or wrong. Its the way things are.

Maybe this blog isn't that relatable to all of the people reading this but  awareness about the concept and acceptence is very much necessary.

LGBTQ pride was not a need to celebrate being one of them but right to exist without persecution. So instead of wondering why don't we have a straight pride movement we should be thankful we don't need one. 

So if I am even a per cent succesful show rainbows 🌈as a sign of support towards this very colorful community !

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So the first time we hear this word the words like Women empowerment, and girl power starts clashing our mind.I am an extremly feminist girl and I havent known a girl who is not.

feminism serves as an different defination for all the women out there. But as a teenager I feel that feminism is'nt always about woman partiarchy or man hating its all about equality to all the genders. How do we feel when we see a man doing household chores or changing a diaper? or a woman as a plumber or an electrician? . We  won't will to agree but its true that we all  somehting wrong for a couple of moments. 

That is'nt our fault though, because we have always seen a specific gender  doing all those chores. Every work in this universe has a specific gender who has to perform it. 

Like have you ever imagined someone saying COMMON WOMAN instead of comman man ? These are too mediocre examples but if we think of a word say plumber the first image that comes to our mind will be of a male rather than a female or say homemaker ..the sight that strikes our brain will be of a woman rather than a man. Changing this mentallity is one of the assets of feminism.  Though we all consider it as stereotype nowadays but we will agree that some part of us know that we all accept this stereotype someway or the other. 

 Some people consider feminism as a victim card for woman. Many times feminsim is defined as man hating or women superiority. So this meaning of feminism is for those who has'nt really understood the core of feminsim. So talking about teenagers especially girls often hear the word feminism as a taunt or sarcasm and even humour. Like if you support the girl side in some or the other situation you invite a comment" oh here comes the feminist !" " I won't say anything ohterwise it will hurt your feminist sentiments" . So somtimes I wonder that is it that bad to public our opinio about a certain situation.Many hate the word because they have'nt really figured out the true meaning of it.  Every girl between the age of 13 to 18 must have felt that being a feminist is kind of a joke to everyone.So listen here if you are a teenager and you are firm with your morals, you are independent enough to take your own decisions, you are capable of expressing your point of you regarding any situation ...Congratulations you are a feminist. But if you still hate the word its not the word thats important its the true sentiments and the core that means it.

A feminist is anyone who recognises the equality and full humanity of women and men.

So yesss , I am a feminist and No I don't hate boys. I respect every gender equally and I am proud of it !