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ive been thinking a lot about the whole "tme vs tma" thing and transfeminism in general and i think it just. really really deeply saddens me that so many tme (especially transmasc) people refuse to even engage with it as anything but an attack on them

because its not! its really a cry for help. transfems are suffering in ways that we're able to *statistically prove* are aimed primarily toward us, and slowly over the last ten years, we've lost everyone who's supposed to be an "ally" to us--the cishet allies barely ever were allies, but they left first, and then the cis gays, and then. i guess a lot of us figured that at least other trans people would have our backs, but slowly, steadily, terf rhetoric crept into the transmasc spaces and. it felt like the ultimate betrayal. our own brothers in arms just giving up on us; getting angry that subreddits made by trans women have too many trans women; creating spaces which exclude transfems who dont pass; creating OH SO MANY callout posts about ultimately-not-significantly-harmful transfems ruining their lives!!!!

and so we create a framework to explain why theres so much hatred of us even amongst those who share so much in common with us, and just like how cis people would scream that "cis is a slur" a bunch of you started viewing it as an attack! like, the lack of self-awareness to roll your eyes at "cis is a slur" and then immediately turn and start calling tme/tma "the new gender binary" when nobody is actually using it that way is alarming. we're blamed for "infighting" when all we did was point out how unfairly we've been treated! all while the governments of the world are steadily ramping up their hatred of us!!!

luckily its not all transmasc people who are like this, or id probably give up all hope, but please, i beg of you, if you are one of the ones still rolling your eyes at posts like this, read deeper instead of just dismissing it!!!! i guarantee theres a lot you are misunderstanding, and theres probably someone in your circles who is feeding you terf rhetoric, making you into a tool they can weaponize against your trans sisters. ask yourself, is it worth it not to check it out???

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grabbing you by the shoulders and squeezing until i hear a noise. there's nothing inherently more queer about being coercively assigned female at birth. why do you dumb fucking dicks position coercive male assignment as inherently more regressive. why is your example of the straightest possible person always a man. why is your example of someone "claiming a niche microlabel to seem queer" always camab. i'll kill you

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-Whipping girl, page 181

!!!! This is the heart of the matter. Now that I am able to read this page... jeez, alot of you ARE straight up lying about Seranos beliefs. Hahaha, come on, you read THIS and decided transandrophobia is an appropriate term to coin? Oh wait, you never actually read the book, did you?

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"Why is ContraPoints saying [advocating for Palestine] is totally futile? Because ContraPoints doesn't want to do anything about it... She feels that the only reasonable way to live is to accept that things are bad and not going to change. Even though that is actually unreasonable. Even though it is actually also morally quite bankrupt. You are the one who is experiencing doom. That is the thing that you feel. That does not mean other people are supporting a doomed cause. It means that you feel doom about their cause. Examine why you might feel that way. They thought Vietnam was a doomed cause, too. Cuban revolution was a doomed cause. Chinese revolution was a doomed cause... "Zero Palestinian lives were saved"... I don't think this is true. For instance, think about the vast amount of fundraising campaigns that have tangibly helped, even as aid is blockaded in Israel, that has tangibly helped Palestinians. They have gained support as a result of this activism. So saying "zero Palestinian lives were saved" again, this is not true. This is not true. But second of all, even if it was true, you're going to blame people for speaking out against things that are actually wrong because it wasn't effective enough instead of just like offering better ways to do it? Does something have to be done or not? Does something have to be done or not?"

-elliot sang again, "BreadTube is over"

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Every day I am overwhelmed by the way almost everyone in the global north redefines health away from collective survival and toward promotion of individualism and eugenics.

People will talk about "hygiene" and they mean extensive skin care routines and cosmetics instead of preventing the spread of contagious diseases through requiring structural renovations for better ventilation of workplaces, schools, & public spaces and universal healthcare that includes easy, accessible, free testing & vaccinations.

People will talk about "nutrition" and they mean promoting expensive, restrictive diets dependent on imperial food systems and the promotion of anti-fat and anti-black policies, instead of doing anything to prevent the widespread nutrient deficiencies caused by our government's deliberate, ongoing starvation of Palestinian people.

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alright so i guess im going to a homeless shelter. i didnt get any donations since my last donation post on the 9th. i havent gotten any call backs for the couple dozen applications i sent out. I'm using the last of my finances to get to the shelter and get some paperwork in order, hopefully from there I'll have an easier time finding work that can accommodate my disability.

donations from here on will go to my phone bill, my insurance payment, and my meds. if things go well, i might even be able to get back on hrt this year.

here's hoping!

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Both jars were filled to the top with sex toy pieces.

The one on the left was full of jelly/PVC toys and the one on the right is full of silicone toys.

This is why you don’t buy jelly sex toys, kids. 

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we need to invent a way to explain how deep running and pervasive and subliminal racism and antiblackness is without immediately sounding like an insane conspiracy theorist

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it really is so tiring how people have endless patience and understanding and nuance for the complexities of nonbinary genderqueer identities until you're transfem. the amount of girls who would love to be able to be treated like something other than "binary trans woman" but can't cede any ground without getting relegated to the "genderfuck man" zone is staggering. myself in-fucking-cluded. people love to yell at me about how tma/tme is a harmful binary that excludes nonbinary people AS IF IM NOT A NONBINARY GIRL YOU FUCKING MORONS. but you forgot that was an option didn't you. tired of it

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while I understand queer people having anti black phases when younger and changing and I honestly commend them for changing but we do need to address how casual antiblackness is especially among the queer community and how it isolates black queers from everyone else.

and when we are rightfully upset we are treated as the perpetrators.

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Ngl most days I want to reach through the screen, grab nonblack and TME people by the shoulders, and shake y’all while screaming “BLACK TRANS WOMEN ARE BEING MURDERED I DONT CARE BOUT YOUR LIL DISCOURSES”

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i rly rly hate how this site chased so much of its poc userbase away. it feels like i'm hanging out in an ethnostate sometimes

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above all else a trans woman is a person. above all else a trans women is a woman who goes to the same grocery store as you and buys fruits in the same grocery cart as you and goes home and eats her dinner the same as you. above all else a trans woman is a woman who dresses like you do and talks the same way you do. above all else a trans woman is a woman who wants to be cared about the same way you want to be cared about and a trans woman is a woman who makes friends the same way you make friends. above all else you should care about trans women because they are people. treat her as such.

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it’s crazy how many transmascs will openly say that their tendency to rape us isn’t important, should go ignored & undocumented. why do you have a problem with measuring something like that?

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Begging transfemmes to stop wearing your old boy underwear if you can. Apart from a cohort of butch transfemmes that get Gender from it, I promise it’s messing with you more than you think.

I know shopping for transfemme-friendly underwear fucking sucks bc so many panty bridges aren’t made wide enough to contain everything without causing Issues but brands friendlier to us do exist.

If you tuck I can’t recommend anything because I don’t, and disclaimer that This Isnt An Ad, but I’ve had such good luck with Parade that I’ve almost exclusively bought bras/bralettes and panties from them since I discovered them.

It’s not a 100% clear shot, but they have enough sales that you can get either individual or matching sets for pretty cheap and I’ve yet to have any break or get holes on me either, even the oldest ones. Their bralettes also fit “big torso small boobs” frames really well.

I also like Culprit for sports bras but nothing else personally tbh - they also have slightly more feminine boxers that the aforementioned butch transfemmes might really like.

If you have other recs, especially for tucking underwear, please chime in bc holy fuck please please please stop wearing pre-transition Hanes/FotL/etc. men’s underwear 😭

Examples of Parade stuff below!