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Chan is over it.

Over the fans mostly and after he said “everything I say gets twisted I’m afraid to say anything anymore” and then was probably told if he can’t delete it he needs to apologise from the managers, so then he was like “ok I’m the problem”. People then went on to be like “he’s emotionally manipulating us, he’s so emotionally abusive”.

The guy who has been in a company since like 14? The guy who watched the company destroy peoples mental health to the point they were suicidal and himself was on the brink of being that bad?

He gets hate when he says something/when he doesn’t say something, people blame him for not being able to get tickets. Like… the problem is the fandom.

They’ve destroyed opportunities for him, they believed he kept the group on a “bad” contract for longer when he didn’t, blamed him for a member leaving, blame him when someone doesn’t have a “fair amount of lines” when he has gone from sometimes the most lines to sometimes the least.

He was injured (has been multiple times), has had to watch as people attacked F for artistic choices made by another member because people didn’t understand, gets attacked about a set list when they all make that decision.

The members said he fought for them to get what they wanted in the contract negotiations but we don’t know what he had to sacrifice for them to get that… let’s be real there is No way EVERYONE got what they wanted without someone sacrificing something.

If he’s silent on bbl for too long people lose their shit, if he’s too active people lose their shit.

He’s stopped doing lives because fans ruined that.

He’s done, he’s over it.

This isn’t mental health this is an out of control fandom that won’t listen to him anymore. So I’ll be surprised if he addresses the crowd in the next couple of shows.

He’ll talk to his members and respond to them but one of them will have to take the reins. It’s looking like SM or F will but don’t expect a speech, don’t expect any response from him that isn’t coming off like “I’m here to do my job and leave”. Think the worst customer service worker ever. He’s just there to perform and do what he’s paid to do, anything above that and you’ll be lucky if he smiles.

This isn’t because of one thing it’s an ongoing issue and he’s finally done with it.

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—  anne carson; alkestis

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The relation between nature and human being: Agnieszka Lepka

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BPAD (period of manic) / ChAD (epizod maniakalny)

On the last occasion, I wrote about depressive episodes. Today, on the occasion of World Bipolar Day, I decided to say a few words about the other pole of BPAD.

This time it is much more difficult, because in my case the manic episodes are extremely mild (the so-called mild hypomania), they are almost harmless and desirable (especially in comparison with my severe depressive episodes), so to make yourself aware of how dangerous a depressive episode is, I had to search for information about people who are not so lucky.

Let's start by explaining the difference between manic and depressive episodes. As the name of the disorder "bipolar" implies, these are two opposite poles and absolutely everything known from a depressive episode in a manic case is inverted one hundred and eighty degrees. In a depressive episode, you have no energy for anything - in a manic episode you have too much of it. In depressive people, you sleep many hours a day - in manic, even an hour or two of sleep is enough to function fully. And here the first danger begins, because although you don't feel asleep, such treatment of your body overloads it. But more on that in a moment. When in a depressive episode an ill person thinks he/she is useless, that he is a burden for others, that he should not and cannot do anything - in a manic episode it is exactly the opposite: an ill person is certain of his/her infallibility, his/her abilities, and his/her strength. Additionally, when we are dealing with a severe course of a manic episode, they can occur (like on the side of a depressive episode there are depressive delusions, suicidal thoughts and the desire to mutilate) - various types of mental disorders such as hallucinations, misinterpretation of facts, and even be accompanied by a lot of more dangerous schizophrenia and various types of delusions and manias (e.g. persecution). However, a person during a manic period has one thing in common with a person in a depressive period: they absolutely should not be left to themselves.

Again, I would like to share with you a handful of good advice on how to deal with a person at this stage of bipolar affective disorder... Some points will be based on my own experiences (as I wrote many times: I have a very mild manic episode), others on the knowledge I gained from other sources. If something is missing here, I'm sorry, I have much less experience with this part of bipolar.

You should not leave a person in a manic period to themselves. The mania must not be underestimated, like depression must not be underestimated. Different people react differently and have a different course of the disorder - for some (like me) it is just a flow of ideas and willingness to act. In such a case, it is enough to inhibit the more risky ideas, not to allow, for example, to resign from work at the expense of a "new business idea", and to remind about certain obvious things, such as the need to eat or sleep. However, there are people who begin to behave... unbearably during this period. They are more impetuous, violent, maybe more swearing or showing aggression. There are people who get paranoid, stop trusting others, make strange or even stupid decisions.

A manic episode involves an increase in energy - so it's a good idea to put that energy back on track. Perhaps it is worth suggesting to such a person that he/she start practicing some sport or engage in some activity (necessarily giving visual effects - people in a manic period do not like to perform activities whose effects cannot be seen immediately). This will help relieve energy and tension, allow such a person to focus on something specific, and will not allow for racing thoughts and the implementation of dangerous ideas.

It is essential to remind the ill person to sleep at least these six hours a day and eat at least three wholesome meals. Being in a manic episode, it's really easy to forget about it - there were times when I slept 1-2 hours a day and spent the whole day having a single tea. However, it really destroys the body, it's not healthy for it - that's why you must even force the ill person to go to bed or eat and make sure that they actually do it.

Medicaments - again, you should be reminded of medicaments and be careful about taking them, not only those for bipolar disorder, but also all others. You must know that during the manic period, the mind of a sick person is at the stage "I know everything better than others" (also from doctors) and "everything is better than okay with me, why should I poison myself with it?" Which means that they very easily give up medicaments they think are unnecessary. Or it may be that, in their opinion, they don't need any medicaments.

If he/she has a severe manic episode (with, for example, delusions or other psychotic illnesses), talking may help. Just again: let's not try logic. Logic doesn't really work with most mental illnesses. It is worth listening carefully to the ill person, even agreeing them, even if they say absolutely incoherent things. The thoughts of ill people wander very often, they can change the topic of conversation even while uttering one sentence. When the conversation takes a wrong turn, it stimulates the ill person a lot, triggers aggression in her/him, you can try to gently direct the conversation in a safe direction, it's necessary to try to calm down. Most often, however, it is enough to just listen and not show the interlocutor that he/she is talking stupid or that we don't understand something - so you should show a lot of understanding and patience.

Manic people are more prone to taking risks and are often bold enough to be stupid. They are willing to try things that threaten their life or position - therefore they can easily fall into drug addiction, gambling or alcoholism. They may take loans, become more promiscuous or quit their job overnight. Be vigilant.

I didn't write about it in my journal about depressive episodes, 'cause I thought it was obvious, but I will write here: very often it is necessary to provide an ill person with the help of a psychiatrist who will help an ill person master certain techniques of silencing.

Well, personally, I still think depressive episodes are a much more dangerous part of bipolar affective disorder, but the truth is, all of bipolar disorder is insanely dangerous. In the case of a depressive episode, the danger is more focused on an ill person - in the case of a manic episode, it also transfers to an ill person's environment (he/she may pose a threat to life for those around him, e.g. by accidentally starting a fire or driving in a dangerous way in a car). That is why it's so important to be aware of the existence of this disorder and to treating it as soon as possible by the ill person.

I hope that with this text I will slightly increase people's awareness of bipolar affective disorder and maybe help someone who has it or knows someone who has this mental ill.

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Przy ostatniej okazji pisałam o epizodach depresyjnych. Dzisiaj, z okazji Światowego Dnia Choroby Afektywnej Dwubiegunowej postanowiłam powiedzieć kilka słów na temat drugiego bieguna ChAD.

Tym razem mam o wiele trudniej, bo w moim przypadku epizody maniakalne mają wyjątkowo łagodny przebieg (tzw. hipomania o łagodnym przebiegu), są wręcz nieszkodliwe i pożądane (zwłaszcza w zestawieniu z moimi ciężkimi epizodami depresyjnymi), dlatego, aby uzmysłowić nawet samej sobie, jak niebezpieczny jest epizod depresyjny, musiałam poszukać informacji o osobach, które takiego szczęścia nie mają.

Zacznijmy od wyjaśnienia, czym różni się epizod maniakalny od depresyjnego. Jak sama nazwa choroby "dwubiegunowa" wskazuje, są to dwa przeciwne bieguny i absolutnie wszystko, co było znane z epizodu depresyjnego w przypadku maniakalnego jest odwrócone o sto osiemdziesiąt stopni. W epizodzie depresyjnym nie ma się na nic energii – w maniakalnym ma się jej aż za dużo. W depresyjnym sypia się po kilkanaście godzin na dobę – w maniakalnym wystarcza nawet godzina lub dwie snu, aby funkcjonować w pełni sprawnie. I już tu zaczyna się pierwsze niebezpieczeństwo, bo choć nie ma się uczucia niewyspania, takie traktowanie swojego ciała mocno je przeciąża. Ale o tym za chwilę. Gdy w epizodzie depresyjnym osobie chorej wydaje się, że do niczego się nie nadaje, że jest dla innych obciążeniem, że nie powinna i nie potrafi niczego zrobić – w maniakalnym jest dokładnie odwrotnie: osoba chora jest pewna swojej nieomylności, swoich umiejętności, swojej siły. Dodatkowo, gdy mamy do czynienia z ciężkim przebiegiem epizodu maniakalnego, mogą dochodzić (tak ja po stronie epizodu depresyjnego są urojenia depresyjne, myśli samobójcze i chęć okaleczania się) – różnego rodzaju zaburzenia umysłowe takie jak halucynacje, nadinterpretacja faktów, a nawet mogą towarzyszyć mu dużo bardziej niebezpieczne schizofrenia i różnego rodzaju urojenia oraz manie (np. prześladowcza). Osobę w czasie trwania okresu maniakalnego łączy jednak z osobą w okresie depresyjnym jedna rzecz: absolutnie nie powinna być pozostawiona samej sobie.

Znów chciałabym się podzielić z Wami garścią dobrych rad, jak postępować z osobą będącą na tym etapie choroby afektywnej dwubiegunowej… Kilka punktów będzie opartych na moich własnych doświadczeniach (jak wielokrotnie pisałam: mam bardzo łagodny przebieg epizodów maniakalnych), pozostałe na wiedzy, którą zdobyłam z innych źródeł. Jeśli czegoś tu brakuje, bardzo przepraszam, mam zdecydowanie dużo mniejsze doświadczenie z tą częścią dwubiegunówki.

Nie należy zostawiać osoby będącej w okresie maniakalnym samej sobie. Nie wolno bagatelizować maniactwa tak samo jak nie wolno bagatelizować depresji. Różne osoby różnie reagują i mają różny przebieg choroby – u niektórych (jak u mnie) jest to po prostu przypływ pomysłów i chęci działania. W takim wypadku wystarczy jedynie hamować co ryzykowniejsze pomysły, nie pozwolić na przykład na rezygnację z pracy kosztem „nowego pomysłu na biznes”, a także przypominać o pewnych oczywistościach, jak potrzeba spożywania pokarmów czy snu. Są jednak osoby, które w tym okresie zaczynają zachowywać się… nieznośnie. Są bardziej porywcze, gwałtowne, może więcej przeklinają lub przejawiają agresję. Są osoby, którym włączają się paranoje, przestają ufać innym, podejmują dziwne albo wręcz głupie decyzje.

Epizod maniakalny wiąże się ze zwiększeniem energii – dobrym pomysłem zatem jest skierowanie owej energii na właściwe tory. Może warto zasugerować takiej osobie, aby zaczęła uprawiać jakiś sport albo zaangażowała się w jakąś czynność (koniecznie dającą wizualne efekty – osoby w okresie maniakalnym nie lubią wykonywać czynności, których efektów nie widać od razu). To pomoże rozładować energię i napięcie, pozwoli takiej osobie skupić się na czymś konkretnym, a nie pozwoli na gonitwy myśli i realizację niebezpiecznych pomysłów.

Należy koniecznie przypominać osobie chorej o tym, że powinna spać przynajmniej te sześć godzin dziennie i jeść co najmniej trzy pełnowartościowe posiłki. Będąc w epizodzie maniakalnym naprawdę łatwo o tym zapomnieć – zdarzały mi się okresy, kiedy sypiałam po 1-2 godziny dziennie i cały dzień spędzałam na pojedynczej herbacie. To jednak naprawdę wyniszcza organizm, nie jest dla niego zdrowe – dlatego trzeba wręcz wymuszać na osobie chorej, aby kładła się spać czy jadła i zadbać, aby faktycznie to robiła.

Leki – znów należy przypominać o lekach i pilnować ich zażywania, nie tylko tych na chorobę afektywną dwubiegunową, ale też wszystkich innych. Musicie wiedzieć, że w trakcie okresu maniakalnego umysł osoby chorej znajduje się na etapie „wiem wszystko lepiej od innych” (także od lekarzy) oraz „przecież wszystko ze mną jest lepiej niż w porządku, po co mam się tym truć?”. Co oznacza, że bardzo łatwo rezygnują z leków, które ich zdaniem są zbędne. A może tak być, że w ich opinii wszystkie leki są im zbędne.

W przypadku przebiegu ciężkiego epizodu maniakalnego (któremu towarzyszą np. urojenia lub inne schorzenia psychotyczne) pomóc może rozmowa. Tylko znowu: nie próbujmy logiki. Logika naprawdę nie działa w przypadku większości chorób psychicznych. Warto za to wysłuchać dokładnie osoby chorej, nawet jej przytakiwać, choćby mówiła rzeczy absolutnie nieskładne. Myśli osób chorych często bardzo błądzą, potrafią zmieniać temat rozmowy nawet w trakcie wypowiadania jednego zdania. Gdy rozmowa przybiera zły obrót, pobudza bardzo osobę chorą, wyzwala w niej agresje, można próbować delikatnie kierować rozmowę w bezpiecznym kierunku, koniecznie próbować wyciszyć i uspokoić. Najczęściej wystarczy jednak po prostu słuchać i nie wykazywać rozmówcy, że mówi głupoty, albo że czegoś nie rozumiemy – należy wykazywać zatem wiele zrozumienia i cierpliwości.

Osoby w okresie maniakalnym mają większą skłonność do podejmowania ryzyka i często cechują się odwagą graniczącą z głupotą. Są skłonne próbować rzeczy zagrażających ich życiu lub pozycji – dlatego łatwo mogą popaść w narkomanię, hazard czy alkoholizm. Mogą brać kredyty, decydować się na większą rozwiązłość seksualną czy rzucić pracę z dnia na dzień. Należy zachowywać czujność.

Nie pisałam o tym w moim dzienniku dotyczącym epizodów depresyjnych, bo uznałam, że to oczywiste, ale tutaj już napiszę: bardzo często niezbędne jest objęcie chorego pomocą lekarza psychiatry, który pomoże choremu opanować pewne techniki wyciszenia.

Cóż, osobiście nadal uważam, że okres depresyjny jest dużo bardziej niebezpieczną częścią ChAD, ale prawda jest taka, że cała choroba afektywna dwubiegunowa jest szalenie niebezpieczna. W przypadku epizodu depresyjnego niebezpieczeństwo jest bardziej skupione na osobie chorej – w przypadku epizodu maniakalnego, przenosi się także na otoczenie chorego (chory może stwarzać zagrożenie życia dla osób wokół siebie, np. niechcący wzniecając pożar, albo poruszając się w niebezpieczny sposób samochodem). Dlatego tak ważna jest świadomość istnienia tej choroby i podjęcie jej jak najszybszego leczenia przez osobę chorą.

Mam nadzieję, że tym tekstem odrobinę zwiększę świadomość ludzi na temat ChAD i być może pomogę komuś, kto się z nią boryka albo zna kogoś chorego.

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Anyone who's against self diagnosis has never been through psychologists refusing to diagnose you. With like anything.

I did a 2 day assessment for autism only to be told "Well we think you have autism. But we can't formerally diagnose you because you don't meet our criteria. But you probably have autism. So you should see an autism specialist."

Was there any autism specialist they could refer me to? NO!!! Not in the entire county!! And I live in a big city!

For my ADHD diagnosis it was the same bullshit. I had two separate evaluations. First evaluation, they told me I have ADHD for sure. Second evaluation? "Ohhh urmmm we dunno we can't diagnose you... But your executive functioning seems bad...."

Onto bipolar/schizoaffective. I have a psychotic episode. Doctors cannot figure out why. They say they don't think I have schizophrenia because of my lack of other symptoms. Then they say "well maybe it's bipolar" and diagnose me with that. Later I get diagnosed as schizoaffective due to continuing psychotic symptoms.

Now my latest therapist isn't sure I have either. I don't fully meet the criteria for either bipolar or schizophrenia. Schizoaffective is a highly debated diagnosis in the first place. So it's once again a situation of "hmmm you have many symptoms... Don't know what it means though!"

So yeah. Self diagnosis is sometimes the only option. For my own sanity I call myself autistic, ADHD and schizoaffective. Because frankly psych professionals can sometimes be useless. They avoid diagnosing you to avoid accountability for their diagnoses. Or they rapidly diagnose you with something that later turns out to be bullshit. It's exhausting.

Don't shit on people who self diagnose. We often have a better idea of what's going on than anyone else.

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Mindset Challenge: Week One

I’m an effort to improve my mental health (as it is kind of horrific) I’m doing a mindset challenge. I’ll post one of these every week so you can follow along.

Reframe your thoughts: Change the first thought in quotations to something similar to the second thought as often as you can. Follow up with an ACTION (A).

“I should have done more” : “I cannot bring back past time, but I can do more in the future.” A: Do one thing for a goal without procrastinating or use a pomodoro for 30 minutes

“I wish I would have-“ : “I didn’t do something I wanted, but I will do that soon!” A: Make plans to do something you think you’d WISH you’d done in the future. (Go out to eat, color, concert etc)

Feelings & Solutions:

“I’m so behind!” = feeling overwhelmed, demotivated, anxious. Solution: “What can I celebrate?” + Write/Say 5 things you did that were productive in any way today.

“I’m never going to make it.” = feeling tired, unoriginal, demotivated, and uncared for. Solution: “It is okay if I do not, but I will try.” + Write down two positive thoughts about your version of “making it” + 3 minutes of yoga or more

Stop Obsessive Thoughts:

That thought isn’t helpful right now

This is irrational I am going to let it go

I should not be making myself suffer, I deserve to feel good

Shadow Work Journal Prompt:

What was one time you royally fucked up? How did you respond? What did you learn from this? How do you feel about this now? Write down three things you need to hear in regards to this situation.

Other:

Go one hour per day with no social media. This is the perfect time for working on goals or relaxing

Do at least two yoga sessions per week that totals up to 1 hour.

Mental Health Checklist:

Have you eaten a meal? Have a meal or a snack.

Have you had water? Drink a glass.

Is your space messy? Tidy it for 5 minutes.

Did you brush your teeth/hair? If not, go do that.

Are you still in pajamas? Change into comfortable daily clothing.

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Hi everyone,

I thought I’d share some information about Borderline Personality Disorder, Bipolar, and ADHD. I hope many of you find it helpful

BPD

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Bipolar

https://www.getinflow.io/post/bpd-vs-bipolar-vs-adhd

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Types of delusions

What is a delusion? A delusion is a fixed, false belief in something that is not real or does not exist, and is held despite evidence to the contrary. Delusions are common with mental health diagnoses, but can also occur with medical conditions such as brain injury.

Types:

Persecution: This theme represents the most common delusion. People with these delusions believe other people are out to harm them.

Infidelity: This theme causes a person to believe that their partner is being unfaithful, even if the evidence shows they are not. Extreme jealousy often occurs with infidelity delusions.

Love: This theme is centered around the incorrect belief that someone is in love with the person who is having the delusions. Oftentimes, the person having the delusions has not even met the individual whom they believe is in love with them. Love delusions frequently include celebrities.

Religion: Delusions centered around religion can cause a person to believe they have god-like powers, or that they are God themselves. People with this type of delusion also often report that God speaks to them directly and dictates their behaviors.

Grandiose: Delusions with this theme cause people to believe they have superpowers, or that they are a celebrity or more "important" than other people.

Guilt/unworthiness: This theme causes a person to think that they are "evil" or that they have ruined their family. They often believe that they have committed an "unpardonable" sin and deserve to be punished forever. Delusions centered around guilt/unworthiness are often accompanied by low self-esteem, depression, and sometimes suicide.

Negation/nihilistic: This theme is centered on the belief that something or someone no longer exists. A person with these delusions might believe they are actually dead, or that part of their body is missing. They could also believe that the world has ceased to exist. Negation/nihilistic delusions often occur with depression.

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Psychotic people NEED more coping mechanisms that aren’t just “take your meds” . Seeing a psychiatrist is expensive and inaccessible for many, not to mention the fact that for some people, the side effects of antipsychotics are worse than the psychosis itself, and the fact that antipsychotics often don’t remove symptoms entirely!

So, here’s what I learned, after nearly a decade of being unmedicated due to financial constraints and a religious family that was fairly anti-psychiatry for most of my life:

- STRESS MANAGEMENT. A stress-free life is impossible in this society, but you can definitely lower your stress levels with lifestyle changes. Stay hydrated, exercise, take your vitamins, spend time with loved ones, eat nutritious meals, spend some time outside in nature.

- It’s very hard to keep on top of all of this when you’re dealing with negative symptoms, and many of us can’t access all those things if we’re poor, but every little bit helps. To-do lists and bullet journals help me keep on track with this stuff.

- PROPER SLEEP. Sleep deprivation is one of the number one causes of psychosis. Try to get at least 8 hours a night, or however much your body personally needs.

- Stay away from weed unless you already know for a FACT that it doesn’t negatively affect you. If you don’t know, don’t risk it, because it makes paranoia and other psychotic symptoms much worse for most of us.

- When in an episode, it’s good to have a safe person around who you can confide in. Someone who will listen to you nonjudgementally, without encouraging your delusions or hallucinations. If you don’t have a safe person, psychosis forums, support groups, or even just a private diary are all good places to get your thoughts out.

- One of the best ways I dealt with some of my less intense delusions and paranoias was my “I Don’t Care” method. People are watching me through cameras everywhere I go? Whatever, let them watch. I’ll put on a little show for them while we’re at it. I’m living in a horrifying simulation and if I just look through the cracks I can see the rotting world beneath? Whatever, why would I want to do that? This fake milkshake tastes pretty good, I’m going to go on a fake walk.

- Obviously this takes some practice, because psychosis activates all the parts of your brain that are like FEAR ALERT, FEAR ALERT, SET ALL SYSTEMS TO PANIC, but after some time it’s a skill you can hone pretty well.

- Breathing exercises! Tormented by horrifying prophetic visions? Hallucinating bugs all over your body? Your food looks suspiciously like human organs and that’s really freaking you out, man? Wrap yourself in a weighted blanket and breathe in for 4 seconds, hold it for 4 seconds, breathe out for 4 seconds, hold, and repeat.

- Avoid the tempting cycle of triggering yourself on purpose, whether it be self harm, curiosity, what have you. When you get the urge, do something distracting instead.

Feel free to add onto this post anything else you’ve learned!

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I come from a long line of people who should not have had children but did anyway

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i think we should stop calling them baby names so people remember they’re not just naming a baby but also a future twenty seven year old with a resume

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August 14 2022 | 

finished summarizing all lectures for my civil service law exam 

finished summarizing all lectures for my bilingual teaching seminar 

unboxed my teaching planer 22/23

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The bitter INFJ

I think INFJ internet representation is all over the place...Its hard to narrow down the mbti type INFJ into somewhat clear traits and structures, especially because its hard to read them and they are manipulators in a way that they act in a certain way mainly in order to avoid conflict.

However, it's very interesting to see what happens if they don't do that.

If an INFJ stops masking, this can have several reasons: extreme stress (which comes easily for them because even slight changes or small interactions takes a high amount of emotional energy of them), being with people for too long, mental illness, or the rare case that you are even so uninteresting to the INFJ that they don't even bother being friendly to you or in the other case that they like and trust you so much that they stop masking.

Because deep inside, INFJs are rather bitter about the world. The stressful trait to notice a lot of small things makes them see often enough that the effort to be good is either too small to make a change or doesn't get repayed. They try hard to be good because they think how others feel is more important than how they feel themselves, but especially under stress, they can seem dry, bored, not caring, when deep inside, they still care a lot and just cant show it in the moment. INFJs have a very misunderstanding trait that makes them share only a part of what's going on in their head, mainly because its a labyrinth there and they also kinda think that a lot of stuff is just obvious to others when it's not. This creates small conflict that INFJs normally try to avoid: a circle is created, a loop the INFJ has a hard time to escape.

So when all their energy for empathy left their body, an INFJ can in fact get quite cold, or at least seem like that. They also can get sad, depressed, anxious, but won't show it, only to those they are closest too. But it's important to know that something like that could be going on when you interact with an INFJ. They often seem to have a lot of fun and be happy and loving, but as soon as they start disappearing, say they are 'stressed' or their answers get weird or unemotional and somehow off, they may be stuck in their loop and need help they won't ask for.

INFJs are caring people, but often don't get back the amount of love they give. They wonder why this is like that, and think they are weird or bad or unlovable people, and every little misunderstanding manifests these thoughts. If you want to do something good for them, be patient, ask them what's up, be there without judging. When an INFJ thinks they did too many things 'wrong' in an interpersonal way, they will withdraw too and wait for more signs of the other side.

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Hey (with the intention of staying all day at home while it's raining, reading and writing in my room)

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this summer is about getting a better mindset 🧠

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you are not wasting your potential by choosing to do things differently and choosing different paths than you and others expected. you can change what career, passions, etc. you pursue.