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like who ISN't having a strange and confusing time w/ intimacy and the physical experience

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I support this child

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u will drive urself crazy trying to convince someone u are worthy of their love. u always are deserving. they will not just suddenly start caring for u unless they want to. ain't nothing u should have to do to be seen.

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I am average american man I work fifteen hours in hamburger mine to buy one rock and roll disk

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After years of living in the adulting world, I think I’ve come to a realization: Manners exist to guide you to good conduct even when you’re in a bad mood.

When you’re happy, when you’re feeling generous, when you’re pleased with your gift or your service or your outcome, it’s easy to be nice. It’s easy to tip the waiter well when you’ve had a good day. It’s easy to thank the teller or the clerk when you got what you wanted out of the transaction. It’s easy to smile and chit-chat with strangers on the road when you’re in a good mood.

It’s hard to tip the waiter when you didn’t enjoy your food. It’s hard to thank the clerk for their time when you’ve just been told there’s a problem with their account and they weren’t able to fix it for you. It’s hard to think of something nice to say when your aunt gave you a crappy sweater you neither need nor want. It’s hard to be nice to people when you’ve had a shitty day. It’s HARD.

That’s what manners are for. Scripts and phrases that you learn by rote to say when you can’t think of a single nice or good thing to say from your own volition. Yes, they’re scripted. Yes, the sentiment is empty. But the scripts work in every situation, and the emptiness provides a buffer between your own unhappiness and the rest of society.

Because most of the time, it’s not the waiter’s fault that the food you ordered wasn’t what you expected. It’s not the clerk’s fault that your account is overdrawn. It’s not the fault of the barista or the stranger on the subway that you got fired today or your favorite aunt died. But even when you can’t summon a smile or a cheery word, you can still have manners, because they will serve you the same in sunshine or rain.

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your weight will fluctuate but your worth will not

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I think this is the funniest onion headline bar none

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when lizzo said “self love is survival” and when hannah gadsby said “do you understand what self-deprecation means when it comes from somebody who already exists in the margins? it’s not humility. it’s humiliation” and when mitski said “i used to rebel by destroying myself, but realized that’s awfully convenient to the world. for some of us our best revolt is self preservation”

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🥺🥺🥺🥺

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You should probably let fungus consume you

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if harry potter means a lot to anyone else out there, too, and you're hurt by jk's transphobia today: your idea of hogwarts is your own. the castle and its magic are things that she can't take away from you or lock you out of. they're yours. you do belong in that world and hogwarts will always be there to welcome you home.

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In other news, reading the reviews for Cats has become my new favorite pastime:

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just because someone doesn’t think that you’re attractive doesn’t mean that you’re unattractive.

just because someone doesn’t think that you’re smart doesn’t mean that you’re unintelligent.

just because someone doesn’t want/love you doesn’t mean that you’re unlovable.

someone’s opinion of you has nothing to do with you. their opinions don’t matter.

what matters is what you think about yourself. keep the focus on yourself - your confidence, your worth, your self-respect, your self-love. you’ll be okay.