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Leon is learning how to walk. He took two steps yesterday. It was heartwarming!

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Update on Olliver

Kayla had a level 2 ultrasound today. We found out Mr. Ollie is measuring a week ahead of what he should be. He is a big baby. He is measuring at 5 pounds 4 ounces and we are 32 weeks along now. So they moved our due date to February 26th. Exciting! We just need to have a baby shower now!

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New to Moming

Being a mother is hard. I give kudos to my mom for putting up with me and my siblings all these years. It took me a bit to get into the swing. Still sometimes it ishard because Leon has that special bond with Kayla because she gave birth to him, so he prefers her about 80% of the time. I still get preference over dad cause im the other parent he spends the most time with. Dont get me wrong though Leon loves all of us and we all have our moments with him. Anyways, i feel like i have to compete with Kayla sometimes to be the best mom, because if I'm not the best mom i can possibly be then I need to up my game my kids deserve the best version of me they can possibly get. Kayla had two kids before leon so she has a little experience moming, I on the other hand am new to being a mom. The only experience i have is babysitting, which if you count adds up to way more then her moming experience. Kaylas first son Christian was given up for adoption when she was 17, and Leons older brother Aaron is in custody of her adoptive mother, who is 83, and also his great-great-grandmother. That's a whole story on it's own. Leon is ten months old now. He is literally the light of my life. We are expecting another, his name will be Oliver, on March 6, 2019. So if we didn't already have our hands full with one munchkin we are about to in March.

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Being straight in a poly relationship.

Despite what people have always believed I am a straight female. There was much debate amoung school mates weather I was bi or lesbian but I am very straight. So at first it was weird being in a poly relationship. I didn't know if I was going to have to have sex with Kayla or if we would be having threesomes everytime we wanted sex. I agreed to the relationship because it was the only way i could be with John. He is the love of my life, no fighting it. As we got further into the relationship I realized I love Kayla too. Kayla is very much bi though. Kayla and I still aren't comfortable being intimate with each other but we love each other very much. We bicker a lot but I wouldn't have it any other way. We have only been doing this for seven months though, we have our whole lives to figure it out. In the meantime John has his hands full. Haha.

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How we became a throuple of parents.

Everyone always asks how we came about being in a polyamorous relationship. So let's start there. I met John in December of 2014. We initially met online then went on a series of dates and what not. He begged me on the first date to be his girlfriend. He was a catch i had to say yes. We dated until March of 2017. We had our ups and downs including the miscarriage of our child Riley. We ultimately ended up breaking up cause we were fighting a lot. He then met Kayla and they hit it off. She was homeless and a new mother, her child was in the care of her adoptive mother who also happened to be her great grandmother. They started living together and in July of 2017 they found out they were pregnant with Leon. We all were friends, I was not a petty bitch ex-girlfriend. Kayla and I were best friends from the day I met her, she was just so sweet I couldn't hate her like I wanted and vice versa. Leon was born in March 2018. He is the most beautiful child I have ever met, I instantly fell in love with him. We all started hanging out more after that, Kayla needed help with the baby and I was avoiding Ubering around strangers. In June my mom and sister moved to Washington state leaving me with a 5 bedroom apartment that I couldn't afford. John and Kayla moved in to help me out. During the moving process Kayla brought up adding me into the relationship, it took a few weeks to work out the kinks but weve been together ever since. It's rough sometimes but it works. In August we found out Kayla is pregnant again with our little Oliver, she is due in March. We are very excited unlike our wallet which is stretched as it is. That's our little story.