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I'm trying to quit smoking

I have to remember that a part of cigarette marketing to women was

1. Smoke instead of eat

2. Women are free so you too can smoke cigarettes

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Everyone gets so upset when I say

"The male loneliness epidemic is mostly based on young men realizing that they don't get a bang maid like their grand daddy and daddy did."

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really heavily reject this idea that just by virtue of being oppressed you understand everything about all types of oppression, and that reading theory is unnecessary or is something that unoppressed people do to make themselves feel good. do not fall for this trap. you need to be reading . you need to be learning. your own ideas are good but they can only carry you so far. learn from others.

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UGHHHHH I cant find the post on here that talks about how we have such high standards for female authors that we haven’t been able to have our own consistent female literature, while all the great classics by male authors, Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, etc all believed women were inferior animals, and no one cares. Doesn’t anyone know what post I’m talking about? I’ve been looking for it all day 😭 I’ve seen it on radblr so many times

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Surprise Suprise. Sex workers hate the movie Anora.

Generally, I've come to understand sex workers hate any depiction of sex work that doesn't end like White Lotus Season 2 (where the happy sex workers skip off into the sunset with bags of money). The reality is, most sex workers want the same thing Anora wanted. To use the industry as a stepping stool to get out and get on with a better life and more dynamic, whole, dreams. And nothing they hate more than being reminded that that doesn't happen often. I have to laugh because the discussion of this film encapsulates what I consider to be sex workers' love/hate relationship with feminism. When you listen to sex workers who still advocate for the industry speak, you can literally see them struggle against the cognitive dissonance of advocating for the continuation of an industry that has caused them unimaginable pain while simultaneously advocating for sex industry expansionism. (Tbh many don't see the industry as problem, but the lack of regulation. And it reminds me of my abused grandma who didn't want to leave my grandfather but was convinced if everyone in the family just gave him a very stern talking to he would behave and blamed everyone's failure to discipline him for the abuse. But anyway) These days they rattle off Dworkin-esque, radfem-aligned aphorisms about capital, labor, misogyny, the exploitation of women's bodies, violence, tedium, dehumanization, etc. and then, they do a 180 and go into a spiel about how grateful they are for this work and how fun it can be sometimes and that main thing everyone needs to focus on is more SW rights. And that the feminists trying to end this industry are just suffocating meanies. Edited to add:

For reference: I had this essay specifically in mind, it's going viral and is the most popular SW take on the movie rn. Obviously this is a very online conversation with western American sex workers of a particular class dominating the conversation- not reflective of all Sws.

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I'm reading Lydia Cacho's Slavery Inc. The Untold Story of International Sex Trafficking and this part hit me like a wall of bricks

“At this point, traffickers around the world, who function through a network of protection, changed their techniques. They knew that it was imperative to modernize their business. To defend slavery, traffickers and pimps in various countries started repeating the arguments of academics and feminists. They argued that the sex trade represented the true liberation of feminine sexuality in a capitalist society. The traffickers changed their methods: prostitutes no longer had to be drugged, hit, or terrorized; now a trafficker focused on reinforcing sexist cultural norms by lavishing sophisticated make-up and luxury goods on potential prostitutes to make it seem like they were acting by choice, as liberated women.  According to a Filipino traffickers who spoke with me in Cambodia, it is still necessary to teach the women and girls through a reward-and-punishment system; and to reprogram them by normalizing sexual exploitation through systemic exposure to pornography. They have to be convinced that they were the ones who chose to do this, and they must constantly be reminded that their lives are worth nothing; if they break the rules of the game, they will die.  “Difficult choices are still choices,” said the trafficker, who made the girls call her “godmother” in the brothel she controlled. This is one of the central premises in the global debate on prostitution: there are women over the age of eighteen who “freely” choose to live by means of prostitution. The mafias exploit and capitalize on the debate about “free choice” among intellectuals and activists. The philosophical argument about the definitions of free choice and coercion in a society has become part of the traffickers’ discourse. (...) The counter-argument of those who seek to abolish prostitution rightly focuses on the philosophical concept of freedom and on the ability of women to make decisions in a cultural context of submission and profound inequality. Almost 60% of the people engaged in prostitution start between the ages of fifteen and twenty-one under misleading circumstances, including threats and coercion. It is important to make clear that those who control the illegal sex trade have taken advantage of this philosophical, intellectual, economic, and even religious debate. The fact is, the organized-crime syndicates buying and selling sex slaves do not consist of isolated, underground groups who operate covertly. I repeat: they are active members of an industry, and they should be investigated with this in mind. (...) As in other industries, slavery has been bolstered by the liberalization of global markets. Sexual slavery is the extreme form of sexual exploitation, and it follows the capitalist model which seeks to increase profits and lower costs. If women or girls work for free for 2 years, profits are increased and any associated costs are quickly recovered, especially since the costs for maintaining a slave are so low.”

(pp. 149-150 if you want to find it in context)

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this exchange between OP & a sane commenter under yet another "I'm asexual but I still like sex sometimes" post is such a perfect example of what I've been talking about. some women nowadays are identifying as asexual because their view of sex has been so horribly warped by porn & misogyny. I mean she is quite literally saying "being asexual gives me an excuse to not have sex w/my partner if I don't want it "...girl you shouldn't need an excuse to not fuck your bf when you aren't in the mood. the validity of your consent is not at all dependant on what label you use! what a fucking horrible sign of the times that young women think they are the abnormal ones for not wanting to give their men an all access pass to their bodies.

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Here's an FGM survivor's response to that girl on TikTok who claimed "people focus on FGM so much because they want to tie women's oppression to genitalia so they can exclude transwomen."

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Trans Activists Are STILL Their Own Worst Enemy

2 years ago and it hasn't gotten any better

This YouTuber is literally trans but gets called a terf, transphobic and a Nazi for saying a lot of things radical feminists have been saying for years.

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The whole trad shit would make more sense to me if it came with talk about higher wages, support for unions, rent control, hell even UBI.

Why aren't men talking about making it easier for them to be the providers they claim to be.

How tf am I supposed to be barefoot and pregnant and homeschooling our many children if I have to work because my jakeys wage doesn't allow me to stay home?

There's no safety nets like even if you have the most wonderful man who takes care of you and your children what if he dies? What if he gets very sick? What are you going to do?

None of this shit makes any sense

(I'm speaking about their perspective. Women should have their own money always obvs)

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Hating on men and claiming masculinity is evil is going to have the complete opposite effect as to what you intended.

Let me set the scene, there's a freshly 13 year old boy, he's been told his whole life that boys don't cry, boys aren't allowed to have feelings. He gets internet access, and what SHOULD be happening is that people tell him that's all wrong and of course boys should have emotions, but that doesn't happen. Instead what happens is he gets met with dozens upon dozens of people claiming men DON'T have emotions. This boy tries to fight back, he replies to a post and he says that it's not true, boys aren't evil and they can be sad and hurt sometimes. What happens? People bully him. They laugh at him for being sad, say he deserves it. They tell him all men are horrible and he's destined to be evil.

What do you think happens? Do you think he's going to put in the effort to be a good guy? Fuck no. He's going to assume that's his fate and be shitty, because he was never met with kindness and understanding, he was told his kind is automatically evil.

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Malala really is a class act for standing up against the horrors many women and girls face around the world. She needs to be protected at all costs, bc the world needs more people like her.

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They are already calling 4b a "terf movement", they are already whining about how women in relationships can't call themselves 4b.

No dating. "But my Jakeeeeyyy"

Call yourself an ally to the 4b movement.

Not everything has to be for you oh my god.

It's so exhausting.