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Hotwife Lifestyle - One BIG Potential Problem and How to Avoid It 

Many of the problems with the hotwife lifestyle come down to the differences in the ways men and women think. Never underestimate the magnitude of the task ahead of you if you want to get your wife or girlfriend to cuckold you. The trick isn’t just to get her to have hot sex with other guys but also to STAY emotionally faithful to you AND involve you to whatever extent you want to be involved. ….

Hotwife Advice for Women 

 think women tend to get a raw deal when it comes to finding advice on being a hotwife. It’s true there’s lots of information out there on the topic, but most of it is written by men for men; and the material that is written by women seems to be more about what they get up to rather than how to make it work. In other words, it’s also written for men. ….

The Hotwife Lifestyle for Beginners 

The hotwife lifestyle appeals to many men and women of an open-minded nature who have a strong relationship and wish to explore beyond the horizons of traditional sexuality in regard to marriage and monogamy. …..

Hotwifing and the Four Stages of Cuckolding 

Almost every marriage where cuckolding becomes the norm passes through these stages, and it’s important to realise they are entirely natural and normal. 

The Ultimate Hotwife Lifestyle 

What many men – and even fewer women – realize when they first start taking the idea of hotwifing and cuckolding as a serious possibility for them, is they are subtly changing the dynamic of their relationship and setting themselves up for a true lifestyle change. ….

How To Start Hotwifing 

The question of how to start hotwifing is not as simple to answer as you might think. Or, rather, there is a simple answer but it’s not a very useful one: “just go out and fuck another man, dear”. Alas, that’s a recipe for disaster. …

How Does Hotwifing Enhance a Relationship? 

At first glance, it would seem ‘obvious’ that hotwifing or cuckolding – where a woman has sex with men other than her husband, but with her husband’s knowledge, consent and often at his urging – would be disastrous for any marriage, no matter how strong. But this is far from the truth, as you’ll see in this article…..

How Often Should Your Hotwife Play? 

This is a topic for more advanced couples who are currently living the hotwife lifestyle or have definitely decided to “do it” – and now they’re just working out the details. And one detail that’s really important to work out properly and in advance is how often should your hotwife play?….

Cuckolding: Three Things Cuckolded Husbands Love The Most 

There are many surprising benefits to being cuckolded for husbands, in terms of an enhanced relationship and, in a seeming paradox, a better sex life. But out of all of them three stand head and shoulders above the rest in terms of their ability to delight and excite the man whose wife has one or more lovers. We look at them in detail in this article….

Why Cuckolding Makes for a Happy and Fun Marriage 

Why cuckolding is so popular a fantasy for men is a fascinating topic, and one it’s worth understanding before you take even your first, tentative steps into the hot wife and cuckolding lifestyle. So in this article we’ll look at why men have the cuckolding fantasy so often, and why the cuckolding hotwife lifestyle is so much fun for both of you….

Hotwifing - 3 Ways to Do It Successfully 

This is perhaps the best choice of all, especially for couples are new to the hotwife lifestyle. In this article I share with you three simple choices for couples new to the hotwife lifestyle….

Hotwife Tips - 3 Hot Secrets for Ultimate Hotwife Pleasure 

So, you’ve confessed your desires to your wife – you want her to have sex with other men – she’s agreed in principle, so now… how is it all going to work? So to give you a nudge in what I hope is a hopeful direction, here are three simple scenarios for couples new to hotwiving (you can also use these as ideas when first introducing your wife to the idea of getting into the lifestyle)….

The Ultimate Hotwife Night 

The hotwife or cuckolding fantasy is a very popular one for men, but even though they think about it often, it’s rare they actually think about it very deeply. And the problem with this is the things you need to do to make the hotwife lifestyle appeal to your wife means sitting down and thinking about it a little more deeply than you have been doing – simply because when it comes to these things, men and women have a very different approach. That’s what we explore in this article…..

Can Hotwife Marriages Really Work? 

It’s a fact that hotwifing is a very, very common male fantasy. Why this is so is open to debate, but that doesn’t change the fact it’s true…..

Hotwifing Benefits - Three Reasons Hotwifes Have Better Marriages 

Odd as it may seem the hotwifing benefits you’ll experience if you can get your wife to take the plunge into the cuckolding lifestyle far outweigh the risks and disadvantages (with one proviso: hotwiving is for couples whose relationship is good but they want to improve it; if your relationship is already sexless and broken, then hotwiving will make things a lot worse). Discover here three HUGE benefits to the hotwife lifestyle…..

Hotwife Rules - 3 Tips to Successful Hotwifing 

Hotwife rules won’t mean much to you if you’re in the minority of cases where the lifestyle is part of a wider female-dominated relationship where the only rule seems to be “she can do what she likes”. But for the majority, those who see hotwiving as being something to deepen and enhance a relationship of equals there are three rules you must follow…..

Hotwifing - Is It Wrong? 

Hotwifing is an emotive subject with a lot of strong opinions held on both sides of the argument. But, the fundamental question is: Is Hotwifing Wrong? Unfortunately there’s no answer anyone can give and relieve the individual of answering the question for him- or herself…..

Hotwiving and What Your Wife Wants From It 

The biggest mistake men make when they try to get their wives interested in hotwiving, is blundering in without giving a moment’s thought to what they’re trying to achieve. I mean, yes, they know what their goal is, but that’s the problem. They’re focused on it like a greyhound chasing a rabbit and are blind to all else – including the mess they’re making of things! In this sort article you will uncover the big shift in your thinking you need to make if you want your wife to become the dream Hotwife you crave….

How Does a Hotwife Pick Up a Lover? 

The answer to the question, “how does a hotwife pick up a lover” must be… “very carefully!” But joking aside, in this short article you will discover three tips to selecting the right man to become your wife’s lover…..

How to Get Your Husband to Agree to a Hotwife Lifestyle 

Usually, it’s the man who drives the hotwife lifestyle and then as his wife become more comfortable with it and realises he’s not going to ‘freak out’ at her seeing other men, she tends to become more outgoing and provocative. And, of course, men love this. But what about when it’s the wife who harbours the initial desire? In this short article you will discover some simple tips for women seeking to persuade their men to let them off the leash! …..

How Many Wives Would Like to Hotwife? 

Since infidelity is the last big taboo, how many wives would like to hotwife? And it seems like a reasonable thing to ask since even though it’s a very common male fantasy, it seems women are turned off by the whole idea (but the truth I reveal in this short article will surprise you).,,,,,

Why Cuckolding Is Not the Same As an Affair 

Cuckolding is NOT the same as having an affair, despite most people thinking it is. The crucial difference is one is done with the full knowledge, consent, and even approval of the husband, while the other is not. Discover the difference between cuckolding and affairs and finally uncover the truth about the delicious cuckolding lifestyle…….

The Hotwife Lifestyle - 3 Secrets to Make It Work! 

For many couples the Hotwife lifestyle is a marriage saver - something you might find counterintuitive considering the pain, anguish and trouble infidelity typically causes in a marriage. But the hotwife lifestyle is different and can in fact bring couples closer together. In this short article you will discover the plain truth about the hotwife lifestyle…..

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Things that wives think would be hurtful, but cucks would be excited to hear.

His cock is much bigger than yours. To be honest, I prefer it to yours.

I get hornier for him than I do for you.

I plan to start going to him when I need sex.

He’s all I think about some days.

I’m sorry that you don’t like me being gone so much, but I’m not stopping.

This was your idea. You got what you wanted. Deal with it. 

He can fuck me any time he wants.

I’m sorry if you want me to stay, but I’m going over to his place again tonight.

I love you, but he satisfies me.

I’m sorry I didn’t come home last night. He wanted me to stay over.

He has stopped using condoms. I’m good with that.

He doesn’t want me to fuck you at all this week. I told him I felt the same way.

I’m going to spend the night with him whether you like it or not.

I’m still your wife, but this is his pussy. 

(Before sex in front of hubby) Watch how he fucks me. This is how I like it.

(During sex) I love his cock much better than yours!

(During sex) This is the best fuck I’ve ever had. 

(During sex) Watch and learn from him.

(During sex) He’s already lasted ten times longer than you do.

(During sex) I would do anything he says right now.

(After sex) That was the best I ever had.

(After sex) I don’t think my pussy has ever felt this good.

(After sex) You never shot a load this big in me.

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Why Do I Want to Be Cuckolded?

Why a man would want his wife to sleep with another man.

Because I am proud of her and want others to validate that

Because I enjoy knowing that other men find my wife attractive

Because she has interest in improving her body and appearance as she dresses for other men, feeling sexy and desired

Because I want to bring out the sexy and confident woman in hiding

Because it’s all about her pleasure

Because I enjoy viewing her as the free independent spirit that she truly is

Because I like not having to be in charge all the time, to give up control, to be in a sense dominated and still be loved and accepted by the one that we love the most. All without the guilt or judgment that would normally come with it.

Because it brings out her naughty side

Because I want her to experience as much variety and pleasure as possible 

Because she has a much higher sex drive than I do and it fills her sexual needs

Because I want my wife to have the most fun and the most powerful orgasms she can have

Because I get off watching her kiss another man

Because I want to see a larger cock in her

Because watching the love of my life being passionately fucked by another man is the most beautiful and erotic thing I’ve ever seen in my life.

The way her whole being responds to his touch and thrusts, the look of complete surrender in her eyes is the most gorgeous thing I have ever witnessed.

She comes back a new woman; I must fuck her again to call her mine and reclaim her

Because it makes the sex better between the two of us

I am not sure why

As you can see, there are a myriad of reasons why someone would want their wife to sleep with another man. 

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What Makes A Cuck Tick

I’ve been on a two year quest to find what it is that makes some men enjoy being cucked. I’ve chatted with countless cucks, hot wives, and Bulls. I found along the way that most cuckolds don’t know why they are the way they are. They don’t know why they find pleasure in the unspeakable desire to see other men challenge their manhood by seducing their wives or girlfriends. From cuckolds who feel they have insight into their sexuality, I often heard men say that their companions sexual satisfaction is what drives them. I’ve heard men say they get pleasure from humiliation. I even heard men question whether what drove them was a lust for the bull and their spouses were just fodder.

What I have concluded is that all cucks have one thing in common. What drives cucks and gives them enormous pleasure is competition

He tempts fate and dares other men to challenge him for that which most makes him a man. Cucks tend to be highly educated, complex, thoughtful, and well employed men. Bulls on the other hand tend to be the opposite. Cuckolds are typically highly successful in life and tend to meet most challenges. Cuckolds are used to winning. It is ironic, therefore, that the pleasure cuckolds get comes from losing. A cuckold’s sexual desire is most satiated when he is defeated by a man who presents himself as superior. A good Bull is not just one who fucks married women, but a man who owns married pussy.

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A guide to entering the Hotwife lifestyle

So you are now one of the millions of women who learned she has a husband with fantasies about you having sex with other men. Welcome to our club. Hopefully you’re past the shock. Maybe you have even reached that point where there is no need for me to tell you how lucky you are. If you’re not then you WILL reach that point if you follow what other wives like me have learned. If you’re like most of us, you were unaware that your husband had these desires. You were living the married life thinking that you knew your husband better than he knew himself. Ha! Too funny. Depending on how long you’ve been married, things may or may not have cooled off in the bedroom. Face it. The rut comes to every bedroom. If it hasn’t don’t be lulled into thinking it won’t happen to you. Some of you may have already had affairs or even had thoughts of leaving your husband out of sheer boredom. Then you somehow found out about his secret fantasy, and hopefully decided that there is a solution for the both of you. Lucky you, even if you don’t know it yet. He wants you to have sex with another man. Wow. Unsure about it? Don’t feel alone. I did too. But take a moment and think about the potential. See all of those other unhappy women out there in boring, sexless marriages? See all those other women around you having affairs, lying to themselves and their husbands, and risking messy divorces? Don’t laugh at them. They were once you, or could have been you. But now you will end up different from them. If you read this and follow it you’re going to find yourself on a road that will return you to sexual fulfillment, feeling as confident as when you were first married, in love with your husband again and appreciating him more than ever. You are on the way to becoming a Hot Wife. A Hot Wife is a woman who is free to have sex with others with her husband’s knowledge, approval and encouragement. The level of her husband’s involvement can vary. In fact it will be up to YOU. Some wives play completely on their own, with no interaction with her husband. Others enjoy their husband watching or participating. However, in all these relationships the wife is free to play with others, while the husband remains completely monogamous and faithful only to her. Sound crazy? Well believe me when I tell you it is easy to do and your sex life will be better than you imagine. In this new relationship the husband is often called a cuckold, which just means a man with a cheating wife. Of course cheating is a misnomer, since the wife’s actions are not hidden from the husband, and he is very aware of her activities. In fact his awareness and approval is one of the most important ingredients. It will turn him on like nothing you’ve ever done before. I assume you’re reading this because you’ve finally found out about your husband’s desires and you are contemplating the Hot Wife lifestyle. Good for you, but you may want some advice. First, go slowly. Do not rush it. Having a husband that enjoys this lifestyle is different, so you need to nurture the relationship first and foremost, while moving into the lifestyle slowly. It might take time before you are comfortable having full on sex in front of him, or he may take time to become accustomed to watching or knowing you are out being intimate with other men. What you want to do is encourage his desires for you to be with other men, and make it as pleasurable for him as it is for you. If you go slowly and follow my advice, in time you will have a husband that will let you do anything sexually. Anything! And he will want you to do more. He will find himself anticipating it as much as you (maybe more than you). He will get his sexual satisfaction from YOUR encounters with other men, and most importantly he will be drawn to you like never before, and more in love with you than at any time in your marriage! In the Hot Wife lifestyle there are three levels of involvement for your husband: 1. You meet other men alone with no involvement from your husband. He may never know them or meet the other men in your life. You meet them on your own, and make all arrangements without any approval from your husband. The other men may or may not know about your lifestyle, or be aware that your husband knows about them. They may not even know you’re married, if you choose to remove your rings and pretend to be single. 2. You meet other men together with your husband, with him knowing them, and them knowing of him. However any interaction between both men is more on a social or perhaps friendship level. Your husband is not involved in any sexual activities between you and the other man. Your husband could even be the one who finds other men or helps make arrangements for you to meet them (your “dates”). But your husband is not included in your sexual encounters, except possibly left to hear them via an open phone call while they are happening. 3. Having sexual relations with other men in your husband’s presence, or even engaging in some sexual play that involves all three of you, ménage à trois style. In the classic cuckold arrangement you engage in sexual play with your lover while your husband watches, but he does not play at all. As an extension of this situation, there can be involvement of the husband in the classic ménage-a-trois arrangement, or traditional three ways. This could involve any degree of sex, which all three agree upon. Some wives prefer their husband be involved sexually and that is your choice. As you will see this will all become about YOUR preferences. Any of these levels can be appropriate, depending on the couple and what they prefer. It’s important to know where you, and to a lesser extent your husband, wish to take things, so open communication is important to establish your goals and boundaries. Just make sure that the “other” man fully understands everything as well. It’s important for him to know upfront where he fits into the couple’s relationship. It’s also important that he respect any boundaries you set out (you set the boundaries, NOT your husband). With proper techniques, a new Hot Wife can quickly learn how to get the most from her sexual encounters AND help her husband find new levels of pleasure from a more passive role than he is likely to have experienced earlier in your marriage. This takes time though, as most husbands are accustomed to being the spouse in charge. As you begin, you MUST remember one very important fact. Hot Wife is not just about sex. It’s also about CONTROL. If you are like most women, your husband has been in control so far in your marriage. Right? Well, now you can change that. Hot Wife is about what YOU want. YOUR sexual pleasure. YOUR sexual control. I know it sounds strange. But once you’ve experienced it you WILL enjoy it immensely! Think YOU not HIM. As selfish as it may sound at first, doing so will turn him on more than anything you’ve ever done yet! The change in you by itself will begin to arouse him. Now, here’s what to do the first few times. After that, once you’ve got a taste of it (and he’s thirsty for more), you can do as you damn well please. After all, you are the Hot Wife! (You won’t read stuff like this anywhere else.) Remember rule #1 - The goal is for YOU to be in control of the sex, not him. You do what you want; when you want; and how you want; with whom you want and have him go along with it. Got it? First, you have to set the groundwork from the beginning. If you do it right, he will be totally faithful and a perfect husband to you, as he learns to get his sexual satisfaction in the lifestyle as a result of YOUR being satisfied. Meanwhile you can have fun with your new freedom and let out the little slut that’s bottled up inside every woman. DON’T let him decide what kind of sex or how much sex or who you should have sex with. Remember this - NO CHOICE and NO VOICE. He should have no say in whether or not you jack a man off, or if you chose to screw the entire staff of Starbucks. He should have no say in whether you go out to another mans home, or bring a man into your bedroom. He should have no say in when it happens, or whom you choose. Once you allow him to have a say, then you let the control slip back to him. That’s NOT what you want. You want to be the one in control. Trust me, YOU will love it once it happens, and HE will too (even if he doesn’t know why). When you decide you’re going to go out and meet someone, or have someone over, just tell your husband, in a very matter of fact tone. Don’t give him a choice in the matter. Say, “I’m having someone over tomorrow evening and we’re going to spend some time in bed.” Or say, “I’m going out with someone Friday night and I plan to go home with him afterward”. That’s it. You can share as many details as you want (before and after) but don’t let him try to influence you or allow him to shape the event. Be firm. Make it clear that you are making the decision because it’s what you want. Take control of your sexuality and control that aspect of your relationship for that night. Send the message that you’re in charge. If you want, it’s fine to tell him what’s going to happen before you do it. That is a big part of the excitement for many couples. Share all of the details you wish. But the idea is to show him that you’ve made a decision based on YOUR needs and desires, and his needs are secondary to your needs right now. Show him that you’re a horny woman who’s taken charge of getting yourself satisfied without him. The idea that you will go to another man for your sexual fulfillment will drive him crazy with lust for you (trust me!). It’s also important to keep him involved every step of the way. Share everything. Depending on your relationship level, you may want to keep him abreast of your discussions with the other man, share details of your plans, etc. It’s important to keep him involved, but as a SPECTATOR and NOT a participant. This creates a sexually charged experience for him, even before you have ANY sex at all! If you are having thoughts about calling someone to meet this weekend, tell him. Let the suspense and excitement build. It’s a game. Share it with him and it will excite you BOTH. When the big day arrives to meet a man, be deliberately aloof and distant from your husband the entire day. Give him some tasks to keep him busy, maybe something that helps prepare for your evening. Perhaps send him out to buy a nice bottle of wine, or tidy up around the household. Many couples enjoy the ritual of the husband helping the wife prepare herself for a date. You can have him help you bathe or shower, and dry you off. Have him put on your panties and stockings. I talk to my husband and tease him, I tell him to get me ready for the other man’s cock, etc. Doing this lays the groundwork early on. It puts you in charge and creates an atmosphere where he begins to mentally relinquish his rights to you, as part of turning you over to another man. Doing this also reinforces the new power you have. It will also make the sex more intense between the two of you during the next few days, when he takes charge of you again. It’s an important part of the game that has powerful appeal, and helps bond you together. If you are having a man over, have your husband arrange the areas where you will entertain (living room, bedroom, ect). Dim the lights. Light some candles and put on some quiet music as you wait. If he will be present in the bedroom, have him prepare an area off to the side from where he will watch. When the man arrives, EVERYTHING should change. Discuss beforehand what your husband’s role will be. Assuming that he remains present, there are certain things you can do to set the tone, and create an unforgettable night for him AND you. First, have it prearranged for him to sit somewhere out of the way, so that you and your lover can carry on as if your husband is NOT THERE AT ALL (this is VERY important). I usually tell the other man to ignore my husband. After the early pleasantries my husband seldom interacts with us at all. The excitement of experiencing a new man sexually, while at the same time turning on the man I love, is difficult to explain but incredibly exciting. When the man arrives at your home, don’t be timid and make small talk for an hour. This is a common mistake. It’s too awkward to prolong things. Everyone knows he’s there for sex. There’s no reason to delay. Since it’s all about sex, look for the first chance to break the ice and get started. This is part of your “take charge” persona that comes with the control you’ve assumed. Show your desire for the other man by initiating intimacy while your husband watches. If I know him from previous dates I often give a full kiss to my “date” right in the doorway and linger, perhaps even lightly rub his crotch a bit, giving him a chance to return the grope. Then I walk him into the living room, with my husband either following or already waiting for us. Depending on the man, I sometimes prefer to have an adult video playing on the TV with the volume turned down, and pleasant music playing lightly in the background. With a nice glass of wine this is a sure-fire way to get things going without much delay. You can linger there if you want, or wildly strip off your clothes and jump on him, or lead him to the bedroom. It’s up to you. You’re the Hot Wife. Some women like to tease their husbands for a while. Others just like to plop down in the doorway and start sucking within seconds. It’s up to you. Do what turns YOU on. YOU are in charge. Some wives like to NOT look at or talk to their husband AT ALL, especially during the first few times he watches. But some husbands want their wives to look them in the eye while they’re enjoying their new lover. It can be very exciting to tell your husband how GOOD it feels, how much BIGGER he is than your husband, and how much BETTER the sex feels. Cuckold husbands want their hotwives to have the BEST sexual experience of their lives, so let him know that is what you are getting. It can be extremely sexy either to ask if it’s OK for your lover to cum inside of you, or for your husband to hear you TELL your lover to cum inside of you. And be sure to let your husband know each and every time you orgasm with your new lover. On the other hand, you can try to totally PRETEND HE’S NOT THERE. Some watching husbands love this. They like to think they are anonymously watching you have a secret sexual affair. But in any case, they want to see you lost with your lover, while they get a front row seat to the best live porn they will ever experience. Here’s more advice for the first few times. ENJOY yourself! Don’t be shy or act inhibited. Don’t be afraid to moan and scream and cry out with passion. Pay attention to your lover exactly like you would if you were totally alone with him. Many women feel inhibited and reserved with their husband watching, but this hinders what you want to accomplish. He wants to see you in the throes of wild passion, without a care in the world (least of all worrying about your husband). It may take you some time to do it, but putting him out of your mind should be your goal. Here’s another tip - treat your lover like you treated your husband WHEN YOU WERE DATING. Ladies, you know what this means. Let your slut come out! Plenty of oral sex. Plenty of fucking. Multiple times if possible. Give him all he wants, until he can’t see straight and you can’t walk straight! When he’s done, continue to pamper him EXACTLY as you would your husband, right up until the goodnight kiss at the door. After he leaves, you think you’re done and now it’s time for some sleep? Surprise girl! It’s not close to being over yet. The next step is VERY important if you want to keep doing this. It’s important that your husband support your Hot Wife life, and that he be behind you all the way. So, even if you’re tired, you must immediately turn ALL your attention to your husband. Turn off the distant, sex-starved Hot Wife games you played earlier and become ALL HIS AGAIN! Let him reclaim you as his own. Reassure him that you’re still his wife and that you love him even MORE for allowing you this night of pleasure! Depending on the couple, you may or may not have sex right away, or even for days after (this is up to you two). He may even have masturbated earlier, while watching you. I know some husbands who just watch without a hard-on but then end up fucking their wives like madmen for days after the date. Many husbands will want to perform CLEAN UP duty. This is where the husband licks the lovers cum from the wife’s pussy or off of her breasts. It can be EXTREMELY arousing for both involved! It’s a primal reaction serving to both reclaim the wife and show the husband’s subservience to her pleasure. But even though they desire this, most husbands will not do this on their own. Your husband may want you to ORDER HIM to perform clean up duty. This maintains the woman’s sexual dominance in all areas of the Hot Wife lifestyle. But each relationship is different. Do what’s right for you two. But as soon as the other man departs you must be right back in your husband’s arms and become his wife and lover again. Make sure he receives the love and pleasure and release he needs to REINFORCE his desire to watch you do it again. Over the next few days, reassure him that you love him and care about him, that you’re his wife forever. Most importantly, remind him that you LOVE the fact that he lets enjoy this lifestyle. Tell him how much you enjoyed that night. Tease him while replaying the night over and over. Tell him you can’t wait to do it again. Tell him how self-assured and unique he is to be able to share you the way he does, and how you appreciate the freedom he gives you. Chances are you’ll be having great sex with your husband for weeks after he watches, and he will be more attentive and loving than he was before you started these games. That’s just another benefit of the lifestyle. When that happens, you’ll become hooked on the Hot Wife lifestyle, and so will he. If you do this, the lifestyle will become an important part of your sexual relationship and it will grow into the most exciting sex life you’ve ever enjoyed together. In time, his most intense sexual pleasure will come from you HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE, as crazy as that might sound. And what could be better for you? You get to take charge of your sex life. You get to explore new sexual horizons most married women never experience. Your husband will love and adore you more than he ever has, and you BOTH stay sexually fulfilled. There is so much to experience in this lifestyle that you’ll never be bored. If you lay the right groundwork and do it correctly from the beginning, you can have a supportive, open-minded husband and the freedom to do whatever you want with his blessing. To me, there is no better marriage than one that is open and sexually permissive. Without my loving husband involved in my new life, I would probably have long ago been divorced and miserable by now. So get out there and get started.

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Why a man would want his wife to sleep with another man?

Because I am proud of her and want others to validate that

Because I enjoy knowing that other men find my wife attractive

Because she has interest in improving her body and appearance as she dresses for other men, feeling sexy and desired

Because I want to bring out the sexy and confident woman in hiding

Because it’s all about her pleasure

Because I enjoy viewing her as the free independent spirit that she truly is

Because I like not having to be in charge all the time, to give up control, to be in a sense dominated and still be loved and accepted by the one that we love the most. All without the guilt or judgment that would normally come with it.

Because it brings out her naughty side

Because I want her to experience as much variety and pleasure as possible

Because she has a much higher sex drive than I do and it fills her sexual needs

Because I want my wife to have the most fun and the most powerful orgasms she can have

Because I get off watching her kiss another man

Because I want to see a larger cock in her

Because watching the love of my life being passionately fucked by another man is the most beautiful and erotic thing I’ve ever seen in my life.

The way her whole being responds to his touch and thrusts, the look of complete surrender in her eyes is the most gorgeous thing I have ever witnessed.

She comes back a new woman; I must fuck her again to call her mine and reclaim her

Because it makes the sex better between the two of us

I am not sure why

As you can see, there are a myriad of reasons why someone would want their wife to sleep with another man.

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Hotwife/Vixen Interest Survey for Women

On a scale of 1 to 10,

with 10 being you are very interested, 5 being neutral and 1 being not at all interested,

please answer these following questions:

Becoming a hotwife?

Caging your husband’s cock?

Having sex with other men while your husband only watches?

Having sex with other men without your husband there?

Having sex with other men and your hushed at the same time?

Having anal sex?

Role playing with your husband?

Having a secrete lover that your husband doesn’t know about?

Having one time sex with men without your husband knowing?

Playing with sex toys?

Playing with bondage?

Going to nude beaches?

Watching your husband have sex with another woman?

Having sex with another woman in front of your husband?

Having sex alone with another woman?

Having your husband film you having sex?

Letting your husband pick men to share you with?

Having a monogamous relationship with your husband?

Going on vacation alone to have sex with other men?

Going on vacation with your husband and having sex with other men?

Going to a female strip club with your husband?

Going to a female strip club without your husband?

Going to a male strip club with your husband

Going to a male strip club without your husband?

Stripping at a bachelor or private party for a group of men?

Serving men during a football game or poker night wearing seductive clothing?

Sending men you meet online sexy photos and videos?

Sharing your messages/conversations with your husband that you have with other men?

Keeping secret you conversations with other men?

Edging your husband husband close to orgasm and then denying him repeatedly?

Ruining your husbands orgasms?

Limiting your husbands orgasms?

Making your husband clean his cum out/off of you?

Making your husband clean another man’s cum out/off of you?

Surprising your husband with a used pussy when you get home?

Making your husband suck another man’s cock in front of you?

Making your husband clean off the cum from another man that just fucked you?

Kissing your husband after another man came in your mouth?

Having your husband lick your clit while another man fucks your pussy?

Having you husband lick your clit while another man fucks your ass?

Having your husband lick your asshole while another man fucks your pussy?

Making your husband were a cock extension when he has sex with you?

Making your husband wear a cock cage in front of other men you are fucking?

Make your husband where a cock cage when he works?

Make you husband wear a cock cage while you watch porn and masturbate?

Make you husband were a gag dildo and you fuck his face?

Trying to stretch your pussy to take a fist?

Trying to stretch your asshole to take a fist?

Wearing an anal plug at home?

Wearing an anal plug out in public?

Having sex in your marital bed with another man?

Having sex only with men that do not know where you live?

Having sex with men you and your husband know personally?

Having sex with your husband’s friends?

Having sex with a coworker?

Having sex with your boss?

Answering the door nude?

Walking around the house daily nude?

Swinging or swapping partners with another couple?

Participating in a gangbang (3 or more men at the same time) with your husband there?

Participating in a gangbang (3 or more men at the same time) without your husband there?

Masturbating alone with toys?

Masturbating alone without toys?

Masturbating in front of your husband?

Masturbating in front of a bull?

Mutual masturbating with your husband or bull?

Sucking cock?

Sucking big cock, 8+ inches

Sucking small cock, less than 5 inches?

Having sex with big cocks?

Having sex with small cocks?

Getting a tattoo?

Getting piercings?

Getting your nipple pierced?

Getting your clit pierced?

Getting your bellybutton pierced?

Getting matching tattoos?

Wearing a hotwife anklet?

Wearing the key to your husband’s cock cage lock?

Squirting?

Letting your husband give you an enema?

Using a sex toy on your husband?

Fucking your husband with a dildo?

Fucking your husband with a strap-on dildo?

Being blindfolded during sex with your husband?

Blindfolding your husband during sex?

Tying your husband to the bed for sex?

Allowing your husband to listen on the phone to you having sex with another man?

Taking photos of you having sex with another man and sending them to your hubsand?

Video taping you having sex with another man and then showing your husband when you return?

Having your husband reclaim you after you have sex with other men?

Going to a sex club and allowing other strangers to watch you have sex with your husband?

Going to a sex club to meet other men to have sex with in front of strangers?

Going to a sex club to only watch others having sex?

Going to a sex club without your husband?

Going to a nude resort on vacation without your husband?

Going on vacation without your husband?

Allowing your husband to go to a sex club without you?

Allowing your husband to go on vacation without you?

100.Flashing your husband in public?

101.Having sex in public places?

102.Going out in a skirt without panties?

103.Having sex in a car or limo?

104.Having sex in the back of a car with a man while your husband drives?

105.Having your husband drive you to meet your date and then having him pick you up?

106.Having your husband thank your bull for fucking you good?

107.Having your husband ask your bulls to cum in you?

108.Always having to ask for permission from your husband before having sex with anyone else?

109.Having the freedom to have sex with anyone you want any time you want without your husband’s permission?

110.Accidentally getting pregnant by another man?

111.Getting pregnant by another man with you husband permission?

112.Having sex with string muscular men?

113.Having sex with men over 50?

114.Having sex with men under 30?

115.Having sex with black men?

116.Having sex for money?

117.Having sex while your husband is hiding in the closet?

118.Having sex while your while your husband is in the guest room?

119.Having your husband bring your drinks while you have sex with another man?

120.Have your husband shave you?

121.Have your husband watch you get ready for a date with another man?

122.Have your husband help you prepare for a date with another man?

123. Have your husband tied up and caged while you have sex with another man in the same room?

124.Have your husband tied up and caged while you have sex with another man in the same an adjoining room where he can only hear the moans?

125.Clean the house naked?

126.Cook naked?

127.Be waiting naked at the door when your husband got home from work?

128.Be waiting naked at the door when your date comes to visit?

129.Give a stranger you met in a bar a blow job or have sex in the bar bathroom?

130.Give a stranger you met in a bar a blow job or have sex with him in the parking lot?

131.Let another man finger you in a public place?

132.Dance with hot men at clubs?

133.Flirt with hot men at bars?

134.Go on vacations with other men without your husband?

135.Have one man fuck you in the ass while another man fucks your pussy?

136.Have one man fuck your ass while another fucks your pussy and another fucks your mouth?

137.Continue living a hotwife lifestyle if you become pregnant?

138.Stop living the hotwife lifestyle if you became pregnant?

139.Only have sex with your husband?

140. Allowing your husband to lick your pussy anytime he wants?

141.Allowing your husband to fuck your pussy anytime he wants?

142.Allowing your husband to fuck your ass anytime he wants?

143.Giving your husband a blow job anytime her wants?

144.Making your husband lick your pussy anytime you want?

145. Making your husband fuck you whenever you demand?

146.Get massages from your husband?

147.Get massages from other men?

148.Get massages from women?

149.Let other women give your husband full body massages?

150.Suck a cock after it’s been in your pussy?

151.Suck a cock after it was in your ass?

152.Be treated like a Princess in public but a whore in the bed?

153.Rough sex?

154.Talking dirty during sex?

155.Telling your husband about other men you have fucked during sex?

156.Using a cock cage on your husband to get things that you want sexually?

157.Using a cock cage to get your husband to reach goals..like weight loss…

158.Vacations were only you and your husband have sex together?

159.Sex with bulls/other men on average of about once per week?

160.Sex with bulls/other men on average of about once every two weeks?

161.Sex with bulls/other men on average of about once per month?

162.Sex with bulls/other men on average of about once every two or three months?

163.Sex with bulls/other men on average of about once or twice per year?

164.Having your husband surprise you by planning sexual adventures/nights which include other men?

165.Having sex in a pool?

166.Having sex in a hot tub?

167.Having sex in a shower?

168.Having sex on a boat?

169.Having sex in a plane?

170.Keeping secrets from your husband?

171.Using floggers/whips/paddles?

172.Having your husband use flogger or spank you when you are bad?

173.Using a flogger or spanking your husband if he is bad

174.Wearing a ball gage while you have sex?

175.Making your husband wear a ball gag?

176.Making your husband cum inside is cage?

177.Play with hot wax?

178.Explore robe bondage?

179.Share your sex life relationship on a Tumblr blog, but hid your identities?

180.Shop at a adult book store with your husband?

181.Shop at an adult book store alone?

182.Shop at an adult book store with a man other than your husband?

183.Go to a bar with your husband but pretend you don’t know him and flirt with others while he watches?

184.Drive around in a car naked?

185.Be driven in a car naked?

186.Grow old with your husband?

187.Divorce you husband when he gets too old?

188.Have an open relationship where husband and wife can have sex with others?

189.Never allowing your husband to have sex with any other woman?

190.Allowing your husband to have sex with another woman only with your permission and by your rules?

191.Setting up rules for being a hotwife?

192.Setting up punishments for breaking the rules?

193.Sharing all of your personal communication outlets and passwords with your husband including phone messages and all social media messaging?

194.Having all of your husband’s communication and social media passwords?

195.Allowing your husband to make all the rules?

196.Playing the dominant role and having your husband play a submissive role all of the time?

197.Playing the dominant role and having your husband play a submissive role most of the time?

198.Playing the submissive role and having your husband play a dominant role all of the time?

199.Playing the submissive role and having your husband play a dominant role most of the time?

200.Alternating about 50/50 between playing the submissive role and dominant roles with our husband?

201.Have your bulls be dominant?

202.Have your bulls be submissive?

203.Becoming friends with your bulls?

204.Have the same bulls long term rather than many strangers?

205.Have the bull always wear condoms?

206.Have the bulls not wear condoms?

207.Allowing the husband to stop a date or sex at anytime for any reason without getting mad?

208.Allowing your husband to decide he wants you to stop being a hotwife and live a monogamous traditional lifestyle?

209.Having kids with your husband?

210.Being wealthy?

211.Always telling the truth?

212.Always getting the truth from your husband?

213.Trying new sex positions?

214.Trying new sex techniques?

215.Watching porn with your husband?

216.Watching porn alone?

217.Privacy while talking to other en on the phone?

218.Privacy while on the computer chatting with other men?

219.Fulfilling your husbands fantasies?

220.Fulfilling your fantasies?

221.Sharing your fantasies with your husband?

222.Hearing your husband’s fantasies?

223.Having a fit muscular husband?

224.Using nipple clamps during sex?

225.Having your husband use a pussy pump on you?

226.Using a penis pump on your husband?

227.Using a sex swing with your husband?

228.Using a sex swing with other men?

229.Role playing with your husband (doctor/patient, student/teacher, master/slave)

230.Playing sex games with your husband?

231.Playing sex games with others?

232.Hiding your sexual activities from friends and family?

233.Having similar interests are your husband?

234.You husband having similar interests as you?

235.Sacrificing to give you husband pleasure?

236.You husband sacrificing to give you pleasure?

237.Sleeping naked in bed with your husband nightly?

238.Having your husband wake you up in the middle of the night for sex?

239.Waking your husband up in the middle of the night for sex?

240.Knowing where your husband is all the time?

241.Spending nights in bed alone without your husband?

242.Always sleeping with your husband?

243.Always sleeping with someone?

244.Never sleeping alone?

245.Showing public displays of affection?

246.Having sex while having your period?

247.Playfully humiliating your husband when having sex alone with him?

248.Playfully humiliating your husband with having sex with another man in front of you husband?

On a scale of 1 to 10,

with 10 being you are most important and 1 being not important at all,

please answer these following questions:

How important is:

Trust in your marriage?

Sex in your marriage?

Honesty in your marriage?

Wealth in your marriage?

Health in your marriage?

Kids in your marriage?

Having time to spend with your friends?

Having time alone?

Having time to spend with family?

Sharing home chores?

Shopping together?

Working together?

Both having jobs?

Being a housewife?

How many kids do you want to have?

How would you feel if you had no kids with your husband?

Can you accept being a stepmother and treat your husbands kids as your own?

How would you feel about becoming pregnant by a man other than your husband?

At what age do you want to retire?

Where would you like to live when you retire?

What is an ideal sized home for you and your husband?

A. very small, 1 bedroom, 1 bathroom, living room, kitchen, laundry room

B. small - 2 bedroom, living room, kitchen, laundry room

C. medium - 2-3 bedrooms, living room, dining room, kitchen, laundry room, game room

D. large -3-4 bedrooms, living room, dining room, kitchen, laundry room, game room, garage, big yard

E. very big - 3-4 bedrooms, living room, dining room, kitchen, laundry room, game room, large yard, garage, pool

Explain why that is your ideal home size:

Would you rather go to the movies or watch a movie at home?

Who do you prefer does the:

(husband, wife, both equally, husband most of the time, wife most of the time)

Laundry

Cooking

Cleaning

Making the bed Yard work

Gardening

Driving

Shopping

Dishes

Banking/accounting

Work - earring money

Initiating sex

Ironing

Decorating

Planning vacations

Deciding where to spend money

How many times a month would be an ideal number of time to have sex?

Do you think men or women desire sex more?

What are your true feelings about the hotwife or vixen lifestyle?

Do you feel you that a hotwife or vixen lifestyle is right for you? Explain

How important is your partners appearance?

How important is your husband’s physical appearance?

Are you interested in becoming a hotwife/vixen?

Why or why not:

What rules would you like to have if living a non traditional marriage?

Is your husband’s cock enough to keep you totally satisfied?

What more could your husband do to keep you sexually satisfied?

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Suggestive Dirty Talk Options

I find that the biggest obstacle in dirty talking is how to start it. That first thing you break the ice with. It can feel a bit awkward at first, but you’ll quickly get the hang of it. I’m a big fan of something I call the and then what technique. Basically you just start with a rather innocent question or statement and then evolve into the next natural thing that would happen. So you say something, and then pretend someone asks you “and then what” and then you answer that question.

So let’s pretend for a second you’re on top of your man, riding him cowgirl style and you want to spice it up a little.

Simply starting with a “you like the way I fuck you?” Is enough to break that awkward ice. He’ll answer yes of course. And then what? “then imagine how Mark (using names of actual guys you know works amazingly) would feel if I fucked him like this”

And then what?

“I would bounce up and down his cock just like this. He’ll get to feel how tight your wife’s pussy is”

And then what?

“then I want him to….”

You get it.

Reliving the past

My husband is very much into hearing stories about guys I used to fuck so this one is his favorite type of dirty talk. The way it goes is when I give him a handjob, blowjob or even ride him, I would say something like “you like the way I stroke your dick?” (asking if he likes it is always a great way to break the ice and initiate dirty talk without feeling awkward). This always gets me a very enthustiastic “YES!” to which I answer something like “this is exactly how I used to stroke [name of guy I used to fuck]’s cock…” (pause for dramatic effect) “except… His was a lot bigger than yours”. This line alone is usually enough to almost bring him over the edge, and if not it’s a great way to go into more details - how did it feel to stroke a much bigger dick, would you do it again, perhaps the guy used to get so horny that he would fuck you before you could finish the handjob, etc. Details, details, details, I can’t stress it enough.

Fair warning: not everyone is into hearing about your past! Make sure your husband is into that before springing this on him.

The commentator

This one is super easy because you don’t feel like you’re talking dirty, you’re just saying what’s on your mind. So the way it works is to watch porn with your man and simply make comments about the movie playing. Particularly about the guy and what you like about him. Compliment his dick, go into details about what you like about him, think out loud like “I really wish I could get fucked like that one day” / “look how big his dick is. He would make me cum so fast with that”

If you’ve fucked someone who reminds you of the guy, by all means tell your husband about it. Watching a porn with a guy who’s fucking some girl senseless and hearing your wife drop the bomb that the guy is the exact same size as some dude she dated in college is a sure way to make your husband look at the porn and all he will see is you being fucked right there on the screen. Very hot for both of you.

The yes ladder

This is a really simple but very effective technique that is easy for new dirty talkers and is guarantueed to drive him crazy.

In a nutshell what you do is ask him some questions that all leads to a yes. With each question the intensity in what you’re asking increases. There’s something crazy hot about this almost confessional way of talking dirty and being “forced to admit” your deepest fantasies. This is a great way to get yourself going, and to test out boundaries.

Optional: let him know ahead of time that you’re going to ask him questions and if he says no just once, he don’t get to cum. See what he’s willing to say yes to - just remember these are forced and horny yesses expressing what he likes in the heat of the moment. They don’t necessarily count in real life.

Example of a yes ladder.

“you like this huh”

“would you like it if i did this to another guy?”

“would you let me pick any guy i want?”

“what if i want a guy who’s bigger than you, would you allow that?”

“do you want him to fuck me hard?”

“what if he makes me cum really hard, can you handle that?”

“what if he makes me scream out his name, can you still handle it?”

“can I fuck him right here in our bed?”

“would you allow me to fuck someone I’ve dated before?”

“even if he really knows how to fuck me good?”

“what if I want him to fuck me while you wait in the other room, will you do that?”

You get it, just continue like this. Make the questions increasingly more provocative and test his boundaries, maybe even cross them if you know he can handle it.

The O-bomb

This method works extremely well if you’ve been teasing and playing with him for a while, keeping him right on the edge and he’s SO close now that you can make him cum any second.

All there is to it is asking him “do you want to cum?” he’ll answer yes almost pleading. And that’s when you drop the O-bomb. The O-bomb is some of the blue thought you put into his head and force him to cum to before he can even react.

For example: he just said yes he wants to cum. You then say “good. I want you to cum while you think of me cumming all over (name)’s big dick” and then you simply force him to cum before he even gets a chance to react. As he’s cumming you keep feeding him the thought over and over until he’s done. “yes, cum while you imagine how he makes me scream” etc.

The story

My personal favorite. One thing is to talk about imaginary stuff that could maybe some day happen. Another is to talk about stuff that actually already happened simply by telling him a story about some incredible hot sex you’ve had, either because the circumstances where hot, because the guy knew what he was doing and fucked your brains out or the guy happened to be seriously hung.

This is also super simple for you because you dont have to make anything up, you simply just tell what happened and describe the situation.

Don’t worry about elaborate descriptions or anything. Trust me he’ll ask you to elaborate when he hears something he likes. Just describe what happened and how it felt for you. Especially the “how it felt” part is very important.

The talk

Now in the safety rules i told you to talk about what he likes and dislikes without touching him so his arousal won’t reflect his answers. This time you do the exact opposite. Simply have a conversation about what he likes while slowly touching his dick. There’s something really hot about just talking while casually stroking him. And you’ll be able to measure his response simply by the way his dick throbs, which is incredibly hot.

How to start it: just casually ask him a question about his likes and as he answers you slowly start touching him while asking him more questions.

The close your eyes and imagine

Sometimes it can be a lot easier if your husband can’t see you when you talk dirty.

Example:

“close your eyes. Do you like my hands on. Your dick? Now imagine i was doing this to another guy. Stroking his big dick just like this. I would be so turned on knowing it isn’t you. My pussy would want to feel him inside me. Imagine how he would push me down and fuck me. Imagine how i would gasp when he starts to stretch me. How I would scream when he goes deeper than you.”

Do you see how the above also make use of the and then what technique to tell the next part of the story?

Putting it all together

Now, I know reading about it and actually doing it is two very different things. When you’re first starting out I actually advice you to plan out your dirty talking. This might not be as sexy and spontaneous, but while you’re still getting the hang of it it’s nice to be a little prepared so you don’t run out of things to say. I would also advice you to start off doing it while giving a handjob, as you will have a much easier time focusing on what to say than if you were giving a blowjob or having sex.

Let’s break the ice with an innocent “do you like the way it feels when I stroke your cock?”

When he says yes I would then say something like “good…. Now close your eyes” wait for him to do it.

Then: “would you like it if I did this to another man?” - “yes”

Then: “you know, [name of ex / bull / fantasy guy] used to love when I stroked his dick. Of course his was a lot bigger than yours, I could barely close my hand around it”

Then: “do you like that, thinking about how I used to stroke his big cock?” - “yes”

Then: “having that big cock in my hands always made me feel so tiny and horny”

Then: “do you want me to show you how I used to suck him?” - “yes”. Then put all your effort into giving the best head you have ever given.

Then: “mmh… Can you imagine how good his cock must have felt in my mouth? I used to suck him just like that until he came in my mouth”.

By now he should be getting pretty close, so it’s time put on the finale. Ask him “do you want to cum?” - “yes”. Start stroking him faster.

“tell me…” - make him say that he wants to cum.

“I want you to cum while you think of me getting fucked by [name]. He would always make me cum so hard. Imagine how I used to scream his name” - if you really want to go all out you could start moaning the name of this other guy, whether that’s your bull, an old fling, your husband’s friend or who ever you like to fantasize about.

Do you see how easy it flows from do you like it, to imagine it’s someone else, to describing how you used to do or would do it on someone else?

With time it will come naturally and you won’t have to plan ahead, but to begin with it’s nice to have an idea of how you want to start it, how you want to end it and how you bridge that gap.

There you have it. My secrets to driving your husband wild. Now go… Make him lose it.