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Dumb: You need to hate yourself to be trans. If you don’t bind 24/7 you’re faking. Real trans men pack because if they didn’t they’d die. You can only have hyper masculine interests or you don’t experience dysphoria.

Woke: You should try and love yourself despite your gender dysphoria, it’s only a small part of you. Some trans men can’t bind or don’t need to. Packing is expensive and depending on your situation unsafe. Some find it makes dysphoria worse others it helps. Being trans doesn’t mean perpetuating stereotypes aligned with sex, although many find that participating in these stereotypes will worsen/alleviate dysphoria and help them pass.

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hey fellas im on my period so im already dysphoric as hell and barely refraining from cutting my uterus out and on TOP of that i have no womens underwear to hold a pad so im bleeding all over myself and tampons are extremely painful for me so someone who can relate should dm me

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i wanna prove something

reblog if ur a truscum and you believe that even minor dysphoria counts

like if ur a truscum who believes you have to hate yourself to be trans

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@catyesbananaa :)

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what the fuck

Well some people said my gender is a confuse salad, and I just wanted to better organise/compile it:

Spectra-xin⟨mosai{ekra[abimelight invisiflow-sublime]sylph × gemi[gemel-syn]primus × meta[negatrois × neutrois contrari]dox × divipossi[omni(penulti × gay)flexible = eusensu ∗ antiplato]flux = nubila[cance-librafrith × neutraflor]phase × bio[alien venti(nube)flight × dryacrystal × vapomath × estrialcosmic × migrafirma vibraworld × caelflora × deer ale × meerviola mavrinebloom × virusnoia × stratosky × tan(atmos)terre × ouy(mazeplex)fleur × hadohydro × aquatidal × alba]sublime ∗ equi[altenonvirmina ∗ unborn ∗ giganitro ∗ ¿garote ∗ aeroarithma ∗ lettra]krieg cado[causti(name)gender × impla × chameleo × antibinary paramelauche × eafluid × ultrinque × juxera × post(illuso)xoy × abstracrypto × absor(adepto)blizz expec(star)void × oblimasculine × anonbinary × delusoastral]gender ∗ love-tragmat ∗ espi[seaprae]sea} pretransneutral er⟩fuzz

Unlike Gui’s gender equation, multiplication signals (×) means plurigenders (fluid or static) and asterisks (∗) multigenders (not necessarily simultaneous). Here is a list of some genders I used (some I didn’t use but also apply):

Keep reading

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@ cis transmeds just say ur a demiboy/demigirl without dysphoria and tucutes will welcome yall into the discourse

cis people have no place in trans discourse. if you’re a truscum / transmed and cis youre transphobic!

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transmedicalist and inclusionist lesbians dont exist anymore sorry guys

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go you!!

I don’t know if I’m a TERF anymore.

When I started this blog I was angry at trans people and all of the apparent misogyny in the trans community that was happening.

However, I’ve realised that most trans people really aren’t like this. Although the trans community is only a very tiny portion of the world, there are almost 8 billion of us on this planet so that equals a few million people. That’s not a small number.

I’ve realised most trans people are just trying to live their lives. Most trans people aren’t trans activists who force their misogynistic rhetoric and lesbophobic “if you don’t date me you’re disgusting” crap into people - most trans people aren’t Riley J. Dennis or Milo Stewart.

Most are just normal people who are just trying to live their lives better and love themselves, something which is very difficult when you suffer from gender dysphoria.

I know it’s easy to simply dismiss gender dysphoria as just a mental disorder, and by being a TERF we’re somehow the good girls who “refuse to play into others’ delusions.” I can’t believe that I believed in that stuff. I’ve realised it really is hard for them to live as a male when their brain’s wiring was supposed to be for a female body, and vice versa for trans men.

If you’ve gotten this far, thank you for reading. Now is the time I apologise to the trans community for hanging shit on them and repeating — what I now realise has been disproven — TERF rhetoric that really does harm trans people. They’re more than what I thought they were at first.

They’re human.

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just ftm things

Being unable to sleep without a physically harmful piece of fabric squeezing your ribs together

Being desperate for physical affection but so dysphoric that you can’t touch anyone

Watching your mom struggle to keep herself from crying as you tell her that it’s more than likely you’ll be sexually assaulted at some point in your life

Feeling like your whole body is made of easily perishable plastic that’s gonna collapse in on you

Wishing on every superstitious tradition you can find that you’ll wake up tomorrow in the correct life

Wishing you could have just stayed a girl, wondering if it would have been easier

Wondering if it would have been easier to stay in denial, because somehow knowing is worse

the question burning in your gut at all times, the “should I have done it? Would it have made things better?”

And the eventual realization that no, it wouldn’t have been better, because this life is your chance to be who you want

The hum in your whole body when you feel masculine, and you go from being a million pounds to walking on air

The grin on your face when your friend calls you “he” and suddenly your body feels less foreign

The grin that gets even bigger when a stranger calls you “he”

Keeping back tears when you get that first binder, and you put it on and it’s all so so so much better

Holding out for that person who’s gonna know you way more than they know your body

Not understanding how you miss something that wasn’t there

But knowing that you are gonna get that person back. The person you know you are is still there, and I swear to god he’s on his way.

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cosplayers and people w/o dysphoria shouldnt get free binders but they can buy them all they want bad post op

Dear Tucutes/People who buy binders for cosplay:

Don’t.

Why? It makes them A) harder for actually dysphoric people (such as myself) to find them and B) raises the cost of them, making less places be able to give them out for free, making me (a person who’s family can’t afford much, especially not something like that) not able to have one.

“That’s not a good enough reason” you think to yourself.

Do I need to describe how debilitating my chest dysphoria is for you to fucking understand?

Fine. I will. I had the opportunity of possibly (after months and months of entering in free giveaways might I add) to get a free binder from my local LGBT center. I checked the website, and guess what? They had no signs of where to go, what to do, indicating they were gone. Do you know what I did? I fucking sat there and sobbed, I could barely breathe, and I was rocking myself back and forth. (something I only do in times of immense emotional distress.)

Is that enough for you to finally understand? Or do more people have to suffer?

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this is so sad alexa play despacito 😔✊

listen, I wanna make it clear, I don’t just hate the stuff that trans people do, I LITERALLY hate trans people. every. single. one. all of them are sexist homophobic, reality-denying shits, and I have every right to hate them. i’ve pretended to “tolerate” them so many times before but I can’t.

and honestly if you call yourself GC/a radfem but still kiss the asses of trans people, you’re a massive hypocrite if you can’t see that the very act of “identifying” as the opposite/different sex is vile on multiple levels.

kill “love and tolerance” culture, embrace hatred.

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if you think trans people transition only so cis people will take them seriously you’re extremely misinformed on what being trans is and you need to get your transphobic ass the fuck off my blog

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:)

feel free to hate, i wouldn’t give a goddamn shit

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people really need to stop making fun of young trans boys who go through the “im a soft plant boy uwu” phase, who dye their hair pastel colors, who go through the space prince phase, who dresses very feminine. realizing you’re trans can be pretty tough so staying “soft” can be a good middle ground for these young boys who were previously raised feminine. making fun of young trans men that call themselves soft/soft boys is so harmful. let them find themselves, grow out of it on their own. if you consider yourself an “elder” and make fun of these kids you’re a terrible role model.

if you’re cis you can rb this just don’t speak on the subject

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Hi I genuinely don’t know which transmed accounts are active or not and I don’t wanna follow people who aren’t active

So if you’re a transmed and are active on your account (meaning you post stuff or are just on your account), like or reblog or comment on this please.

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LGBT Films And Television

Here are some LGBT films and shows that I love to rewatch! And yes, I know some of them are less than perfect, but until representation in the media improves, please let me (and other LGBT+ people) engage with semi-problematic media in peace. Don’t come after me trying to start discourse, because I won’t engage! As long as we’re fighting for better representation in the meantime, I don’t see the harm in watching movies that already exist.

Boy Meets Girl (2014): A romcom about a bisexual trans woman (played by a trans actress), who experiments with her sexuality and dates a girl for the first time. She experiences some transphobia, which could be upsetting to certain viewers, but overcomes it throughout the film. There is a happy ending!

I Love Dick (2017): This show was weird, definitely, but it was pretty damn entertaining. If you can handle the antics of the main characters, stick around for this awesome character; Devon, a super cool PoC, who is butch and possibly genderqueer (judging by the actor’s comments in interviews). Be warned, the show is explicit, and does very briefly feature a character mentioning being abused by their father, though never in any graphic terms.

Tomboy (2011): A French film about a kid experimenting with their gender identity, choosing a new name, and going by he/him pronouns in a new hometown. (Interpreted generally as being about a trans boy, though I have heard some butch women empathise with this movie’s plot.) Warnings for transphobia/homophobia towards the end of the film, as the child is outed to an unaccepting parent and misinformed friends, with some consequences. It has a hopeful ending, despite the unpleasantness. I found the film quite beautiful, for the most part.

Bonobo (2014): Among other things, this film focusses on an older woman discovering her attraction towards women, and falling in love. Her daughter is also bisexual. There are multiple gay/bisexual couples, one of which involves a disabled PoC. The ending was much softer and more heartfelt than the start of the movie suggested. Be aware, it is rated R for explicit sex scenes.

Billions (2016 - present): In season 2 and season 3, Billions features a canon nonbinary character named Taylor Mason, played by a nonbinary actor. All main characters use their pronouns, and in season 3 they were upgraded from recurring to main. They have a romantic/sexual partner, and a substantial role in the both the plot. They’re confirmed for season 4, and will likely be the focus of the story!

3 Generations (2015): This film was controversial, and rightly so, because a cis actress was cast to play a trans boy, and the director handled the whole thing pretty terribly. But I have heard many trans guys admit that they enjoyed this film, so I’m including it here as a cautious recommendation. (Please remember to never bind with ace bandages.) The protagonist gets misgendered quite a lot, which pissed me off, but I still like watching it. There are too few movies about transmasc people, so it’s somewhat cathartic to see a narrative similar to my own onscreen.