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Love

What is Love?

According to Merriam-Webster, Love is a strong feeling or a constant affection for a person, it is a personal attraction (to feel romantic or sexual). Love also is a desire for something you desire so much for example through objects, like (i love this pillow), through places (i love this place), or sometimes through food, like our favorite food.

According to the Ancient Greeks, love has different types, First is Eros, which is the love that we feel if we are in love. Second is Philia, which is a friendship love. Third is Storge, which is the love that we feel through our families. Fourth is Agape, which is a universal love. Fifth is Ludus, which is love but more on flirting or having fun (like no strings attached). Sixth is Pragma, which is a practical love. And last is Philautia, which means self-love.

But in today’s generation, if you hear the word love “romantic love” pops out in your mind especially if you’re between adolescence stage and early adulthood. Because, in these following stages you will experience to love and to be loved.

I have encountered people whom very attached in Romantic love. Some are happy because of their current relationships, some of them are unhappy because of their break-ups. Most of these break-ups cause people to be bitter with their past relationships (If you’re all familiar with what they called “HUGOT”). Some people forgets the other meaning/types of love because they focus only in their romantic love. And sometimes, because of this love, we are forgetting of people who really loves us and who loved us first before we met this romantic love.

In my first choice of advertisement, I’ve chosen the one’s from Smart Communications, this video is titled “ How to survive a break up”. In this advertisement, shows how the guy was really in love with his ex-girlfriend, even though they broke up 5 years ago. The funny thing was he was in his bed sitting, with his headphones on while he was in his “mega-ultimate-senti-mode”. He was stalking his ex (like we usually do after break up) from instagram. But after all of these funny thoughts about him there is also a lesson and a twist in this advertisement. How friendship and love works. On the other hand, Smart Communications promotes Mobile data sharing. -so this advertisement is a double purpose.

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In this advertisement, I’ve realized that you should’ve focus only in romantic love and forget other people who cares for you. I’ve realized that if people broke up, they should not be sad instead be thankful of what happened because it means that he or she is not the right one for you and they taught you some lessons that you can apply in your next boyfriend or in your future husband. We should not be miserable if we don’t have boyfriends or girlfriends, because we have other more important people who loves us, especially our families and friends.

My other choice is the music video of Yeng Constantino entitled “Ang Pag-ibig”. This songs explains to us that love is not a thing that if you’re not enjoying it anymore or if there is a new trend that you like you easily change it. This song explains qualities of a loyal person. The nice twist about this song is that, this song will teach each and every person what the real definition of love is. This video taught me a lot of things and made me realized things about love. How we should love and the real meaning of love.

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But do all people know what the real meaning of love is? It is written in 1st Corinthians 13:4-7 which says “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”. This is the real meaning of love. They said that if you replace the name of your partner in the word “love” or “it” and it fits, it means that he is truly fit the word love and fits for you. But I doubt if someone’s name will fit in this verse (try your name). But try the name God, did it fit? Yes, because God is love (1John 4:8). So all in all Love came from God, whoever does not love does not know God because God is love. We learned how to love because he first loves us. (1John 4:19). Basically, I learned a lot things that i should do with love. I should love God first before loving other people. So i recommend this video to the people who wants to know what love is. Hope you enjoy. :)

#FirstThingsFirst

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The Little Prince

There was this little Prince, from Planet B-612. He is a child who’s longing and searching for the answers of his questions, it’s like he is finding meaning in life. One day in his planet a seed was arrived and then he took care of it until the rose beautifully grew up, but the rose was so vain and greedy and always ask the prince to do things for her like she think she could live alone and always rely on the prince to take care of her, water her, and cover her with glass globe to protect her from cold and she says that her thorns can protect her. But the prince suddenly became irritated and he leaves his planet to escape from his rose. So he travel in different planets and met different person with whom he questioned meaning about life. He wanted to know the different type of people in the planet earth. When he met the fox in other planet, the fox taught him the different values that he might realize, especially about taming and friendship that he says “ you can't buy friendship, you must earn it”. The fox taught him how to appreciate the time with his loved ones. When he met the narrator in the dessert of Sahara in the planet earth, where they shared their life story. The narrator said that Lessons of Life can be learned through explorations not on reading books only or others lessons just like human, in the part when the little girl- which is the neighborhood of the Pilot (narrator), began to explore and doesn't follow her mom's schedule for her anymore cause of the business of her mom and doesn't have enough time for her, instead of reading books and learning of herself she met the narrator, she learned many things and values about the narrator's story about the little prince.

The prince learned that “important things cannot be seen by the eyes but feels by the heart”(2Cor.5:7), he then realized that the rose is very special to him and he really loves her and its his responsibility to take care of the rose because of the challenges they went through together. So after realizing these things, he went back to his planet where he left her rose. The story end up when the little prince went back to his star and realized the importance of life , that he must have time for her love and that he loves the rose and he should take care of it. Then he wants to be bitten by the snake so that he could go back safe on his star. On the other hand in the life of the little girl with her mom and the narrator, her mom started to appreciate the things that her daughter is doing,and gave enough time with her.

In the story, the little prince is mystical and supernatural, he loves to travel in every planet, he likes to explore and to know everything and to meet friends. So he really doesn’t fear death at all. His focus is his love for the rose. If we relate it in real life, it is when we spend time together with our families, we build closed bond relationships. The prince the fox and the fox told him about different values, like taming – on how to tame and to be tamed, he also taught the prince about friendship and how it is to be developed. After the fox and the narrator told these things to the little prince, he learned to appreciate the time he devoted to his rose. These strengthen their relationship more than before. The little prince is like Jesus Christ in which he is free from his sins and believes in life after death and by the end he returned to his planet/star in which it is like Jesus returned to the heaven.

The rose was the “the love of my life” of the Little Prince. He does everything for the rose to be happy to him, and he shows his love for the rose in many ways. The little prince thought that the rose would prevent him from loneliness. But the rose is quite different, she is a self-centered girl, over exaggerated and needy that he pushed away the prince. The rose symbolizes femininity and the prince masculinity because just like women, the rose has a character flaws but in spite of the flaws men still loves women. The rose symbolizes balance beauty attracts the prince but her ignorance made him to push the prince away. The rose also symbolizes greediness because after all of the things that gave by the prince and take care of her until she grew up, the rose became greedy and still continue to ask for more, but the prince still loves her in spite of her attitude but suddenly the little prince left her in the planet because the rose keep pushing him away. The rose has so many flaws that she cannot tell to the prince how much she loves him, she if prideful because she doesn’t accept that she is wrong rather the prince should be the wrong one. She is also vain because she is so boastful about protecting herself that she thinks she could protect herself and very demanding to the prince that the prince should put her in the glass under the night. But the prince continued to love her because once the rose will be tamed by the prince, the relationship and commitment will build up.

So basically, this movie teach us moral lessons, in which can help us to think deeper meaning of life. It also talked about friendship, on how to gain it and how to appreciate it, (the fox and the prince, the narrator and the little girl) , it also talked about love, (the rose and the little prince), and it also teach us how to appreciate things or people that are there for us but we tend to find someone/something else.

I recommend this movie because it tackled about different values and things that we struggle as a person and we can relate on it, like how to build friendship, how to earn it and appreciate it, how to love and give time to your love ones. This movie is also for the people who's wandering/ finding meaning in life on how to make life more meaningful, for the person who doesn't give time on their love ones and for the people that are in love but the person they are in love with doesn't appreciate their efforts, there is also a part in which the little prince taught the narrator on having faith and belief, but the most importance of this movie for us to know how to love and what the real love is. (1Cor 13:1)

#Love Friendship Faith

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Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.

-2 Cor 12:9

#bibleverse

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Life Changing events

I’m Chelo Marie Hodges, from Bacolod. I am a student athlete in DLSU. I will share my life changing events in which I look back whenever I feel discouraged. These Life-changing events are one of the reasons why I became a better a person. It reminds me of the things I was before and the things I have or what I am now.

Growing up without a Dad

My first life changing event is when I was born (literally when I came out in my mother’s womb) my father leaves my mother. He and his 2nd wife went in the hospital and my dad carried me before they left. To grow up without a dad is hard, there is no one that you can call daddy or will protect you from harm and will sustain you and your mom. So I grew up with a broken family.

I was shy to let people see that I only have my mom and I don’t have a dad with me. I’m jealous with the families that I see when I go to the malls, or everywhere else. They’re complete while me when we go to the mall or go to church we are only 2 (me and my mom). I always ask my mom if where is my dad; she always answers me that “nalunod sa sabaw” which I do not know until now what is the meaning of that. I’m also shy when it comes to school activities like FAMILY DAY, I hate family days, it always makes me feel sad and I always felt like crying, it always reminds me that I belong to a separated family. There was one time that my mother didn’t go with me in a family day because she had to work, so she let me go with my close classmate’s parents. I felt out of place, I felt like I’m the only one in the world -_-, I cried while watching families playing fun games, like Japanese walk, paper dance, and many more. After the day my mother fetches me from school and then we got home, I was very sad, I cried again at the Comfort room (because I sleep with my mom in, so if I cry in the room she will see me so I went to the restroom and pretend that I will make poop and take a bath after) – this was my routine whenever I feel sad.

So, my life being an only child and without dad is quiet sad because if my mom will go to work, she will only leave me in my grandparents (but at least I have grandparents to play withJ). But I love my mom even though she’s busy at work. Every summer I go with her to her office because I have nothing to do in the house. I always sitting beside her facing the table and whenever I saw a scotch tape I cut it and put it in my mouth.- I always do this when I saw a scotch tape in her table, I don’t know why. So, my mom and I were so close, sometimes I even forget that we’re a broken family because she does what my father’s responsibilities for us, even though I still need a father's perspective but the efforts of my mom is really appreciating so I never questioned about my father again. I remember she always carries me after taking a bath to see what’s outside the window and she says while carrying me that “look Manila” even though I just see trees outside, she said that someday I will be in Manila.

There was a time when she decided to work in abroad. When I knew about this plan I cried because I don’t want my mom to be far from me. I started panicking, always go to my grandmother and always crying while asking her if why mama will leave, but she always answers that it’s for my own good. So the day has come for her to leave. After that day I was sad the whole day. It was the opening of classes and my grandmother went with me in school because I was non-stop of crying. Every day was a lonely day for me. When my grandmother noticed that I was lonely she let me go outside and play with friends and playing every day caused me to overcome a bit of missing my mom. But my mom after 1 month gets back here because of many things that she missed especially me. And she promised me that she will never go abroad again, because she doesn’t want us to be apart. I remember she said that “kawawa naman anak ko, wala ngang papa iiwanan pa ni mama” and I hugged her and cried.

Other years had passed when good news came to us, I was in freshman High school when my Father contact my mother and ask if he could borrow me for couple of days to bond with me. My mother said yes and told me about this. I was very happy and like my heart jumps. It is my first time to see my dad for 13 years, so I was excited to see him and hug him. When the day comes that my dad fetches me in the corner of our street and it was in the time that I opened the door of the Van, I saw my father “WOAAAH” it’s like the time stopped for a minute, I think I saw my own face ( boy version and older). I was happy inside of me, but I was to hug him when he introduced her 3rd family to me (yes 3rd family because he had a 2nd family which they also broke up, but it was another story). There was her wife and her baby daughter beside him, my happiness turned me to sadness, but I didn’t let them see that I’m sad so instead of hugging him I just make (mano po) to him. When we continued our journey, it was a little bit fun. When we arrived in their house I’ve arranged my things and ready to put it in their room, but sadly they were in different room and I was in the other. I feel broke and called my mom and told her what’s happening that time so she said that I tell my father that I will go home early in the morning the next day so I told him and it’s like he doesn’t care and just said okay. He also shares the word of God to me through bible study, but for me in a young age it was so boring for me. So the next day I’ve arranged my things and said goodbye to him and his family I hugged him tight and after that he gave me a dollar and said that it’s time for me to go home, and I was like (what would I do to this dollar? I need him but it seems that my expectations are wrong) he doesn’t even accompanied me. So I go home again with my tears (sorry I am always like a crying baby). After that time happened, I never asked my mom about him anymore and I’ve learned to be contented with my mom.

It is a life changing event for me because being an only child that belongs to a separated family is not normal, for me it was hard because it felt that something is missing. But as I grew up I’ve realized that I shouldn’t be sad because I don’t have dad here, I learned that even though I only have my mom beside me I should still be happy because I am blessed by God to have an understanding, loving and caring mom and I have also my grandparents with us so there is no reason to be sad.

Football

So as the time goes by when I was in my grade school another life changing event happened to me it is when football was introduced to me. So when I was grade 6 I started to play FOOTBALL =>. I’ve realized that there is something more fun to do than staying at home playing with my friends and studying. When I started playing football, it helped me not to think sad things that happened to me and helped me forget my status in life. Playing football lead me to start socialize with other people and I’ve encountered many people bad, good, and true friends. I started playing as sub but as time goes by I was really in to football, I always practice and pursued and determined in such sport and learned a lot of things and these things lead me to be part of the first 7 or the first 11 in the field, so I become more determined and motivated with my improvements. I and my team also joined leagues and tournaments I which we’ve become champions, runner up, we also lose, we’re disappointed of some results of the game and we also became defending champions, but awards don’t mean a lot. Enjoying the game, making new friends, and to learn good ethics and sportsmanship is my focus as I grow mature in playing football.

I and my teammates undergone many struggles like when we play in Thirsty Cup which was held in Cebu we played 7 aside football and we’ve encountered many veterans player from different places of the Philippines, some play friendly, some play harsh up to the point that we need to play with blood on our jersey shirts, but this hard work and strong teamwork still lead us to become champions and made us realized that whatever struggles we face there is a good consequence that will come back, as long as we don’t give up and just believe in ourselves.

As I grow in football and learned many things, even though I’m so dedicated in playing football, I still don’t forget to do my academics. My results in my academics so far is good, I graduated as a Bronze awardee and received non-curricular awards. These made me happy and I was so blessed and thankful of what I have achieved. I didn’t expect that by playing football someone would scout and recruit me here in La Salle to be part of the Women’s Football team and to study here in La Salle. It is very rare that someone will recruit you from your province, so I grab the opportunity that God has given me.

When I entered here in La Salle I’ve learned to be independent because it is my first time to be apart with my family. I always encounter homesickness, always stressed with academics and football and always experienced culture shock. I also thought of quitting the team and go home in Bacolod, but because of my mom’s advice to me and because of my teammates that overcome these problems and some student athlete that graduated and achieved their goals and had a stable job, I was encouraged and continued my football career and studies. Instead of staying in the room and become sad, I started socialized with other people like my block mates and new team mates. So having fun with them lessens my homesickness.

But life of a student athlete is not easy, I should wake up early in the morning at around 4am because we have training 5:30am and it is in Zobel, Alabang so we need to wake up early because we still have to travel. As a rookie we should follow all the instructions of our seniors and coaches even though it’s hard. We should wake up earlier that the seniors and prepare the equipment like carrying the balls and the water jugs. We also should experience initiation to prove our commitment to the team. We eat the “siling labuyo” and we should open our mouth and let them see if we are already done. We also perform a dance performance every occasion like Animo Rally, University Games and other stuffs. So it is hard for me to experience these things, but I always put in my mind what my mom’s advice for me when I call her whenever I feel down, she said that “sakripisyo lang anak, balang araw, matatapos din yan at maabot mo rin pangarap mo, walang may nagtatagumpay na hindi nag sasakripisyo”.

So when our season started, I started as a substitute player, but because one of my teammate got injured I was taken her place and became part of the 1st eleven. It was a bit hard for me to adjust with my teammates but I used to it as the season is ongoing. Even though we have been eliminated we still created a big bond between the team and that was the important thing. The season was ended and I’ve awarded as the Rookie of the year, even though I don’t think I’m deserving enough to be in that place, but I just considered it as a gift from God and I know there’s a purpose why the award was given to me. It also brought big impact in my life, because people started to expect too much from me and my skills especially my coaches and teammates. I think this was the reason why my 2nd playing year was a mess because I think pressure pulled me down, like it came to the point where I don’t know what to do anymore and just continue to believe in myself and give my best but there’s something lacking in my life and I’ve continued to search it for it.

Christian Life

When I entered here in La Salle my life routine was football, study sleep and so on and so forth. I always go in different places with new friends; I enjoyed my life and always hang out with teammates or classmates. I didn’t expect that there’s another thing that will make my life complete. One day the biggest life changing event of my life came. It was February 2015, when I was experiencing some kind of big problem and I’ve loosen up my hope and I don’t even know what to do anymore, and then me and my best friend ate in the eatery and someone invite us to go to something like fellowship and bible study, since our UAAP season was done, we accept the invitation, and I’ve never thought that this will never be forgotten, it was when Jesus Christ Introduce to me (Christian life).

First I was not used to it “parang namamaguhan”, when they are inviting me to go to bible study, I used many reasons for me to escape the fellowship or bible study, but there was these thing that happened to me in which I became serious and be pursued to attend these things. It was the time when e I failed one of my subjects, and it made me realized many things that was lacked on me. I lack faith, hope, and believe in myself.

Many things had changed in my life including my daily routine. I thought life was only football, study, eat, sleep, but when I entered Christian life I started to serve God and others. In spite of my selfishness before, now I’ve learned not to think of myself only but to think of other people first, like in the acronym “JOY” which says that Jesus first, next is Others and last is You. Another routine that was added in my life is to attend fellowship every Sunday which I really don’t do before, I just go to church once a month or sometimes once every two months the worst is sometimes I just go to church for funeral stuffs or if it is just “Simbang Gabi” because I want to accomplish the 9 straight days of sacrifices so that I could make a wish. (How fool I was before hihi). I also started to attend bible study sessions every week end I know many people says that “oh that thing is so boring” or “ano ba yan pa birheng maria” but for me, I don’t care what people will say but I’m happy about what I am doing even though in the eyes of others I am crazy about that things. I also learned how to share the Gospel to every people on how God loves us that he sent his son Jesus Christ here to save us from our sins and to restore the relationship with him. Anyways, entering Christian Life was not easy; I need to lessen my pride, I need to be selfless, and I need to be a good disciple and a leader for others. I also need to encourage people especially the one who are in need of my help, service or advice. Entering Christian life brought a big impact in my life I was encouraged to wake up early every Sunday and go to fellowship to serve God and others. Christian life also brought happiness in my life. I also cannot last a day without doing Quiet time with the lord and reading 2 chapters of the bible. My view of things now is too different like before. Lastly I am thankful that I met my Church mates and because of them I have coped up with homesickness and being independent. They let me feel that I am not alone and they are my family and church is our home here in Manila. And I always thank God because he used people to be an instrument for me to know him better.

In conclusion, these life-changing events helped me to grow with maturity. I’ve learned and realized a lot, that there are many things to do aside from studying and playing football. There are people who need me especially to serve for them, like people who is homeless, people without parents and people who need encouragement, motivation and inspiration. I’ve learned that I should be thankful and be content of what I have especially my mother that is ready to sacrifice her all just to make me live a good life and also I’m thankful that I’ve achieved a lot of things, in academic and non-academic and for the talents and skills that he gave me, that’s why I couldn’t ask for more from God because I’m so blessed with the people around me with my achievements. I’ve learned that all things have a purpose. I think that God, in spite of all the sacrifices, struggles, and all things that I experienced, I’m sure he made these for a purpose. Maybe he made me these and let me experienced these life changing events, to be an encouragement or inspiration to some people. But despite of all things that happened to me I’m still thankful and blessed to be in this world, to have supportive people around me. There’s a verse from the bible that I want to share, it is from Jeremiah 29:11 which says that “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”. So, despite of all negative things that happened to me, God still provide me a good life.

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