#Friendships

[afteriwake]

@strangedreamings This is us.

Do y'all ever read a fic so good that it makes you want to elevate your own craft and also befriend the writer? It's almost like, "Hi! You write so well that you've inspired me to embark on a creative training arc. Also, can I yell about the character in your dms because you get it?"

[jacksdreams]

Mor was already crying when Rhys spoke to her. "If I had not met my cousin, I would never have learned that light can be found in even the darkest of hells. That kindness can thrive even amongst cruelty."

🎨: @/shayndl_art

[pressplay-if]

i loooove when IFs make platonic bonds just as important as the romantic ones as someone who loves romance but who’s demiaroace lol, i feel like it’s just apart of me bc emotional bonds no matter the dynamic are so important. i hate when friendships get the less half of importance when romance comes into play like !! as much as i love romance, i can live without it. friends? i’d literally die tbh

i think the balance is already so well done so far but knowing that u value the friendships makes me have faith that you’ll cook with the platonic and romantic dynamics !!! kissing all the characters mwaaah (the poly has me salivating in my enclosure tho 😜)

aww thank you so much!! I'm really glad to have people like you stumble across this thing I'm trying to do here bcs I just feel like it vibes with that exact expectation, you know? Me when I reach my target audience

[ineffectualdemon]

Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

[honeyymistt]

i’ve heard a lot of people say “don’t reach out to your friends first and see how many people will remain in your life. those are your true friends” and i get it. it sucks and it’s tiring constantly being the one to message first, to initiate hang outs but don’t take this so literally. some friendships require initiation. i have lost touch with so many people who genuinely cared about me and wanted me in their life because i stopped reaching out. it’s a hard pill to swallow but honestly some people just suck at it and it doesn’t mean they don’t love and value you. i’ve reconnected with some people over the past few months and it’s crazy how genuinely happy they are to see me and how engaged they are in the conversation. i just think sometimes we’re too harsh on each other & too quick to emphasize other peoples flaws and remove them from our lives but then we’ll all be alone and what’s the point of life then!!!!

[respectissexy]

Reminder that it's OK to dislike someone for petty, low-stakes reasons and avoid being around them even if there's nothing genuinely wrong with their character. And in fact the kindest thing to do in this situation is just to own that you find their vibe irritating and NOT spin up a narrative where you HAD to distance yourself from them because they were Toxic.

[what-iz-life]

Your soul knows. It will literally tell you when it's time to start a new chapter of your life. Trust it.

[drunk-werewolf]

[spitefularoandbi]

"There's no platonic explanation for this."

I genuinely worry about some of yalls friendships.

[iambrillyant]

“honor the friendships that allow you to pick up from where you last left off, regardless of how long it’s been since you connected. the friendships that survive hiatuses, silences and space. those are the connections that never die.”

— iambrillyant

[incognitopolls]

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[theonion]

Fulfilling a campaign promise made by President Donald Trump, the U.S. Department of the Interior announced Wednesday that it was enacting a ban on unlikely animal friendships, effective immediately. “Starting today, any animal found frolicking or snuggling with an animal of another species—for example, a chimp cuddling a puppy or a magpie preening a pig—is in violation of the law and will be prosecuted accordingly,” said Interior Secretary Doug Burgum, adding that the word “unlikely” would be replaced with the more scientifically accurate descriptor “unnatural” in all government documents going forward.

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[killjoystrashcan]

Some sketches (1-4 bases from mellon_soup )

[artofdyingslowly]

ex best friends are just. i will never love anyone the way i loved you. you hurt me so much in a way only you could. i still think about you on your birthday and wish i could be there celebrating with you. i hate that things ended the way they did. i don’t think anyone will ever understand me like you did. i miss our inside jokes. i’ll never forget you and i wish all of the dreams we talked about come true for you. i hope i never hear anything about it. i miss you. i never want to see you again.

[eatingsomegreeneggos]

Gen Art Februari: Found Family - Flow 🐱🌊

This movie is oh-so sweet! I loooved the characters and how they formed a little family, we love to see it <3