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It’s not like this with other people. NORMAL PEOPLE (2020)

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Normal People, Episode Eight

He senses a certain receptivity in her expression, like she’s gathering information about his feelings, something they have learned to do to each other over a long time, like speaking a private language. .

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okay, but, like, I feel like we need to emphasize more on how important it is to have a partner you can just talk to. I was telling this to someone the other day, but Hollywood and media focuses so much on sexual tension and explosive passion in a relationship, and while those are completely valid and understandable things for certain, not all, people to desire (even I myself do), I feel like there’s barely enough light casted onto the value of being able to converse with your partner and relish in their company even in the most neutral discussion. I can barely count how many films, particularly romance ones, have emphasized on the importance and value of being able to speak to a partner like they are your close friend, and being able to absolutely adore their company, and engage in conversation with them about anything and everything, even if it isn’t romantic. Lexi and Fez, Aristotle and Dante, Marianne and Heloise, Jesse and Celine, Connell and Marianne. so many people adore these couples because they showcase such a human, genuine connection through conversation. Lexi and Fez discussing God and the backlash of social media. Aristotle and Dante’s talks on finding identity and how life feels better when the shoes are kicked off. Marianne and Heloise debating over what it meant when Orpheus turned around, and the release found within music. Celine speaking to Jesse about how the media is controlling our minds and how she thinks she really loves someone when she can detect every detail of them, Jesse speaking to Celine about when he saw his deceased grandmother in the sprinkle of a hose and the things he remembers his parents having said to him. Connell and Marianne sitting under the summer sun, eating ice cream, discussing the differences in their class and how money can be simultaneously corrupt and indescribably appealing. all of these couples have made me realize how while passionate kisses under the rain and loud proclamations of your love for someone are valuable for certain people, it is also inexpressibly important to find someone who you can linger in the passenger seat for just to hear what they thought about the movie you watched last night. someone who you take your time putting your shoes on for just to hear about the physical sensation they got when the second last line of your favourite song reverberated through their headphones.

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I knew I should be grateful to Mrs Guinea, only I couldn’t feel a thing. If Mrs Guinea had given me a ticket to Europe, or a round-the-world cruise, it wouldn’t have made one scrap of difference to me, because wherever I sat – on the deck of a ship or at a street café in Paris or Bangkok – I would be sitting under the same glass bell jar, stewing in my own sour air.

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VULNERABILITY IN LOVE PART II

the seven husbands of evelyn hugo - taylor jenkins reid / the first bad man - miranda july / writing prompts for the broken-hearted - eden robinson / me looking at her looking at me - jenna gribbon / gps - shauna barbosa / normal people - sally rooney / killer - phoebe bridgers

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—longing for love

what i could never confess without some bravado by emily palermo // nickie zimov // homosexuality by frank o’hara // normal people (2020) // the unabridged journal by sylvia plath // holly warburton

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Austria Mountains

© H.Falkner

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Source

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like if using

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billboard #1 singers are entering 😂

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things I love about min yoongi ↳ his genuine kindness and desire to make the world a better place ♡ 

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this sends so hard

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say ‘cheese’

bts concept clip // room version

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I’m going to give it to you as an image of a little child. […] They sit on your lap, or they hold you, or they rest on your shoulder or your chest. They are nested. They need nothing at that moment, they are just kind of completely at ease. Or, they are trying to console themselves. But they are drawing from you their sense of comfort and consolation. And at some point, they’re done. It’s all fine. And they get up, and they begin by crawling, or they run — they basically leave you, to go and be in their own world. To go to play. To go to do their thing. They are now experiencing freedom. They have just experienced safety, and security, and attachment, and nesting, and now they’re moving into the world. They’re playing, they’re in their own imaginary realm. And in order to play they have to be free and unselfconscious and free of worry, otherwise you can’t play.

To be secure in a relationship is to have both of those things. It is to be able to come back to the harbour, to anchor yourself, to feel rooted, and then to get up, to leave, and to go and play without having to worry. Now what is it you don’t have to worry about? You don’t have to worry about the fact that when you go, you’re leaving somebody there who is suddenly bewildered, and anxious, and depressed, and angry, but actually somebody who is totally at ease letting you go. Or, that you worry that when you come back they won’t be there. And that “hide and seek” — that’s why that game is so important — is to know that even when I’m gone, I live inside of you. Even when I’m gone, when I come back you’ll be there. Even when I’m gone, I take you with me. And so I experience freedom and connection at the same time. That is security in a relationship. For adults, and for children.

Esther Perel when asked, “What does it mean to be secure in a relationship?”

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things my therapist asked that changed my perspective:

do you feel like you are responsible for your mother’s emotions?

have you ever rejected or said no to your mother?

what do you think you will feel if you rejected her?

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Bangtan & ARMY’s Mikrokosmos at Gyeonghoeru ♡

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