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What's some advice you wish you received much earlier

"When people come to you to establish a boundary or a need or to express hurt feelings, that's a compliment, not an attack. That is them wanting to develop the relationship and trusting you to listen and care to do better. And no matter how sad you are about accidentally hurting them, it's a GOOD thing that they cared to have a hard conversation with you"

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I think something the fandom should play more into is that Riz Gukgak is a CRIER. he is almost CONSTANTLY sobbing every time he is overwhelmed with emotions and if its not sobbing its throwing up.

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we really have to hand it to bruises for being easy to acquire, fun to touch, usually relatively harmless, and capable of turning a variety of pretty colours as they cycle through the stages of their life cycle from birth to death. they do so much for us. and even more if you're a bit of a pervert about it.

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We need to bring back free the nipple

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i hate to say that my favorite ever piece of aroace representation is a guy named "riz" (nicknamed "the ball") being haunted by a freaky little he/they marionette demon, but

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whatever whatever the “dopamine addiction” industry is lying to you the point of life is to have as broad a range of pleasures as you can. the problem with dependency is not that it’s evil to be dependent on something, it’s that it can be unhealthy to rely completely on a singular source of happiness/pleasure/escape. this does not make the desire to escape inherently evil or some kind of inherent weakness. you are not addicted to dopamine you have a habit of relying on one thing for all your needs and that is a habit you can change slowly over time without complete ‘abstinence’ so to speak. and comparing any of this to a substance addiction is unhelpful + unhealthy + will get your local addict (me) to kick you in the shins very hard

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i really do believe that the answer to a lot of people's self hatred is not to try and reassure them that they are wonderful and okay and enough, but instead to remind them theyre a completely unremarkable regular ass person who is not the center of the universe or especially important so why would they expect themselves to be some superhuman savior. like there really is a kernel of out of control self importance at the heart of thinking youre an evil lazy piece of shit. because why would you expect you be anything but just like some guy. if you wouldnt expect the guy who works at the vape shop or your mailman or whatever to be able to do something then why would you expect yourself to? youre just some random ass person. its fine

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just realized riz never told anyone about his financial issues so when he just showed up to junior year and gave fig and kristen enormous binders with an itemized list of all the things they needed to do to graduate with a certain gpa they just did it bc riz asked them to and literally no other reason at all

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now feels like a good time to reiterate that Iranians have been martyred by america + israel already, both empires that possess nuclear weapons, and that Iran does not have nuclear weapons. so now is not the time to joke about america getting nuked-- any retaliation on Iran's part is justified and the only way we escape this situation, but Iran is not going to nuke us, because the entire premise that Iran has nukes is how america justified bombing them and also the exact same rhetoric we used against Iraq and how we killed my countrysmen when there was again no evidence of nuclear warfare. New York City is not going to get fucking nuked. go listen to a podcast or something

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When I (M29) was a young boy (M7) my father (M35) took me into the city (X167) to see a marching band (M23, M21, M22, F22, M24, M25, F21, M

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I really want Kim's inner Ignus Nilsen to come out, I need Harry in some kind of deep peril, to the point where other people assume he must be dead and for Kim to go utterly ballistic

and it’s paramount that Harry survive because OUUH I want them to live with the consequences of Kim doing genuinely bad things to save him!! like of course Harry’s love is unconditional but can you imagine how sad he’d be if Kim hurt and killed people to save him…and Kim living with the knowledge that he’s not really that sorry and would do it again…

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cooking baking

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every time i see mountain goats lyrics posted on here im like wow that looks like such a good song i gotta check it out and then i turn it on and im like is this some kind of sick joke.