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...one season...

Man, I miss Sleepy Hollow.

Great show. Too bad it only had two seasons.

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That is a great big trot.

When draft horsies do that loping run reblog if you agree

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Dang. Yes. I used to think it was just part of being a middle child.

In a nutshell, “fawning” is the use of people-pleasing to diffuse conflict, feel more secure in relationships, and earn the approval of others.

It’s a maladaptive way of creating safety in our connections with others by essentially mirroring the imagined expectations and desires of other people.

Often times, it stems from traumatic experiences early on in life, as I described in last month’s article.

It resonated with so many you, and since then, I’ve gotten a lot of questions on how to recognize this type of response in ourselves, particularly in our day-to-day interactions.

I can only speak from personal experience, but there are a number of commonalities among “fawn” types that I think are worth noting.

I’m going to share seven struggles that a lot of us seem to experience as people-pleasers. If it sounds familiar, you, my friend, probably know a thing or two about fawning.

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Mad dogs and Englishmen go out in the midday sun.

Just a reminder

This is no joke! My fellow gardeners and anyone else who spends a lot of time outdoors, try to pay attention to your body in addition to your other tasks or hobbies.

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DON'T write in library books, they are not yours.

DO write in your own books, and then when they turn up in a used book sale I will pore over your marginalia and wonder a little about who you are and what your life is like and compare my reactions to the book to yours and wonder if we'd be friends.

This is going to be controversial in some circles, but books are not sacred objects unless you want them to be. Dog ear them. Write notes directly in the margins. Highlight, underline, put a sticker in the front. Dip the edges in your bath water, in your beach sand, in your tea. Live with it!

There are thousands of copies of the average book, and if you ever ruined yours you could buy another for $3 off ThriftBooks or something. Unless you are specifically working with rare first edition printings, it’s fine to just treat a book like something that you own. Take it with you everywhere and if you lose or forget it just shrug because it’s really, truly, not a big deal. Love books hard, they are just bundles of paper and the story that you adore is always safe even if you treat your paperback like a doorstop. It’s fine.

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concept: a death god that is actually surprisingly supportive and on the side of the good guys, supporting actions and promoting policies that will lead to the kingdom growing and thriving instead of being destroyed, because the more the kingdom grows, the more people there are, and the more people there are the more people will eventually  die, and when you’re an immortal god of death, you know there’s no need to rush. you’ll get them all in the end

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It looks like Raymond Luxury Yacht but it's pronounced Throatwobbler Mangrove.

The English: French pronunciation is so ridiculous, look at how many letters they ignore! Welsh spelling makes no sense, how does it even work! Don’t start me on Irish words, haha!

Me, narrowing my eyes: Tell me how you pronounce the name “Featherstonehaugh” again.

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With regards to the Canadian edition... points if you spot the Tragically Hip category.

(Also the Nova Scotia one is pretty much all the Stan Rogers category lbr.)

im putting together a couple of scottish folk mixes bc that’s what i do and im honestly curious if anyone in my country has ever been unequivocally happy about anything ever

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I like this nearly as much as the post about the Chinese girl raised by a wise old Texan to be the greatest gunslinger in the West. I would watch both those animes.

I keep thinking about that post about the whole genre of movies about a white guy getting into an asian philosophy, matrial art etc and then proceeding to surpass his teacher and be the best ever at it, and I started thinking about the opposite of it.

 I want a movie about a chinese dude who comes to Finland, downs an entire bottle of Koskenkorva, tries to fight a nearby cow and ends up lying face down in a ditch while sobbing about his ex wife and having like 5 finnish dudes staring at him in awe like

 “That’s him. That’s the chosen one.”

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The rhinos were of course my favourite... until I got to the last one.

This is getting out of control. (photos via ZookeeperRachel)

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Five seconds is a HELL of a gap. Especially when you are trying to put it between yourself and Lewis Hamilton, scenting blood, in that Mercedes.

listen i am 100% seb trash and i will defend him until my dying day but i can’t help but feel that if he hadn’t had ranted on the radio for so long and had kept his head down at the end of the race he could’ve made up the 5+ second gap and still won

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Sebastian Vettel & Charles Leclerc | Canadian GP 2019

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Dudes, if Agatha Christie managed to not murder her adulterous first husband, i am pretty sure that's a sign that books don't make you do things.

Writing about a child rapist did not make Vladimir Nabokov a child rapist.

Writing about an authoritarian theocracy did not make Margaret Atwood an authoritarian theocrat.

Writing about adultery did not make Leo Tolstoy an adulterer.

Writing about a ghost did not make Toni Morrison a ghost.

Writing about a murderer did not make Fyodor Dostoevsky a murderer.

Writing about a teenage addict did not make Isabel Allende a teenage addict.

Writing about dragons and ice zombies did not make George R.R. Martin either of those things.

Writing about rich heiresses, socially awkward bachelors, and cougar widows did not make Jane Austen any of those things.

Writing about people who can control earthquakes did not make N.K. Jemisin able to control earthquakes.

Writing about your favorite characters and/or ships in situations that you choose does not make you a bad person.

It’s a shame that in this day and age these things need to be said.

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IN fairness, pretty well everyone’s character development was completely different in every movie, so I’m not gonna stress over this one too much.

Maybe I should take a page out of Barton’s book. Build Pepper a farm, hope nobody blows it up. The simple life.

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Lewis, especially in the last couple of years, has evolved into a supremely mature driver who almost never beats himself. Back in 2016 he missed several chances to take the championship from Nico Rosberg through silly mistakes, mostly on lousy starts. And he learned from that and has developed into this super solid, cool headed driver.

I love Seb, but he does sometimes beat himself through overdoing it. When he went to Ferrari someone, maybe Horner, said he was sensitive to environment and that might hurt him. Dunno if that's the case here, but he doesn't always show his best. Lately Lewis does. It's hard to begrudge that.

Tomorrow we’ll watch Lewis take a leisurely stroll through the streets of Monaco for 50+ laps, maybe throw in a pit stop, and then win the and dedicate his win to Niki Lauda - while everyone moans and bitches about Merc always winning etc etc.

And you know what? SUCK IT.

IT’S WELL DESERVED. Because neither him or his team fuck up like Ferrari.

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Nice hat.

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Clearly you have been on a car trip with my dad. By the time I was ten I had internalized the message: “If Dad has fallen silent while driving, DO NOT LOOK AT HIM.”