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Etiquette and social intimacy

Okay so you know how it’s a fandom meme that Will can get away with things that make Hannibal want to murder other people?

It’s not that rudeness doesn’t count because it’s Will.

It’s that Will is someone Hannibal considers a social intimate, pretty much from the get-go, and the rules are entirely different for social intimates than for acquaintances and professional contacts.  (I mean, come on, he invites himself into Will’s motel room first thing in the morning when Will’s in his underwear, before Will ever visits him at his office.  That’s Hannibal aggressively setting the standard for their interaction!) 

If you’re seeing a client in some personalized space of yours, you generally don’t expect them to leave their stuff scattered around, handle your belongings, sit at your desk, etc.  There’s a certain level of decorum and non-invasiveness that’s  expected in a professional relationship.  But when your significant other and/or close friends visit, you expect them to make themselves at home.  

That means different things to different people, of course - I, for instance, have never in my life felt comfortable helping myself to food in someone else’s home, even if I have been explicitly invited to do so, but I’ve had plenty of friends who consider my discomfort strange - but generally speaking, behavior in your space that would be rude from a client or other professional contact just isn’t, when it’s a social intimate.

Will Graham isn’t actually a rude person.  He’s verbally prickly, sure, but only defensively - the barbs come out when someone else is already violating or threatening to violate his boundaries.  When Will’s in someone else’s (besides Hannibal) space, he sits in the “guest” seating or stands, doesn’t touch things, doesn’t leave any of his belongings lying around.  He acts with a level of decorum suitable for professional relationships (even though he, at some points, considers Jack and Alana to be friends!).  

He only drops this decorum with Hannibal, and I’d say Hannibal almost certainly welcomes that, rather than simply tolerating it.

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“oh my god will graham has just been arrested i am devastated i can’t believe this” yeah fuck you jackass

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the point i’m trying to get across is that will could do literally Anything and hannibal would still be incredibly charmed and head over heels for him

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*trips and more high school au falls out of my pockets*

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all i care about is scar kissing, is it obvious

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Otter teaches human how to pet him.

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Local Rusałka said sapphic rights. Have a good summer this year 💮 💮

> Art blog | Originals tag | Comic tag | Ko-fi 

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let me relax……………will comment later…………………..

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Mads Mikkelsen being adorable in En Kort En Lang.

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i got carried away with this one. hannibal don’t lurk in public libraries watching other people that’s weird

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In the negative, sick kid, need help.

I’ve got a crying baby so I can’t type too much but my daughter is super sick, had to take her to two different hospitals, missed a day of work and I’m not going to have another shift until Thursday. Bill hit my account this morning and now I’m $67 in the negative as well as needing to get medicine for my baby. Please help us last until Thursday when I can get some more tips.

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Thank y'all, from me and my family

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Hannibal Lecter + overwhelming sass

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Unmute !

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When I dream, I still dream with sound. But not new sounds.

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Time for a Social Experiment!

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