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this is not a defense of the beauty industry as inherently feminist mind you but there is something kind of inch resting about how the online "feminist" critiques of the beauty and cosmetic industry so frequently focus on the overconsumption aspect of it with a heavy overtone of "mindless materialistic girls killing the planet with their tiktok shopping hobby" while not also acknowledging how many men and people who don't wear makeup/use skincare products/otherwise engage in beauty work have equivalently overconsumption-fueled shopping hobbies that aren't viewed with equivalent scorn by all the gen z captain planets out there. like where is this energy for the people buying 25 blind boxes hoping for one specific anime figure or collecting an entire bookcase worth of funko pops in plastic packaging or buying up enormous amounts of crafting supplies for a hobby they'll be passionate about for a month until the next adhd hyperfixation hits or buying shelves and shelves of books just to add to their "tbr pile" that they'll admittedly never touch, or people who go ham at barnes and noble during the criterion sale but just end up watching whatever's new on streaming? like performative consumption and searching for an identity through shopping is a pretty universal part of the first-world human condition at this point and it just strikes me as funny how a lot of the people who yell the loudest about how stupid girls are the worst for literally killing the planet with all their expired face goop are undoubtedly engaging in the same behavior for something that's just not deemed evil by virtue of being inherently gendered. anyway good morning baltimore

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is there any radical transfeminism, that doesn't verge into recrafted gender essentialism, doesn't try to bin gendered socialization and rather actually confronts overcoming male socialization as one of the most transformative parts of transitioning, and also expresses solidarity for women-as-a-class?

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i know i have the sort of opinions that make a lot of trans people think i'm covertly terfing out but hiding it and some radfems think i'm at the edge of peaking but my current set of opinions is deeply pondered after having occupied "more terfy" and "more TRA-y" positions before

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im a male director. im so smart. and bold and edgy. look at my movie where my female lead is a prostitute. sorry, sex worker. because having sex with men for money is work. sex work is WORK just like any job… but its also super luxurious and cool and a little sexy. look how sexy this prostitute - sorry, i mean escort, i mean sex worker is. isnt she so hot and sexy? this is a job for sexy hot women. hot, legal, middle class women who are sooo cool and soooo empowered, theyre are the real face of sex work. which is work, and just like any other job. no trafficking or exploitation of poor women or underage girls here. because its a JOB. a luxurious sexy job like any other, its WORK and a LEGITIMATE JOB and - what do you mean, OSHA regulations and PPE?

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many of the terrible things about neoliberal gender ideology that people attribute to Judith Butler are actually more attributable to Julia Serano instead. honestly it's kind of funny how people direct so much queer theory ire at Butler when a bunch of its worst characteristics are responding to them (not all though... not all). but i guess Butler doesn't escape culpability because any time she receives pushback for voicing something in the actual spirit of Gender Trouble, she immediately acquiesces and goes hmmm yeah but like, maybe gender really IS fixed and presocial after all! just a general kind of spinelessness that is embarrassing... but the worst flaw of her ideas has always been a commitment to being non-committal

but also in some ways Butler is kind of Chaddite for watching every possible camp totally misrepresent her position and decide she will stand resolutely against making a Substack to correct them

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AITA for breaking out of an eternal cycle of death and rebirth?

My (28M) inner Atman (155trillionNB) recently escaped the cycle of Samsara by quenching all earthly desires and achieving Nirvana. But I kinda feel bad for abandoning all of the trillions of souls still suffering on Earth.

Should I become a bodhisattva and guide others on the path to enlightenment or is it okay if I rejoin the Brahman right now?

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hello women. i need a space to curate my feminist thoughts. also i want to carve out somewhere to represent my own ideological niche that i feel is not often reflected elsewhere. when will my flavor of hyperspecific extremism be represented... smh

here is a quick overview of some of my opinions, to be more fleshed out later probably:

-i'm not a "terf" and i'm not saying that reflexively to attain moral purity by distancing myself from the "wrong kind of feminists" but simply because it doesn't capture my particular brand of materialist/radical feminism. i also don't use the prior statement to just mean i include trans men (although, that too), but because being sufficiently female passing has particular consequences with regards to being subject to misogyny & factoring in why/how transsexual women are implicated in misogynistic violence is ideologically rigorous in understanding women as a class. i don't have any problems at all with transitioning, in fact eradicate the male sex class

-however the trans community, which is largely comprised of people who believe in gender as an innate/metaphysical identity, has huge problems with misogyny, in some part because dominant understandings of what it means to be trans is one way patriarchy has absorbed a radical position on sex and left a defanged, neoliberal warping of it that reifies gender

-i'm particularly interested in how the trans community contends with trans men/transmascs and how so many intercommunity dynamics replicate gendered socialization, through seeing trans men as frivolous and tertiary, downplaying how trans men have the highest rates of being sexually assaulted, expecting trans men/mascs to constantly center trans women when little reciprocal relationship is offered, even how there's no coherent theory of transfeminism that treats trans men/mascs as central, etc. i have a lot to say here, sue the specter of personal interest

-the vitriol directed at terfs is almost always a product of misogyny, especially since the word terf encompasses an ideologically heterogenous group of people. and for the people who represent all four letters of it, meaning the radical feminist part lol, the hostility reserved for a position that differs less from typical marxist perspectives than mega libbed out formulations of gender is clearly just misogyny. it is for this reason i'll put in no effort to perfomatively distance myself from terfs

-alright women now that everyone else has stopped listening i will say i have some very specific qualms with whatever you can say modern radical feminist spaces are. GCism has been totally consumed by a bunch of centrists-at-best or people who want to gawk at like, cringe but harmless noungender nonbinaries

-here's my bullet point where i acknowledge how annoying it is to play centrist. yes i know, yes i'm sorry, yes i have atoned at the altar of wuornos and killed myself for it

ok that's the gist of it. thanks for witnessing my project to reclaim TIRFism from being cringe