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Every time I hear or see a perisex trans person say stuff like 'I wish I was intersex/I had your (intersex) body,' my first thought is

"You want a body that can't pee normally???"

or do you just want to look like your fetish-fodder slur-described fursona?

(Yes, this is in part about a specific person. But also intersexist perisex trans people in general.)

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Chronic pain pisses me off cause I'm not even incapacitated for like a cool or badass reason instead my body is throwing the world's biggest temper tantrum because it's raining outside

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All of me for all of you

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I’m sorry if this is a stupid question but, is it okay if someone uses your Separamory label if the system isn’t medically diagnosed with DID/OSDD?

ofc! as long as you've done proper research, self-diagnosis is okay

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I’m halfway through this drawing, and just got hit with a wave of confusion… like what the actual fuck is going on here. Why are her organs doing that, who is responsible

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SEPARAMOROUS / SEPARAMORY

(Image Description at the bottom!) feel free to use if you have DID/OSDD-1! no endos please! a type of relationship where someone with DID/OSDD-1 is unsure of whether they fit the definition of monogamous or polyamorous. this could be for a variety of reasons, such as: - headmates dating each other - different alters dating different people - having a complicated relationship with whether you identify more as a singular unit or multiple separate people the term comes from separatum, meaning separate in latin flag colors taken from the polyamorous flag and the DID flag. magenta means love/attraction, cyan means openness/honesty, black represents people who don't yet know that they are a part of a system or who still have a lot of trouble communicating with their system, orange represents systems who are living with functional multiplicity, and white represents systems that have achieved full fusion ID: a flag with three diagonal sections, with the middle section being smaller, and a heart in the middle. the left-most diagnonal section is a hot pink magenta. the middle is a dark grey / almost black. the right is a cyan. the heart is a pale orange. there's a smaller white heart inside the orange heart. end ID

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It is okay to mourn the child that you were, or the child that you could have been. It is okay to be sad or angry that no one protected you like you should have been protected. It is okay to grieve.

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As a wheelchair user I'm trying to reframe my language for "being in the way."

"I'm in the way," "I can't fit," and "I can't go there," is becoming "there's not enough space," "the walkway is too narrow," and "that place isn't accessible."

It's a small change, but to me it feels as if I'm redirecting blame from myself to the people that made these places inaccessible in the first place. I don't want people to just think that they're helping me, I want them to think that they're making up for someone else's wrongdoing. I want them to remember every time I've needed help as something someone else caused.

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Thinking about when I tell people i have a chronic illness (which I've suspected since age 15/16 when my doctor just told me I was an anxious, depressed hypochondriac and got diagnosed with within the past year) and they're like oh my God! are you gonna be ok!!! How HORRIBLE!!!!! And like, it is? But for me it's more like fuck yeah I get treatment now!!! People listen to me! I get my booster early!!! Like having chronic illness sucks but I'm getting treated for it and listened to and that's new and awesome. I might need a mobility aid later on and if I get injured it will be bad and I get flare ups sometimes but my life is so much better!!!! That's not too say I don't want a cure but I don't see that happening. Like, I'm going to be sick for the rest of my life and that's super lame but the responses from OTHER people? Hilarious. I don't need your ??? Pity??? Idk what it is. Your performance?? I'm in pain, always have been, and it's less now! That's cool.

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new aesthetic: baby giraffe core

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I have a love hate relationship with low pain days. I’m happy I’m not in severe pain, but I always think the entire day that I’m actually not disabled cause I’m experiencing little to no symptoms.

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Ah yes, my favorite chronic illness game: is this normal, is this new, or am I dying?

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I know I say this all the time, but I love you intersex people <3

I love intersex people who are traumatised and messy about it. I love intersex people who are still figuring out how to love their bodies. I love intersex people who are still unsure of how being intersex slots in with the rest of their identity. I love disabled intersex people who want to go remake the entire medical system. I love intersex people who are trying their best to fight for their intersex siblings

from one messy intersex person to another. wherever you might be around the world. I love you and I’m here for you

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I think I'm on my way to an award for most absences in a single term. I'm winning guys!

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not enough people understand that disability benefits are basically what it would look like if you turned "if you're too sick for school you're too sick for video games" into an official public policy