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the sentence you are referring to was from the perspective of a 6 year old version of myself that lamented not having clean clothes because of being unable to rely on my parents to run the laundry, and being 6, not having the strength, capability or resources to either do the laundry myself or get someone to do it for me it was a self comfort when being mocked by other children for not having clean clothes, an entirely natural thought process only Because of being unable to access the resource called clean clothes through no fault of my own the difference that I'm talking about nowadays is being 30 years old versus 6, when you are no longer a child unable to make choices, unable to access resources, yes, the way you live Does start to become your responsibility, as an adult, you are responsible for what happens to you at a base level

and that Includes when you lack the capability to care for yourself, you are still responsible for organizing your own care, for initiating that process, whether that's asking a friend for help, asking family for favours or paying for a service or getting diagnosed or going on some medicine etc etc all of that is still your responsibility as an adult reminder the original post is about unlearning behaviours that you grew up not knowing were not okay, i grew up never observing how laundry is done, never knew how to properly clean clothes, what soaps to use etc so i never got into the habit as a kid of doing chores, meaning as a young adult i struggled with doing chores like dishes and laundry on proper schedule and as a child that wasn't my fault or responsibility but as an adult, if i show up to work with smelly clothes and say something like "well i didn't figure it out yet" that doesn't matter, its still my responsibility to have figured it out Before going to work, however that process was going to look like for me, whether i learn, call in a favour, or pay a service

I have adhd, which means organizing tasks and schedule appointments is a sisphyean nightmare, never going to get better, never truly. guess who still has to get through the process of making doctors appointments for myself, answering phone calls on time, and showing up to the doctors appointments that i made? Still all my responsibility even so this post is aimed at folks who stop before they even attempt, who have learned helplessness in childhood and need to Unlearn it as an adult, those folks do in fact need to look at themselves and ask themselves "so, how long until i start taking care of the problem" and if that's a day a year or a decade, that's a self reflection process they have to go through and figure out

i learned helplessness my entire childhood and through most of my young adult years, and at a certain point, you either have to make a decision to start the process of unlearning it or not

Once you become a certain age, it is your responsibility to unlearn behaviors that hinder your growth as a person.

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Everyone's parents inherited them Something bad, and as a person who got it really bad, really really bad, Everyone got Something bad from their parents it was helpful to explain and process feelings as a child, to explain it away as "my parents made me like this and its not my fault i am behind my peeers even when i try" but by the time you start being late 20's early 30's, that same reasoning sounds the same as saying stuff like "my parents never taught me how to cook or clean myself" well, how many decades is it gonna take you to teach yourself to do it yknow? that you had to teach yourself some things that others were able to be taught by their parents can definitely feel unfair, but you still have to teach yourself at some point and that just goes for everything bad patterns of behaviour, skills, the way you live, the way you exist, the way you think, how you eat, how you stay clean, how you dress, the way you view others, any number of horrible things that you absorbed as a child because you didn't know any better then

you gotta unlearn it sometime

Once you become a certain age, it is your responsibility to unlearn behaviors that hinder your growth as a person.

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This YouTube comment had me leaning hands braced on knees like that person who had to take their shirt off to process Destiel becoming canon.

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this is one of my favourite videos ever i turned it into an mp3 and put it on my phone so i could listen to iy whenever i wanted

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I was obsessed with this blog in middle school to the point I made an info binder based on your classpect posts haha. I'm in college now and just checked here for the first time in a while, happy to see you're still here!

asks that make me feel Old

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So tldr version James Roach runs HS^2 now and part and parcel of that, he "revealed" Reader's GT. But I feel like people forget (or don't know) that Roach's whole Deal is making shit up about Homestuck canon. Reader's actual GT will never be known but it sure as hell isn't anything James Roach says it is.

lmao figured it was something like that

humor does tend to float over peoples heads a lot

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did you hear that mspa reader got confirmed as being a seer of void?

No I have not but if true thats kinda funny lmao the audience standin of homestuck is a Seer of Void, which sure makes a Witch of Light, something I Guess lmao Where did this come from? I haven't been keeping up with homestuck Lore for the past like, oh 5 years i guess pfft

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why hasn't no one posted the kringlefucker yet. you guys used to love the kringlefucker.

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One of those ‘pick two pills’ things but it’s things I actually want

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there's something to be said about living in a world where wealth is no longer physical or tangible in any sense, when it used to be, and had to be physically hoarded and guarded, and could then be physically stolen or redistributed

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i have a neighbour who leaves their clearly clueless indoor cat outside all day

sunny, snowing, pouring rain

no food or water bowl

and the cat itself just, stays on the porch, staring at the door, waiting to be let back inside the whole time

all i can do is bring it bowls of water which it devours off me, poor thing

why do people think house cats, like domesticated cats, are “meant” to live outside? like genuinely i do not understand how or why they believe cats should be outdoors. domesticated dogs aren’t meant to live outdoors, and people seem to understand that, but they don’t understand that cats are the same? they’re domesticated. they literally domesticated themselves in order to NOT live outside. why are you leaving your cats outside??

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Did you guys know there's nothing inherently wrong with selfish thoughts and desires and there's no such thing as thought crimes or thought sins and a balanced amount of selfishness is healthy and adaptive for living things to have and it's fine to act selfishly as long as you don't harm others

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Do you think there is a "cut-off" age where you should stop using tumblr?

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have a fun fact for you about art:

all art is the fanfictioning of and idealization of and imagination of the real world around you

yes, even the bad art that you dont like was just the mere imaginations of someone out there

yes, even what you might think of as "original" art was still based on an idea, of an imagination, of something real in the world

just so you know, you have some followers who enjoy/write fanfiction. not saying their urls rn bc i don’t wanna air out dirty laundry in public but if you want them so you can block and report, just say the word and i’ll dm you a list

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i don’t buy the “men need a woman who is nice to them to be deradicalized” bc all of these men have mothers and many have sisters, cousins, and female friends. they don’t want a woman who is nice to them and they won’t listen to a woman who is nice to them, because they don’t see women as human. they want someone to fuck, that’s it. if you think women owe them that you are literally falling for rape culture.

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“male loneliness epidemic” and “friendzoning” are similar concepts to me in that the conditions they describe are literally experienced by everyone at some point in their lives but when its men its some sort of profound injustice that needs to be rectified by checks notes giving them unfettered access to the public good that is Women