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The funny thing is that I can fully see where a lot of very dumb discourse on this site came from but it doesnt make it any less perplexing

"Weight is most often determined by genetics rather than lifestyle choices, and the connection to health is not as black and white as TLC would have you believe": yeah, im with you.

"A person's health is not in any way connected to their worth as a person, and its not any of your business how healthy someone is to begin with, nor is it fair to demand fat people bend over backwards to perform health for you in a way you never ask of skinny people": absolutely. Completely agree with you.

"Saying that vegetables and exercise are good for you is fatphobic": okay what the hell happened here

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I'd rather have a thousand "OHMIGOD WE WERE RIGHT!!!" theory confirmed moments where due to good storytelling and foreshadowing the audience was able to figure out parts of the future plot than just one more stupid twist that makes no narrative sense to avoid being "predictable".

If people knowing anything about your plot spoils the show entirely maybe it's just no good lmao.

It's not worth ruining your narrative themes and character integrity just so everyone is shocked. Sometimes twists that have been guessed .... Are better.

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Okay this is really important. How long do you guys think Jason was originally Robin for.

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Okay this is really important. How long do you guys think Jason was originally Robin for.

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It's been over a year since that fateful day when DC decided it was time to let *Robin* out of the closet and news outlets that never gave a flying fuck about comics didn't know what to do with themselves.

I don't think I ever shared this here but might as well. Dumb comic I made a year ago 😂

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(through gritted teeth) sometimes what's good for your mental health isn't another do nothing day or a little treat sometimes what's good for you is putting in some of the work. Not all of it at once but sometimes you have to finish that essay or at least take the next step or you have to clean your room or at least dust the shelves or you gotta do the laundry or at least put it all in the hamper and it's not fun and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks but you have to because i read a post on the internet that told me that's what being nice to yourself is sometimes

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Collaboration with @glaciya for Day 5 - Part 1: Stripping. Find out more jaytim shenanigans on her story Strip Down and Get Wet ! …. that I may or may not have suggested the title 

Part 2

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Me [29M] with my brother of 6 years [19M], I'm worried I might be homophobic towards him?

First things first, let me say that I’ve never thought of myself as being discriminatory before. My entire group of friends in high school were gay and we made it through some tough times together, I never felt weird about them dating a girl/guy. So all of this is coming out of nowhere.

"Alvin” has been my brother for 6 years, and he came out as bi last year. The two of us are both adopted and we've always been close so we could even joke about it, as in, sometimes he’ll pretend to flirt with me and I’ll pretend to flirt back. I’m straight and he knows that, but I don’t feel threatened by him flirting with me and he says most straight guys do.

The problems started because of this: Alvin got a boyfriend, "Bernie". They were friends in high school and I guess just reconnected recently because Alvin announced to the family they were dating several months ago. At the start I thought I was okay with it, since it’s really not my business who he sleeps with. He hasn't brought his boyfriend to officially meet any of the family yet but we still cross paths sometimes when one of us is coming or going from Alvin's apartment and for some reason I’ve started feeling weird if I even see him with this guy.

I don’t know when it started but one time that really sticks out to me is when I came over to Alvin's apartment and saw him and his boyfriend making out on the couch. I don’t know how to describe what it was like to see that, except that for a moment I felt so bad I thought I was going to throw up. Alvin was annoyed (he didn't hear me come in) but he probably thought I was embarrassed because he let it go.

I felt bad for being as disgusted as I was, since there’s NO good reason for me to have a reaction like that. I thought maybe they just caught me by surprise and that’s why I reacted so strongly, but it turned out it wasn’t a one-time thing. After that, every time I see his boyfriend (not that often, but every once in a while) I just start feeling like shit and wishing that guy would leave, and I can’t stop thinking about what Bernie might have done to Alvin even though I don’t want to imagine that. It makes me really uncomfortable and grossed out. And this is just with his first boyfriend, I don't know what I'd do if he ends up getting into a serious relationship that he does bring home to meet our family.

Alvin has started to notice and it’s affecting our friendship. The other day I came over right when Bernie was about to leave, and the guy tried to be polite to me but I ended up being rude to him (don’t remember what I said, but it was really obvious I was pissed). When the guy left, Alvin asked me why I was being an asshole. I didn’t know what to say, but then he asked if I had a problem with him sleeping with other guys. I said no. For some reason that pissed him off more and he said I can’t complain since I used to date three of our mutual friends (not at the same time) and he was forced to see me being affectionate with them sometimes. I agreed with him and told him I was just having a bad day and I don’t care who he sleeps with, but he looked more upset and told me he’s going to Bernie's place to cool off. I said okay. When he was leaving for some reason he casually said, “and you’ll be okay if I sleep with him as long as I do at his place and not somewhere you can see it, right?” Or something like that. I told him it’s none of my business what he does with his boyfriend, but when he said that I felt sick to my stomach and couldn’t stop thinking about it.

He didn’t show up later that night even though he was supposed to hang out with me and our sister. He’s never blown me off before and it made me feel like shit, but part of it was my fault since I made him feel like I was judging him for sleeping with guys. Now he’s acting like nothing happened but I’m worried I might mess things up if it happens again. I don't want to lose him as my brother, but he’d be hurt if he knew that whenever I think about him with other guys it disgusts me.

How do I deal with this? I’ve never been homophobic but I’ve suddenly developed some kind of homophobia where just the idea of my brother’s sex life makes me uncomfortable. And I don’t react like this to our other siblings either, it’s just Alvin. I don’t know if this means I’m only okay with gay people as long as I’m not related to them or what. Does anyone else have experience with this? I want to get over myself and stop whatever this is, but if I can’t I’m going to have to leave since the last thing I want to do is hurt Alvin, and if I stay here and keep automatically judging him for his lifestyle that’s what’s going to happen.

tl;dr: Brother is bi, I am not but I thought I was okay with him being bi until I realised I feel crappy when I see him with other guys and it’s started to affect our friendship. How to deal with this/stop being such a dick?

first off, anon, let me just say that it takes a lot to be open and vulnerable about this so i really commend you reaching out 💜

your genuine worry about how your behavior affects your relationship with your brother makes it clear that you love him dearly, and while homophobia specifically geared towards family isn't unheard of, i don't particularly think that's the case here

if you're able to "pretend to flirt" with alvin with no issues, then him being attracted to men probably isn't what's setting off your bad feelings. you mentioned this is the "first boyfriend" your brother has had, but is it his first relationship altogether? it's possible you're just feeling upset because he doesn't have as much time for you, instead prioritizing the new relationship

it's normal to feel weird or jealous when a close friend distances themself from you for a partner, and i don't think anyone would begrudge you for wanting to spend more time with your little brother, or for feeling protective of him!

you've stated you don't really know this "bernie" so it's also possible your feelings stem from feeling like he's not good enough for alvin, or like he might mistreat him in some way. unfortunately, the only way to rid yourself of these feelings without being a dick is to both 1) spend more time with alvin and 2) get to know bernie better

try to plan more one on one time with alvin, maybe doing something just the two of you can bond over? it will remind him how close you two are and the interests you share

tho i do think it's odd that he said he was "forced to see" you be affectionate with your past relationships- were you especially open with pda? did he ever have a problem with any of your relationships? from what you said, he does seem to have a problem with how things shook out- perhaps he was also feeling ignored and unappreciated when you had a partner?

maybe there's some way you could show him that he's always going to be a priority for you- even if he has a boyfriend right now, you're still his big brother, maybe there's a way to prove you're able to be there for him and help take care of him

or the exposure therapy of watching how they are together to get used to their affection with one another! if you see them kiss enough times, it'll become normal enough that eventually you won't even think twice about it

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A world full of colors

Full color wheel challenge, what a fun challenge <3

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Awesome

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If i may ask, why has your kid had a lawyer since birth?

Honestly, because I had unprotected sex with one

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The real reason why you need to be social is the best chinese place within 10 miles is an unknown hole in the wall with a yearly marketing budget of $15 dollars and you will never, ever find it unless someone tells you about it.

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some of you need to face the fact that art can be sexual and that is perfectly fine even if you dont like it

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some of you need to face the fact that art can be sexual and that is perfectly fine even if you dont like it

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One of the things about writing that feels the silliest is when there’s a detail in the scene that the character doesn’t think is important but you know the reader will know it’s important because otherwise it wouldn’t be there, so you’re just sort of making eye contact with the reader over the character’s head and whispering “don’t tell them”