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[Text: This system escaped a toxic relationship and is now happier than they've been in years <3]

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How to create an atmosphere: Forest

Sight

tall trees with thick canopies of leaves

alternating light coming in through the moving leafs of the trees

ground covered with a mix of grass, ferns, and fallen leaves

wildflowers adding splashes of colour

animals like deer, boars, squirrels, birds

insects like butterflies and bees add movement and life to the scene

Hearing

the air is filled with the melodious songs of birds

gentle rustling of leaves as the wind moves through the trees

constant hum and buzz of insects

the soft crunch of leaves, twigs, and soil while walking through the forest

Touch

the spongy feel and the soft coolness of moss

the rough texture of tree bark

the cooler temperature in the forest

with a gentle breeze that can be felt on your skin

Smell

the smell of fresh grass

the rich, earthy smell of soil and decaying leaves

the scent of fresh leaves, pine needles, and blooming flowers

the smell of the clean, slightly damp scent of water and wet earth from a nearby stream or pond

Taste

the clean taste of fresh air

the taste of sweet and tangy wildberries

the taste of self-picked mushrooms

the taste of edible wildflowers

the taste of a variety of nuts

the taste of wild greens

More: How to create an atmosphere

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You guys do know you're supposed to reblog things, right

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A real 3-hit combo of tumblr posts rn

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Sometimes I see people from countries with public healthcare systems post videos that are like “This is the reality of socialized medicine. I had to wait in the ER with my sick baby for 4 hours.” “I had to wait 8 months to see a specialist. That’s egregious.” or “They didn’t have a bed for my loved one in mental health treatment.” and it’s like. Come to America babygirl. You can experience all of this and have your insurance deny it and pay thousands and thousands of dollars for it. Like I know healthcare systems in countries with public health can be bad but when I see someone imply they’re bad because the healthcare is universal, I want to jump through the screen and put my elbow on their throat. “The NHS is deeply flawed, therefore we should abolish it and go back to private healthcare. That will definitely make healthcare in this country better!” I am going to Kill You.

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THESE FLAGS SUCK! AND WE SHOULD ALL STOP USING THEM!

Now, alot of you are probably saying, “well they look pretty good and I thought that was the lipstick lesbian flags replacement. who are you to say we cant use them?”

To which I say: Yeah, they were until my goy ass learned Jewish lesbians are really uncomfortable with us reclaiming the pink triangle. What authority do I have to say you shouldn’t use them? 

I MADE THEM AND WILL FILE COPYRIGHT STRIKES ON ANY BLOG I SEE THEM ON. NOT BECAUSE I HATE YOU, BUT BECAUSE I CARE ABOUT MY CAUSE AND WANT A FLAG FOR ALL LESBIANS, NOT JUST GOY WHO FIND THIS TO BE INOFFENSIVE.

Alright back to buisness Lesbians, The Old Flag Sucks And So Does Our Approach To Fixing It.

So I’ve seen a lot of posts about how the L in LGBT is getting forgotten in posts about us and how people are using the fact we no longer have one unified flag to fly under, as an excuse.

The lipstick lesbian flag was offensive but at least people knew what it was.

For those not familiar as to why the lipstick lesbian flag is bad here you go:

1) its not accessible to the visually impaired, so people that are colorblind have a hard time telling it apart from other lgbt flags.

2) It’s the lipstick lesbian flag. It was only ever made with femmes in mind and butch lesbians really don’t like that it’s used as a flag for all lesbians,

3) The original creator of the flag was racist and very gatekeepy, was reportedly a terf (trans exclusionary radical feminist; IE someone who really hates trans people)

NOW YOU KNOW!

The new all stripe  flags are inoffensive but unidentifiable. Straight people don’t know what our flag is when its two feet in front of them and that’s a design  problem.

So I’m here to explain why none of the flags suggested so far have really stuck in mainstream culture and hopefully fix it for the last time.

The main reason is our flags suck from a graphic design standpoint. Their purpose is not easy to figure out unless someone labels them. We’ve taken the bio hazard mode of symbolism; pick a sign that’s both memorable and meaningless and through cultural education, assign it a meaning. This is a terrible fucking approach and therefor bad design.

So here’s the checklist:

1) Flag must have meaning

2) Identifiable to everyone. A person who has no idea what a lesbian even is should know just by looking that this flag, is about girls liking girls.

3) Unique and Accessible. Can someone who is completely color blind tell that this is the lesbian flag and not the gay or trans flag.

4)Traditional Color Symbolism. Use the culture your currently in, not the culture you wish to create as no one will understand that yellow is suppose to mean femininity. For now stick with pink.

5) Not Eye Bleeding. No Neon.

6) Inclusive. This ain’t just a white lesbian flag, this is an all lesbian flag. If people feel the need to add another colored stripe after the fact to represent themselves, your doing it wrong.

So If We Must Ditch The Old Flag, Try Replacing It With This. I Think With Enough Signal Boosting This Flag Will Catch On.

Symbolism:

The brown fem sign represents all the women of color that first fought for our rights and acts as a reminder to lesbians of color today that they are welcomed.

The white fem sign represents our more privileged sisters who gave the movement numbers (meant to include any poc whom others might try to exclude due to colorisem)

The interlocking design shows solidarity.

The pale trapezoid is the lighthouse, which guides all lesbians, this is our light in the dark, this is our hope when there is none.

Also meant to look like a couple walking down a never ending street.

The warm black outline represents those we have lost.

The magenta represents Femmes and their soft femininity

The light pink stripe represents all the trans lesbians that call the community home

The white stripe represents all the non-binary lesbians whom we accept with open arms (Note: I use non-binary to refer to any person who is niether male or female, so this by default includes genderqueer, and agender lesbians.)

The yellow stripe represents the lovely intersex lesbians whom we must never forget.(You asked for your own stripe and you received)

The purple stripe represents Butchness and the bold rejection of femininity.

The thing that makes this flag special is its spotlight. If one needs a visual shorthand or just an easy way to re-arrange the flag for edits of various sorts, whether it be for fun blogs or merchandising, this flag has you covered.

This is the lesbian spotlight.

the spotlight always refers back to the lighthouse as that is the source, the spotlight is the projection of the lighthouse, providing light and hope wherever it needs to be.

Here are the stripes on their own! Use them as you please!

AND FOR MY FANDOM FOLK OUT THERE WHO WANT TO MAKE CHARACTER ICONS, I GOT YOU COVERED!

FOR YOUR SHIPS

FOR YOUR FAVES ON THE LEFT SIDE OF THE SCREEN

AND YOUR FAVES ON THE RIGHT!

ALL IS WELL SO LONG AS WE SEE ALL THE STRIPES!

BUT WHAT ABOUT PRIDE MERCH?

I thought of that too! if you make other pride merch you should have the colors, a straightedge and a compass will help you draw out the lines, beyond that its just a matter of how much time you're willing to put into it.

here’s my pitch, make and sell it if you so choose!

(Yes the stripes are wrong on the sketch hush.)

SO LETS STAND TOGETHER ONE LAST TIME, REBLOG THIS FLAG AND UNITE. THIS IS THE LESBIAN LIGHTHOUSE SO HELP ME OUT SPREAD THIS AROUND! LETS GET EVERYONE ON BOARD!

NON LESBAINS FEEL FREE TO REBLOG!

EVERYONE FEEL FREE TO REPOST AND HAVE FUN TO YOUR HEARTS DESIRE!

THIS IS THE ONE FLAG TO RULE THEM ALL.

PLEASE ASK QUESTIONS! ID BE HAPPY TO ANSWER IF YOU ARE CONFUSED. WE WILL NEVER SETTLE ON A FLAG IF WE ALL KEEP GETTING ANGRY WITHOUT ASKING FOR CLARIFICATION.

Have a nice day!

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nvm I’m good now

Ima just ignore it and pretend everything’s fine

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I feel like I can’t breathe and like I’m suffocating at the same time

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Bashing my head against the wall so I don’t do smth stupid like reach out

my new friend will never measure up to you and it makes me hate or resent her sometimes

she’ll never be you

no one will

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wow I’m spiraling I went from hatred to guilt ;-;

no bc why did you get everything and leave me with nothing????

Friends acquaintances groups

Like

you broke me down for months and dismissed any complaints we had

The love bombing, the manipulation, the copying my longtime partner and wanting me to stop spending time with them

the gaslighting, the abuse, the anger and cruelty

The lies

the needing my location and obsessively tracking me

The obsession

the knowing how much it was killing me and begging or manipulating me into staying anyway

the playing dumb

the weird shit with apologies. Not apologizing, not accepting my apologies, trying to take blame for everything

the constant confusion

the “boundaries”. Not respecting mine and then breaking your own shit. Your “boundaries” really just being obsession and control like needing my location and losing your shit if it was off. Needing read to be turned on. Needing to know what I’m doing constantly. Needing to see all my posts and know all my accounts

I neglected to say most of the shit you did and painted you as the good guy to people and they were all shocked when I finally managed to break myself out of that shit and leave

You told me you’d changed and fucking lied to me that you had repeatedlt

but you didn’t and never did

it got worse over time

but you blamed it on others and refused to take accountability.

I know I fucked up and I did stupid shit and i understand that. I should’ve said no more or set more boundaries or pushed harder to get you to actually respect me and care about me instead of just being so obsessed and pinning your entire life on me

but usually when I tried, you broke my trust you broke my boundaries you lied

you admitted several times that you were knowingly manipulating me to get what you wanted. You told me often how you basically knew what to do to make me stay. And you did. And it worked for months. And whenever someone spoke out about the way you treated me, you lost your shit or you grew cold and distant or you blamed me for shit that you did to yourself. Or you proceeded to shower me in affection to “make up for it” but really it was just a desperate attempt to get me to stay

then when I managed to bring myself to fully destroy something I was so desperately trying to cling to and was begging you to help me fix

you take shit away from me and act like the fucking victim as though you did no fucking wrong???

alternating between “oh fuck am I abusive..” and “my partner abandoned me after saying they’d stay forever”

And I just

I don’t even remember what else I was gonna say atp

I’m disappointed in myself

and I hate that I miss you and wanna continue to ignore the shit you did. I want to pull the blame onto myself

even tho you fucked me up so badly from the way you treated me

the good shit didn’t make up for it

as much as I wanted it to

as much as I cling to those late night texts and calls. The video games the voice messages the plans to spend time together the exchanging of gifts the collaborations the way you got me like no one else did

…fuck I miss you and I wanna go back even tho I know I shouldn’t…

And I still hope you read my shit like I look at yours sometimes

but I feel like I was discarded after the initial hurt and like you’ve brushed me off as someone else who “abandoned you”

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I've always thought Margarita would be a beautiful name for a little girl

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seeing them be fine now and recover quickly but it’s killing me o7

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omg and they got me removed from more shit- what the actual fuck

does it never end????

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When stupid shit brings back the bad memories of things and you just spend an hour dissociating in a hot ass shower 🫠

and now I’m stuck thinking about multiple shitty ppl and I’m on the struggle bus 🫠

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I should make a post about pens