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“We have had our summer evenings, now for October eves.”

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i want this shiny yellow door.

http://www.instagram.com/nola_val/

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Yes

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Sophia Loren serving pasta during the production of Two Women I La ciociara  (Vittorio De Sica, 1960) in Saracinesco, Lazio, Italy. 

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Panthers Are Just XXXL Sized Black Cats.

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Okay if you can’t fuck with a girl because of:

Pubic hair

Stretch marks

Scars 

Any other natural occurrence of the female form

You aren’t really worthy of it anyway.

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Me dedicating my life to serving my family and raising my children doesn't keep you from having a job.

Me talking about how much I love taking care of my husband doesn't mean you have to marry

Me discussing my beliefs doesnt force you to give up yours.

Me talking about the harrassment and bullying I've dealt with for being traditional is not an attack on your choice not to be traditional

Me raising my kids with traditional gender roles doesn't stop you from raising yours how you want

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Delightful Simplicity

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fleur-fawn

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Reminder that while I have themes of anti-feminism on my KINK BLOG, I am a feminist in real life and do advocate for the right of all people to live their life as they please. There is a difference between thinking a fantasy is hot and actually wanting to take away autonomy from women. That shit isn’t welcome here.

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Red Flags 101

Bad Reaction to Saying “No” or Initial Pushback

When, while you are screening a Dom, you find a place where you are not willing to bend, or go along with what is being asked of you, stand your ground, and let them know you’re not interested in, up for, or ready for, that thing they have just asked you to do. As they are not your Dom yet, the appropriate response would be to dig into why you felt uninterested in, or unready for that thing that was just asked of you. The appropriate response would be to dig in with respect and interest.

If the response conveys the idea that you are not currently able to stand your ground and initiate boundaries, or in any other way conveys the idea that expressing yourself and doing so was “bad” or “wrong”, that’s a huge red flag. Doms should always want to know your boundaries and give you freedom to express them. Those who don’t should be further looked at for narcissistic, misogynistic, and/or abusive behaviors.

JD

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Red Flags 101

D-Types Who Put Themselves In Charge

Submissives are in the drivers seat until such time as they offer their submission to a dominant. If anyone who you haven't offered your submission to tries to assert control over you, they are either ignorant of how D/s dynamics work, or, more likely, they don't care. If someone approaches you and immediately starts trying to make you do things because they are "dominant", they've just told you that they really aren't.

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