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Another Update

Hello to everyone who has followed me on here. I‘ve spent the last weeks travelling to get some rest after what turned out to be a tiring year.

I continue to be very grateful for all the words of encouragement from other guys that get it, though I simply haven‘t had the energy to keep on posting regularly. It is also true that I have expressed most of the things I wanted to say on this blog, which has proven to be quite a therapeutic experience in my case.

I guess I also want other hairlessness aficionados to know that it can be done - though of course that does not mean that you should follow this path yourself, especially when it comes to irreversible change.

After many years of tweezing/epilating, I‘m way past the point where I could go back to looking like I used to. On the other hand, I do tend to get away with it more easily than guys with a starker contrast between their skin tone and hair colour. My glasses also tend to help.

So I guess it is fair to say that i‘m at ease with looking like this. Or without the glasses, for that matter.

Again, it has been heartening to hear from others who equally appreciate this look. It is my hope that those who share my experience can know they are not the only ones, either.

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Friends of mine took some pics of me holding their new dog. I‘m posting them here just to let you know I still look the same 😎.

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Bald With Earrings

The earrings are getting bigger, lol. These are the ones I use most of the time now, and I love that they have some glitter.

I’ve got even bigger ones, no glitter though:

There is something about wearing earrings in combination with my hairless head that just feels right. I’m so glad I had to courage to have my lobes pierced last summer.

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Update

I’ve been very busy for a number of reasons, and that has kept me from writing/posting on here regularly for some time now. On the other hand, I’ve made a lot of progress with the beard, I believe.

Some time ago, a reader contacted me through the message function (and I always love it when readers do that), mentioning that he used tweezers on his beard hairs every second day or so.

Which brought me to try that out myself, in addition to why I had already been doing with the epilator. It has made a huge difference, some hairs had mostly been broken off before, but with the tweezers that has changed at least for a lot of them.

I usually do the epilator/tweezer beard treatment in the evening. These are a couple of pictures from a few weeks ago showing me the day after (late noon), in bright sunlight. Not much of a shadow there, I’d say 😀.

(You can notice some lashes growing back, I know. I took care of that a few days later.)

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Lashes

I get this question a lot. So this is how I do the lashes:

(Quite obvious I wasn’t wearing my glasses 😂.)

This time, I was actually really clumsy and ended up pinching myself a lot, but I hope you’ll still get an idea of how simple this really is. The pinching itself isn’t a problem, but if you want to try this, it’s best to be careful in the beginning to get an idea of what you (cannot) do.

It does not hurt, and I’ve never hurt myself doing this. It is a lot less scary than it looks, I promise.

After a couple of minutes, the result looked like this:

It’s not all done yet, but I’ll have another go tomorrow.

You can find the entire video here: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DBE9wK4SFcO/

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Is It Still Fun Once You Have Done It All?

If you are reading this, you will likely be aware that I epilate/pluck or wax my entire body. The last area where I still used to shave was my beard, but that changed in May of this year, and after some painful beginnings, going over it with the epilator once a day doesn’t feel as bad as it used to anymore.

(Me less than a month ago.)

As you can see here, the beard is far from giving up, but I have significantly reduced its shadow, and I hope maintenance will become a lot easier in the not too distant future, as it has done for the rest of my head.

My entire body looks and certainly feels pretty smooth at this point, meaning that I have kind of taken the hairless thing as far as I could. At least there seem to be no more drastic lines to cross, I’m just hairless all over. However, while it is true that I cannot really change my appearance any longer by removing more hair, this doesn’t mean that all the fun is over.

To start off, while shaving or tweezing new areas is certainly a very intense experience, I’m certainly not only interested in the process of removing hair; I equally love the result, I love showing myself to the world like this, as well as how being hairless looks and feels. And while I’m getting more confident as far as my appearance is concerned, the awareness of having made an unusual choice that might get noticed is still there. In other words, the thrill hasn’t gone away, even though it is not as strong as it was right after shaving my head bald for the first time or after saying good bye to my brows.

And there is another thing that plays into this. Yes, I have done the full body treatment for a long time now, but not all hair has given up yet. So there is still the awareness that, the longer I do this, the more follicles I will eventually damage and the more this look will become irreversible. The change may not be sudden and immediately noticeable anymore, but that also feels like (continually) crossing a line.

And I’m excited about that.

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hi if you don’t mind me asking why did you decide to get rid of all of your hair?

Hey tigertyler7,

I guess a good place to start would be here:

If you have still got questions after reading that, feel free to send me a message!

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(More) Piercings...

I’m finally back after a long holiday - and I’m also back on here, even though I believe I have written down most of what I wanted to say, but there are still a couple of ideas for posts I would like to publish eventually.

For now though, I’d like to return to the topic of my last entry (which isn’t strictly related to the theme of this blog). Firstly, I could finally get hoops, which I had wanted all along when deciding to get my lobes pierced.

Now, I have to say that those studs you can see in my last post really did grow on me over the weeks and I totally see myself going back and forth between them and hoops regularly. And as much as I like these, I want to get a slightly larger pair of hoops as well.

And then I decided to fulfil another piercing dream of mine...

(I got both sides pierced actually.)

Now, I’m aware that pain perception varies for piercings, but let me just say I did not expect it to hurt that much. I do however love how the piercings turned out and believe both the earrings and the nipple piercings combine really well with the hairless look.

And there is a chance my piercing journey isn’t over yet 🙃.

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Ended Up Doing It

This is a short update only. In my last post I mentioned I was trying out clip-ons in order to find out if I really wanted to get my lobes pierced.

Well, I ended up getting both sides done earlier this week.

I’ve always wanted to have real rings, but was advised not to start with those and let the piercings heal first instead. So I ended up picking these studs - they seemed big enough to get noticed on my not so small ears and also have a glitter effect. And they have really grown on me.

They do draw some attention due to their size, form, and due to my decision to have both sides done. My clip-ons already felt like a huge step but were certainly less flashy than these. Believe it or not, drawing attention is not something I usually try to do, so this is an interesting experience for me, to say the least.

I do think though that a bald head and earrings go really well together, and that I’m no exception to that rule.

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Familiar Feeling

The last video I posted seems to have hit a nerve - I really didn't expect that many reactions, even though I was sure the regulars would enjoy it. Well, I'm glad people like it, given that I'm kind of stuck with this look, lol.

It's not like I'm completely there yet (because there is still a little hair coming back on the sides of my head), not to mention the beard that is still work in progress. But anyway, as far as my hairlessness journey is concerned, there isn't that much more that could be achieved.

Looking back, it's easy for me to forget just how daunting the first major step on this journey was - starting to shave my head in 2015. It took me many years and a good pretext (seborrheic dermatitis) to finally get there, and while it felt very overwhelming at the time, in the end everyone, including me, got used to it.

Other major steps followed, and these days I epilate/tweeze everything on my body, and it could start to feel almost like a non-event, if it weren't for some of the reactions and messages I get reminding how big this still is in the eyes of many. And - surprise - the guys that contact me very often go through the same fears and hesitations I did before taking the plunge: What will people think and say? Would I look good? Do I have the right head shape for this?

As far as my (lack of) hair is concerned, I would say I have basically worked through all this and can honestly say that most people don't care, some like it, others don't, in the end it's not their business and even those that stay with a negative opinion (because many change their mind for the better) will get over it at some point.

Funnily enough though, I seem to have to go through at least part of the process again in another area, because I seriously consider complementing my bald look by getting earrings. I even went as far as acquiring a pair of clip-ons to try out how I would feel wearing them.

(I usually wear these glasses, though I thoroughly enjoy going out without them in order to "show off".)

What I really wanted to find out was whether or not I could "own" these rings, not feel insecure about wearing them, constantly wondering what others might think.

While it took a lot more time than you might expect from someone who rocks the fully hairless look in public all the time, it turned out that I really can feel comfortable wearing them. And - again surprise - many either didn't notice or at least didn't say anything. Not everyone is enthusiastic, but some are. Most importantly, I'm at the point now where I can make my decision on whether or not I'm going to get my ears pierced solely based on whether or not I like it.

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This is what maintenance looks like for my scalp these days. By now, it is painless - in spite of my face looking rather tense here most of the time. But a word of warning to all that consider trying this themselves: this was very, very painful in the beginning.

The smoothness afterwards is just indescribable. And it doesn’t go away after twelve hours like when you use a razor. By the way, my skin doesn’t look nearly as red under normal light conditions; at least I‘d like to think that ☺️.

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Unfortunately, the camera wasn’t placed well and therefore the whole thing is cut way too low. You still get a good idea during some moments, I think.

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(Not) Feeling Like The Only One

I‘m more than aware that being gay and, on top of that, having your sexuality linked to one or several fetishes can feel like a lonely place. That was at least my case when growing up in a conservative Christian context where not being heterosexual was mostly a complete taboo, or something my peers and friends made fun of quite regularly (not knowing how some of their words cut deep into my heart).

And maybe more importantly, while - compared to straight folks - it can already be harder to find someone when you’re gay depending on the circumstances, if you find yourself to be in a tiny subgroup of a minority as it it the case with most (gay) fetishes, the options seem somewhere between severely limited and non-existent.

At least, that was how I felt for a long time. When I grew up, Internet wasn’t something you had at home yet, and I‘m actually thankful for that in many ways. However, that also meant that in most cases I assumed that I was the only one having these weird attractions. The first time I shaved off my pubes out of curiosity at 15, the idea that others did that as well didn’t really occur to me.

This is why, even though I still think that the Internet does a lot of harm to both individuals and society as a whole, being able to go online has been a huge blessing to me. The moments when I discovered that there were internet fora with people who shared my particular likings were real epiphanies - there were others just like me, or at least similar enough to get what it was to be like me.

(The beard keeps on slowly disappearing.)

Since I started posting about my experience, there have been a couple of guys reacting to some of the things I wrote, which has been a very affirming experience. More than that, getting a glimpse of their respective realities has been eye-opening and enriching for me as well.

Yes, it is true that, at this point, I am still alone; however, I believe that the reality of not being the only one has really sunk in now. This is precisely what I would also wish to happen to those who find this blog and are in a comparable situation. And to those who are not, my post could hopefully still be a way to better understand what life can feel like when these are the cards you have been dealt.

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Funny How This Works

The other day, I worked with a colleague I see about a couple of times per month. For some reason, she started talking about bald heads with a third colleague, then turned to look at me and said: "I've only ever known you without hair, right?".

The thing is, we had known each other for years before I started shaving my head in 2015; I even remember her immediate, surprised reaction when she first saw me bald.

So, in essence, this version of me has disappeared from her memory altogether:

(Back in 2015, shortly before I said good bye to my hair.)

She is by far not the only one who has said that to me - and being wrong about it (they did know me with hair). Immediately after adopting the bald look, there was no way I would have expected this to happen because those were the days when I got strong reactions about the "big change" all the time.

However, only after a couple of months, the first people started mentioning they couldn't imagine me with hair any longer, even that me having hair would feel weird to them now.

My way of looking at this is that we tend to get (very) used to what people we know look like, and whenever there is a sudden, drastic change in that, there is a good chance that will make us feel uncomfortable at first. By the way, I equally had to adjust to my new look, which took me at least a couple of weeks.

Those immediate reactions, however, say very little about whether or not others (or ourselves) like our new appearance. There is thus no reason to despair if we get a couple of negative first comments (though not all of them will be negative), nor even if we don't like the change ourselves in the beginning.

The version of me people around me are used to now is this:

(Obviously, I have aged in the meantime...)

And I'm sure that if I disappeared for half a year and then came back with a full head of hair (if I still were able to do that, which I'm not), people would again look at me in disbelief, asking me what on earth I had done...

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Routines

(A shorter and modified version of this can be found on IG.)

So how much effort is it to keep everything epilated/tweezed?

(Anyone feeling tired at the thought of tweezing/epilating all hair continuously?)

It’s hard for me to calculate the time I spend on this weekly; however, I’ve got several routines I’ve followed for a long time that help me keeping all those hair follicles in check.

For the body hair, it is a four day cycle. On day one, I remove everything from the feet upwards until the waistline, almost all of it with an epilator, standing in the bathroom. After that, I sit down, switch on a spotlight and take a pair of tweezers to those areas of my crotch that really shouldn’t be worked on mechanically.

On day two, I don’t work on my body.

Day three looks similar to day one, only that I start at the waist and epilate down till I reach the knees. After that, I use another epilator to go deep into the butt crack. At the end, the tweezers hit the crotch again.

On day four, I work on my hands, arms, armpits, chest and everything else until reaching the waist (no hair on my back that I'm aware of). This day is slightly easier than the other two, but at this point I don’t consider any of them a tedious chore. The following day, I start the cycle again.

Due to a variety of (logistical/practical) factors, it happens from time two time that I insert extra „empty“ days into that cycle. Apart from that, most of the body hair I can leave alone for a week or longer without much growing back. It’s only the area I do with the tweezers that shouldn’t be left alone for too long.

(The back of the thighs is one area where regrowth is still going strong.)

As far as scalp and eyebrows are concerned, I’ve more or less settled on epilating them on Wednesday and Sunday evenings. There really isn’t much regrowth then, but I love to heave them totally smooth. I used to also shave first the scalp and then the beard, after which the scalp had a fantastic, glass-like feel to it.

However, I’ve recently discovered that, at this stage, I can reach almost the same degree of smoothness on my head with just the epilator. And, as I have posted before, I’m in the process of trying to tweeze my entire beard (shadow) away, so that area is quite busy right now and undergoes a sequence of epilation sessions and the occasional shave.

Yes, this costs time. However, I can do all of this after work, during a free moment. My morning routine is now considerably shorter compared to the times when I shaved daily before leaving the house. And, by trying to be consistent in following the routines, the individual sessions tend to get easier and easier.

Finally, the knowledge that over time some hair follicles will give up altogether is a huge motivation to keep going, as is the amazing smoothness epilating gives me everywhere. Even when there is regrowth, it comes in the form of very thin, soft hair, and not as coarse stubble, as would be the case with shaving.

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Going As Far As I Possibly Can

Those who keep following this blog and don‘t only look at the pictures maybe remember that I wrote that I epilated/plucked/waxed everywhere, except for my beard, which I only shave. I had tried to epilate the beard as well almost two years ago, but didn‘t get very far due to the pain factor.

I‘ve always assumed that laser isn‘t really an option for me due to the fact that my hair is (would be) blond. In any case, since my entire body is hair free and without shadow/thick stubble anywhere except for the beard area, it seemed to me that I had reached the limit of my possibilities - and I also knew that what I had done was both rare and drastic already.

However, not too long ago, a fellow fan of the (totally) hairless look mentioned to me how special it would be to be entirely smooth and stubble/shadow free everywhere, including the face and neck. Going for the full alopecia look, so to speak.

After my failed attempt from 2022 I had felt comfortable with the situation as it was; as much as I loved the smooth feeling and the shadow less look, the one advantage I had always seen in the shadow was that it kind of makes a statement that not having hair is a conscious choice. I still think that.

But I couldn‘t get rid of the thought how nice it would be to experience at least once what it is like to literally have no trace of hair anywhere, that nothing could be felt or seen because everything had been ripped out, and even initial regrowth would be barely noticeable. I also assumed that at least most of the beard would grow back if, after having achieved the goal, I wanted to go back to having a beard shadow.

Remembering how impossible using the epilator on my chin, around the mouth and on the neck had felt, I decided to follow a different approach this time: I took the (hot) wax I use for my nostrils and ears and applied it on all those most painful areas. That worked somewhat ok on my neck, even though ripping off the wax felt definitely already above my pain threshold - only that I didn‘t have a choice, it had to come off one way or another.

(Before the painful moment, and what the wax managed to get, though you are not looking at the same wax on both photos.)

On my chin and above the mouth, however, the wax ended up pulling at the hair, but would eventually let go and rip out next to nothing (still painful, but not as bad). My attempts at pulling out individual hairs with tweezers also failed; what I mostly did was just pinching my skin.

For that reason, I figured all that was left to try was, again, the epilator. So I did a wet shave and waited about half a day, and then simply started. The epilator already managed to grab some of the very fist stubble when applied the right way. I kept going as long as I could, often only a split second, before the pain got too intense.

(No, I still cannot really recommend this… )

Then, after a break of a couple of hours, I did another session. That wasn‘t the best idea because some spots were already severely irritated. The beard area is really hard to work on with an epilator, much of the skin is somewhat loose, apart from being very tender. Going over the same spots multiple times should be avoided, which I mostly ignored till things started to look really bad.

Though things were much better the next morning, I still ended up looking like this for two days:

(Nice, isn‘t it?)

On the third day, I did wet shave and most of the red dots came off. I could already notice that the beard was getting thinner:

(The shadow has already diminished.)

Later that same day, I took the epilator to the beard area for the third time. While this is by far not over, I am slowly getting impression that I am getting somewhere.

As said, if I manage to epilate the beard completely, I‘ll have reached the full alopecia look, which is an exciting thought. If I then kept on epilating, I would expect for my beard to become as low maintenance as the scalp and brows already are. Regrowth would likely diminish, maybe cease in some spots (or would the entire beard eventually disappear?). The question will be if I like the look enough to keep tweezing.

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On Identity And (Not) Being Seen

(Me kind of hidden, although more to be protected against sunburn in this case, and revealing all of my full cueball look.)

Sexuality seems to be tied to who we are, at least to a degree. One way this can find its expression would be when, let's say, a man introduces himself in front of a group, and often right after his name, he will add that he is married and has children. Describing himself as a family man can get him bonus points with a lot of people; it can help him to come across as less threatening and is surely seen as an asset in more conservative circles.

When, on the other hand, someone’s sexuality doesn’t correspond to what is seen as the norm, people often feel the need to name precisely that. And I’m not even primarily thinking of those who are "not corresponding", but of others describing them. I’ve often heard one person mentioning someone famous in a neutral or positive way, and another person immediately interjecting „But he/she is gay!“, which literally was meant as some sort of  „counterargument“. This occurs a lot less these days.

The same thing also easily happens when those talking about a gay person (to stay with the example) don’t have an issue with their sexuality, but still feel it’s an important characteristic that helps making sense of who that person really is. Maybe that is due to how our sexuality has an influence on the way we relate to others on a basic level.

Finally, people who tend to see themselves as „normal“ seem to feel compelled to state exactly that (one way or another) when others wrongly assume they are part of a sexual minority that was/is considered as „less normal“. And for someone from such a minority, being able to simply mention this aspect of their lives can feel like a huge relief.

Lately, I have thought A LOT about what this means for me as a shy, introvert gay man who’s sexuality is very much linked to different „non-standard practices“ (fetishes), of which hairlessness is one major example. And as I have written on here, I don’t believe I feel drawn to being degraded or humiliated because of my lack of hair. I rather love both the process and result of removing hair, be it on me or on other men.

By being hairless, I express a part of myself that feels both very authentic and vulnerable. Others will generally not know that a big part of my motivation to do this is sexual by nature, and since I’m a guy, many people will also feel free to comment on my appearance in my presence. Mostly not in a mean way, more like feeling the need to tell me I would look better with hair or, on the contrary, that the look really suits me.

Unbeknown to them, they are talking about something which for me is very intimate in nature, and that again is why they can easily step over some boundaries without even realising it. That can make me feel quite exposed, and in case of the more negative comments, insecure. I sometimes use the word „naked“ to describe that state, and some readers who comment on here or chat with me have also used that word in that context.

At the same time, I do actually long for this part of me to be seen by the people I’m close to, with whom I feel comfortable and who don’t have a problem with the concept of „different“. But these are the few people with whom it feels safe to discuss almost anything in connection with sexuality. That in turn rules out most of my family, acquaintances or people I work with. To be completely honest about my motivation to be bald/browless by choice really is that intimate to me. While I try hard not to lie about my motivations, what I will say when asked about it will most likely only amount to some form of „I like it that way“.

So to summarise, I express something very deep about myself by looking the way I do; I don’t want to hide that side of me, but I also don’t want to let everyone into that intimate space by telling me what they really think about it or asking me to justify myself. To complicate things even further, the possibility of being confronted can actually be a thrill, especially after having made some change in my appearance, when I’m not yet sure whether or not people will notice and if I’m going to get away with it. However, it is the possibility that’s the thrill. Being confronted or getting snark comments would actually be a major turn-off.