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parents are an extremist movement that cannot be reasoned with

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It is so fucking sinister that the only form of child abuse that society really cares about is sexual in nature. parents are free to control everything about their child's movement, presentation, eating, faith traditions, information exposure, socialization, and can restrict all of these things to an extreme degree as a form of punishment or in order to shape the child into whatever they want that child to be. and that's all considered completely normal, the parent's right! people don't even see the fact that a parent has the power to control so much about a child's life for damn near 20 years to be a problem. The only time they become concerned about child abuse is when the prospect of an outside stranger behaving in a sexual way toward a child is raised. and yeah a lot of really horrific sexual abuses are enacted unto children, but that's because they have zero control over their own lives and bodies in any other way as well. It is all about power and control. and typically the ones who are abusing children the most frequently are the ones who have the most control over them, the parents.

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"My son turned out fine"

Sorry which one do you think of as your son again? Their system is large and complex and I don't want to get this wrong

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i think all this time i didnt actually believe that id ever been traumatized by anything

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honestly THE disabled experience is finding out no, actually, that isn’t a normal part of the human experience

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"i dont like how you're glorifying plurality" why are you so miserable all the time how do you live this way

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me: you literally have a disorder. this is symptoms

me: no perhaps my soul is rotten

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it's actually complete horseshit that everybody only gets one body

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“Emotional abuse works like this: You are screamed at, and then, not knowing any better, you stand up for yourself. You think this is a way of being strong. You think this is a defense tactic.But this only provokes more screaming. Going silent provokes more screaming too, but usually it keeps the threats to the minimum. It keeps it just at screaming and not: a shove down the stairs, or order to pack your stuff and get out. So you learn how to go silent. How to play dead. How to cry without making a noise. How to swallow noise. How to wipe your cheeks, get out of the car, and go about your day. You learn. And when the screaming has stopped, when the two of you are in the car or out to dinner and they’re all smiles, all asking for favors, all questions, you are still hurt and annoyed and want to ask them, how? How can you speak to me like that? How can you pretend you did not say those things? How can you have forgotten? But you’ve learned. So you listen to, “Can I borrow your key”s and “how was your day”s and you play dead. You swallow the noise. And sometimes it doesn’t matter who is speaking to you, it doesn’t matter if they’re a friend, it doesn’t matter if their criticism is constructive, it doesn’t matter. You’ve learned. Any sort of speaking, any raising of the voice, any insult and you play dead.”

— Good Girl, Lora Mathis (via lora-mathis)

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they won't tell you this in therapy but sometimes the best way to stop catastrophizing/anxiety is to interrupt your spiraling with "girl what the hell are you talking about"

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every person ever: I just wish my parents had listened to me more, we would have had a better relationship.

those same people when they become parents: what could my child possibly have to say that's worth listening to?

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girls will talk about their boyfriends like omg no i love jakey he’s great and jakey will be like if my stupid bitch girlfriend talks to someone other than me i will kill myself and leave a note saying it’s her fault

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honestly THE disabled experience is finding out no, actually, that isn’t a normal part of the human experience

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"i dont like how you're glorifying plurality" why are you so miserable all the time how do you live this way

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maybe if we torture this kid harder our lives will get even more awesome

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Michael A Davenport, 3,090 Degrees Fahrenheit (Oil on canvas, 2025)

30in x 48in