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As a Transmasc person, I vividly remember my parents refusing me to let me get the haircut I wanted. Like full on threatened to punish me if I ever got my hair cut like that. I decided to be rebellious and style my hair so it looked like I'd cut it the way I wanted and made it my profile picture.

They woke me up at 6am to make sure I hadn't cut my hair and threatened me.

Even where I live now, as an adult, I've been told if I cut my hair the way I've wanted since I was 13, I'd be disowned. I'd be kicked out.

I'm sorry, but transmascs experience abuse quite a bit more than a lot of people seem to think.

I'm so tired of seeing transmasc's suffering downplayed

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Folks have got to understand that they probably aren't messed up by some Secret Big Trauma that they just can't remember; but rather by a million tiny microtraumas that they do mostly remember but don't even register as traumatic because nobody actually understood that these things would cause trauma, much less stack on each other over the years.

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There'll be a post like, "ableism is bad" and all the comments will be "yeah! Ableists are all sociopaths and narcissists!" "Ableists all live in their moms basements and don't contribute anything to society!"

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The responses to saying how "narcissistic abuse" is an ableist term will always be so insane bc it's always like

"you will never understand the abuse we went through"

My brother in Christ, why do you think I have a personality disorder?

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NPD is never being good enough.

NPD is being isolated from everybody else.

NPD is knowing you will never form connections to people like egotypicals do.

NPD is never being authentic.

NPD is feeling empty inside.

NPD is constant paranoia and the sickening feeling of thinking everyone is going to sabotage you.

NPD is constant distrust.

NPD is self hatred.

NPD is feeling sick when others succeed.

NPD is knowing love will never be enough for you, you need obsession, devotion, to be the most important person, to be the air they breathe, to be worshipped but knowing they will probably never be that to you.

NPD is needing control.

NPD is constantly feeling underestimated and belittled.

NPD is having to be admired by everyone.

NPD is the want to be feared and respected.

NPD is never feeling satisfied.

NPD is competing with socially assertive people and getting unbearably angry at them for purposefully stealing your spotlight.

NPD is nobody understanding your struggles irl.

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victim of severe childhood abuse: the trauma made me depressed and hypervigilant

mental health allies: you are so valid and I feel so sorry for you

victim of severe childhood abuse: the trauma made me lose the ability to feel empathy

mental health allies: YOU'RE DISGUSTING AND EVIL I HOPE YOU DIE!!!!!

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Yikes

not a culture ask, but i figured y'all would like to see + make fun of this.

this was someone's affirmations to "get rid of narcissists". pretty sure they're just in denial themselves

the complete lack of self awareness is like. almost impressive

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this is exactly why it's so important to educate. this is why we "police" language and tell you what words to use instead. because this is how you actively perpetuate stigmas and demonise a whole group of people. and this is how it keeps spreading because within three days this first comment has received 25 likes, which may not seem like much now, but those 25 people spread this "knowledge" to 25 other people and so on and so forth.

again: narcissists are people with narcissistic personality disorder. a cluster B PD that is usually developed through abuse trauma (and genetic predispositon). gaslighting is a term used for the act of knowingly making somebody doubt themselves and their sanity (how they perceive events, their memories, etc.). being self-absorbed and not taking responsibility for certain behaviours is something every person is capable of. it's not "narcissistic abuse". it's emotional abuse. every person is capable of it.

stop calling everybody a narcissist because they've done something like this. it's not right. it's just another term y'all picked up on the internet without ever doing research about what it means or where it really comes from. and of course it's just another way for y'all to demonise people and stigmatise mental disorders you think make somebody abusive and unworthy of being part of disability and mental health activism...

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idk who needs to hear this but you CAN romanticize your own mental illness. you don't have to be miserable and in constant pain all the time if youre mentally ill. dont cater to the comfort of ableists

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"Narcissists only care about themselves" is probably the biggest lie ever spread about our condition. At the end of the day we care about our presentation in the eye of another. Narcissists literally care about everyone around us and what they think first, ourselves - second. I swear some of you all hear "narcissist" and imagine some Gotham-style mastermind pulling all the strings when most of us are very much on a tight, suffocating leash of social fulfillment and satisfaction.

UPD: t*rfs/r*dfems kys

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The autistic community created #WalkInRed as a response to the ableist #LightItUpBlue.

Upon realizing that #WalkInRed excludes those who can't walk, they changed it to #RedInstead.

It's that easy to change the language that you use upon finding out that it's harmful.

So enough about the "narcissistic abuse is the only thing I can call it" bullshit.

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hey maybe, when people with npd tell you not to call abusers and rapists and the like narcissistic just because they're horrible people, view it not as us defending abusers or trying to control how victims talk about their trauma, and more like i as a survivor don't wanna be fucking put in the same category as an abuser or rapist for no fucking reason because you can't bring it upon yourself to spell the word egotistical

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i think the worst thing about mental health advocates online is how much they do not fucking care about and genuinely HATE actual mentally ill people.

people advocate for mental health issues but, if you have symptoms that affect another person youre cut off and treated like a monster.

if youre mentally ill you are not allowed to be less than perfect because then youre "the reason your disorder is so demonized".

if you try to explain yourself or your disorder you get "your mental health isnt an excuse", "stop excusing what you did".

if your symptom isnt normal, if you have an actually bad symptom and not just an "uwu quirky x3" one youre demonized and treated like a monster because "oh! erm.. thats toxic.."

if you cope in a way that appears weird to others youre viewed as weird. cringe. a bad person.

and god forbid a minor have sexual thoughts because of trauma.

ask to vent, dont trauma dump, dont say a single negative thing because it might trigger someone. dont complain, dont vent publicly, dont post your intrusive thoughts it might trigger someone. cover up your scars, "keep that shit to yourself", "leave it in the notes app" because it might trigger someone or cause someone discomfort.

and god forbid a consenting adult be into rough kink because of trauma. god forbid anyone have any symptom of mental illness that is deemed as "weird" or "not normal". god forbid mentally ill people be weird or unnormal.

we arent normal and you know that. stop acting like we are and stop acting like we have to be to please others. i am done caring about the comfort of ableists.

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Saw a video on facebook about autistic people and narcissists. The comments were so gross.

"narcissists are threatened by neurodivergent people because we see right through them" NPD = NEURODIVERGENT.

And the video was talking about narcissists feeling threatened by autistic people because they can't always read them. I didn't get the entire way through because it was infuriating to see the comments, so I don't know where they were going with it, but it's crazy how far behind a lot of facebook users are on their education surrounding mental health.

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It's actually so shitty that I have to be so fucking careful around an "empath" "friend" because if I say just the wrong thing, they'll go off on me and treat me like shit because I said "I'm sorry" instead of "I apologize" or shit like that.

They constantly go on and on about "destroying narcissists" despite KNOWING I'm a narcissist.

I fucking HATE THIS. I want to fucking get them out of my life, but I CAN'T.

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This is a not-so-friendly reminder to please unfollow me if you believe in the existence of "narcissistic abuse."

No, it's not "a very distinct type of abuse caused by narcissitic personality disorder." The term was coined by a man who had no real expertise in the field of mental health, which also why it's not recognised by the majority of professionals.