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Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

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London (by Sam Quek)

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“If they won’t write the kind of books we like to read we shall have to write them ourselves.”

— C. S. Lewis

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PLEASE DO NOT TAG OR SEND TO NEIL GAIMAN

I made you a gift!

It's a cheesy bumpersticker style nudge to STOP SENDING NEIL GAIMAN

- fan therories about season 2/3

- your own theories about season 2/3

- other people's theories about season 2/3 (ESPECIALLY WITHOUT PERMISSION)

- your wants for season three

- things you don't want for season three (other people might want that!)

- YOUR FAN FICTIONS OR FAN ART

He has repeatedly asked not to bring these things to him. And even though his answers can be funny it can get him into legal trouble if what ends up in the show is similar to fan art/fics/creations

Please! Stop!

Bonus

Feel free to spread these around I'm so tired of the second hand embarrassment

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Modern antisemites really don't have anything original. This is just a remix of a Nazi classic:

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Mythbusters have 3 categories of myths

the general public doesnt know how physics works

the general public doesnt know how lying works

oh crap this ones real

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🐍❤️🧚🏻‍♂️

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Normal husky doing normal husky things

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Have you been slouched over something for a while? Maybe get up, stretch out a bit. Then brush your teeth if you haven't already for the day.

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Hello world! I'm 17 minutes old❤️

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One massive, legitimate way to improve as a writer or artist or in any creative endeavor really, is to become absolutely obsessed with something and to allow yourself to be weird about it. Genuinely mean this btw.

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Desire—Thom Ang

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Toph

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“I’m going to drive through Appalachia, should I be scared of the inbred hill folk and the cryptids? 😱😱😱😱” no bitch, be scared of sliding off a mountain into a valley and not being found for months or years.

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Who Are You?

I'm Lisbeth. Lock_John_Silver on AO3, l_kingk on Instagram, lisbeth-kk on Tumblr.

How did you get interested in Sherlock Holmes?

I got my grandfather's well read Sherlock Holmes collection when I was about ten, and I was immediately enthralled by the great detective's deduction skills and that remarkable brain of his. After that, no detective came close to Sherlock Holmes. I lost track of him for many years, though he was still there in the depths of my mind. And now he's been back in full force for several years, and I think I can promise he'll stay infinitely this time.

How are you involved with the anthology?

excerpt from 'One Day,' a 221B by Lisbeth King.

His doctor understands that it’s difficult for the great detective to express his feelings. But he knows that Sherlock Holmes loves more fiercely than most people. He considers himself privileged to share his life with this wonder of a man.

When John says ‘I love you,’ Sherlock reciprocates in his own way, calling him ‘my conductor of light’. The intensity in his eyes speaks volumes. Sherlock knows it’s enough, but for John, he’ll always try to improve. One day he’ll be able to say those three words back.

Who is your favorite character from the Arthur Conan Doyle canon?

Oh, this is difficult. It has to be either Holmes or Watson, but I think the brilliance of Sherlock Holmes wins. It still astounds me how quickly he observes every little detail and gets the whole picture in seconds. His dedication to a case and his clients, and his devastation and despair when he struggles, makes him human and shows off a big heart.

What's a favorite tip or trick of yours for writing or art?

Most of what I've written when fan fiction is concerned, have been prompt based, often between one and three words only. That gives me freedom to play with whatever subject and plot my fantasy can bring to the table. More often than not, the story comes to life while I write. To have as few restraints as possible has proven to be the best way to explore different aspects of the relationship between Sherlock Holmes and John Watson.

Who do you think would have blushed the most reading a romantic story about them: Holmes or Watson?

Sherlock Holmes

Anything else to share?

I'm so grateful to have had the chance to contribute to this marvellous anthology. Never in my life had I considered the possibility of becoming a published author in a language other than my own.

To learn more about the anthology or to join the pre-order mailing list visit:

@becoming-a-fox @bluebuell33 @momma2boys @keirgreeneyes @lisbeth-kk @blogstandbygo @totallysilvergirl @peanitbear @wyrcan @aceredshirt13 @shewalksinthenoir @iamjustreading @stellacartography @mybestfriendmademe @calaisreno @justwithcoco @pixiealtaira @goddammitjim @frailtyofgenius

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artists on tumblr stop fukcing lying to yourselves you never draw those sticks and circles when you sketch stuff out you just die and you know it