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knew this woman who used to be a gay man and when he was a gay man he liked ‘ironically’ referring to himself as she/her and so when he came out as a woman he decided the next logical step was to also switch his pronouns to he/him.

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You can be a feminine/masculine nonbinary or genderqueer person even if that technically lines up with your assigned gender.

You're not just faking it, trying to seem cool by breaking gender roles (that can't even apply to you), or are otherwise a cis person with a twist. Your gender situation is real, and no one's shallow ideas can change that basic truth.

And you do not have to change yourself just to match what others think a nonbinary person should look like.

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happy lesbian visibility week

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getting used to & comfortable with your own bare chest as a neutral & not inherently gendered thing over the course of an evening alone and then having to go out in public again the next day & feel weird about it again like prometheus and his liver except every day you're forced to regrow an awareness of society gendering anatomy

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on a scale of “dapper” to “fuckboy” how would you rate your taste in gnc womens fashion 

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i need to get more masc so i can present feminine

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i think if we’re going to have conversations about consent we should talk about how consenting to something doesn’t necessarily mean it’s going to be a good experience, and having a bad experience doesn’t necessarily mean someone violated your consent. this can apply to a lot of situations but the two i’m thinking of right now are sex and transition.

you’re getting it on with someone. you enthusiastically consent to having sex with them. afterward, you feel a little weird about it. maybe even distressed. maybe they did something you didn’t enjoy and in the moment you just didn’t say anything. maybe you just realized after the fact that you were not in a good headspace for sex and now your mental health is declining. that doesn’t inherently mean the person you had sex with violated your consent. sometimes it just means you need to take a break from sex or work on communicating your needs or boundaries better during sex.

and with transition, i feel like this is something that gets consistently overlooked but like. there will never be zero detransitioners. there will always be people who decide that actually transition wasn’t right for them. they could have had the best most thorough doctors in the world who did everything by the book and got full informed consent at every step. and some people are still going to decide they don’t like the changes and wish they hadn’t transitioned. that doesn’t mean that the doctors violated their consent, and that doesn’t mean that transition shouldn’t be available to anyone. it just means that we need to have more resources available for folks who detransition.

regret does not automatically mean someone did something wrong. regret is simply one possible result of having bodily autonomy, and i think we need to get more comfortable with that.

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women’s flat chests

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Happy Pride!

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Past Life | Jules Paymer (they/them)

(Image description: four images in gradually darker shades of purple, each one has a line of song lyrics. Lyrics: She's so happy in pictures so that's where she'll stay, she only exists because you won't change, she's got places to go and people to be, you loved her so much until she was me.)

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your icon punches you in the face do you survive

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i’m just over here like love isn’t a pyramid where romance is at the top and friendship is at the bottom…. it’s a soup…. different ingredients but all delicious and necessary for a truly fulfilling meal… 

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Anyone who thinks asexuality is a 2010s Tumblr invention needs to immediately read this Wikipedia page and every single page it links to, and learn that:

Magnus Hirschfeld, the gay Jewish-German physician who advocated for gay and trans rights in the 1910s-30s and had his research burned by the Nazis after his death, recognized the existence of "people without any sexual desire" in 1896.

Emma Trosse, who published one of the first favorable scientific works on homosexuality, defined "asensuality" to be what we now know as asexuality in 1897, and applied it to herself.

In 1907 a man named Carl Schlegel was found guilty for publicly advocating for legal equality for "homosexuals, heterosexuals, bisexuals and asexuals."

Asexuals have always been a part of the queer community, since its earliest beginnings and throughout our entire fight for rights.

Happy Pride.

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i did not have “born in the wrong body” childhood transgender angst i had “blissfully unaware of the concept of gender until the world lucifer’d me and made me bite that fucking awareness apple and then suddenly everything was Wrong” angst

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Repost from @lgbt_history on Instagram (@lgbt-history-archive on tumblr):

“QUEER, LOUD AND REALLY PROUD —— LOUD, PROUD AND REALLY QUEER,” @williamscollege, Williamstown, Mass., c. 1990. Photographer unknown. #lgbthistory #HavePrideInHistory #SoItBegins#Night

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Infographic on the history of the word “queerplatonic” by Coyote

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