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Not liking AI because I hate the way it’s being used to make the rich more rich and to give costumers shitty bot service things and how the generative text ai thing spreads misinformation sucks because you say one bad thing about AI and people who think copyright law is good start flocking to your post.

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“women don’t have the capacity for misogyny” have you ever met a mother

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I love the girls in the discord group but they could stop making eggs jokes at me after I've asked them not to that would be even more to love.

I am not an egg! I am nonbinary! I actually already tried the girl thing, thanks! Makes me dysphoric as hell.

I can like long socks and metal music and my computer, and sometimes pick the girl character, and still be agender thanks!!!

Most games make me pick so I just swap which one I use every other time to keep that nb feel. So yes sometimes that's the girl. But I'm not an egg and I shouldn't have to tell you details to have that respected!

this is exorsexism.

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i know its probably stupid but one of the big hurdles i have personally seeking therapy even tho i'm open to trying it is just the fact that i'll almost certainly be assigned one that's a cis woman, and i just. Don't want that. and people hear that and think you're some crazy raging misogynist instead of someone who has been abused by cis women your entire life. i am just not gonna be able to be open and honest with a cis woman at this point.

and to be fair, i would probably not want a cis therapist, period. which is part of the hurdle. one that is a cis man would likely not be any better or safer for me. but the assumption that i should be fine with a cis woman being my therapist because (cis) women are the "safe" gender pisses me off so bad. being around cis women has never been safe for my intersex ass and it has caused immense trauma.

it's not like i can't have friends that are cis women, either. i do! and i feel perfectly safe with them. but a therapist is categorically not my friend. we are not equals in that space, and if my therapist were a cis woman i would simply not be able to relax knowing she could (and possibly would) use her privilege and power over me to hurt me, and that no one would bat an eye because she's a cis woman in a field people expect women to be in. (much like how people expect women to be nurses and can't conceive of a nurse being bad at her fucking job.)

this is imperfectly phrased and i am talking to no one but whatever.

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Love for men with ""feminine"" physical features. "Soft" men, "dainty" men, men with curves, men with hips, men with tits. You aren't a joke, you're a living piece of art.

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ableds: having medical hardware and artificial joints is pretty problematic if you think about it. where did the metals come from? how is it sustainable?

ableds: asthma inhalers are damaging to the environment! think about the single use plastics and the propellants!!!

ableds: I get that you’re paralyzed but you don’t REALLY need a straw, do you? think about the poor sea turtles!!!!

also ableds: I just got my 5th monthly mystery box haul of stupid plastic garbage that’s gonna go straight into the landfill once I turn the camera off!!! 😄😝✨😆 #beauty #influencer #overconsumptioncore

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You are loved.

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I'm so sick of the way people will assume that if you're mentally ill every concern of yours must be entirely irrational. Like you can be paranoid AND be in danger. You can have RSD AND be rejected. You can have anxiety AND be in an objectively scary situation. You can be depressed AND be in a genuinely shitty situation. You can have BPD AND experience abandonment. You can be psychotic AND be onto something weird. No mental illness actually makes you immune to the troubles and dangers of the real world that'll touch literally everyone on occasion. Being irrational sometimes absolutely does not mean that ALL of our concerns are ALWAYS irrational and assuming it does honestly puts people in danger

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Like it's a serious problem that once you've been labeled mentally ill aka irrational and an unreliable narrator, you can't tell anyone about any mistreatment, abuse or danger you're facing without people's first reaction being condescendingly going "well how can you be SURE that this is what ACTUALLY happened, don't you think you might just have misunderstood the situation?" without any good faith attempt to interrogate what did or didn't happen. And unfortunately abusers know very well that this leaves a lot of mentally ill people very vulnerable to abuse of all kinds which they take full advantage of.

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"Anything is fine as long as it's legal" is not the sex positive position you think it is. Anything can be criminalised. Anything can be decriminalised.

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Like we have to always remember that a person with health anxiety can get ill, a person with paranoia and psychosis can be in serious danger, a person with social anxiety can get bullied, a person with RSD can get rejected, a person with BPD can get abandoned, a person with depression can have a serious reason to be upset and so on indefinitely. We cannot automatically treat every concern of a person who has been labeled as mentally ill and irrational as if it isn't worth taking seriously and investigating. Making that assumption puts people in real danger.

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Your abuser not being aware they're being abusive does not change the fact that it is abuse. You don't need to prove it to them or get their confirmation for your feelings about it to be valid.

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"well everyone has trauma" correct and yet

you fail to recognize not everyone has trauma that impacts their ability to perform activities of daily living - even right down to basic things like eating. and not everyone has trauma dominate their entire life, with no escape: not even escape from within their own mind.

we can recognize that we live in a society that has doled out trauma to most people without punching down on the most vulnerable by telling them they should be able to do x, y, z (ex: work, make friends, get sober, have hobbies, cook, etc) "like everyone else."

you are not the standard. no one is the standard. we are all unique people in our own right and society has failed us all. we gain nothing by shaming anyone.

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In my opinion it's a lot more healthy to be able to own that you dislike someone for petty reasons than to do all kinds of mental gymnastics to make everyone you don't really vibe with out to be a bad person actually

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MAKIN MY WAY DOWNTOWN

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FACES PASS

NEW TONE BOUND!!!

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A thousand miles (SKA COVER) now streaming everywhere :^)

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she’s quite the thinker!

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I am exhausted by ppl (even in nonbinary spaces) acting like agab tells you how a person is perceived if they're nonbinary. I was afab. I also have a deep voice, flat chest, and a beard. I assure you, I'm not welcome in ~women and nonbinary~ spaces either! No one sees me as 'woman lite'!

I've actually run into issues with amab nonbinary ppl who present very fem, telling me and reassuring me that 'no, no, this space really is safe for all nonbinary ppl' and then I actually go and guess what? Everyone's glaring daggers at me. I'm the only person in the room with facial hair. It was safe for them bc they have long hair and wear skirts and trained their voice but not for me. And it wasn't bc of our agabs.

this is exorsexism.