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elfstims · 8 years ago
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If someone is making those jokes towards me, though, am I racist if I tell them to not make them about me or with me around? I've been repeatedly teased all throughout my life for not being able to handle spices at all and they make me super uncomfortable when I hear them
I’ve seen a lot of posts about this, and thought I might be able to help clarify:
Autistics of color who can’t handle spices and seasonings are not “basically white.” Anyone who says otherwise is both racist and ableist. Not being able to tolerate spices and seasonings doesn’t make POC white.
Teasing white autistics who can’t handle spices and seasonings isn’t nice, but it’s not racist or ableist. The people teasing are doing so because the person is white, not because they’re autistic. They probably don’t know they’re autistic.
Again, it’s unfortunate, and I’m not suggesting people tease autistics. However, white people need to realize that getting teased about things like spicy food, bad dancing, etc is one of the few ways POC have to safely vent about their oppressors and it hurts no one.
There is a difference between teasing, bullying and systematic oppression.
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my three franken-tangles they’re made from 2 hairy tangles that I took the rubber parts off and disconnected (hairy tangles only have 16 links) I really love the 2 one, it twists and flips I also want to try and customise the colours by reprinting them
@tangleobsession **i am a minor! please don’t interact if k//ink, dd//l//g, c//g//l, or c//g//l//re**
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elfstims · 8 years ago
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Office Playground is closing
To begin with, they were one of the largest and cheapest places to buy stim toys, but right now everything is on clearance sale. Autistic (and other neurodivergent) people might want to take advantage of that, so I guess signal boost like crazy?
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elfstims · 8 years ago
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The bitesaber or the droplet
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GIVEAWAY (February/March 2017)
It’s time for a giveaway! 
GENERAL INFORMATION:
The giveaway is open to everyone, worldwide (I will pay for postage)
There will be two (2) winners
This giveaway will be open for 2 weeks, it will close the 8th of March 2017
RULES:
You must follow this blog
Reply to this post, stating which of the chewies pictured you want 
One entry/person
You don't have to be autistic to enter
You can enter on behalf of your child or someone else you are the caretaker of
Read through item descriptions to make sure that the item you are asking for will fit your needs
If none of the items in this giveaway interest you, don't worry! There will be more giveaways in the future!
CHEWIES:
Droplet pendant in black, designed for heavy/avid chewing, from Stimtastic
Blossom pendant in purple/pink (i can’t tell which color it is) from Stimtastic. Made for light chewing
Brick textured bracelet size SMALL (fits children) in lime green XT. Made by ARK. 
Diamond chew in Hot Pink in XT by ARK
Bite saber pencil topper in teal XT (pencil included) by ARK
For more information on individual chewies click on the name of the manufacturer/seller to get more in depth information. 
*If you do not comply with the rules you will not be entered. Winners will be chosen with a random name picker generator. If you have questions about the giveaway, feel free to ask me*
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it’s slime time 
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Autistic Survey: Results
As you may be aware due to my splashing this all over my social network presence, I’ve been running a survey of autistic people for 11 days, since January 19th 2017.
There were 1340 usable responses at closing time. This is after I removed one duplicate, removed two or three abusive responses, and removed one at the request of the participant. I promoted on Tumblr, Twitter and Reddit, and I’m aware that others promoted on Facebook on my behalf. There’s a more detailed breakdown of where everyone came from further down.
This survey was ultimately pretty aimless and led by my own curiosity. I wanted to know how we as autistic people tend to think of ourselves, how we identify and describe ourselves, and whether/how we are diagnosed. I wanted to test a few stereotypes that I’ve picked up over the years. I also threw in a couple of questions for my own personal wossname, like monogamy/non-monogamy, and how people feel about Autism Speaks, etc.
I like to do this kind of stuff for fun, and am in no way professionally or academically educated/experienced. Because it’s on the internet, self-selecting, and mostly promoted on a small number of social networks, the results are hella biased and can’t really be held as representative of any group except autistic users of Tumblr, Twitter and Reddit. Still, with over 1,300 responses, I think the results are pretty interesting.
You can see the results in full on Google Sheets here. Beware, it is huge and unwieldy. Feel free to make a copy of the sheet and mess about with the stats however you want; if you publish anything using them I’d appreciate a link back to this blog post. :)
Read on for wild and amateurish speculation!
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IN RELATION TO THE AUTISM SPECTRUM
I’ve seen people refer to themselves in so many different ways, and with varying capitalisations, so I was curious to see what was most common.
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Generally, people preferred not to capitalise autistic, aspie, or autie. People preferred “autism spectrum” over “autistic spectrum”. Aside from that, people overwhelmingly preferred identity-first language - “I am autistic” rather than “I have autism”. The fourth most popular was Asperger’s Syndrome, which I thought was interesting, because my understanding was that it’s slowly being phased out.
The top 5 ways for us to describe ourselves were:
I’m autistic - 66.3%
I’m on the [autism] spectrum - 40.8%
I’m Autistic - 30.9%
I have Asperger’s Syndrome - 29.9%
I have an ASD (autism spectrum disorder or autistic spectrum disorder) - 23.1%
It’s also worth noting that this question let you choose more than one answer, and lots of people chose both capitalisations. By this I mean that it was not uncommon for one person to choose both “I am autistic” and “I am Autistic”.
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DIAGNOSIS
For this question, participants could again select as many as applied. I wanted to allow people to, for example, tell us that they had been formally diagnosed in childhood and self-diagnosed later - or that they had been formally diagnosed as a result of self-diagnosing and then being later diagnosed by a specialist.
While the survey was ongoing, I had a conversation with someone who was opposed to self-diagnosis and felt that it shouldn’t have been an option on the form. I didn’t feel I could remove it so late in the game, and anyway I knew that if it hadn’t been an option I would’ve had to process hundreds of people’s manual write-in “i’m self-diagnosed” submissions, so I left that option there.
But I also wanted to acknowledge that self-diagnosis is very context-dependent. The best I could think of doing that wouldn’t take an enormous amount of work was to split the results by all self-diagnosed people (including people who are formally or informally professionally diagnosed) and people who are only self-diagnosed.
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Here’s the numbers. Only two people didn’t answer this question.
Formal/professional/medical diagnosis - 49.0%
Self-diagnosis (all) - 45.8%
Self-diagnosis (where only this was selected) - 32.5%
Informal professional diagnosis - 22.5%
Formally diagnosed but not told about it at the time - 11.3%
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PRE-DIAGNOSIS
I was curious about this because I know a few people who self-diagnosed before they were professionally diagnosed.
This question was single-choice-only, and there was no “other” box. About a third of participants didn’t answer at all - which matches the ~33% who are only self-diagnosed in the last question.
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If I had more spoons I might look into whether age plays a part here. A friend of mine suggested that unless you have parents and/or teachers who’re very on-the-ball, you might have to work out what’s going on on your own, and that means that a lot of people might conclude that they’re autistic in their teens - around when a lot of kids are working out, for example, that they’re not straight.
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AGE
Many graphs! Here’s the ages of all participants:
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I feel I should very remind you here that this statistic shows how biased this survey is. This age graph is more representative of the ages of people who use Reddit, Tumblr, Twitter and Facebook than it is of autism in the general population by age.
This next graph is a bit more fun though:
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Age of diagnosis (red) is relatively spread out, because a lot of folks were diagnosed in childhood - presumably before they could work out they were autistic on their own, and instigated by parents who are a bit sensible and pay attention to how their kids are generally in life. The youngest age of diagnosis was 1, and the oldest 55.
You can also see how around the early teens people started to work out that something was up (blue), and there’s a corresponding bump in the red diagnosis line a few years later as those suspicions turn into formal diagnosis for a chunk of people - 22% of people in an earlier question knew that they were autistic before they were formally diagnosed.
Overall the yellow and blue lines suggest that most people worked out they were autistic, like, 3 years ago - in their early teens. And the red line suggests that a bunch of those people got a formal diagnosis soon after. There are a lot of people, about a third, who haven’t got a formal diagnosis, but perhaps this is not surprising - most participants were only in their late teens to early twenties when they took the survey. Since services and support for autistic people are so bad perhaps there’s not much advantage to getting diagnosed, especially if you’ve made it this far maybe not even knowing you’re autistic.
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GENDER
My fave!
I’m sure a lot of you are aware of the anecdotal overlap between the trans/nonbinary and autistic communities. My gender identity clinic doctor, at the oldest gender identity clinic in the world, says that they see about ten times as many autistic people as are in the general population. And for a long time it was believed that autistic people were more likely to be gay - but now that being gay is more socially acceptable, the numbers are starting to converge. (I don’t have a source for this but I’d love one! If you’ve got it, throw it at me.) I’m curious to know whether there’s anything to suggest a similarity between the autistic-and-queer thing and the autistic-and-trans/nonbinary thing.
Again, this survey is very biased. It’s biased by age group and by the places participants came from, and the fact that it was a self-selecting sample on the internet. It would not be reasonable to extrapolate these figures to the general autistic population. On that note, here we go.
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This is as many as I could fit onto the chart and still have all the gender labels showing. Here’s the percentages of the top 10:
nonbinary - 34.1%
woman (or girl if younger) - 33.7%
trans - 24.3%
man (or boy if younger) - 23.3%
transgender - 19.8%
agender - 15.9%
genderqueer - 15.8%
cisgender - 15.2%
fluid gender/genderfluid - 12.5%
enby - 11.8%
The low number of people identifying as cisgender is not as indicative as I first thought. It occurred to me that a lot of cisgender people wouldn’t describe themselves as such, and might not even know what it means. A lot of people whose genders differ from the ones they were assigned at birth also don’t relate to the trans/cis labels either.
The list of genders was taken from the annual survey of nonbinary people, which includes man and woman. I also added the three autism-related genders that I’ve ever heard of. There were a few comments in the feedback box by people who were annoyed by having to search through the long list for their gender; I’d guess around 5? But only two people skipped the question, so I’d guess the vast majority of people had no practical problems with it, even if a significant number of people may have disliked it. The wording of the question itself was taken from the results of a report from the Equality and Human Rights Commission, who found the following to be most inclusive: “Which of the following describes how you think of yourself?”
I was nosy about biases based on social networks, so I split the top 10 gender identities by social network:
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Reddit is notably less diverse, with a significantly smaller percentage than Twitter and Tumblr for every gender identity except cisgender and man/boy. The only reason I can’t say the same for Reddit vs. Facebook is because Facebook respondents were slightly more likely to say they were cisgender.
It’s worth noting that for Twitter there are only 141 responses, so the respondents here are likely only a few degrees of separation from me - and I am aware that my Twitter followership is mostly queer nonbinary people! (They’re only 10% of respondents though.)
I’ve run a few surveys of subreddit memberships in the past, and the percentage of nonbinary people is usually around 6-7% for the subreddits I tend to spend time in. (/r/bulletjournal, for example, and I ran one for /r/polyamory years ago but I have no hope of finding the URL of the results.) So it’s interesting to me that the autistic people of Reddit are just as likely to be nonbinary than the general population of Reddit.
The subreddits I promoted in were /r/autism, /r/samplesize and /r/neurodiversity.
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SEXUAL AND ROMANTIC ORIENTATION
People could pick as many as they felt they identified with for both of these questions, and plenty picked more than one. For example, lots of people feel that terms like bisexual and asexual fit under the queer umbrella and could truthfully check queer and another term for one question.
The top five sexual orientations were:
asexual - 31.2%
queer - 30.3%
bisexual - 23.3%
pansexual - 18.4%
heterosexual - 16.8%
The top 5 romantic orientations were:
queer - 27.3%
panromantic - 25.1%
biromantic - 17.2%
heteroromantic - 15.2%
I don’t know - 15.2%
This one I messed up a little. I regret not including “gay” and “lesbian” as checkbox options from the start; I added them at around 100 respondents, though earlier responses containing those words will still be counted in the stats. I also didn’t include “straight” at any point.
I only picked up on “gay” and “lesbian” because someone specifically said that they’re gay and they find the word homosexual to be really unpleasant, so they would have liked for gay to be added to the list. No one asked for “straight” to be included in the list, but a few people did write it in the “other” box.
A few people mentioned in the “other” box that I had missed demisexual and demiromantic off the list. If more than one person mentions a particular label I tend to assume that there’s a lot more who would check the box if it was there, so if I do this kind of survey again I will include them.
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RELATIONSHIP PREFERENCES
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I have no idea how this compares to the general population or the Tumblr-Reddit-Twitter-Facebook population. But hey, it’s pretty cool, huh? Here it is in number form.
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It started out being super non-monogamous, because I am non-monogamous and so a lot of my online circles are too. I could tell when the survey was making it out of my immediate circle, because at around the 300 participants mark it started to get a lot more monogamous.
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LIVING SITUATION
I asked about current living situation and ideal living situation, and I’m thinking these figures are mostly representative of the fact that 85% of participants are between 11 and 30 years of age? I’m thinking as people get older they’re more likely to attain independence and an ideal living situation. But I’m not really sure!
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56% of people live with the family that raised them, and only 8% of them want to.
30% of participants want to live alone, but only 13% are doing so.
A little over a third of people would ideally like to live with friends, which I think is lovely and a very underrated and under-represented lifestyle choice!
And 20% of us live with partners, whereas 65% of us would prefer that. I wonder how many people living with partners would rather be alone, but it would be too much work for me to find out so there we are. Forever a mystery.
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PERSON-FIRST vs. IDENTITY FIRST LANGUAGE
Identity-first language, as in “I’m autistic”. It acknowledges one’s autism as an inseparable part of one’s personality and sense of self.
Person-first language, as in “person with autism”. This seeks to define a person by their humanity rather than by their diagnosis.
I remembered that a while back the National Autistic Society in the UK did a survey and found that autistic people tend to prefer identity-first language. I was curious to see if my results would fit this, and they did - the majority of participants sometimes or always used identity-first language to describe their autism.
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This was another question where you could select more than one answer, and there was an “other” box - but it’s very difficult for me to count those. Google Forms tells me 30 people selected “other”, but it doesn’t take into account the fact that some submissions were removed. If this number is accurate, then for perspective it’s less than half of the number who chose “I don’t know”.
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DISABLED?
This question asked whether participants would describe themselves as disabled, in whole or in part due to their autism diagnosis.
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It seems that 83% of participants sometimes or always describe themselves as disabled due to their autism.
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DESCRIBING OUR ASD-NESS
This one was a make-it-up-as-I-go question; for about 100 responses I’d put “disorder” and “condition”, because those were the only terms I could think of. After a few people had entered “neurotype” I added it to the list, and around that time I noticed a few people had put “difference” so I added that too. That means, I think, that over 1,000 people had all four options available to choose from.
Neurotype took the lead pretty fast despite being added after the start, and stayed ahead.
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I can kinda imagine how this happened. Disorder is pretty negative, difference is a little condescending for a lot of people, and condition is a very medical-subtext word. They could all, depending on context, carry a less than implication. Neurotype, on the other hand, is a very neutral word. Autism is one of multiple neurotypes, alongside non-autistic, and probably other neurotypes. It puts autistic people on the same level as non-autistic people in terms of power and social status and mental health. It’s interesting, and I can see the appeal.
Again, this was a question that let you choose multiple answers and it’s very difficult for me to count the “other” answers, but Google Forms tells me it’s 146, around 11%. These included words like “disability” and “impairment”, and also terms like “my brain” and “a way of thinking”.
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WHERE DID YOU FIND OUT ABOUT THIS SURVEY?
Again, a question that lets you choose more than one answer, and the “other” answers are hard to count, but Google Forms tells me it may be around 33, or 2.5%.
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I feel like I’ve covered the stuff about diversity and bias regarding the social networks in sections above, so I don’t really have much to say here!
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FEELINGS ABOUT AUTISM SPEAKS
This question was just thrown in there because it’s something I’ve always wondered. A lot of people are very angry-shouty about Autism Speaks. Is this the prevalent opinion, or does it just seem that way because of the aforementioned angry-shoutiness?
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That’s a yes, most people did not feel good about Autism Speaks. And it’s worth noting that I listed the “other” answers in the spreadsheet because wow.
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People skipped having their vote counted as merely “bad” in order to vent some pretty visceral feelings here.
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OVERALL SUMMARY, THOUGHTS ETC.
Well, erm, I don’t really know what to say here. We are autistic and we use social networks, I guess? This was a lot of fun for me, and I hope the results are interesting for you too!
I threw this form together hastily, and that probably shows; I think I would be more thoughtful about the wording next time. I also used Google Forms, which is great and accessible and freeeeee but it does have some limitations - mainly in counting the “other” entries and not adjusting its Forms-associated summary graphs when I delete troll or duplicate entries. This is fine, it just takes more time and energy to get the blog post graphs and numbers to be helpful.
So yeah! Thank you for taking part, if you took part! And if you’d like to be notified of a future autistic survey that I may or may not run, please feel free to put your email address here. :)
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Autistic people are valid Autistic people are allowed to “act autistic” because they are autistic Autistic people are capable of forming genuine human connections Autistic people have the capacity for intimacy Autistic people can tell really funny jokes Autistic people have feelings Autistic people are amazing problem solvers Autistic people contribute to their communities Without the contributions of autistic people, STEM wouldn’t be anywhere near where it is today Autistic people can be creatives Autistic people make the world a better place to live in
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elfstims · 8 years ago
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Going out in public?
More like How Many Stim Toys can I Fit in this Pocket
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Some more pictures of my tangle glow DNA!!
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elfstims · 8 years ago
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The Slime Safety Post
Or: Why Borax Is Safe For Use In Slimes and Floams
I think many of us are aware that Health Canada has issued an advisory about borax in slime. I know it was one of the reasons I felt some concern about using borax and sought to avoid it. After a little research, however, I feel completely confident in declaring this rampant misinformation, given that I am yet to hear about anyone using the chemical listed in the advisory for slime-making: boric acid.
I’m going to quote and bold the most relevant part of the advisory for folk making and using handcrafted slimes:
Health Canada is advising Canadians to avoid using boric acid for arts and crafts projects, such as homemade slime, or modelling clay. Health Canada is also advising against making homemade pesticides with boric acid.
The advisory stands for anyone using boric acid for slimes, putties and clay. I can’t imagine why anyone would use boric acid for slime when borax or liquid starch are better, safer, accessible alternatives, but I would strongly recommend against its use, on the off chance it needs saying.
Boric acid is NOT borax. Boric acid is NOT used in the vast majority of homemade slimes. They are not synonyms for each other and have two different MSDSs - Material Safety Data Sheets - and health hazard ratings.
Borax is a chemical also known as sodium borate or sodium tetraborate. The MSDS for sodium borate lists a health hazard of 1. (This is the same as salt.) Sodium borate is listed as being “Slightly hazardous in case of skin contact (irritant), of eye contact (irritant), of ingestion, of inhalation” and the sheet recommends only lab coat, glasses and respirator (see this post for info on respirators) as safety precautions. It lists those same precautions for sodium chloride (table salt) so I’d be confident in believing that exposure to sodium borate in the same amounts as handling table salt shouldn’t do any slime maker or user harm.
(By contrast, the MSDS for boric acid lists a health hazard of 2.)
Dawn Gifford at Small Footprint Family writes this thorough breakdown of why it isn’t harmful to use borax, as long as it is approached with the same precautions one uses for products like baking soda: “You wouldn’t want to ingest large amounts of salt or baking soda, inhale them, or rub them in your eyes. Borax is no different.”
She goes on to say,
People should use the same precautions (gloves, dust mask or bandana) with borax that they would use around any dusty substance, like washing soda, bentonite clay, diatomaceous earth, or powdered soap.
Borax, based on all the knowledge we currently have to hand, is safe. Any information that says otherwise is misinformation largely arising from confusing boric acid with sodium borate.
I’ll say it again: borax is not boric acid. Borax is sodium borate and as safe to use and handle as bicarb soda. Slime shouldn’t be used by very young children who might attempt to eat it (also because it contains PVA glue in addition to borax) but it is safe for most people (exceptions being perhaps some people with chemical sensitivities) to handle.
Stimmers, go forth and use borax to make your slimes.
Aussies, you can buy a 1 kilogram container of borax from Bunnings for $9.40 AUD. Since I cannot find a liquid starch that works and I do want to try and make my own slimes, I’m going to head to Bunnings.
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elfstims · 8 years ago
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is there anyone in the autistic community who would be able to share some tips / resources / checklists / etc. on the basics of how to take care of one’s self?
everything I’ve googled is like meditate! practice gratitude! write out positive affirmations! and I’m sitting here like, okay, but how do I plan & eat three balanced meals a day or figure out if I am thirsty or sick or sad how do I make sure I have clean laundry
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Do any other autistic people have 2 main special interests?
For example, either 2 special interests that are both your main interest. Or 2 special interests that constantly alternate as the biggest special interest
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