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"Después de un tiempo, uno aprende la sutil diferencia entre sostener una mano y encadenar un alma, que el amor no significa acostarse y una relación no significa seguridad; y uno empieza a aprender que los besos no son contratos y los regalos no son promesas; y uno empieza a aceptar sus derrotas con la cabeza alta y los ojos abiertos. Y uno aprende a construir todos sus caminos en el hoy, porque el terreno de mañana es demasiado inseguro para planes... y los futuros tienen una forma de caerse en la mitad. Y después de un tiempo uno aprende que si es demasiado, hasta el calorcito del sol quema. Que hay que plantar su propio jardín y decorar su propia alma, en lugar de esperar a que alguien le traiga flores. Y uno aprende que realmente puede aguantar, que uno realmente es fuerte, que uno vale, y con cada día... uno aprende. Con el tiempo aprendes que estar con alguien porque te ofrece un buen futuro, significa que tarde o temprano querrás volver a tu pasado. Con el tiempo comprendes que sólo quien es capaz de amarte con tus defectos, sin pretender cambiarte, puede brindarte toda la felicidad que deseas. Con el tiempo te das cuenta de que si estás al lado de esa persona sólo por compañía a tu soledad, irremediablemente acabarás no deseando volver a verla. Con el tiempo te das cuenta de que los amigos verdaderos valen mucho más que cualquier cantidad de dinero. Con el tiempo entiendes que los verdaderos amigos son contados, y que el que no lucha por ellos tarde o temprano se verá rodeado sólo de amistades falsas. Con el tiempo aprendes que las palabras dichas en un momento de ira pueden seguir lastimando a quien heriste, durante toda la vida. Con el tiempo aprendes que disculpar cualquiera lo hace, pero perdonar es sólo de almas grandes. Con el tiempo comprendes que si has herido a un amigo duramente, muy probablemente la amistad jamás volverá a ser igual. Con el tiempo te das cuenta de que cada experiencia vivida con cada persona es irrepetible. Con el tiempo te das cuenta de que el que humilla o desprecia a un ser humano tarde o temprano sufrirá las mismas humillaciones o desprecios multiplicados al cuadrado. Con el tiempo comprendes que apresurar las cosas o forzarlas a que pasen ocasionará que al final no sean como esperabas. Con el tiempo te das cuenta de que en realidad lo mejor no era el futuro, sino el momento que estabas viviendo justo en ese instante. Con el tiempo verás que aunque seas feliz con los que están a tu lado, añorarás terriblemente a los que ayer estaban contigo y ahora se han marchado. Con el tiempo aprenderás que intentar perdonar o pedir perdón, decir que amas, decir que extrañas, decir que necesitas, decir que quieres ser amigo, ante una tumba ya no tiene ningún sentido. "

Jorge Luis Borges

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¿How can you be afraid of the person you love the most?

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Hug away the pain

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The perfect intimate moments

If you read the title, yes, I know what you are thinking about and no, I’m not going to talk about sex. I’m going to talk to you about something way more intimate than that. What could be more intimate than sex? Well if you don’t know, you’ve clearly never loved someone. First of all, you may think it is something banal but when you really love someone, holding her hand is a perfect intimate moment, it’s like holding on to that person, walking together, facing the world without letting her go. Ok, now do you understand me? Let’s go on, after holding hands you may hug her and if holding hands was like holding on to that person, when you hug her, you realize you never want to let her go, you want to hold her in your arms forever, protect her from everything, no space between you and the person you love, that means the world to you. Isn’t that something special? Well, wait till you kiss her, not only in the mouth, just the act of kissing her is the perfect intimate moment. Sealing your love through your lips, a kiss can tell much more than a thousand words. Moving on, watching her smile or cry, no matter the reasons and being there for her always. That is when you really get intimate, when she opens her feelings to you, when she knows she can trust you, when she knows you would give everything just to watch her smile, to wipe her eyes when she cries, to make her know with a hug or a kiss (or both) that everything is going to be all right. Then, and only then, you may make love with her. Watch out for the words! I didn’t say “have sex”, I said “make love”. There is a world of difference between those two. You can have sex with anyone but you may only make love with someone after you’ve done all of the above. It’s the climax, the culmination of all. You and that person, closer than ever, not even clothes between you. But undressing her is not just taking off her clothes. It is being worthy of seeing the best version of her, knowing she will always get the best of you. Those, my friend, are the perfect intimate moments.

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You gave my loyalty a home, and for that I’ll forever be grateful.

(via loboestigio)

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En ocasiones tengo miedo de que despiertes y descubras que ya no me quieres a tu lado, no sé si sea ridículo o no, solo sé que hay noches en que pienso que despertarás y te darás cuenta de que dejé de ser una prioridad, y que nuestro amor fue perdiendo el fuego hasta convertirse gradualmente en una amistad con recuerdos de romance…

No lo sabes, pero cargo mucha tristeza en mi corazón, descanso mal y muchas veces me quedo pensando en ti de madrugada mientras duermes. En esos instantes de silencio profundo y reflexión, se me salen las lágrimas de pensar que toda nuestra vida juntos puede reducirse a apenas un recuerdo…

Sé que no gano nada con mis temores, y que nadie tiene asegurado a las personas, solo siento que de perderte, no sabría de qué manera sobreponerme…

Puedes llamarme dramático porque a veces me siento así, solo es que no puedo controlarlo, eres lo mejor que me ha pasado y me asusta que te vayas.

En ocasiones tengo miedo de que despierte y ya no estés ahí, en cuyo caso, prefiero no despertar.

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Let go

It’s hard when you love someone so much to think they’d be better without you. But it is, also due to the love you feel for them, necessary to let them go. And maybe, just maybe, you might learn a few things about life. First of them would be how miserable your life will be because you didn´t have the courage to fight for what you love. So no, don’t let go! Hold on to hope because love is worth fighting for. Life is to short too not be with the one you love. Obviously as long as you have something to fight for, as long as you see a tiny spark of light in the eyes of the person you love. So no,don’t let go, you should always do everything that is in your hands to hold on to the people you love. I lost one of the most important people in my life and I couldn’t do anything about it, and I have to live with that pain every day, so I’m not willing to give up on the love of my life. I’m not willing to give up on my friends. I’m not willing to give up on my family. There might be hard times, they might tell you to leave, they might want to get away but in those hard times is when you must be stronger, when you must be better than that. Hold on to love because if there’s one thing everyone should strive for, it is love. Fight until you’ve given every piece of you and then, only then you should stop, when you know you’ve done every thing for one person and they still decide to leave, then, only then, you should let go.

Sincerly

Someone fighting

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Better

Dear reader, I really hope you never feel half as bad as I’ve felt the last couple of weeks. I hope you never experience being hurt by the people you love because the wounds they can make you are more painful than any harm your worst enemy could ever cause you. I’ve been falling to pieces and the only one that can heal me is the one that is tearing me down. I’ve thought doing terrible things to myself because of a stupid feeling of inferiority. I compared myself with someone that apparently had everything. Never have I been so wrong, the only person I should compare to is myself. Am I a better person than yesterday? Am I in peace with myself? Am I true to myself? Today, after being hurt several times I realized I’m better. Better than what? Better than yesterday of course. Today, I decided to forgive an go on. Today, I decided to love more than yesterday. Today I decided to leave all behind and embrace the future with the love of my life. So, is the other person better than me? Well… only if he’s better than what I’ll be tomorrow

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Along comes love

Along comes someone.

And you know she´s special from the very first moment you meet her, you might not know what it is but there’s something about that person that makes you feel attracted to her. Maybe it´s her gorgeous smile, or those beautiful brown eyes that reflect the cuteness of her heart, her wonderful way of thinking or just how shy she is when being with you. Whatever the reasons, you feel something for this person, something different from everything you’ve ever felt before. This, my friend, is called “love” and no, I don’t believe in love at first sight, you may be attracted at first sight but you truly love someone for what they mean to you, for everything you’ve been through, what they’ve done for you and what you would do for them. You can love a friend, your family or even your pets. But this time, it is different, you know you would do everything for this person, you would give everything just hoping to receive her love in return.

Along comes happiness.

Everything is new to you now, you feel like doing all for the first time even though you’ve already done a lot things before. Like going out for a walk, reading a book, going to the cinema, driving home at night, going out for a run, studying, taking a bath, looking at the stars, crying, being sick, swimming, traveling, playing, drawing, singing, absolutely EVEYTHING is new, special and different just because she is there, with you. Even the first kiss, that amazing first kiss. You might even be afraid of it, but there’s no place for fear when you’re together. But it’s not only the first time you do it, you feel that little chill every time you are with her, like if it was the first time, always. You get excited when you know you are going to see her even if you do it every day. You start building memories with this person, memories that will never fade. Things so simple yet so meaningful like smashing a berry in her head, a kiss in the forehead, dancing without any clothes and not noticing it, talking in your sleep while she reads you a story, etc. You could not even list half of those things without filling like 20 pages. All those things you could do with her and no one else because you open yourself to that person, because you feel good with that person, you feel peace, you feel strong, yet so weak before her because she knows everything about you, every strength and every weakness, every detail as tiny as it may be, she knows it. She could destroy you but you know she won’t (at least that’s what you think). You don’t even have to worry about her picking you up when you are down because she will never let you down. And you know you’ll never go down as long as you are next to her.

Along comes pain.

Suddenly, one day, without warning, you wake up, and its real life now. And in real life there’s no space for such thing as love. However, there is this misconception of love in which relationships are based on. Love is no longer about experiences, feelings and mutual trust. It is based on quantity, the one that sends you more texts, can see you every day, gives you more gifts, has a better car, tells you only the things that you want to hear, is the one that deserves your “love”. Suddenly, it doesn’t matter if you are being the best version of you for that person (even when you can’t be with her) because there is someone that can see her more often than you do. It doesn’t matter if you are trying to make her feel proud of you by having good grades or giving your best at something because then you are a smug. Suddenly, you are indifferent and incomprehensive about her problems just because you are in a different environment even though you’ve tried so hard to be supportive and caring. She will look for shelter in someone that is in the same situation because you “walked away”. But that is not the worst part, if you are lucky enough, she will talk to you and tell you that she doesn’t feel loved anymore and that she found someone else (all your love gets trashed anyway but at least you received the honesty of that person in return). The worst part comes when you receive fake love thinking it is real, when you end up as a fool being used by the person you thought would never hurt you. The worst comes when you discover all those things you did together and thought were special because they were only yours and could not be done with anyone else, are nothing but meaningless to her. The worst comes when you find out she had your replacement ready and was only testing for how long you could be attached to her lies. The worst comes when all those words you thought she only said to you and made you feel special were told countless times to someone else. The worst comes when everything you thought was special about her vanishes, when she changes a night with you by a night of drinking with other guy, when all those things she said she loved about you, are the opposite of the things she loves about another guy. The worst comes when holding her hand was the world to you but she would hold the hand of anyone who is nearer. The worst comes when you realize you were suffering and struggling for the love of someone that did not even give you the privilege of her honesty.

So, does love really exists? Of course, your family loves you, your friends love you, your dog loves you (not your cat, cats are dicks) so yes, real love exists.

Does real love exist in a relationship?

I don’t know

I’m yet to find out