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i was just on ebay and…. this month they’re donating 25% of sales to autism speaks like please, don’t buy anything from ebay until this is over don’t support autism speaks

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the worst beauty misconception dark girls are fed is that they can’t experiment with their look

you can go as loud as you want

or keep it simple

stick to the neutrals 

or go on all out galaxy chic

go out sultry

or go out sweet

cause your skin is so versatile

that there’s no such thing as “the right colour”

be a goddamn mermaid if you like

 dress down

or up

go natural

or not

you’ll still look flawless

so go ahead and shower in gold

or do nothing at all

cause at the end of the day

you’re still a queen

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Because why not? ;-) 

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What is Gaslighting?

You’re crazy - that never happened.

Are you sure? You tend to have a bad memory.

It’s all in your head.

Does your significant other say things like this to you a lot? Do you often start questioning what’s really true – or even your own sanity – within your relationship? If so, your partner may be using what mental health professionals call “gaslighting.”

This term comes from the 1938 stage play Gas Light, in which a husband attempts to drive his wife crazy by dimming the lights (which were powered by gas) in their home, and then he denies that the light changed when his wife points it out. It is a very effective form of emotional abuse that causes a victim to question their own feelings, instincts, and sanity, which gives the abusive partner a lot of power (and we know that abuse is about power and control). Once an abusive partner has broken down the victim’s ability to trust their own perceptions, the victim is more likely to stay in the abusive relationship.

Signs of being a victim of gaslighting (Stern, 2009) include:

You constantly second-guess yourself.

You ask yourself, “Am I too sensitive?” multiple times a day.

You often feel confused and even crazy.

You’re always apologizing to your partner.

You can’t understand why, with so many apparently good things in your life, you aren’t happier.

You frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to friends and family.

You find yourself withholding information from friends and family so you don’t have to explain or make excuses.

You know something is terribly wrong, but you can never quite express what it is, even to yourself.

You start lying to avoid the put downs and reality twists.

You have trouble making simple decisions.

You have the sense that you used to be a very different person - more confident, more fun-loving, more relaxed.

You feel hopeless and joyless.

You feel as though you can’t do anything right.

You wonder if you are a “good enough” partner.

If any of these signs ring true for you, give us a call at 1-866-331-9474, chat online, or text loveis to 22522. Our advocates are here to support and listen to you!

[Head over to loveisrespect.org to read this blogpost in its entirety.]

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She wasn’t being adopted because she’s black, so we fixed that

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please do not participate in that whiteout garbage tomorrow

please do not participate in that whiteout garbage tomorrow

please do not participate in that whiteout garbage tomorrow

please do not do it

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Why do people always use the “adam and eve” argument when they are trying to justify why they think it’s wrong to be gay? I mean, Adam and Eve committed the first sin and caused the downfall of all mankind after them. They’re not exactly what I would call role models. 

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Taylor Swift Tuesdays

The radio station I listen to is doing Taylor Swift free Tuesdays. Frankly I think that's pretty sexist (also I love Taylor Swift). So today I'm not listening to the radio and instead playing Taylor Swift CDs.

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I feel super cute today. that doesn’t happen as often as I’d like, so I’m selfie sharing as an act of self love, dammit. happy spooniestrong selfie saturday darlings <3

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what do birds do 

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Today is International Women's Day

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Happy International Women's Day to all the incredible disabled women I am privileged to know and be continually empowered by

❤️ 

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Communication Necklaces by Spacerobotstudio on Etsy

We are on the autism spectrum, and also on the multiplicity spectrum, and struggled for a long time with communication and self-expression. One day we got the idea to make a “Status Necklace”- a necklace with charms made of shrinky dinks, stacked on top of each other like a flip book, showing various things about how we were feeling. Who was there, how overloaded we were, what pronouns we wanted people to use for us at the moment, things like that. When verbal communication was freezing up on us, or when anxiety was preventing us from saying how we felt, flipping a charm on a necklace was often a form of communication that actually WORKED. A lot of people we met expressed interest in the status necklaces, and we worked on more designs. We’ve heard of other autistic people using changing symbols to communicate - The interaction badges used at Autreat being one example - and wanted to come up with designs that would be easy to use, easy to wear, useful for communication, or just plain fun. Thus, Spacerobot Studio was born. We’re also using it to make jewelry designs for things that seem sorely lacking in pride jewelry- Neurodiversity, Autism, Multiplicity, and Asexuality.

Although these are made with folks on the autism spectrum in mind, I think they’d be great for folks dealing with chronic illness, too. And, if you’ve got both going on in your life… then it’s just mega-awesome!

By the way, if anyone’s curious about plurality (the blanket term for ‘multiplicity’ mentioned in the creators’ shop info), this blog looks like it would be a good starting resource.