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“no one’s ever mad at me unless they tell me so” is the best assumption i’ve ever made

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I Sexually Identify as an Attack Helicopter was one of the best works of sci-fi of our generation and one of the best works of transgender fiction ever written, and there are world renowned authors who still have successful careers after they publicly assassinated the nascent woman who wrote it. I don't think they should ever know peace.

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I still remember how everybody mocked the queerplatonic label because it was 'just being friends'. Even if you treat them as overlapping categories, considering that the umbrella of friendship goes from 'we are classmates and had coffee once' to 'I cannot imagine my life without this person in it', I cannot in good faith object to someone needing the specificity of a new term.

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everything is grim but i refuse to give in to despair or fear. i admire everyone who is harnessing their anger. i can't do that because it's unhealthy for me specifically on a personal level due to the architecture of my brain, but i can be positive & i will. soul fights in the shapes that suits it

"a hero will win only when outnumbered" (pratchett) . your beliefs shape the world. your beliefs mean something. i believe in you + us. and i believe we can make a beautiful world. , if something is believed strongly enough, or by enough people, it will become true. let's believe in eachother, okay?

personally, i am to become a lot more zen. that's my goal. going to be reading books and stuff. going to make art. going to learn important things. ill make a website soon. high priority now, you should too. i love you.

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The thing about depression is that motivation is rare, so when it comes around you gotta ride it reverse cowgirl, bouncing up and down moaning and howling until it shoots a two weeks pent up load right up your stretched out hole and finally you have a clean room but it's 2 am on a weeknight.

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asking "wait so what do you think I'm saying" mid-disagreement will replenish years of your life actually

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If you're on instagram or other visually oriented social platforms, follow fat people!! I mean everyone should, but especially other fat people. It's so easy to underestimate the effect it has on your mind, simply seeing people who look like you thriving and expressing themselves in the spaces you frequent. Take any opportunity to remind yourself and anyone else who needs to hear it that the type of body you have belongs in the world.

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I think one of the kindest things you can do for people with various mental health struggles is just... let people back into your life after they've been absent for a while.

Making friends as an adult is so fucking hard already and isolating yourself from other people is a very common symptom of depression, anxiety, burnout, ocd, trauma, grief, etc. Which means that someone will do the hard work of recovery/healing and resurface back into a world where their previous friends have written them off because they stopped showing up.

So if you know someone where you're like "yeah we could have been better friends but they fell off the map a bit" and that person suddenly reaches out, or starts showing up to events even though you kind of forgot they were still in the group chat... well they may have been Going Through It and you don't actually have to punish them for their absence you can just be glad that they're back.

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u got any tips for being "skillfully disobedient"? or any writings on it? that sounds like the sort of specific phrase that is an Established Concept but i have not heard of this.

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"I would kill for you. I would die for you" would you take a break for me? Would you sit down and rest? For a day, a week, a year? Would you let others take care of your needs for me? Would you let yourself be held for me? By me?

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hi i just want everyone to know that i will never ever EVER be angry with anyone for not replying to my texts even though you’re visibly online and reblogging/posting. i understand that holding a conversation takes a lot more energy and effort than scrolling and posting and that’s 100% okay. take care of yourself first. the whole idea that you HAVE to reply to someone when you’re online is toxic and makes mentally ill people feel as though they are bad friends just because they can’t always reply within minutes. 

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“well. plays the cards i’m given” has profoundly changed something in me. litany against wallowing in an unsatisfactory situation

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i mean this in the nicest way possible but some of you need to learn how to be annoyed

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you really can reach a point with transgender enlightenment wherein you can attribute any bodily feature silhouette and detail to any gender regardless of typical cisgender aesthetic connotations. anything can be a man's body if the person in it is a man. anything can be a woman's body if the person in it is a woman. anything can be a genderless body if the person in it is genderless. and so on. the only thing that matters is the personhood within and whether you are willing to look and know and see it. open your eyes. keep trying until you no longer flinch or turn away in shame or anger or confusion.