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My Experience with DollCreep

For those who don’t know me, my name is Vivienne Medrano.

I am a (now) 22 year old freelance animator, and creator of the webcomic “Zoophobia”.

While my life has changed so much in just the last few years, there is a part of my past that is chasing me to this day, literally.

An artist who used to at one point be debatably my closest friend (online) Jordyn Fischer aka: DollCreep.

Now this artist is relatively unknown, but his reach has actually impacted a lot of people I have met overtime and known around me, especially when I was younger. 

I am NOT the only person who has had a negative experience with Jordyn, and I am actually creating this blog to help people who might have experiences with Jordyn to feel open about sharing them, but for now I feel I am the one who should speak out.

Partly because he seems so intent on telling the world what a terrible person I am, and It’s caused a constant gut wrenching turmoil inside me, to know that somebody who caused me so much emotional and mental pain, is out there watching me, stalking me, taunting me, still judging everything I do, and trying to spread the image of me that he has concocted over the coarse of the time we knew each other, and since. I do not wish to continue feeling like a victim, I am choosing to finally tell what exactly our relationship has been and is now, in the hopes that people might see this person for who he really is.

So young impressionable artists will not fall victim to his words, who will not give up on their passions and work as I so nearly did in my college years.

I am writing this because enough is enough, and I want people to know who exactly they are supporting when they side with DollCreep, as Jordyn is known online.

I want to share a story I have kept to myself for a long time.

I warn you guys, this might get long. There is a lot to tell, but I promise to try to keep it as condensed as I possibly can!

I want to start this off by saying, looking back on the old conversations, the old messages, the old-everything, I cannot believe how much has changed in even just a few years. From the time me and DC were in constant almost daily communication ( late 2010-2013) to now, where I have been entirely free of being in direct contact with him for a full year. I cannot express to you how much my life changed during the time I have not had this person in my life. The fear is almost entirely gone, the passion is back, the confidence returning. I am able to take charge of my artistic choices, I have the strength to reach out to others and to even pitch my ideas to studios! Things I never would have imagined during the time I was speaking to DC. My artwork spiked in quality and my dream of being a professional character designer or board artist suddenly became more achievable.

I made a lot of mistakes in my past, even just in the last few years, I have said and done things I regret, and feel it’s time things are out in the open.

Now most of you are most likely asking, well what did this person do that was so bad? What makes him so terrible to warrant an entire tell-all testimony? What reason could you have to drag back stories and conversations from 2-3 years ago?

To briefly answer, this person is the single most destructive, creatively damaging, narcissistic, problematic, vindictive, manipulative, and mentally abusive person. I have ever met.

The reason I am posting about it now, despite two years passing since we officially “ended” our friendship, is because he is TO THIS DAY filling his blog with slander and mean spirited messages regarding me and my work.

There are other things that deeply worried me about this person, while in the relationship. Jordyn seemed to fetishize/romanticize physical abuse, violence, animal abuse, incest, racism, sexism and other such things directly in his works. I think if people paid more direct attention to the kinds of things he would draw and post and the things he would explain about his characters they -might- have seen glimpses, but being someone who he spewed ALL his character info to, and rped with him very regularly, I experienced many of these things first hand, and they always made me incredibly uncomfortable.

Like REALLY uncomfortable.

But I was young, when I first started talking to DC I was just leaving a very impressionable part of my life, that “edgy” phase where I wanted to learn more about the weird, and the strange, and I embraced it. He was a little less then a year younger then me, and he was the first person I had started to talk to online who had a bunch of characters to talk about. I had never met anyone who I could talk to about characters, and I had NEVER rped before, the idea of getting to have my characters interact with someone else’s was spellbinding for me, and I ended up becoming very engulfed in the relationship. 

Finally someone to share my stories with, to share my characters with, to have fun with and draw with! After I added him on MSN, we started talking almost daily. I don’t really recall anything in that first year being bad, that was from 2010-2011. In 2011 things started. It was my first year of SVA, the college I was attending through the duration of my friendship with DC. I was one of the only people in my class to be coming in directly from Highschool as a freshman, most of my classmates were older, having transferred from other colleges. This didn’t bother me at first as I seemed to hit off with everyone, but my relationship with DC was still in fullswing and I relied on him a lot since we were closer in age. We talked every moment I wasn’t in class, and I recall annoying  my roommate by staying up into the wee hours of morning just msn-ing with him. I ended up telling my classmates about our character-pairings and our friendship, because it was just that big a deal to me. To the point where one of my SVA friends at the time even started talking to him too. He was a big factor in my life.

That first year I remember was the year when both me and DC started to expand our casts, we both had a great number of characters, but it wasn’t until we started creating more and more at the same time did the first signs of DC’s true nature start appearing.

The earliest tipping point I can remember was when I created a character named “Arackniss” who was a spider inspired character.

I drew him and presented him to DC, hoping he would enjoy him. But the first reaction I received was “Wait, this looks like something -I- would draw. I’m doing bug characters, why are you suddenly drawing them?”

I was so taken aback by this, especially considering I was decently proud of the design, and had created it to expressly experiment with a theme that scared me. That theme being “spiders”, I wanted to have fun with a theme that I had an emotional reaction to.

What I had seen as a design and creative challenge, he saw as a front to his work. But this was the first sign of rough waters to come, I did not know me drawing something with a theme similar to what DC was working with would bother him, I had never met anyone bothered by things like that. I had never seen him draw a spider character, so I didn’t think there was anything wrong with it, but regardless I tried to ignore it and carry on.

Fast forward to 2012. By now our relationship had been pretty steady, we still talked daily, we still rped, by now we had a few shared character pairings and other such things you have when you are young and playing around with fellow artists, but the “this looks like mine” vibe had come up a number of times. It never had a lasting effect usually we would laugh it off and go back to drawing, though I had started drawing the characters he’d take issue with less and less.

In 2012, things got worse.

Now I wish I had the ability to share screencaps from conversations as far back as this but unfortunately there is really nothing to show, and all I have is my word. But this was the year the abuse really started to take effect. DC started meeting new friends, and he would forbid me from contacting them, he would share with me negative things they would say about me and my work. He started to accuse me of stealing from him almost constantly, and actually demand that I kill off the characters in question. All of this caused me to have panic attacks, my confidence in my art and ability plummeted, I started staying in, sleeping more, skipping classes, not socializing. I felt adrift from a lot of my SVA friends, because I was always bothered by “something DC said”. I could tell a lot of my older classmates found the whole thing to be rather childish and didn’t seem to care about it, and my living situation was very uncomfortable as I wasn’t getting along well with my roommate. This was the year one of my dearest friends, and someone I knew actually before DC, started her first year at SVA. Having her there is the only thing that saved me from the dark thoughts that started to accumulate more and more due to the negative impact DC was having on me.

She actually was the first person to encourage me to stop caring what Doll said, and that maybe our relationship wasn’t healthy, which deep down I agreed with, but I had never ended a friendship and I was honestly too scared to do so.

DC implemented another tactic, he would go silent for weeks at a time. I would message him and get no response, but a minute later he would post a new drawing or reblog something on tumblr. Every time this happened I would have a violent panic attack and start messaging him incessantly, asking what I did wrong, what happened, if he was upset with me. Usually he would respond in a day or so telling me he “needed space” but during the waiting period I would be unable to sleep or eat or do much of anything, and once he responded or assured me I hadn’t done anything, or told me I did to just give some kind of validation, I would be able to relax and breath.

I know to some this might seem like not a big deal, but realize by this point in the relationship DC had asserted his dominance. He had beaten me into submission on which characters I drew, he would criticize my work unprompted, he would play up his own stories and characters while disregarding mine, only giving the rarest amount of positive feedback or general approval, so that I would feel so special when he liked something, and try even harder when he didn’t. He would often refer to my characters as “normies” because they weren’t as edgy and “unique” as his were. We still usually talked almost daily, so when he would just go silent with absolutely no reason given, or any response at all, while still actively showing his online activity knowing I’d see it, It was a very powerful tool for keeping me under his control. To keep me asking what I did wrong, looking for his forgiveness. He had total control, he controlled when I felt confident and he controlled when I was desperate and begging him to know what I had done wrong “this time”. He also started having a lot of issues with my fans, belittling them often, and claiming that my work appealed to more ‘annoying’ people because it was more “mainstream”.

It really made me feel nothing I did was actually good.

This was almost the entirety of my sophomore year at SVA, it was to date one of the darkest times, in my entire life. People who followed my work around then, might not know this because I still drew, I still had a bit of my hyper fangirl persona, I still reblogged a lot of silly things on tumblr and drew a lot of characters and art, but deep down, it was a constant struggle. When I drew something my first thought would be, “will this upset Doll?” or “Will Doll like this maybe?” my stories and ideas had to tip-toe around him, when I saw him draw something similar to an idea I’d have, i’d kill it, on the spot. I can’t tell you how many characters and ideas I never even acted on, because of the fear of DC’s scorn, and yet even despite all my worrying and all my paranoia he still found ways to find the tiniest similarities in things that had nothing in common. Even so far as things like “that expression looks like something I doodled” or “I haven’t seen you use that color scheme before” it was absolutely ridiculous.

Fast forward another year.

Junior year of SVA.

I am now rooming with the friend I mentioned before, it is one of the best years at SVA. I felt comfortable with who I lived with, I had a more healthy social life, and I had a new animation instructor, who had genuine faith in me and was helping break down the walls of creativity DC had forced me too build up. My instructor started to help me with my character design skills, and when I showed apprehension for branching out to more diverse style elements or using different themes in my work, he would express to me how incredibly limiting it was for an artist (especially a designer) to restrict themselves from anything. It was really what I needed to hear, and thanks to my healthier living environment and more supportive adviser and friends, I was finally starting to break myself from some of the creative bonds that DC had me in. This lead to much more  turbulence in the relationship. I started to argue back more when he was compare, or demand I make changes, and I think this shift caused more and more to happen. 

DC finally forbid me from looking at his work, because he was convinced I was taking things from him “subconsciously” and this ended up being a demand I listened too, because I felt it would rid him of the fear I was taking things and free me of the guilt of worrying about it.

His other control tactics started getting more and more noticeable, for example he tried to start talking to my roommate, but they didn’t really speak much and he attempted to make me paranoid of my relationship with her.

Another thing that happened around this time, during the rough waters. DC sold me three characters of his that we had had shared pairings with. He said that he had no desire to involve the characters in his own stories, and I was so attached to the pairings that I was overjoyed to purchase and own the characters so I could more freely use them in my works. But after the transaction, things only started getting more and more rocky between us. I was starting to be more independent and spending a lot more time with my roommate, and it was actually something I drew for her that pushed DC over the edge.

One morning I woke up, and my roommate informed me that she had received a rather strange confusing messaged from Doll over facebook. It had said.

She asked me what that meant and I was baffled, I had no idea what that meant, so I quickly got on my computer and found that DC had blocked me everywhere, I logged on skype and was greeted by this.

I was stunned. A joke doodle where I referenced an expression from “Leo and Satan” is what pushed him to end our friendship. I kind of sat back and after crying for about 20 minutes I sat up and realized this could be the best thing to happen to me. I suddenly felt a wave of relief and ended up moving on fairly quickly. I started openly drawing more of the stuff I was scared too before and during this time we weren’t talking I really felt more motivated and creative then I had in a very long time.

Still, I did do some things that ticked him off. I reblogged a few posts on tumblr about abusive relationships. One of them was a post about the representation of emotionally abusive relationships in the film “Tangled”, and I started to make design changes to the characters I had purchased from DC.

He was quick to contact me about how he planned to “sue” me for changing the characters, and how he didn’t sell them to me to be changed, demanding I portray them perfectly or not use them.

We corresponded a few times, mostly me spelling out for him what I planned for the characters, and trying to explain what had happened in the first place to upset him.

Once things were “settled” I continued on with my life, I started an internship and continued to feel more and more confident again with my work and with my life. Things were better, I was happier. 

But then one day, I received this.

This message was not what I expected, I had never experienced DC being this  ‘humble’, seeming this regretful and offering something to me. It was such an out of the blue message that I did not ever expect to get, and It totally fooled me, it hooked me back in. I took it as an apology, despite the fact he did not actually apologize or own up to anything he had done. I found it sweet and meaningful, and I had not ever considered having “Jiji” but I thought her design was cute and fun, and I felt like I could give her a good home, so I accepted his offer, buying her off him and this was when we negotiated our final contract and worked it out about a month later.

I remained wary about our actual friendship however, I told him it would be fine if he messaged me on DA, and we ended up chatting casually again through notes. Then he expressed interest in rp-ing again, and he told me he was in the mood to RP the characters I had purchased and he knew I enjoyed, so I quickly agreed and added him on skype again!

But as soon as I did, he backtracked on the promise of rp-ing.

So then we were back in direct contact, and even more things started to happen, and some enormous red flags started to surface.

The worst one being when he confronted me again about the “abuse” posts I made, which were only reblogs at the time.

Honestly looking back at this, It made me sick to my stomach. His words are the blatant words of an abuser. An abuser sees the weakness of others as their own fault, that they should stay quiet about it and that something happening online can’t constitute abuse, and there was me.

Agreeing with him, and submitting to his words yet again.

I fell right back into the relationship, all the old feelings and fears came back, but this time I stood my ground more every so often. We would get into argumentative conversations regarding artistic inspiration and idealogical “theft”. Where he essentially saw anything that didn’t come from thin air as “jipping”. He also had an strong notion that themes and concepts he was using for his stories were exclusive to him, and despite my own ideas or interests, I should never cross the boundaries into what he considered “his gig”

He would also try to drag me into scenarios he was talking about, making me feel very uncomfortable and self conscious. Such as when he would get onto the subject of offending people by propitiating racial stereotypes, and grouping me in with him. He would often use slurs and wording that was problematic, but he would use my work as an example of what people would get offended by, making me feel like the villain of a situation that I had not even wanted to discuss.

He would snap at me when I would attempt to give him advice or even just try to make him feel better about things he was working on. He would complain to me a great deal about how he was scared he would never make it anywhere in the art world, and how much better off I was because I got to go to college and I had more “popularity”. I felt guilty of my privilege and would constantly try to encourage him, I was constantly trying to make his effort justified and try to support his work and what he was working on.

After acquiring the characters from him, I would tell him ideas I had for them in my story, and he would often criticize my ideas for them and recommend I reference his characters, despite the fact my story’s world exists outside of rps or his story’s canon, so it would make no sense and limit my own story. He would tell me the ideas I had weren’t as valid or strong, as well as make snide remarks about how I was depicting the characters he sold to me.

He would often drop the character accusations more casually into conversations rather then bringing them up more directly, he’d try to kind of brush them off as something he didn’t care about when clearly he was still obsessed with he subject. He later had issues with my characters Angel and Mimzy. Finding them similar to one of his characters.

His problems were very rooted in his work being associated with mine, despite we were public friends and did a lot of collaborative things. He was very quick to attack me when fans or anyone else associated our work too much.

It has occurred to me finding all these caps and reading over old conversations. I could be wrong but I do not think he has ever said “I’m sorry” to me. Not once.

After a long time of things like this happening, we started to talk less and less. We still would here and there but I was definitely starting to move on by now, I was starting to maintain my confidence, and his comparisons happened with such weak reasoning that I was really starting to get over things.

My 21st birthday eventually rolled around, and I didn’t hear from him, which was a personal upset but I tried to ignore it. But a bout a week after my birthday a whole new mess started.

THE END OF THE FRIENDSHIP

I’d be a liar if I said that I was never bothered by character theft as well. Whether it be DC’s influence or my own insecurities as I was a developing artist. But when people traced my work, duplicated my characters or anything of the sort, I wouldn’t always react the best. In 2012 someone came to me with a story called “Cartoonphobia” their logo the same style as mine and their main cast having nearly identical names to my main characters: Zill, Kayla, ect.

That was the first time I had ever experienced such blatant theft and I made a DA journal about them, but after a bout 2 hours I pulled it down, regretting making a big deal of it. 

Usually what gets me upset by people “stealing” from my work is when their attitudes towards me are very disrespectful. I do not see similarities in work unless it a incredibly evident, or pointed out to me, and I am only really upset by it when the person shows no signs of respecting me as an artist or influence. In 2013 another artist came onto my radar. They had been a fan of my work, and they had started to churn out a very large amount of characters with direct resemblance to my work. I turned a blind eye to it, but when more and more of my fans started linking me to this artist it became harder and harder to ignore them. I eventually succumbed and sent them a note, originally with advice on focusing on created characters to develop them, rather then churning out characters on a daily basis. Their reaction was rather hostile and I was taken aback, which started a back and forth. They spoke in a very defensive way and contradicted themselves a lot, lashing out at questions I’d ask and all in all it didn’t end well. I basically threw up my hands and said “I’m done trying to talk rationally to you” and that was the end of it. They later messaged again apologizing for their anger, and actually asked me to help them move more away from my work. I was flattered by this and agreed to help them. One of the things they asked me to do was compile a comparison chart of their characters and mine, which I did. A lot of irrelevant drama ended up going down, and I gave someone else permission to post this collage of characters, which I then reblogged myself on tumblr.

I added the caption:

“I actually made this compilation a couple weeks back on request of the assailant when they asked me “which characters I thought were jipped” I threw this together very fast and this is not even all of them, also pardon the spelling mistakes in the lil notes I wrote, I had been trying just to get this over with fast at the time, I gave ___ permission to post this along with possibly even more examples because I am just tired of this.

for the record also, this person has in fact admitted to me, that she has my work vividly in her head while drawing and designing characters and making up story and shit, and yet she refused to change any designs drastically even when shown this.

A lot of people are taking from me, but this person literally is taking like my entire cast haha. Also I’m not the only person shes taking from, I’m just the -most- taken from.

I do not appreciate it, if you like my characters enough to steal THIS MUCH from me, just draw me fan art. like jeez.”

I am ashamed of this post.

Not only has my attitude towards character “theft” changed a great deal over time (greatly influenced by this situation in fact) but I also register how unbelievably egotistical my wording was, it honestly makes me very ashamed to this day, despite this being a few years old now, and I am sorry to anyone who I may have talked to with this kind of tone. I do not think my creativity outmatches anyone else’s, there are many artists and creators I draw influence from, it is a fact of life. An artist learns from others, that how they grow. 

Nowadays my attitude towards the idea of younger artists being influenced by my work has greatly changed, I am honored my work inspires people enough to warrant things looking similar. It is not something I feel is bother being bothered by, and from what I have endured with DC, I do not want to inflict the same damage onto a budding artist that was inflicted on me.

Anyways, why is this relevant to the DollCreep testimony, well mostly due to the fact this post was a vital turning point in what would become the final end of our friendship.

The post was reblogged by DC, who added this:

This was the moment where someone who had done this kind of thing to me countless times in private had finally let his true intentions and feelings become public. It was the moment everything changed, I snapped. I was physically trembling, physically ill. My response was defensive and noticeably rattled, which was honestly just to be expected at the time from me, I’m not proud of this entire situation but it really did instill into me how incredibly childish it is to bring these kinds of issues into the forefront. It started me on my personal rethinking of the notion that all intellectual property is 100% sacred and not to be meddled with. Once you put your work out there it stops being yours. You can never fully control how someone else perceives your work or characters, you just have to trust that you know them best and that is what matters.

In any case, this post Jordyn had made was incredibly hypocritical, not only was he hijacking a post that had nothing to do with him and making it about himself, but he was also doing so by doing the EXACT same thing as I had done. Instead of commenting with something like “Hey Viv, everyone is influenced by something, you shouldn’t bring down someone who is clearly inspired by you, you are being a huge jerk.” Which is something I honestly needed to hear, and would have been constructive and honest as a friend (because I was in the wrong).

He basically made me out to be a pure thief of his own personal work, over very small and incidental similarities that when I showed them to unbiased people had to squint their eyes and go “ehhh… I guess?” Followed by rude and incredibly snarky and disrespectful gifs and an attitude that reeked of egotistic scorn. he even horizontally swapped on one of his examples so that it more closely resembled my drawing.

This was my wakeup, spurred on by the fact that this person I had once considered so close, someone I told things about myself too that I had never told anyone else for fear of judgment. It just proved to me this person never cared about me, that all the insecurities and thoughts and realizations that had built up over time were correct. That my family and friends had been right all along.

It took enough of a step over the line of forgiveness to give me the rage and confidence to stand my ground, to say enough was enough.

So I cut ties officially. Deleted the post, changed my skype, and tried to move on.

This didn’t stop DC from contacting me on Facebook soon after to try to continue the situation, and further prove to me how little he “cared about people stealing his work” by proving the exact opposite. Something I was honestly very used to by this point.

By this point it was actually a bit of time after the post-situation had happened, and I had actually started talking to someone else who had been one of DC’s close friends around the same time as me. This person and I were not encouraged to be in contact by Doll, he claimed we would not like each other. But thanks to the post, this person felt encouraged to reach out to me, and we actually ended up discovering a lot of things about our relationships with DC once we were finally able to talk about it with each other. This person is actually now a friend of mine.

To me, keeping us apart and finally having direct proof of the kind of things he had been saying about me to this person, hearing and seeing direct things he said in regard to me as a person, my work, my characters, my interests. It was unbelievably hurtful, and it just instilled the absolute certainty in my mind that DollCreep does not care for anyone but himself.

So my response was of coarse very set, I had learned much more about DC’s real character while he sulked and festered on his response to a post that hadn’t been relevant for a few days. Despite my attempts to just end things cleanly and not get into a heated exhausting debate, he immediately zeroed in on the mention of someone else telling me things, something I’m sure he never wanted to happen, for exactly the reason that resulted in me having the strength to cut ties. Abusers don’t want their victims to talk to each other, they want to maintain control of all parties, they don’t want people to be able to relate, to be able to make theses huge realizations about them. The moment that was mentioned his focus narrowed, and he demanded to learn who it was, something I refused to tell him.

So that was the end of that. But good things don’t last forever- yet again.

 One day I was greeted by yet another note on DA

This time I had the common sense to keep him at arms length. I thanked him for his “apology” and told him he could contact me on DA if he so chose, but that I had no desire pursuing any kind of continued friendship. He seemed to accept this and things were ok- Until I started “Die Young”

Because Die Young featured one of the characters I had originally purchased from him, he was very quick to demand I give him full credit, despite him having no involvement with the project, no creative input, no idea I was even planning the project or really anything at all, he demanded full gleaming “character design” credit, something I initially agreed too. That is, until a friend of mine saw some rude and mean things he was posting on his blog about me.

I am very self conscious about my appearance, I don’t like posting pictures of myself, and I was already trying to bury that real life encounter with DC deep into the recesses of my mind. So the fact he was dragging it out and mocking it was just another tactic to bring embarrassment and mockery to me.

It was the last straw. I consulted my entire family on what to do, my family helped me come up with a plan and compose a simple final message. That message was.

Then I blocked him.

the rest really is history.

From the moment, I sent the message and blocked him, he began posting about me nonstop. About everything, he’d screencap things from my blog and complain about them, he’d complain about Die Young, complain about Jiji, complain about things he knew I liked, complain about the music I posted, spew all his opinions of me. How I am “so obsessed” with him, how I idolize his work so much. How Die Young was his idea and it was owed to him, how he was robbed of credit (despite still being in the credits).

The pressure of his actions and the fact enough time had gone by I was no longer dependent on them: caused me to retired the characters I had purchased from him, instead replacing them with more original characters to fit into the same roles. One of them being Jayjay, who was the spiritual successor of “Jiji”

Jay is the character I animated in Die Young, the character DC proclaims from on high is still owed to him and being paraded around by me and I did nothing to change her or make her more likable?

If you guys want to know what the “real” Jiji was like. Here she is.

It makes me sick that this person is still having people on his side, knowing the things has has done to me and people I’ve known.

Seeing people believing the things he is saying. It’s so frustrating and upsetting.

It upsets me that people can’t see through the things he says, his blatant disrespect to his fans. The fact he claims I am obsessed with him while he is the one making post after post in regard to me for nearly a full year! The caps I have are all thanks to my friends and family who braved his blog to find all the things he has been posting about me.

Am I a perfect person? No! Did I make mistakes in the past? Oh yes, I regret so much. I regret things I have said, I regret people I may have hurt. But It has been 2 years since the post fiasco, and I am trying to change myself. To move on, to grow as an artist and as a role model.

I was hoping that DC would move on, once we were no longer in contact, no longer in connection. No longer having really any reason to pay attention to each other. Once I installed a tracker on my blog, I was disturbed to know how often he still comes to my blog.

I have deep fears of stalking from past experiences, and considering the level of abuse I have endured at his hands, and the fact he is so continuously vindictive, I am genuinely afraid of DC.

EDIT: As recently as July 29th 2015, right before the creation of the Vivienne-medrano-abuse tumblr, he posted this.

I can’t really express how blatant an example of his vindictive nature then this. Unprompted.

The violent and disturbing themes in his work, and the complete lack of understanding of my feelings or life really scares me to what lengths me might go to bring me harm.

The traits of abuse DC directly showed me were.

 Humiliating or embarrassing you.

Constant put-downs.

Hypercriticism. 

 Refusing to communicate. 

Ignoring or excluding you. 

Use of sarcasm and unpleasant tone of voice.

 Unreasonable jealousy. 

 Extreme moodiness. 

Mean jokes or constantly making fun of you. 

Saying “I love you but…” 

Domination and control. 

Withdrawal of affection. 

Guilt trips. 

Making everything your fault. 

Isolating you from friends and family.  Earlier I mentioned all the extremely disturbing things promoted in his work that I knew about due to being more closely involved with him. These things are harder to pinpoint if you do not have a familiarity with his characters, so I will just loosely summarize some of the ones I experienced.

a romanticized incestuous relationship between a serial killer and his deformed son. Who was also a zoophile. This relationship was also exceedingly violent.

a number of racial and sexual-oriented stereotype characters. 

romanticized physically abusive relationships.

Female characters created with their defining character trait being “large breasts”

It occurs to me that DC’s work has always been geared towards being purposely “disturbing and edgy” so such themes are not something that can never been done in a way that suits an artistic vision. It’s not so much the subject matter being -used- as for the fact that speaking directly to DC like I had been, the way he spoke about these aspects of the stories was 100% serious, and enjoying it. He did not seem to register that these things were -wrong- just that they were “taboo”, and that is what made him want to involve them.

He also would express to me the desire to adopt children, and as far as I am aware, he is currently working with children, and I am honestly really concerned for those children considering his destructive influence.

Just being in the presence of this person for long enough, you will find he has a way of making you feel less unique and important as him. He is always the most special, the most tormented, the one with the biggest struggle, the most problems, the most creative vision.

He convinced me that because I was going to SVA, and he was stuck at home with his “disabilities” that my problems were not as valid as his. That my own mental disabilities and mental health issues were not as bad as his. That everything I did was subconsciously stolen from him, despite the fact over time I started to despise his work, to the point that nowadays seeing his artwork or style triggers me into a violent trembling fit. I cannot look at his blog, and it took almost physical strength and will to log onto my old skype to scour months worth of chat to find examples of the things he’d say, I saved a number of other caps, but I wanted to try to keep this as condensed as I could.

There is simply too much, and I’m sure if I spent even more time looking I would find even more.

The fact has been proven to me time and again, that DC is dangerous to those around him, as far as lying to artists he knows are friends in order to initiate a feud between them, trying to tell someone lies about someone they have actually known for years in person, deliberately telling people things his ‘other’ friends would say about them, dumping his girlfriend, a friend he had for around 4 years because she dared to try to get him to adhere to legal suggestions after he encouraged her to send a false cease and desist to me.

Selling a character he had no legal right to to someone else (see here an entire other post regarding his legal-fraud) which is a whole nothing situation that I didn’t even want to get into here.

DollCreep is a genuine abuser, he is determined to find impressionable artists he can gain control of, so they can validate him and his work, make him feel powerful and accomplished. To feed his superiority, and stroke his ego, he is hurtful with his words, and clouded with his opinions of what defines creativity.

If you are a young artist who looks up too DollCreep, please. PLEASE do not talk to him directly, he will judge you, and if he feels he can benefit from you, he will use you, and he will break you. 

He does not respect you, so please just be safe.

I do not condone sending hate to DollCreep, In fact I hope people just take my story to heart, and avoid this artist, especially if you are young and unconfident in your art or characters, he will pick apart everything he sees in your work.

Protect yourself, protect others, don’t let these kinds of people get away with the terrible things they do.

Thank you for reading all this, and I hope it could help at least someone.

-Viv