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Learning like a fair amount of german as a native english speaker & then starting spanish duolingo for funsies has me sitting here with trust issues like surely the word order isn't going to be that straightforward. Are you sure that's where I put my verbs. And it is

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[Image ID: The Destiel confession meme edited so that Dean answers 'There's a petition to ban conversion therapy in the EU' to Cas' 'I love you'. /End ID]

If you are a citizen in the EU please sign this petition:

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Guys, I saw horrible mean bad woman at the devils sacrement

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Why is the self help pseudoscience industrial complex obsessed with cortisol now. None of that is what it does

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okay but if you ever see a male creative who had a string of great work and then everything else he did was dogshit, go to the "personal life" part of his wikipedia and look at his relationships. you'll either find a major tragedy he didn't recover from (completely understandable) or, more likely, there was a woman in his life doing uncredited shit editing his stuff or contributing generally and she's not there anymore.

I told a friend about this phenomenon in literature and he called me weeks later like, I remembered what you said about women doing uncredited work when tim burton came up. he made a string of bangers then everything else just was nowhere near as good. the timeline matches perfectly to when he was with this german visual artist (lena gieseke). he's done some good work in collaboration, but if things were dug into I suspect we would find she did a lot more than people realise.

so yeah whenever you look around like wow women didn't work in history, or, women aren't auteurs, or, there just aren't as many great female writers - societal reasons for that aside, half the time they absolutely did.

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guy who has chronic pain and fatigue: man why can't i do more stuff

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executive dysfunction is telling yourself for two and a half hours that you need to shower bc you smell like your workplace and you absolutely Cannot do Anything Else until you shower, doing Any Other Thing before showering is illegal!!! but you still haven’t for some reason??? you’ve just been sitting on your bed in a towel scrolling tumblr for 2+ hours thinking “I need to shower right now immediately” and growing increasingly frustrated that you are still not clean and you haven’t eaten or done your laundry either

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Went to one of my routine neurologist appointments and was informed that I dont have depression because I want to do the things i enjoy and do do them when not in burning pain or exhausted, but since Me/CFS is officially classified as a form of depression (where i live, do not quote the dsm5 at me) I also very much do have depression

Schrödingers Depression it is then

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Im sorry acotar girlies, but after 5 hours of audiobook nothing has fucking happened and I am out

When the mural came up I was excited, but then nothing again...

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a phrase that kinda bothers me when talking about women's historical roles in europe is "cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the children." you hear it so often, those exact words in the same order even. and once you learn a little more you realize that the massive gaping hole in that list is fiberwork. im not an expert and have no hard numbers, but i wouldnt be surprised if fiberwork took up nearly as much time as the other three tasks combined, so it's not a trivial omission.

it's not a hot take to say that the mass amnesia about fiberwork is linked to the belittlement of women's work in geneal, but i do think there's a special kind of illusion that is cast by "cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the children." you hear that and think "well i cook and clean and take care of children (or i know someone who does) and i have a sense of how much work that is" and you know of course that cooking and cleaning were more laborious before modern technology, but still, you have a ballpark estimate you think, when in fact you are drastically underestimating the work load.

i also think that this just micharacterizes the role of women's work in livelihoods? cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the children are all sisyphean tasks that have to be repeated the next day. these are important, but not the whole picture. when we include all kinds of fiberwork—and other things, such as making candles or soap—women's work looks much more like manufacturing, a sphere we now associate more with men's work. i feel like women's connection to making and craftsmanship is often elided.

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Have you guys heard of cats. They're great.

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I made sure that our secretary also got a christmas present at the office christmas party for organizing the whole event and not only our boss who paid for the wine and she has since thanked me personally and again in her last e-mail to me and said how touched she was

I am happy, she was so happy about it, but it is so sad that she instantly knew that all my collegues (all men ofc) would not have thought of that and that it must have been me who made sure she got something too

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shut up

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imagine him standing next to the eifel tower or something I woud just be like: Alright not the craziest thing he ever made

shut up

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i hate how nothing can make you happy anymore, it just gives you serotonin

there is no joy, just dopamin dressing or whatever

just saw someone say they were "hyperfixated" on cooking with seasonal squash i love that nothing means anything

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Not to sound like a 90s shallow prep, but how you dress can affect your self esteem, and putting energy into wearing things you actively like and projecting an ideal of yourself through fashion instead of seeing clothes as things you have to put on out of obligation helps.

It also can give you a sense of control over your appearance that you otherwise wouldn’t have lmao

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The difference between being visibly or invisibly disabled gets Weird but is nonetheless very distinctly observable because it's so fully 100% just based on outward perception and not like... anything about what you actually have going on