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3 years and 3 months later...

I initially had so many thoughts running through my mind that I needed to decompress somehow and realized I still have my tumblr account and have done an entry in a while, make it 3 years and 3 months while. Sheesh. Then I end up reading through my old blog of when I was single and talk about cringe. I am still keeping it for reference and it's a great marker of seeing how far my blogging of anything and everything has gone.

I have to say it has been a minute y'all...a hot minute.

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1 year and 8 months later...

WOW! ..This will be the first time since writing my previous log, YIKES! It is a good thing I didn’t write anything about accountability because it’s obvious I have failed that test, L O L ! 

Well as the title goes, it has been that long since I have been married and here are the updates since then:

-Our first apartment will ALWAYS be my fave because of how awesome it was, I wasn’t too fond of the rent we had to pay though..I STILL LOVE YOU CHANDLER’S BAY APARTMENTS!

-There was what seemed like a mountain in the road with my side of the family, the pain and hurt we had to endure as a family doesn’t compare to the relief we have as of now..kind of. This story will be for a later time,but it will lead to my next point.

-We moved closer to my job and literally one road away from Jesse’s job, mom and Michael are also our roommates, eesh. Do I love living with my roomies?..Sometimes, they all drive me crazy at some point, and the other two have a different standard of living than Jesse and I. And yes it DRIVES ME CRAZY!...but they help out a lot with finances so it’s a borderline pro.

-Another PRO is we have managed to start on Dave Ramsey’s Baby Steps Plan, our journey to Financial Peace. It is still in the works, and it is obvious that I AM the “budgeter” and Jesse is the “free spirit”. And he continues to play into this role really well. It drives me crazy too! I was so big on budgeting and saving and succeeding at it, I fall off here and there a few times, BUT Jesse makes it all the more difficult and I absolutely feel alone in being the adult when it comes to cracking down on our finances. 

-I can’t believe I have gotten this far into my blog and didn’t even mention that we are currently in the middle of a PANDEMIC! It started in February and yes, us Americans are still in the midst of it. How have we been coping with it? At first there was fear, now there’s peace and a sense of awareness to just do everything you can to be clean and let God do the rest. Have we panicked during this time? Of course, there were a few virus scares here and there and fortunate for us we are 8 months in and our household is still negative of Covid. At this point I truly believe I had it before we knew it to be Covid because there was a week where I was coughing for 2 weeks straight, and then after that it was Jesse’s turn. BUT still as a precaution I get tested once every week at work, and mind where I go. 

-Jesse has been on leave from work since the Pandemic started, his job continuously has covid outbreaks here and there. I took a voluntary leave from Delta and went Full time at the family shelter I am currently working at. It has truly been a blessing to work during such a crazy time. Everyone around us were terrified and paranoid, I am not going to lie..at one point I was. I was worried for my family, but mostly for my husband as he is high risk in our household. However, by the Grace of God have we been able to live and thrive through this time. I have been at work, no grief of unemployment here. THANK GOD!

-We still have not gotten pregnant, BUT we are officially fur parents to a beautiful and petite full bred Yorkie whom we named Bella. She is the tiniest thing ever but she’s so cute. She’s still timid and dislikes being around loud noises and cars, she’s definitely a homebody with a very quirky and upbeat personality.

-We are less than 5 months away from the end of the year and so far this is a wrap up of what’s been happening in our lives these last 8 months and year.

So far these are all the updates I can think of, I will do better at blogging each day so I don’t have to come up an overview of my life in the next year for another blog, lol.

Stay tuned..

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New Season

Hello Saints and Aints (insert laughing emoji)

Welcome to my new blog, I don’t have much followers on here and that’s ok, if you just so happen to stumble across my blog and find something worth reading then go right ahead, everyone is welcome here.

I have committed myself to writing this new blog because as of now I am officially a married woman, so single Taeao is no more and now married Taeao has to learn how to be married and be a wife, lol. A little backstory, I have been married to my best friend for 8 months now and let me tell you that Marriage is WORK! I love my husband with all of me and at the same time I find myself wanting to fight him LOL! The best piece of advice I ever got as a newlywed was that the first years are always the hardest BUT they are the years to BUILD A FOUNDATION together. This piece of advice has definitely brought me through some trying times within these 8 months and it has been a JOY to see things manifest. 

We have been learning and growing, learning more about ourselves as individuals, as each other as spouses and even more so how to COMMUNICATE. We thought we had the best relationship because we are good at talking with each other...well let me tell you that marriage can put that to the test! What we thought was our strongest suit as couple actually turned out to be our weakest, now let that sink in. When we were dating we talked about everything from our past to our future, how we deal with issues and other things, that was us as INDIVIDUALS. NOW as a couple, we end up sharing our own independent opinion and disagreements happen. Attitudes flare (mainly mine) and what was just supposed to be a conversation turns into an argument. Yes folks, the saying is not a cliche because COMMUNICATION IS KEY. It is so true. Luckily for us we had done marriage counseling before we got married and we find ourselves using the exercises to help us communicate better...

I can go on and on about communication but I won’t in this post. I want to give room to share the wisdom I’ve learned along the way, but this is a good start. 

We haven’t made a year yet as a married couple but I find consolation and relief in knowing that we don’t have to rush the many things a married couple should do in this lifetime, rather this year is a year of BUILDING for us. Building our foundation as a couple, setting our goals, having a vision we both can follow as a Christian couple..so much to build as a couple. I am excited when I think about this because I am not building this life alone, I am doing it with my best friend and lifetime lover in whom my soul Is well pleased.