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hey do you have bluesky?

i do not 😔 just tumblr and discord

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still thinking about "decolonising" missionary work.

the way you decolonise missionary work is by not doing missionary work

the way you decolonise missionaries is like this:

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One thing I've had a hard time explaining to my still very active Mormon family is that the queer community still experiences hurt from the church and its members. And because of that, they may distance themselves from anyone who is still an actively practicing member.

My sil is frustrated that at UVU people see she's active and assume she's homophobic. My mom is hurt on behalf of her friend who's child is obviously transitioning but won't come out to her. My brother doesn't understand why it took me an entire year and being two states away to tell him I was queer.

These are not isolated incidents. The Mormon church actively is against queer people, talks are being given from the pulpit about how we are sinful and fallen creatures. So no, we won't run to you with open arms. That is the baseline queer people start with in regards to the Mormon church. You have to do the work to show us you are trustworthy and safe. And until that happens, queer people will be hesitant and weary and I get you think that sucks but your church is bigoted and you cannot blame people for not wanting to come out to you instantly even when "you can tell".

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We must do everything in our power to eradicate Mormonism.

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Joking about mormonism with other exmos is like oh yay cool we’re out we’re thriving man that was kinda funny when it wasn’t soulcrushing haha

Then joking about Mormonism with nevermos is like walking a fine line between being drawn into a lengthy conversation about your religious trauma or getting defensive over your own past self and your friends and family who are still in the church because they’ve hurt you but you love them and no one gets to make fun of them without having felt that love or that grief, yknow?

Nevermos obv are free to criticize the rampant racism, misogyny, queerphobia, and general shityness of the church and its actions, but keep in mind that not every exmo is going to be okay with you coming in like “oh I hear they all wear magic underwear and still do polygamy lol that’s so crazy lol” like you all do so often

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Quitmormon.com (the pro-bono legal team who made it so the Mormon church couldn't stalk me after I left the church) is fundraising to get a full-time, paid lawyer, AND provide free mental health services to people leaving the Mormonism (mostly LGBT people and our allies)

I'm not one to post fundraisers, my followers know this, but if you can spare a few dollars to give to this incredible organization I would be so grateful

Here's the g*fundme

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I've started realizing that there were rules I was given as a kid growing up in fundamentalist christianity that I internalized as Very Serious, but I've learned as I got older that they were more like social expectations rather than Real Rules. So now as an adult I'm shamed for feeling oppressed/traumatized by said rules because it was my fault for not having the skills to discern that it wasn't a Real Rule. But I really, truly don't know how I could have known better.

I grew up in an environment that encouraged black and white thinking. I grew up knowing to fear hell. I grew up knowing Jesus could come back at any moment and if I was sinning I was fucked. I grew up knowing that God had access to all my thoughts at all times. I grew up learning that all sins are equal to god, that lying is the same as murder, that having an unkind thought was the same as violence. And I grew up terrified of questioning things because questioning the lord and questioning the authority the lord put in place (church leaders and parents) was from Satan, and giving into Satan would send me to hell.

Any mistep could have sent me to hell. And Jesus could come back at any time. I couldn't risk testing it. How is any of that my fault?

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i think being told i would never ever be truly happy if i didn't do exactly what the church said fucked me up as a kid

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The good Mormon girl to man who swears like a sailor pipeline

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I’m a big fan of people finding a spiritual or religious practice that works for them but if you’re required to pay money to a particular person or buy a certain thing regularly from a certain place I don’t think that’s a spiritual practice. You may have been scammed.

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Yet another comic about leaving the Mormon church that can be applied to a variety of things.

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Seven

when I was seven

I begged to the sky

is there a way you could finish my life?

kids at this age don't get judged for their sins

I want to return to you void of my sins

when I was seven

I asked him all night

was there a way he could finish my life?

was there an out I could offer to take

to wash clean my hands of mistakes I will make?

when I was seven

I cried at the church

only a week until pureness is purged

on saturday morning I'll start being seen

for some reason god keeps ignoring my pleas

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FOR THE LAST TIME

👏 APOSTASY is the rejection of a faith after having professed it;

👏 HERESY is selective belief in only some of the tenets of a faith one professes, or belief in tenets contrary to those of a faith one professes;

👏 BLASPHEMY is derogation of the honour due to God.

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"The House," a parable I drew about leaving the Mormon church. As people on the internet have pointed out, you can also see it as representative of plenty of other institutions (organized religion, yoga cults, the united states government, etc) so take your pick. I want to include some version of this in the graphic novel I'm working on, as well.

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does anyone hve any sin recommendations i just fell from the garden of eden five seconds ago