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Methods that help strengthen your child's personality

The parents can involuntarily cause the child’s personality to weaken, so some things that help to strengthen the child’s personality and increase his confidence in himself should be given attention to.

The personality of the child is formed according to many factors, including what is related to the behavior of the father and mother, as well as the way to deal with the child and the environment in which he is raised.

Some factors can make a child's personality weak, especially when he is away from parents and interacts directly with different people.

Reasons for the weak personality of the child

Here are the most prominent reasons that lead to the weakness of the child's personality: 1- Protecting the child in an excessive manner

Many mothers do not imagine that the extra protection will be a reason for the child’s weak personality. Fear for him excessively makes him also afraid of the façade and disposition of the situations. 2 - The child does not do many things

The mother is used to carrying out all his affairs, and it is difficult for him to depend on himself and feel a sense of independence and responsibility.

And when he collides with reality, he is not good at dealing with matters on his own. 3- Excessive pampering

Many mothers think that excessively pampering a child is an expression of love, so they are used to fulfilling all the wishes of the child without rejecting, and this means that the child does not know the value of anything.

This pampered character causes him to deal in the wrong way with people, and his friends can say some hurtful words to him, which affects his psyche and personality. 4- Violence and threats

The constant threat, intimidation, and taunting of the child will make him always afraid of doing anything, and he does not distinguish between right and wrong, whether with parents or with anyone around him. 5- Compare the child with others

The wrong style followed by some mothers and affects the child's personality negatively because in this way he loses confidence in himself and feels weak and less than his friends. 6- Mocking the child

Especially in front of people who are close or friends, his psychological state is affected and he feels refracted, which increases his personality weakness. How to strengthen the child's personality

The child requires a great effort to form a strong and confident personality in itself, through some methods, which are: 1- Maintain a good example

When the child notices that the father or mother suffers from a weak personality, he will be the same, but when the father and mother have a strong and influential personality, the child will be printed with these good qualities.

A good example is important for teaching a child many of the behaviors he acquires over the years. 2- Let the child try and discover

Even if the mother is very anxious and fearful, she must make him face the situations and act on his own without interference from them, and she should monitor from a distance so that she knows how to act, support, and support him if he needs it.

This will make the child a fan of adventures, experiences, and confrontation, rather than being frightened and hesitant when dealing with anyone.

Here, the mother’s role is the counselor who gives him some instructions that make him behave better. 3- Make the child express himself

One of the most important ways to strengthen the child’s personality is to allow him to express himself and his views and to take it if it is correct, as this will make him more self-confident, and help him think about various things to reach the right solutions.

Also, the mother must leave her child to express his different emotions and reactions, because this is one of his rights, and if he does not do so, he will feel oppressed.

Over time, the child will be able to better control his feelings and behaviors. 4- Permanent stimulation of the child

The mother is the one who pushes her son forward, and by motivating him in various situations, she will contribute to forming and strengthening his personality.

You must let him know his strengths, and he is not weak and cannot be defeated. All this makes his self-confidence rise, and he is not afraid to deal with the people around him. 5- Making the child participate in various events

Whereas, isolating a child leads to his habit of staying alone and his fear of talking to anyone, so that he becomes shy, lonely, and social.

It is advised to take advantage of any opportunity for the child to participate in various activities that increase his contact with children of the same age, as well as an exercise in clubs, as it is an important matter to support his personality. 6- Improve the child's mental capabilities

When the child is smart and skillful in some of the things that distinguish him, his character will become strong and boast about what he does in front of everyone.

Therefore, the mother should help the child to develop his skills, discover his talents, and improve his mental capabilities, but without putting pressure on him.

This is through games that rely on intelligence, the habit of telling stories, and reading with the child to expand awareness and acquire cultures and information.

As well as talking with the child and clarifying all the matters that suit his age.

The mother must also answer the child's questions because he wants to understand and learn to apply what he learns in various aspects of life.

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Learn how to say no: thanks to these 3 simple techniques

We all find ourselves, at one time or another, having to say NO to those who ask too much of us.

But for many of us, "saying no" is difficult.

Yet it is a major key to assertiveness.

If you don't know how to say no, or if you don't dare to say no, then this article will give you some simple ways to unblock and assert yourself more effectively. Why is it so important to know how to say no?

Let's know how to say no for five good reasons:

1/ When we always respond favorably to everyone's needs and requests, we neglect and forget what is important to us and, in the long run, we risk exhaustion.

Moreover, in work, it is the inability to say "no" that leads to "burn-out".

Knowing how to say no nicely to others is a way of saying "yes" to oneself, of getting closer to one's desires.

2/ When you want to please everyone, all the time, you don't gain self-confidence.

Asserting yourself and daring to say no reinforces your self-confidence.

3/ By not expressing our own needs, desires, and wishes, we do not act following ourselves and we lose our value.

This is why saying no allows us to increase our self-esteem.

4/ Those who don't set their limits in front of toxic people get stepped on, let themselves be blamed, abused, and manipulated.

Being able to say no is a way to protect yourself and not get caught in the trap of manipulation.

5/ Finally, if you want to develop an assertive communication , you must be able to say no.

When I say "no", I'm in the "ok" position. Why don't most of us dare to say no?

There are three explanations:

1/ it's because of our fears:

   The fear of getting into conflict    Fear of being judged or criticized    The fear of being seen as selfish...    Fear of displeasing or hurting    Fear of having to justify or apologize...    Fear of guilt    The fear of rejection is linked to our need to be loved and accepted...

2. It's because of our beliefs:

Which stems mainly from our upbringing.

When our parents educated us with beliefs like these:

   ...we must please others... (and always be nice!)    we must think of others and give them what they want...    our opinion doesn't matter or doesn't count...    it's unwelcome or rude to say no...    and so on

3/ it's because of our lack of self-esteem and self-confidence:

When we lack self-esteem and self-confidence..,

   one is persuaded to be worth less than the others you feel like you can't even say no.    you think you don't have the right to say no.

Let's see now... How can I say no? How dare to say no?

Here's good news for men and women who suffer from not knowing how to say no:

   You can learn how to say "NO".

In this article, I want to show you how to learn how to say no thanks to 3 infallible techniques that will help you assert yourself effectively every time you have to "say no" to someone.

. Firstly, here is HOW TO SAY NO by mastering the broken record technique

The striped record technique is extremely simple and formidable.

It consists of repeating the same refusal several times in a row until the other person understands or gives up.

it is not because you say "no" once your interlocutor is not going to ask you again. You have to hold on while remaining calm, without getting angry and without getting lost:

"It's no! »

"I'm sorry, but it's no! »

"I'm sorry to say no, but it's no! »

. Second, here's HOW TO SAY NO using the fogging technique

This technique is very effective, especially when dealing with handlers and other toxic people.

What is it all about?

It is a question of not answering or rather avoiding answering your interlocutor in a precise way. You answer neither yes nor no, but you remain very vague.

Some words are precious to stay in the vagueness: "maybe", "it is possible", "without a doubt", "certainly", "I don't doubt it",...

. Third, here are four rules to follow to successfully say no:

. 1/ Don't be hesitant but be frank and firm when you say no to someone.

Express how you feel by using words like "I think that...", "I want...", "I too want..." or, "I think you're taking advantage of me a little...".

Your opinion and your feelings are important. So express them!

. 2/ You don't have to apologize or justify refusing something.

The danger is that if you give explanations for your refusal, you complicate the situation and embarrass yourself.

Being able to say no without justification is a habit to develop. So practice!

. 3/ Think first about yourself, your priorities, the things you want most in your life (your goals).

It's not selfish to think about yourself. The notion of cultivating selfishness is important when it comes to asserting yourself. The people who will call you selfish are those who want you to please them, satisfy their needs, in other words, their selfishness.

Listening to and respecting yourself first is positive selfishness.

  Always think of yourself BEFORE you empty yourself to give to others.

4/ Take your time to answer and if necessary, ask for a period of reflection and propose an alternative solution:

"no, I can't... today, but if you want, I can... tomorrow."

Remember that just because you express a refusal does not mean that you will be hated or devalued. The opposite is often true; you can gain more respect by knowing how to say "no".

That's why learning to say no makes it easier to break out of toxic relationships.

Of course, it is not a question of falling into the opposite excess and saying no all the time and to everyone. The goal is to find a balance to be happy without letting others take advantage of you with impunity.

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Learn how to live your live happy

If there is indeed an existential question to which we are all looking for an answer, it is: what is happiness? To be happy, however, we must know that everyone is free to build his or her happiness, based on his or her expectations and the way he or she conceives of happiness. However, there are a few rules that will help you in your daily life to live happily, whatever your conception of happiness may be, whether it's finding the job of your dreams or the ideal partner, starting a family, buying a house... Make peace with yourself and your past

When it comes to finding happiness, the first thing to do is to make peace with yourself. Self-acceptance is the key to happiness. If some people have difficulty in finding happiness, it is mainly because they put obstacles in their way. To fixate on one's weaknesses, shortcomings, or defects is to condemn oneself to not living a serene life. Already get to know yourself by taking stock of your qualities and your wealth. This step is important to become aware of your true values, and thus boost your self-confidence. Self-confidence plays a major role in happiness.

Therefore, the key to happiness is to accept yourself as you are and to bring yourself up to date with your past. Get used to the idea that some things can't be changed and that it's time to put aside the old grudges and resentments that prevent you from living life to the fullest today. So you need to move forward, to make peace with your past by settling any unfinished business, such as unresolved disputes, or to take the plunge on a project that has been left in the closet for too long. This allows you to start on the right foot towards a happy life. Recognizing your luck and finding meaning in your life

Another secret to living a happy life is recognizing your luck. In concrete terms, knowing how to take advantage of and accept what you already have can easily lead you to happiness. If you're healthy, have a spouse who loves you, children, friends, a home and a job, what else do you need? It is clear that if some people struggle to feel happy, it is because they seek perfection too much. Because you are a tenant in an apartment, you now want to own a big house in Cannes. Dreaming is one thing, but being realistic remains the best way to take giant steps forward.

The best thing you can do to find happiness in the life you're living right now is to simply give your life meaning. Make an honest assessment of your life and take the time to step back from your values, which are essentially about freedom, love, family, work... Ask yourself what you need to live happily. Following this reflection, it will be easier for you to define what you need to achieve your goals. This will allow you to define the goals that will allow you to fill the gap you are currently feeling. Deciding to be well and to take care of yourself

It is also important to know that happiness is above all a state of mind. In other words, if you want to be happy, you must give of yourself to be happy. Because everyone is the master of his or her happiness, to be happy you must make sure that you promote pleasant situations. Concretely, choose to be well and do not let sadness invade you. Your well-being opens the doors to happiness, which is important to sow, cultivate, and then reap. The objective is therefore to chase away, by all means, the negative emotions that simply affect your happiness. To do this, you will have to practice:

   Make sure you smile every day, knowing that smiling is contagious, which will make your days more pleasant.     Learn how to manage your emotions, whether it's fear leading to flight, sadness attracting compassion, or anger intimidating those around you.    Listen to those around you and make the most of the good times you have with your colleagues, family, and friends.    Take care of yourself as much as you can, by treating yourself to dinner at a restaurant with your significant other, by giving you that jacket that you've fallen for or why not a day at the spa to relax.

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How To Find Friends - The 3 Tips You Need

As you have noticed, friendship is sort of the "fall theme" on SBK. It is easy to understand why: without a developed social circle, the proactive spirit of the seducer is called into question. And then materially, it is the seducer who underlies the idea of self-confidence and security. Friends are sacred!

The problem is that the vicissitudes of everyday life do not always allow us to maintain a wide circle of profitable interactions. Shyness, fear of other people's gaze, lack of time or psychological isolation... the causes of loneliness are many. What I propose to you today, are 3 tips to improve your credibility as an interlocutor.  You will quickly make more friends and find the support you need to constantly strengthen your personality. find friends

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It's an almost indisputable truth, we tend to appreciate more people who seem to be able to do something for us, to bring us something we lack. After all, we are only human beings and selfishness is difficult to internalize.

Having said that, it is a communicational manoeuvre that allows us to set ourselves up as potentially capable of responding to the needs of others, without necessarily impinging on our own personal affirmation.

The latter consists of a "proposal for resolution" of a problem that has been put forward. Through open-ended questions and active listening when you meet strangers, you will be able to detect certain hazards that can be resolved by the notion of mutual aid.

From a colleague who would have liked to have a drink, but could not catch the train home, to a stranger who declines an invitation because of a lack of financial means, to a young woman who can no longer find her way home... your involvement can help a relationship that is, at first glance, fleeting and quick to develop into a relationship of trust.

Thus, you can propose to bring the first one back by car (allowing you to sympathize during the trip), to invite the second one at your expense (provided you have the means and that you think the person is worth it, of course) or to physically accompany the third one to the place you are looking for.

Contrary to what some people think, no, altruism does not lead to the adoption of a position of dominance. It is in fact a formal proof of your desire to share, of your willingness to deepen the ongoing exchange.

This notion of "service" can be decisive when making new friendships. From the outset, it allows you to demonstrate a certain generosity and acceptance of interaction. This is always a decisive point when it comes to evolving in contact with others.

READ ALSO: 7 Tips for making friends at FCC The personalization of verbal exchanges

For your new acquaintances to have a sense of fulfillment at your side and include you in their social circles, you need to be able to show them your interest to a personal degree.

As you know, social interaction is such that your reactions influence the image that your interlocutors have of themselves. By allowing them to feel important, listened to and admired, you will set in motion a reciprocal mechanism.

Therefore, always be sure to include specific requests when you ask a particular person a question. Be the kind of person who asks for personal opinions and advice before making judgments.

The more you have the ability to insist on the contribution you are satisfied with, the more the individuals involved will tend to have you right.

In concrete terms, you will therefore avoid always bringing everything back to you in a discussion. Your objective is to maintain the dialogue by positioning yourself in such a way as to try to decipher the experiences shared by your interlocutors.

The ability to approach the areas corresponding to the expertise of the people you meet by questioning them about their own adventures creates a strong psychological and intellectual bond, from which the notion of trust is derived. The refusal of the solemn

It's not always easy to talk to people you don't know... especially if the goal is to build a social network. You are not afraid of being too reserved or on the contrary too "daring" in your communication.

At this level, I stopped worrying about it a long time ago. Banker or baker, I don't make any difference. It's true, if you take a close look, you can see that our formulations evolve according to the idea we have of our interlocutors.

We will then be more respectful with an "official" (salesman, adviser...) than with an ordinary person whose legitimacy does not seem to surpass ours.

In a respectful manner, I often liven up the conversation with a witty remark or a funny observation to bring down the tension. It works pretty well... I now count among my friends the sofa salesman who sold me my sofa!

The trick is simply to dissociate function and personality. When I was already a civil servant, I was the only one who was on first-name terms with my manager. One day I was even told "but you're crazy, he's a great lawyer at the Paris court"... So what? Does that stop him from laughing at a good joke, watching football or enjoying watching girls?

If politeness is a must, there's no point in being pompous. Using humour and lightness also means proving to your interlocutors that you think they're clever enough to follow suit!

Today's reflection is not intended to provide you with particular techniques or ideas for outings. I've already written two other articles that are more concrete, more focused on describing the terrain. No, our reasoning here is mainly about the stakes and personal obligations of an interaction that can lead to friendship. So I hope it has been useful in that sense.

What about you? Do you have methods or observations that can help improve the relational qualities of other readers? Feel free to share!

PS. Do you want to go even further?

... then feel free to watch this video where I show you how to overcome your shyness and fight loneliness. You will also learn conversation techniques and effective strategies to build a large and solid social circle:

Having a group of friends who love and respect you... Lots of stimulation and a very active social life, but still leaves you time to take care of other aspects of your life. unforgettable experiences with friends, and friends of friends: trips, parties, adventures with friends... etc. Birthday parties like you've NEVER had before People who knew you before will be CHOQUE to see all this evolution; but it will happen in such a natural way, that they will find it normal that it is YOU who have such results.

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how to stop smoking with a simple steps

you've decided to finally quit smoking and you're starting tomorrow!

Yes, but you soon realize that you have a few obstacles in your path and these may put sticks in your wheels.

Here's how to get out of the tobacco grip.

Make lists! Start by writing a list of reasons why you want to quit:

- it's bad for your health, your health and the health of your loved ones

- smoking smells bad in the car, in the house and the smell of tobacco on your clothes, your hair, and especially your breath is awful ...

- it costs a lot of money, the price of the packet increases with each year and becomes a luxury product

- smoking forces you to leave a restaurant, a party, or someone's home and breaks up the conversation in progress.

Next, write down your list of success tools.

- meditation

- relaxation

- sport

- the patch

- chewing gum

- acupuncture - books to stop smoking - positive attitude - hypnosis Then make a list of obstacles and how to avoid them. - Stress: you can relieve stress in many ways. Relaxation, positive books, podcasts, sports, singing, manual activities... - temptation: it is important to limit as much as possible the dangerous moments of temptation, especially at the beginning of the stop. Avoid going out in smoking areas, if possible avoid being around smokers for at least two weeks, choose one of the above tools for extreme moments of temptation. - Fear: be aware that quitting smoking does not cause a physical lack, it is almost only a mental lack. The moment of desire passes in a few minutes, just take care of the hands and ( mind for 5 minutes and it gets better very quickly. - Routine: every smoker is used to smoking at certain times, for example after meals, some start at breakfast. Breaks are often impossible without a cigarette. The slightest stress is considered as a good reason to smoke... These habits must be exchanged by others to block the feeling of lack. For example, you can drink a large glass of water and breathe 5 times deeply when you feel the stress rising. You may decide to go out for a walk and take a breath after the meal. Being active makes it easier to change your routine.

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Five tips to chose the food that will make you happy

We are often told that we have to behave in such a way to be happy, but can be finding happiness also be directly influenced by what we eat? Many studies show very clearly that our level of happiness is directly influenced by the quality of the bacteria and neurons in our intestines. Our intestine is made up of millions of neurons, just like those in the brain.

These intestinal neurons are directly connected to the neurons in the brain via a nerve called the vagus nerve. Simply put, everything that happens in the intestine influences what happens in our brain (thoughts, emotions, feelings, well-being, clarity of mind...). But it works the other way around too, with our brain also influencing what happens in our belly, under the state of fear we can have stomach pain for example or gas. In other words, what does it mean? It simply means that if we eat food that promotes bad bacteria in the intestine and gives a hard time to our intestinal neurons, these will influence our mind very negatively. Here are some basic principles: Finding happiness through food starts at the store... Before looking to eat well to find happiness, it all starts when you go shopping. First of all, always do them after you eat. Then, don't buy bad products that you won't be able to resist once you're in your cupboards. If you don't have bad products, you will fall back on good things if you have a sudden urge to eat. The most ideal way to provide it with quality nutrients and to always have a varied portion of organic vegetables at our meals, which are not cooked and as nature gives them to us. Cooking destroys a large part of the nutrients, prefer gentle steaming if necessary. Eat healthily, but treat yourself Whatever your style of eating to eat healthily, always treat yourself to the dishes that make you feel like eating from time to time, once or twice a week, and favoring quality products (organic, local, fresh...). Finding happiness through food also means knowing how to enjoy yourself from the moment we eat healthy every day.

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Regaining self-confidence: 3 simple keys to apply

Wondering how to regain your self-confidence? 

Either because you've suffered from shyness or lack of confidence for a long time. Or because an event has caused you to lose confidence (emotional separation, dismissal, etc.).

In both cases, this handicaps you in all your relationships and deeply influences the image you have of yourself. Don't worry: you are not alone, many people wonder how to have self-confidence? And that's something you can acquire or regain if you do the right thing.

As a coach specializing in emotional intelligence, I've done work on self-confidence, one of my specialties. Why did you do it? Because the people I coach, the (hyper) sensitive ones, generally suffer from a lack of self-confidence. I have therefore built tailor-made support for them, based on online training and a very innovative energetic treatment in the practice: the LINE QUARTZ.

Let's see how it helped Astrid, a shopkeeper, to recover her self-confidence after a difficult love break-up.

What does it mean to regain self-confidence?

First of all, we must know that lack of self-confidence is characterized by an excessive analysis of our reactions. The person with low self-confidence is constantly preoccupied with himself, is constantly self-critical, judges himself regularly, is subject to external pressure, etc..

As a consequence, this inhibits and slows down his faculties, especially in a group. She doesn't dare to be herself, which prevents her from living the way she wants to live and asserting her personality! She thus misses out on many pleasures in life. I would even say, without exaggerating, that she denies herself, living well below her real potential. It is a phenomenon that many hypersensitive people who feel "different" tend to hide what they feel...

What is shyness?

It can come from childhood or trauma in adulthood (e.g. you are fired at work, based on reproaches that are very difficult for you to accept). At the age of 42, after 16 years of marriage and 19 years of living together with the same man, Astrid felt humiliated by his betrayal. She became aware that she was deceived and that this infidelity had lasted for at least 2 years. She was at the same time downhearted and very angry. But most of all... she felt guilty about herself. If her boyfriend had gone elsewhere, it's because she had to have had something to do with it, she kept repeating to herself...

The result: a very big loss of self-confidence and self-esteem. Why were you rejected like that? Was she still valuable as a woman? Would she be able to seduce a man again? Etc, etc. All these questions were on her mind for many months after the separation. Astrid was sinking deeper and deeper. She who, at the base, was already hypersensitive, was living there real emotional chaos.

No matter what caused the lack of trust. Without her, it is very difficult to move forward in life. Here, Astrid had no taste for anything. She didn't believe in anything anymore (and especially no longer in herself!). Moped on her fate. And the worst: her loss of confidence in the field of love had impacted all the other spheres of her life: she now doubted herself for everything! How could she bounce back and regain her self-confidence in such a situation?

1st key to regain self-confidence: reconsider your beliefs

One of the first things you can do to regain your self-confidence (or simply gain self-confidence) is to change your beliefs about yourself. To do this (regardless of the origin of your loss of confidence), you can use different techniques:

- follow one of the many therapies that exist

- follow coaching geared towards confidence and self-esteem

- personal development books

- do exercises on your own, to gradually build up your confidence level

- use techniques such as hypnosis, self-hypnosis, self-suggestion, Coué method, kinesiology, etc.

- etc.

Why are the beliefs we hold about ourselves essential in terms of trust?

Quite simply, because we do not have an immutable personality, predetermined since our childhood. Of course, we have a deep nature, a genetic background, but we can change the way we look at ourselves.

At any age, we can refine our personality and adopt another mask (since the word "personality" comes from "persona", mask, we can change it at will). And therefore, do not allow yourself to be enclosed by beliefs, such as "chase the natural, it comes back at a gallop", "you've been like this since you were a child, you won't change", etc.

Concretely, whatever the lack of trust that strikes you today, I invite you to list on paper all the beliefs (what you tell yourself about yourself!) that limit you: I'm too much this, not enough that, I lack..., I'm always afraid of..., etc. Then, go through them one by one and ask yourself about their relevance.  Then, you replace each negative belief by another one, more promising, and you train yourself to embody it. Over and over again!

In the case of Astrid, following her husband's adultery, she carried ultra-limiting beliefs with her:

- I am not capable of keeping a man

- I'm not up to it as a couple.

- my companion was not satisfied with what I gave her, because I was growing old badly (I remind you that she was only 42 years old!).

- I didn't live up to her expectations in terms of sexuality.

- I can no longer bring any satisfaction to a man...

- my life as a woman is over.

and the like

For her, gradually replacing her beliefs with more promising ones was a real challenge. It was achieved through energetic care. I will come back to this later.

2nd key: change your image

Secondly, you want to gradually change the image you have of yourself. Stop criticizing yourself all the time. Don't ask yourself how you can have more charisma? How can I overcome my shyness? Etc. This puts you under great and counter-productive pressure because it is linked to the obligation to be more this or more that...

On the contrary, enhance yourself. Focus on all the "good" in yourself. Honestly acknowledge your qualities, your positive sides - we all have them, so you have them too - and highlight them whenever possible. To do this, a useful little trick: write down in a notebook every day what you appreciate about yourself, everything you do well, all your successes, everything that goes well in your life. In the long run, this will strengthen your self-esteem and therefore your self-confidence.

To do this, you can call on an outside professional, such as a psychotherapist or a life coach like me. The advantage? This external expert, not being emotionally involved in the situation, will help you to bring a neutral and objective look at you and your assets. But in any case, it will be up to you and you alone to (re)appropriate them and, through them, to regain your self-confidence.

In order to help my clients to be autonomous in this crucial process, I have created an HYPERSENSIBLE AND MAGNETIC online training. You will find all the tools to reveal and become aware of all your resources, even the most hidden ones. This is what Astrid has done, at her own pace by following this training step by step. Of course, she had to get out of her comfort zone (several exercises particularly moved her, she confessed to me and... it's normal!) to succeed, but real confidence clicks were created in her.

Using your assets to regain self-confidence

In a methodical way, as this training is intended to review the whole person and her life, Astrid has reappropriated essential assets such as :

(I share with you here some real examples among the dozens of realizations she had)

IN RELATION TO HIS LIFE:

- she was very independent at a very young age after the death of her mother...

- she took care of her siblings when she was not yet an adult.

- it quickly became financially independent thanks to its business (today it is still not financially dependent on anyone)

- she owns her own house

- she faced and overcame several major challenges in her life (a court case, her daughter's disability, etc.).

- she has raised and educated almost alone (her partner worked a lot) 3 children she can be proud of

….

IN RELATION TO ITS QUALITIES:

- Perseverance...

- courage

- audacity

- resilience

- the up to the end

- faith in his lucky star despite the obstacles

- aggression

- the intuition to be guided towards solutions

…

COMPARED TO HER FEMININITY:

by "objectively" looking at herself in the mirror, Astrid realized that..:

- she still had a beautiful body for a woman over 40.

- she loved the color and shape of his piercing eyes...

- she'd barely gained any weight in ten years.

- she had beautiful long hair

- his companion had always complimented him on his very round and delicate forms.

- she had experienced great moments of pleasure in sexuality (until he turned away from her...)

- it had always attracted the attention of men (and women too, for that matter).

- she never had any trouble seducing a man...

…

3rd key to greater self-confidence: taking action

There's a saying that to eat an elephant, you have to cut it into small slices. That's exactly what self-confidence is all about. You're not at 0 in self-confidence in all areas. So I invite you to point out the areas where you lack it and those where you feel more at ease. Then to face your fears, one by one, by challenging yourself in everyday life. Give yourself small challenges every day to gradually exceed your limits. All of this, in a totally benevolent manner towards yourself, is essential!

This will allow you to feel yourself progressing, day after day, and by doing so, to take advantage of the law of attraction: by gradually regaining self-confidence, your attitude will change. And your change of attitude will make you attract favorable people and circumstances to help you continue on the same path. To put it another way, you will benefit from the virtuous circle of self-confidence: the positive always attracts the positive! (and it's the same with the negative).

In Astrid's case, she was able to take small steps towards more confidence. She was even very happy with her evolution since the beginning of the MAGNETIC HYPERSENSIBLE training. But she felt completely blocked when it came to trusting a man again. That was the limit for her. That's when she contacted me to come and test Linequartz's care

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8 evidence that you are very lucky

It has probably happened to you to say sentences like "nothing is going the way I want", "everything is bad", "definitely I have bad luck" and to think that you are unlucky and that the world is falling apart around you. You have already felt that nothing will ever work out and that you will never be really happy ... The next time you get these thoughts, read the following list again, think about these things and you will feel much better immediately and that in the end, you are very

1. You have the possibility of eating when you're hungry I do not think I am wrong in saying that in us and Europe and most industrialized countries, it is impossible to die of hunger or thirst. Even the poorest can go to institutions like soup kitchens, heart restaurants, the Red Cross, etc. to eat and drink. If you read this article, you eat your fill, that's for sure!

2. You have running water When you are in your apartment or your house, you are less than 20 meters from a tap through which comes out drinking water, hot or cold. You have the option of • drinking when you are thirsty • taking a good shower or even a bubble bath • cleaning whatever is dirty as soon as you want and just by turning on the tap! It is a luxury that less than 30 percent of the world's population can afford.

3. You have a roof over your head This is also one of the luxuries that many do not have in poor countries. Some live in shantytowns that enter water as soon as it rains. Others have seen their homes soar, burn or be destroyed by enemy tribes ... and live in tents in refugee camps or the wild. you won't sleep outside unless you want to.

4. you have People that love you It is important not to forget that people think of you and love you. There is always someone who loves you and who thinks you somewhere on this earth. Your lover, your husband or wife, your parents, your children, your friends, not to mention your pet. It's still very nice to think about it from time to time.

5. You have electricity This seems to you just as normal and banal as '' running water and I think it is important to appreciate the fact that it is enough to press the switch for the light to come on. Electricity allows you to wash clothes just by pressing a button with 'Index !!! Incredible for billions of people. You can vacuum up the dirt, watch TV, hang music, heat up, wash the dishes, and even read this article thanks to the fabulous electricity.

6. You can get treatment if you are sick This is one of the advantages that even the population of certain "developed" countries, whose names I will not mention, do not always offer everyone. You are one of the privileged who need not be afraid of losing everything they have if a leg is broken. You can go to the hospital and you can have surgery if you need to, whether you're a millionaire or unemployed.

7. Your senses work and your eyes allow you to read this article! We all tend to forget how lucky we are to take advantage of our 5 senses. What a joy to open your eyes in the morning and rediscover the beauty of the world, to see the sunrise and a smile on the lips of the people we love. How nice it is to smell fresh coffee, taste a good croissant, and hug those you love. Feel the emotions conveyed by the music. Your 5 senses are working, so use them and be aware of how lucky you are, not everyone. Do not wait until one of your senses no longer works as well to appreciate it for its true value and to enjoy all the happiness it can bring you.

8. You are free You are on this blog, it means that you enjoy the freedom of movement and thoughts and that you are interested in personal development and happiness. So you are on the right track to improve yourself and make the world a better place. It also means that you are smart enough to make ingenious choices that will make you even better and bring happiness to those around you.

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8 tips to be loved by everyone

Do you want to become loved by everyone,  Here are our tips # 1 mirror strategy

Researchers at New York University have highlighted the "chameleon effect", which occurs when a person unconsciously imitates their interlocutor. The imitated person then experiences a surge of sympathy for the person who copies their gestures. Probably because he has the impression of looking at himself in the mirror. Which fills his ego. To make yourself appreciated by someone, reproduce their body language and expressions. But discreetly: if you stare at your target while roughly reproducing everything they do, they will just want to call psychiatric emergencies.

# 2 emotional contagion

Want the most popular girl medal? Be cheerful. We suspected it, but a study by the University of Ohio confirms it: emotions are contagious. So the more you will be in a good mood, the more your positive waves will envelop your interlocutors of sweet well-being. Soon, they will be addicted to the cool shoot you can get them. In the same vein: those who smile intensely during a first meeting are also those who have remembered best afterward. So smile with all your teeth to be a double popularity medalist.

# 3 subliminal touch

This tactic is to casually touch the person you want to be appreciated. And hop, a mini pat on the back. a hand on his forearm, but so furtively that he barely notices it. According to the researchers, these gestures create a positive impression on the one who initiates them. Distrust anyway: there are people allergic to touch exchanges. In this case, opt for the "spontaneous transfer of character", which consists of saying good things about people, all the time, which gives the impression, according to the researchers, that whoever states these qualities is also provided ...

# 4 Shared values

What ties you to your best friend? The passion for sneakers, road trips, and feminism ... It's obvious: we are magnetized by those who look like us. It's called a similar attraction. Social psychology researcher Theodore Newcomb theorized it by locking up students for several days in a house and submitting them to topics ranging from politics to sex. The more similar opinions they had, the higher they rated the other. So to make you appreciate, find a common value, and put it back on the carpet with each discussion with your target ...

# 5 Fall theory

To make you love, it's not about playing Miss Perfect. On the contrary, you would do well to deliver some faults. An American researcher separated students who answered a quiz perfectly into two groups: those who answered well but also spilled their cup of coffee on the floor (at his request), and those who just had everything good. As a result, the bright, but clumsy students were the most sympathetic. According to this “theory of falling“, we always prefer competent but imperfect people, which makes them vulnerable and therefore closer.

# 6 Self-disclosure

It’s the best relationship-building strategy. It consists of throwing a little secret to develop intimate proximity and make you want to confide in return. American researchers have had students talk for 45 minutes to a series of increasingly personal questions to ask, such as: "How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?" Another group stayed in the small talk, asking only surface questions ("do you like cinema?"). Conclusion: those who had gathered intimate information about the other felt closer to him.

# 7 Theory of self-checking

What does each expect from a relationship with the other? Confirmation of his opinions about himself. Whether positive ... or negative. That is to say that if someone overkill, he will spontaneously approach those who overestimate him. Conversely, a person with a low opinion of him will find more sympathetic those who note (a little) his faults. This theory has even been tested by researchers at Stanford University. So if your target is subject to self-denigration, don't push it down, but don't tell them it's wonderful either: they'd find you suspicious ...

# 8 Listening tactics

Do you want a max of likes? Nothing easier. Just let others speak. Because the whole world loves to listen to each other, and the more vacant the floor space, the more points you will earn. According to Harvard researchers, the pleasure of talking about oneself is on the same level as that of eating, earning money, or making love. On MRI scans, it’s the same brain reward area that blinks. In short, to win unanimity, buckle it up and shake your head with conviction. Nothing keeps you from screaming in boredom inwardly. But it takes what it takes to become the prom queen.

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this why you need to stop watching too much television

it's Bad habit to spend too much time on the couch watching TV

Why it's dangerous

The more you watch TV, the less physical activity you make, the more likely you are going to be overweight and get type 2 diabetes. A large study of over 9,000 people found that those who watched more than two hours of television a day ate more while consuming more sugary soft drinks and high-calorie snack foods than those who watched less.

If television replaces the time you normally spend on one of your hobbies, visiting friends, or brainstorming, then it can also speed up memory loss.

Why you should stop

By substituting time spent watching television for activity and committing to achieving a good balance between television and physical activity, you will burn more calories, get fit, and quickly reduce your risk of health problems. You will be fitter and have more time to sleep, more energy, a better mood, a brighter mind, and more social ties, which can even help you increase your self-confidence.

How to change this habit

  Follow the 2/30 rule: no more than two hours of TV per day, and at least 30 minutes of exercise.

   Let go of the remote control: only turn on the TV when you have a particular program to watch. Go outside rather than go from one chain to another without thinking.

   Do not snack in front of the TV: it is all too easy to swallow hundreds of calories in the form of potato chips without even noticing.

    Exercise in front of the screen: walk in the place, do sit-ups, push-ups, or set up your exercise mat in the TV room. 

    Do some house cleaning during pubs: run away from food ads by emptying trash cans, vacuuming rooms, or throwing loads of laundry in the washing machine. This can add about 20 minutes to your daily calorie expenditure goal.

    Make up your mind to get out of the house more often: visit friends, do things that interest you, and get your mind moving every day.

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learn these six things in ten minutes to double your productivity 10 times

You are likely having multiple responsibilities and tasks to perform each day. However, being “productive” does not have the same meaning as being “busy”. Adopt some of these habits after reading this article, and you will be more productive for the rest of your life.

1. Establish priorities You cannot achieve anything in life if you do not know exactly what you want. Having plans requires you (or at least should require you) to do something. Priorities are things you need to do in your personal or professional life. To better prioritize, identify your most important tasks, separate urgent tasks from important tasks, determine the value of each of these tasks, and rank them in order of importance. Finally, add the estimated time for each of these tasks. For my part, as a freelance copywriter, the priority is first to satisfy customers before promoting me. 2. Write your actions Do not rely too much on your memory. You will miss it when you need it most. Instead, take notes daily. By writing down everything that needs to be done in the week, you will get a better idea of ​​what needs to be done - and you can then prioritize accordingly. 3. Separate urgent tasks from important tasks What is urgent today may not be important tomorrow. It is up to you to know what is urgent and requires immediate attention and what is important and maybe postponed tomorrow. Set clear rules and limits so you don't overload yourself. Don't be afraid to postpone replying to an email, or any other secondary task tomorrow, so you can focus on your urgent tasks. 4. Focus on one thing at a time The ability to focus is an underestimated skill. And doing one spot at a time changes everything. This forces you to maintain your concentration. And your performance can be multiplied by 2 5 if you can carry out a single task voluntarily and without almost any distraction. When you have a clear priority at some point, the one-stop approach is the best approach to get things done as quickly as possible. When you're on the go, you get more done in less time while reducing stress. 5. Use the 80/20 rule I'm sure you've heard of the Pareto principle, also known as the 80/20 rule: focus on the few things that bring you the most benefit. This principle states that, for many events, about 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes. If you force yourself to focus on the essential tasks that have a great return on investment, you will be more productive, you will get more results and you will simplify your life. To do more in less time, note the time you devote your tasks each hour of the day during a week: • How many of your activities have allowed you to get closer to your goals? • How much was a waste of time? • How many could have been delegated? Choose 20% of your tasks that produce 80% of the results and simply delegate or stop the others. To continue efficiently by working less and getting more, use the following rule: Choose the three most important tasks for each day and focus entirely on achieving them within a specific time frame 6. Measure your actions and your results! Do not judge yourself only by the tasks that you have accomplished, but also by those that you could have accomplished if you had used better working methods. If you don't take the time to assess your results and figure out how to further apply what works, you will be wasting a lot of time in activities that have little impact on your productivity. Take the time to analyze your efforts, and document how you invest your time. Are you getting the results you expect? It may seem like a waste of time at first, but once you see how valuable performance data is for improving you, you will begin to take stock of how you have used your time, and most importantly how to improve that.

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6 Keys to be happy as a couple

To be happy and to share your happiness with your partner, your husband, your wife, that is what we are all looking for. But how do you get there and most importantly how do you make it last? Here are 6 keys to help you stay happy as a couple.

Key # 1: Tolerance Accept your partner as he/she is, with his/her good and bad sides. Do not try to change or transform it so that it is as you wish. Accept the fact that he/she is different and therefore that he/she necessarily sees things in a different way than you. If you tolerate certain faults in your partner, it will tolerate yours and this will make your relationship stronger and much more peaceful. The differences are normal and healthy in a couple. When they are accepted and respected by everyone, they give value to the couple and allow the plenaries to be complementary. Let yourself be tempted by what your other half can make you discover and bring you, even if you are not initially convinced by his/her proposals. This will allow you to evolve. Key # 2: unconditional love Love your partner as you want to be loved. Give without expecting anything in return. Love does not count points. Giving love is as good for the one who gives it as for the one who receives it and it is excellent for health. When love is so strong, it attracts positive waves and love around you. Feel the good that it makes to love so strongly and enjoy the happiness that you give around you. Key # 3: the novelty Boredom and routine are poisons for the couple. This is the reason why it is important to avoid routine by creating surprises and ringing the daily routine from time to time. You can spice up your relationship very easily without spending a lot of money and without too much preparation. You can, for example, give a small gift to your spouse without reason to show him that you think of him or make a small outing, cook something brand new, change his look, make a softie in an unexpected place ... The possibilities are endless, the important thing is to amaze or amaze the other, it strengthens love and happiness. Key # 4: communication It is essential in the life of two. Too many happy couples at the beginning end up not understanding each other and saying things to themselves which they then regret because of poor communication. Here are the important points for good communication: • Express yourself and say what you think or feel to your partner. Do not wait for him to guess your mood or your desire. Tell him precisely and this when you feel it and not several hours or several days later. This allows your partner to know how you feel and better understand yourself. • Listen to your partner: do not try to guess what he is going to say or interpret his words. Pay attention to the words he uses and to the equally important non-verbal communication. You will have a much better understanding of your love. • Adapt to your partner, use the words and gestures he understands, and teach him to decode your signs. Long-term happy couples know each other well although they no longer need words to understand each other. • Respect your partner, especially during arguments (uncontrollable) and when opinions differ. It is the key to successful communication. • Be honest, never lie to them to please them, or look for someone who meets your expectations 100%. She does not exist. These are the most important mistakes made on dating sites: the false profile, or excessive expectations. Conversely, many engage in doomed stories without knowing what really suits them. Key # 5: the shores and common objectives Couples that last are those that in the same direction and that project themselves into the future. For this, it is important that the two partners have dreams or common objectives that boost them, bring them together, and give them a reason for being and the desire to move forward together. Unacknowledged dreams or opposing goals in some couples lead to frustration and breakdown. People who get back in a relationship do not make the same mistake again and tell their new partner right away what they dream of and what they want to do with the rest of their lives. Key # 6: intimacy It should not be forgotten that a couple is formed by two very distinct people. Each of us needs some privacy from time to time. It is important to respect this and therefore to make sure that each of the two partners has the possibility of withdrawing to spend some time alone with themselves. On the other hand, the spouse does not have to know everything, it is necessary to be able to keep a small secret garden which belongs only to oneself so as not to completely surrender to the other.

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Succeed at work: 5 effective advice towards promotion

How to succeed at work? How to put all the chances on his side to land the promotion so hoped for? This article gives you 5 tips to maximize your chances of achieving this goal!

I don't know about you, but I entered the job market in 2008. Since I started working, I hear that it is the crisis and that times are hard. Belonging to Generation Y, I even heard that the latter was defined as "the generation sacrificed".

The context is, therefore, apparently, not terrible to hope to have a good career progression as we knew in the days of the glorious 30s. It is true, at the time, I heard beautiful stories about someone who started in a producing company and who is now the Managing Director.

Furthermore, even when I obtained my fine diplomas and I presented myself proudly at my first job interviews, I was a little disappointed. I was only perceived as a young graduate with no experience among so many others.

Like you, so I made my experience. I learned from my mistakes and persisted.

Today, 11 years later, I take pride in looking back. I was fortunate to belong successively to execution colleges, then a master's degree, and today I am doing my bit of work within the framework college.

I will, of course, spare you my Curriculum Vitae but I would like to share with you the 5 elements that, in my opinion, make the difference to succeed at work.

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9 signs that your friend may have a crush on you

Most people think they understand their friends very well. In the majority of cases, they are right. But when feelings of love start to surface, things can get complicated.

You may have said to yourself, at one point or another, that a friend might consider a little more than a friendship with you. It can be difficult to decode emotions unless you have a keen sense of observation and intuition.

To successfully decipher a friend’s emotions, you have to look at how they behave in your presence. But it's not as simple as it sounds. Some people mask their emotions very well.

HERE ARE 9 SIGNS THAT YOUR FRIEND MIGHT HAVE THE BEGIN FOR YOU: 1. HE “AVOIDS” YOU IN PUBLIC

If you are having other friends and that particular friend deliberately avoids you, this may be a sign of crush. Notice how it works when you are together again. Does he suddenly become adorable as if he had never avoided you? He probably has a crush and doesn't want others to know about it.

Also discover: Love will find you when it's the right time 2. HE ALWAYS LAUGHS AT YOUR Jokes

Does no one laugh at your jokes except this friend? It could be a good sign that he doesn't just consider you a friend. Frequency and suddenness are good indicators, as with many things on this list. Ad 3. IT TOUCHES YOU AS SOON AS IT CAN

If your friend touches you more than usual or makes an effort to reduce the distance between you, this may be a good sign that they have a crush. This can appear obvious: hugs, or more subtly, like accidentally touching you when you're in a crowded place. 4. IT STARTS TO IMITATE YOU

Imitation is one of the most obvious indicators of attraction. This has been demonstrated in several scientific studies involving psychology and the mechanisms of attraction.

So if you notice that your friend suddenly imitates your body language or other behaviors, it may indicate that he is attracted to you.

Read also: 5 things that happen when you meet someone good after a toxic relationship 5. HE LIKES TO SURPRISE YOU

If your friend suddenly starts to surprise you - with gifts, food, or whatever - it may indicate that he has a crush. Frequency is important here because some people are just very generous. Use your common sense and intuition. Ad 6. HE TAKES VERY ATTENTION TO HIS APPEARANCE WHEN HE IS WITH YOU

One of the most obvious ways to tell when your friend has a crush is when he suddenly becomes concerned about his appearance. Even more when he knows you're going to be somewhere, and goes the extra mile to put on his 31. 7. YOU GET THE IMPRESSION THAT IT IS ALWAYS LOOKING AT YOU

If you notice that your friend suddenly starts looking at you, it may be a sign that you are attracting him now. A generally reliable sign is if it appears to be doing so when there are many other people in the same room. He may even lower his eyes or look elsewhere if you meet his gaze.

Related article: 23 signs that your partner truly respects you 8. IT ALWAYS BECOMES AVAILABLE WHEN YOU ARE THERE

If your friend tells you that he or she decided to go somewhere when your name has just been mentioned, this is a sign. There is every opportunity to spend some time with you. 9. IT BECOMES SUDDENLY SHY WITH YOU

It’s different for everyone, but sudden shyness can be a telltale sign. The best explanation is that he is probably dealing with the complex thoughts and feelings that accompany a friend's crush ... or you just make him nervous now

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Five secrets to find the love of your life

Like many people, you are looking for falling in love,  its secrets to finally find your happiness.

1. Falling in love and staying that way is knowing how to let yourself be surprised by love and therefore move forward with a light heart. The 1st brake on this? an ex who trots us in the head. A false love belief that has been ingrained in us for a long time that tarnishes our relationships. Secret # 1: Move forward in a relationship with a light heart. This is the heart of step 1 of the method, taking stock to free yourself from everything that hinders your romantic development.

2. It is difficult to find love when you do not know what kind of person can make us happy over time. We then allow ourselves to be led by our surface attractions, which are rarely very constructive in love… and we then run towards disappointing and incomplete relationships! Secret # 2: Find out WHO can make you happy over time. Step 2 helps you sharpen your gaze and guides you to promote and trigger opportunities for good meetings, those that matter, those that fill you.

3. In love, you cannot seduce the other over time if you do not offer the other the essence of yourself. That is to say, if you do not release from yourself what makes you unique, apart, touching ... In what cases does this happen? When you don't know yourself well when you don't assume certain traits of yourself and you only present yourself in certain facets when you want to control your seduction. In all of these cases, we fail to release the essence that makes us loved for ourselves. Of course, we can create attraction, but we don't give the other catches for him or her to love us for a long time! Secret # 3: Reveal what's unique about you. With this 3rd step, reveal yourself differently, let your charm shine on the other. He sometimes also hides in your imperfections, your contradictions, in your doubts ... so don't waste time composing a character who is only 50% of yourself while it is the other 50% who sublimate and touch you. the other deep down!

4. Chance has nothing to do with love. Love is above all a question of the disposition of mind. To provoke beautiful meetings, it is to adopt a provision of opening and reception which makes that the alchemy circulates much more easily. Secret # 4: Take the lead! Adopt this disposition of mind, in this step, while remaining yourself to meet, recognize, and interest the people made for you! Don't wait for love to knock on your door, knock on hers.

5. The future of a relationship is played from the start! Certain attitudes, certain behaviors adopted are errors that do not allow the relationship to last. Secret # 5: Adopt THE right attitude, the one that lays the foundation for a built relationship! This is the heart of this last step, discover the keys to creating the intimacy and the bond necessary for lasting love.

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Characteristics that men find attractive in women you don't know

women think they know exactly what men find attractive in them. But it seems that what men find attractive is more complicated than most women ever imagined. If you’d wish to know what do men find sexy, it is a surprising truth!

A Good Personality

What are men attracted to? Believe it or not, an honest personality is basically one among the qualities.

For years, that response has been a collective cultural joke about how a lady looks. When someone doesn’t look conventionally attractive, people often joke that she has “a great personality.”

What are the aspects of an honest personality that men find attractive? It can range from honesty and respect all the thanks to a willingness to require risks. The unifying element, though, is that an honest personality tends to be positive and upbeat.

It’s the personality that wins guys over and sometimes causes them to fall crazy with someone they wouldn’t otherwise find highly attractive. Higher Voice

When you ask “what do men find attractive during a woman,” most of the people expect answers about physical features. However, one surprising thing that men specialize in is that the pitch of a woman’s voice.

Up to a particular point, men find women with a higher-pitched voice to be sexier than those without. we are saying “up to a particular point” because if someone seems like a cartoon character or a helium huffier, that’s not sexy for anybody.

Why the hitch pitch? Generally speaking, higher voices connote youth and vitality. this is often one among The explanations that guys often create a vivid image of how someone looks supported their voice alone.

If you’re worried that your voice is just too low, don’t worry: nature has your back. You’re likelier to subconsciously ask sexy guys with a better pitch anyway. Furthermore, ovulation will make your voice higher, which is one reason that guys are interested in ovulating women.

An experienced Look

What makes a lady attractive within the eyes of a man? Conventional wisdom says that men are all about youthful attractiveness. the very fact that numerous men chase a younger woman after a divorce contributes to the present stereotype.

Some men, though, actually like women who look a touch bit older. Why is that? you would possibly also page Dr. Freud because it all goes back to their mother. Dudes born to moms who were a minimum of 30 are likelier to be interested in older women.

This is just one a part of the surprising way that mothers influence what makes a person interested in a lady physically. A Familiar Hair Color/Eye Color

If you’re reading this, you’re interested by what makes a lady attractive to a man . to urge the solution for a few guys, all you would like to try to to is inspect his mother!

We already covered how dudes born to older ladies could also be interested in older ladies. But here’s a fun fact: no matter her age, guys are likelier to fall for a lady with an equivalent hair and eye color as their mom.

This probably features a lot to try to to with the way that mothers and their sons bond early . And it affects an outsized number of men, so you don’t need to worry that this Oedipal connection makes a man super weird.

Piercings and Tattoos

Answering “what do guys find attractive” is difficult sometimes because men are contradictory. Take alternative appearances, for instance . Many men are still turned off by unnatural hair colors (sorry, Ramona Flowers). At an equivalent time, other alternative traits like tattoos and piercings are considered sexy.

Generally speaking, guys still like conservative body mods. This includes tattoos on shoulders and backs and piercings on the belly button — areas that aren’t normally visible.

What’s up with the attraction to tats and piercings? Guys like “bad girls,” and that they think (even on an unconscious level) that somebody with tattoos and/or piercings is likelier to be down for sex. Long Legs

What do guys search for during a woman’s appearance? Ask most girls and they’ll guess an out sized chest, the larger the higher . you would possibly be surprised to get that not only do guys prefer a medium bust, but that they really specialize in long legs.

Again, guys are a study in contrasts. While they like shorter women (more on this during a minute), they like women with a extended leg ratio compared to the remainder of their body.

If your legs aren’t naturally on the long side, you'll make them look longer with a mixture of high heels and a brief skirt. Just confirm you don’t find yourself towering over your man!

On the Shorter Side

Sometimes, stereotypes about guys find yourself being completely true. for instance , guys wish to desire they need power and control during a relationship. For that reason, most men are interested in women who are shorter than them.

While which will sound sort of a retrograde attitude, men aren’t the sole ones who think this manner . In fact, the typical woman prefers a boyfriend who is taller than her. Nice Hair

Hair looks like the type of trait women are likelier to specialize in than men. Nonetheless, good hair is during one among the most qualities that a person looks for in a woman.

Even beyond eyes and other physical characteristics, hair is that the very first thing most men notice. What are they trying to find in “good” hair, then? Guys prefer hair that appears clean and natural. meaning that for many dudes, hair that's greasy, filled with product, or dyed an unnatural shade may be a turnoff.

Call it basic biology. Healthy hair means a healthy body, and guys cannot help but specialise in qualities that connote health and fertility.