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Nothing is sexier than someone who’s down for you and only you and shows you that without hesitation.

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I just felt a whole new person recently when I stop thinking about anyone elses perception of me, that is just a total bullsh*t. I know myself anyway and love my flaws, its none of their godd*mn business to blah blah blah anything they knew bout me, no one can bring me down. 🔥 #StayBrave #BeFearless #FckNaysayers

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Hey, I was wondering it you have any advice/guidance/tips for how to figure out your emotional own needs? I've recently realised I was raised in a codepedent family and I'm kinda stuck with where to start figuring out how to take care of myself beyond the physical stuff like heathly eating and sleeping enough

Honestly, taking care of your own physical needs is a good start - many people in codependent situations struggle to make their physical needs a priority. If prioritizing your own need for food and sleep is something that you've struggled with in the past, working on that is a pretty healthy place to start.

As far as your emotional needs go, that's something you may need to figure out through some trial and error. Everyone's emotional needs are different - discovering what your needs are can be a bit of a process, especially when you were raised in a codependent situation where you were never encouraged to prioritize your own needs or develop your own identity outside of the family struggles.

But even though I can't tell you what your emotional needs are, I can certainly give you some suggestions for things that you can start thinking about, like:

Time to yourself. This is one of the most important emotional needs that most people have, and it's one of the hardest things to get in a codependent situation. Even very extroverted people need occasional down time by themselves to reflect, recharge, and just figure out who they are when they aren’t trying to meet the needs of other people. 

Creative expression. Everyone needs to express themselves. This can look different for different people - it could mean journaling, writing poetry or painting, or it could mean creating playlists of songs that are very meaningful to you. Figure out what helps you get your feelings out of your brain and into the world.

Dreams and goals. When you are codependent, you don’t typically have goals of your own - you have goals for your codependent relationships and the people you’re in them with, but your own goals and dreams are an afterthought. Figuring out what you want is a huge step in reclaiming yourself as an individual person - even if the only thing you can come up with right now is a list of what you don’t want, that’s a big step. 

Social needs. People need people. We all need people in our lives who make us feel loved and supported and give us a safe space to open up when we’re dealing with something difficult. The key is to form relationships that don’t have the same codependent tendencies as the old. Be intentional with your relationships - reflect on what codependency looks like for you, and seek relationships that don’t have those same patterns. 

Personal meaning and fulfillment. We all want to sit back at the end of our day or week and think “yes, I’m doing things that are worth doing”. For some people, this comes from their career. For others, it’s raising a family or pets. Some people find meaning in travel, or creative ventures, or time spent in nature. Codependency often means making your codependent relationships the centre of your world, but it’s time to look beyond those. Take some time to figure out what sorts of things give you personal satisfaction and make you feel like your time was well-spent - and then carve out space in your life for those things.

Best of luck to you! MM

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Love

An open letter to all boys and girls:

When you fall in love with someone please take care of him/her, dont let your ego and pride ruin your relationship. Saying I LOVE YOU is easy but committing to that til the end you need passionate romance with the ability of accepting his/her own flaws and imperfections. Please do love one person only, coz relationship is made only by two intertwined heart of a person. Kasi hindi mo kinaganda o kinagwapo ung pang tu-two timer mo. Where’s your conscience?! Taena ka! Dont create extra account on fb or other social media to cheat. Cheating is hypocritically pathetic. Shame to those people who are doing that sh*t! Karma will punch your face soon bitches. Coz you know what? You can make other people believe in your lies but you can never lie to your own fuckin self. I told ya. Dont you dare do unto others what you do not want to reap someday. When you fall in love dont look at the status or background information of that person. Dont marry rich coz of the money, as if you want them to be your atm. Duh! Be independently strong. Be a person who dont need anyone to buy what you want for yourself. Dont marry the looks it cant get you anywhere, instead marry a good soul with a good brain and that is a formidable combination. Having a partner with good looks is just a bonus. Dont marry a lazy, marry a dreamer, a goal digger where you can both grow and learn from each other.

When you fall in love you have to trust each other. If you you really know each other very well you dont have the reason to get jealous, you just have to keep the faith. Learn to sacrifice, time comes when opportunity will knock on each others door and then choose for greatness, support and help each other, dont get rid of unexpected arising of problems but face it together. No devastating storm can destroy a strong mountain with foundation. Accept each others mistake, there’s no such thing as perfect we sometimes terribly commit it ourselves but realizing the fact that there’s no room for 3rd chances. Tolerating the same mistakes again and again can create a same story scenario of apologies. Love is patience, everything needs a perfect timing, at the right time and at the right place, wait for Gods perfect phase of grace. When you fall in love, you fall for Gods creation. Love that person wholeheartedly without any condition. Love is created to fill the world with happiness. Love is a responsibility of a person to make it bloom like a red roses with tiny thorns lavish with care. Love a person that is good for you: physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Love means Love Of Vast Eternity 🌹💕

P.S. We people, we have to think and act like a human and not like an animal. Malalaki na tayo, alam na natin ang tama at mali. Dont let your path leads you to the wrong direction.

tumblr: @vanislaventura(feelosophisticated)

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Love

An open letter to all boys and girls: When you fall in love with someone please take care of him/her, dont let your ego and pride ruin your relationship. Saying I LOVE YOU is easy but committing to that til the end you need passionate romance with the ability of accepting his/her own flaws and imperfections. Please do love one person only, coz relationship is made only by two intertwined heart of a person. Kasi hindi mo kinaganda o kinagwapo ung pang tu-two timer mo. Where's your conscience?! Taena ka! Dont create extra account on fb or other social media to cheat. Cheating is hypocritically pathetic. Shame to those people who are doing that sh*t! Karma will punch your face soon bitches. Coz you know what? You can make other people believe in your lies but you can never lie to your own fuckin self. I told ya. Dont you dare do unto others what you do not want to reap someday. When you fall in love dont look at the status or background information of that person. Dont marry rich coz of the money, as if you want them to be your atm. Duh! Be independently strong. Be a person who dont need anyone to buy what you want for yourself. Dont marry the looks it cant get you anywhere, instead marry a good soul with a good brain and that is a formidable combination. Having a partner with good looks is just a bonus. Dont marry a lazy, marry a dreamer, a goal digger where you can both grow and learn from each other. When you fall in love you have to trust each other. If you you really know each other very well you dont have the reason to get jealous, you just have to keep the faith. Learn to sacrifice, time comes when opportunity will knock on each others door and then choose for greatness, support and help each other, dont get rid of unexpected arising of problems but face it together. No devastating storm can destroy a strong mountain with foundation. Accept each others mistake, there's no such thing as perfect we sometimes terribly commit it ourselves but realizing the fact that there's no room for 3rd chances. Tolerating the same mistakes again and again can create a same story scenario of apologies. Love is patience, everything needs a perfect timing, at the right time and at the right place, wait for Gods perfect phase of grace. When you fall in love, you fall for Gods creation. Love that person wholeheartedly without any condition. Love is created to fill the world with happiness. Love is a responsibility of a person to make it bloom like a red roses with tiny thorns lavish with care. Love a person that is good for you: physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Love means Love Of Vast Eternity 🌹💕 P.S. We people, we have to think and act like a human and not like an animal. Malalaki na tayo, alam na natin ang tama at mali. Dont let your path leads you to the wrong direction. tumblr: @vanislaventura(feelosophisticated)

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There was a point in my life that i told myself "i cant do that, im not born to be like her" and then there's a voice in my goddamn head trying to whisper "you dont have to be like her, you can be better on your own but not exactly like her". That maybe i guess a false hope gave me hunger to do my best, i want to succeed, i want to make people see where i am now without them, independently, still kickin'. And oh but hey i had through many of difficulties, should i give that up? courz no. Ill fight, no one can desroy my dreams fuckerz 👌

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Warm air on a wednesday night, I just want your arms to hug me tight. You taught me that everything will be right, We will both stand together and fight. 💕

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God is calmness 🌹💗

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I don’t get why pairings have to be a competition?

If you don’t like a pairing, you don’t like it. It’s not ‘bad’. If you like a pairing, you like it. It’s not ‘better than anything else’.

Pairings are a matter of opinion. Not competition. Stop treating it like one.

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Live, laugh, love and drink wine 😂

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From this day onward, i will let my silence speak for me 🌷