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type in “my f/o is so” and then let ur keyboard finish it. have fun! <3

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Interact with this post if you selfship with one or more characters from The Owl House and want mutuals who share sources!

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GOOD MORNING SELFSHIPPERS please think about your f/o making you breakfast, whether theyre good or bad at cooking they still make something for you and put their whole effort into it. they love you very much and want you to have a whole breakfast!

PROSHIP DNI

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(drafted this post back in feb 27 but modified a bit before posting)

this post really makes me want to talk about the phenomenon i've observed on self ship tumblr specifically where men are so hostile to other self shippers who ship/share with their male f/os because they perceive them as an immediate threat and "ew a girl".

i understand being incredibly irked when a character is canonically gay or very heavily implied to be and women ship with them or are getting shipped with them. i agree it's disrespectful as fuck when people ignore canon or heavily implied identities just bcz they wanna be self indulgent.

but also, sometimes your misogyny is just so blatant.

i understand being protective of gay headcanons. but headcanon is not canon, nor is it necessarily "coded" or "implied". and some people simply like spreading misinformation to accuse people, specifically women, of being homophobic.

and even when it comes to characters who are canon gay or implied/coded, i've seen self shippers go "ew a girl" at another self shipper, and you look at that other self shipper and they're just. someone who uses she/her, or presents feminine (sometimes overtly), and they're not even necessarily a woman. yet they get labeled as a cis woman and their self ship with the gay character is treated as a "het ship perpetuating homophobia". you aren't being slick, that's just blatantly trying to misgender other people. nonbinary people, gnc trans people, unlabeled people, people who are trying to figure out/questioning their gender, and the like... they all don't owe you, a stranger, jackshit or an explanation for why they are "allowed" to ship with a character. and they sure as hell don't deserve to be misgendered on the basis of "ew, a girl ships with my f/o".

and the root of the misgendering stems from how people think it's okay to use "woman" or "girl" as an insult and weaponize it. people can be so casually misogynistic in self ship spaces even now. even if a self shipper is a cishet woman she's not immune to misogyny she can experience from other self shippers. and some self shippers brand others as "cishet woman" in their minds (or even worse, brazenly out loud) regardless of whether or not it's true, because then they think it means they can make that self shipper a target, someone they can talk down to because they think oppression works like pokemon type advantages and rock paper scissors. even trans men are not immune to behaving like this, whether it's a conscious effort or not. in fact, i'd argue there's a lot of unchecked misogyny from trans men in self ship spaces.

people don't have to say the exact phrase to make it clear the way they think is "ew, a girl ships with my f/o", by the way. "it makes me uncomfortable when women ship with my male f/o" is, to be blunt and frank, a you problem if your f/o is not canonically gay. it's something you should examine on WHY you think like that, exactly. you are not immune to being misogynistic. think about what you're saying about women self shippers (or those who you perceive as women while blatantly misgendering them because you think somehow them being labeled as "women" makes it free game to condescend at them) and take a step back and examine how you word things. especially if you're posting on your public blog where other self shippers can see. "don't be misogynystic" doesn't stop just bc you're posting on a personal blog.

this isn't a vague, this isn't "pointless drama/discourse", this is based on observations i've had for the past few years. nobody is immune to being a misogynist and examining the way you think and perceive others, especially if it's out of jealousy, is important. otherwise that way of thinking might go unchecked and can get worse. do better.

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Today’s character that selfshippers should consider F/O-ing is:

The Unknown from Willy's Chocolate Experience!

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I just had a thought. If you’re someone who writes selfship fanfiction, what person perspective do you write for your S/I?

Please reblog if you vote! I’m very curious to know the answer.

PROSHIPPERS PLEASE DO NOT INTERACT.

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@ selfship community

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so ur texting ur f/o now. cool! imagine what their name for ur contact would be :3

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based on that one post

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buying your f/o a bouquet of flowers only to discover they have they worst pollen allergy known to man

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How'd you spend the day with your F/O(s) today? Any neat adventures? Surprises when one of yall got home? Spent the day relaxing?

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Selfshippers! You and whom?

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Do u have any ideas or tips for how to get closer to your f/o without drawing or writing fics? Also hope u and your men are having a very good day or night 🧡

i do!!!!! 🖤

write down details & headcanons ★ you don't have to organize them or expand on them! i keep a note on my phone with little things like my f/o's quirks and what i think his favorite color is

write them a letter ★ tell them exactly how you feel, your favorite things about them and your favorite things about being with them. tell them you miss them

watch a movie or tv show you think they'd like ★ sometimes i make a night of it, i curl up with a snack and a drink and i pretend like we're on a little date. it makes watching that much more fun!

read out loud to them ★ i love to read out loud and pretend i'm reading to my f/o. i do voice changes and add inflections, just to make it interesting. and it helps me stay engaged in the story! try picking a book you think they might like!

make a playlist ★ pick songs you think they'd like or songs that remind you of them. or both! i have two playlists, one for songs that describe our relationship and one for songs that i know he'd listen to! if your f/o is from a previous time, you can even make a physical copy based on their era (cds, cassettes, etc)!

make a pinterest board ★ pictures of them, pictures that represent them & their aesthetic, pictures that remind you of your relationship!

put together an outfit that reminds you of them ★ use their canon style for inspiration to try something new or use your own style but incorporate something that looks like something of theirs (a shirt, an accessory, etc)!

go to the store and smell the perfumes / colognes / shampoos / candles, try to find one that you think they'd like ★ buy it if you have a little extra spending money and think of them every time you smell it!

get a build a bear and dress it up like them ★ for snuggling! if you order online, you can even customize sounds and put your f/o's voice in it!

go back to canon ★ sometimes it's really nice just to see them again

there are so many ways to feel close to them!!! anything you like and anything you do, you can bring 'em along. sometimes it's enough for me to curl up with a pillow at night and pretend that we're holding each other. i hope you find something that works for you!!! 🖤

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i semi-recently got back into roblox and i thought this would be a fun idea, sooo...

reblog this and tell me in the tags what your f/o's favorite roblox game genre would be!

ex. obby, tycoon, roleplay, disaster survival, mascot horror, etc. you can even tell me their favorite game if youd like!!

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imagine you and your f/o doing some crafts together! whatever it may be, even if you think you can’t, your f/o KNOWS you can. they sit down with you and cuddle up really close, then do some crafts :] whether it be drawing, coloring, clay sculpting, building legos, or scrapbooking, your f/o doesn’t mind, they love anything that involves you!

PROSHIP DNI. THIS IS NOT FOR YOU.

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black selfshippers, happy black history month.

🎀 i hope you get plenty of attention this month

🎀 i hope you get the interaction you deserve this month

🎀 i hope you feel very loved by your f/os this month

🎀 i hope you feel free to be yourself this month

{pro/com/darkship dni.}

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whatever you do, do NOT imagine a perfect domestic life with your f/o.. do not imagine owning a small yet comfortable apartment in the city together with a wonderful view. do not imagine sitting with them and eating a dinner that either one of you cooked, or even one that you cooked together! DO NOT IMAGINE a nightly routine with them, whatever it may be, skincare, a shower, or another thing. and, whatever you do, definitely do not imagine falling asleep in the comfort of your f/os arms as they lull you to sleep with their voice, telling you that you did great today! and they cant wait to see what the day brings for you tomorrow.

proship dni this isnt and never will be for you <3