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June is PTSD awareness month. It’s a diagnosis I feel strongly about and I started thinking about religious trauma and PTSD. About feeling unworthiness and shame that you’re told is the correct way to feel. A complete lack of control, emotional negligence, and moral OCD. I saw a Venn diagram of borderline personality disorder and c-ptsd. I thought about how women and girls are more prone to developing ptsd and that it’s the 3rd most common mental health diagnosis for adults in the US, in a culture that still isn’t entirely onboard with getting diagnosed and we’re certainly not seeing any account for those still entrenched in extreme religious communities. Of course I think about veterans and the people who start wars that won’t shoulder the consequences. The people who will make social media posts about honoring those in uniform but would turn away from the idea of a grown man who is scared of sleep because of what his dreams hold. How those same religious people love to pretend they’re fighting a battle of faith every day but won’t acknowledge the massive casualties their faith brings. The women who will put their bodies through however many pregnancies and labors they can produce and survive. The men who will break their backs and minds trying to support a family that they just can’t. The trauma that’s never called a spade and never healed. I don’t know, I’ve just been thinking.

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She’d be so funny if she wasn’t so earnest

THE ELITES don't want you to buy from my sponsored link!!!!

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On April 3rd Amy Duggar posted a picture of her husband in a hospital bed for his birthday, asking for prayers. On April 10th she posted a ‘link in bio’ update on his health. The link was to a statement she released to People magazine where she stressed how incredibly critical his condition is and then asked for privacy.

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part tell all memoir from a third party observer and part self help from the girl crying in the bathroom after one Smirnoff ice.

Oh god her tf we go

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One could argue that having to deal with “actual Christians” is why we’re all here and hyper critical. You’re not special. Every single Christian would call themselves an actual Christian, it’s meaningless.

Anon really came back to say “I feel like you don’t want to talk to me due to you ignoring all the times I’ve attempted to talk at you and you haven’t answered” great detective skills bud!

You act so open-minded, but you’ve ignored every question I’ve asked about theology. I wonder if you're scared of talking to an actual Christian, or maybe just don't know as much as you think you do.

Oh the super rudely worded ones? Where you called me a hundred different names and insults? Was that you??

Yea I wonder why someone would just delete those on sight and not entertain that conversation lmao. I don't care what religion you are, you're not above showing basic respect to strangers.

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On April 3rd Amy Duggar posted a picture of her husband in a hospital bed for his birthday, asking for prayers. On April 10th she posted a ‘link in bio’ update on his health. The link was to a statement she released to People magazine where she stressed how incredibly critical his condition is and then asked for privacy.

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YOU'RE gay

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Abusers are always going to want to “discuss things privately” because it helps them keep control. It’s harder to manipulate a person when they have validation and support from others. Keeping things private lessens accountability and consequence. It has nothing to do with respect and certainty nothing to do with respect for the victim.

Tangentially, all the people up in arms about how we have to hear Jim Bobs side of things before making judgements are also directly in support of abusers. When you have multiple victims speaking out , one person saying “no that’s not how I see it” doesn’t matter even a little bit. It’s maddening how much “both sides” rhetoric has rotted critical thinking skills.

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is jake gyllenhaal gay??

why would you ask us, a narnia blog, this

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Welcome back Better Than Revenge (Slut Shaming Version) !!!!

Taylor not reviving the original better than revenge lyrics is devastating actually

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Since Michael and Brandon’s fostering announcement I’ve become really interested in the role of Christianity in adoption.

From a fundie commentary community perspective it’s interesting because “why aren’t fundies adopting” is a common talking point in response to their stance on abortion rights. If anti-choice people point to placing a child in adoption as an alternative to termination, why aren’t they doing the adopting? But when they pursue that avenue there is now grave concern about indoctrination.

From some very shallow internet research, it does seem like Christians are a large part of adults who foster or adopt. They’re also more likely to take in siblings, older children, and children with various additional needs. A lot of churches offer support to members who take in children in need, that can range from supplies to financial to navigating the legal aspects.

The likelihood of Michaels situation is that the mother was found to be in need of entering a treatment program and child services weren’t able to find a relative that would take in a new born and a toddler. In the majority of cases it is the states primary objective to place the children back with their biological parent(s). I have, unfortunately, seen state services give birth parents far too many chances, going far past when it’s clear placement with the biological parent is not in the child’s best interest. But it is the right thing to make that the desired outcome.

The idea that Michael and Brandon could have these children for 3-6 months, fully involving them in their faith and expectations, when this is not a permanent situation for them and we do not know the religious beliefs of the parents, is really…something to me. Especially for the toddler who will learn and absorb what he’s taught. Not necessarily in the “are these the type of Christians that believe the Bible supports physical punishment”, but in the small ways. The way religion can teach unnecessary shame and guilt and a misconstrued sense of personal responsibility - three things I think great consideration needs to be taken when you’re in charge of a child with a parent that has mental health or substance abuse issues.

What does it mean to tell a child that a Heavenly Father loves them and watches over them, and that God brought them to your home for safety and love if that child ends back in an unsafe environment? What are the consequences of being temporarily submerged in extremist doctrine?

For several reasons we cant exclude the devout from being adoptees and a rule about not enforcing a belief system would be equally impossible. I have zero answers. The adoption industry is such a mess in so many ways, I suppose this is just another way.

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Michael and Brandon are fostering. People on Reddit were pretty quick to start pointing out possible worse case scenarios with Micheal and Brandon’s possible motives but I think the comment here makes it clear they know exactly what their role is for these children. I applaud them for doing extremely difficult work.

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I watched pieces of the most recent Carlin and Evan vlog. The nicest way I’ve been able to come up with to state my opinion is that these two are genuinely two of the most ignorant individuals that could be imagined. I’m convinced they do not think. They do not think about the future and consequences. They do not think about the desires and dignity of others. They are only concerned with their goals and material wants as well as their own egos.

There is so much oddness in these videos I can’t wrap my head all the way around. In the first video, posted 5 days ago, they “announce” the passing of Papa Bill in a perfectly staged sitting on the floor in their bedroom scene. It really highlights the incredibly inappropriate relationship they aim to cultivate with their audience and they’ve succeeded because all the comments are about how Papa Bill was everyone’s grandpa and they all feel his loss.

After this announcement they share some old footage of Carlins grandfather and it was mostly typical family gathering clips but there was one with Lawson, Evan, Carlin, and the kids. Lawson is reminding Bill who everyone is, he points to Evan and says “that is your grandson-in-law”. It was such a startling dystopian idea to me to be in Bills position where you are being reintroduced to your loved ones and one of them is steadfast aiming a camera at your every interaction. Not even the exploitative aspect of that, but the spectator aspect. Bill probably recalled Evan as “the camera man” and that should haunt Evan.

In the second upload Evan, Carlin and the kids have scheduled to stay a few extra days at the farm after the funeral to “be with Mama Jane”. There is a scene where they are trying to explain Carlin’s Oura ring to her grandmother, Jane and Evan are kind of teasing Carlin about it. Evan makes a comment that back in the day of Papa Bill and Mama Jane exercise was so built in to their everyday they didn’t even have to worry about not getting movement in. Jane agrees and starts talking about living on a working farm and having to go out to pull corn in the fields and really working. Carlin immediately jumps in with how hard she has to work too and if Jane could see everything she does she would say “wow that’s a workin woman”.

The audacity and self righteousness. Fuck off. No amount of hours on a laptop will compare to physical labor. Not to mention that physical labor being done for little to no financial gain to you directly. Ordering boxes of clothes someone else designed and made and clipping a mic to your toddler doesn’t make you a “workin woman” you deluded clown. Imagine the insecurity required to get immediately defensive about something your 80 year old grandmother with cancer who just lost her husband of 60 years says.

This whole situation has really cemented the Stewart family as bottom barrel people. 

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“Of course you would suggest I return to a system that tells me to live entirely in service of YOU” is her best mic drop moment to date

Toxic Ethan Plath moments #3: projection and no empathy

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duggars as the bluth family [original scene]

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I’m crying 💀

Source: another AMA

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sorry I’m not sure how much work I’ll get done today, two strangers I hate are getting married and i need to know everything about it