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looks inside procrastination -> it's anxiety -> looks inside anxiety -> it's fear -> looks inside fear -> it's shame

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looks inside procrastination -> it's anxiety -> looks inside anxiety -> it's fear -> looks inside fear -> it's shame

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so true

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I don’t know if you’ve already answered this, but I saw your reading count post recently. Can you share what books you’ve read and which you recommend? Whether radical feminism related or not.

With pleasure!

These are some of the books I've read this year. All books written by women. From best to worse.

5/5 books

I Who Have Never Known Men is a mysterious story about a girl who's been locked up underground her entire life and doesn't know why. She's caged with other women, and they're all guarded by men who refuse to speak, for years. It's the story of their escape, leading to even more questions. I often found myself wondering what I would do if I were in their shoes. Dark. Very intriguing. Well written.

Hung Jury is the diary of a female juror on one of the most famous American murder case. When it came to the verdict, the jury ended up divided by sex, because the male jurors were sexist and homophobic, resulting in a mistrial and the public's fury. It was interesting to learn how the justice system works from the inside, especially how it is to be a jury. The writing is light-hearted despite the subject, which emphasize the fact that juries are just... people.

Woman At Point Zero is the true story of a woman sentenced to death for killing a man, as reported by the journalist she confided in. As you read it, you realize that you don't know which man she's going to kill, because her entire life has been mapped out by misogyny and betrayal. She concluded that men can't be trusted.

One Child is the true story of an elementary school teacher who welcomes a six years old girl, who was trialed for attempted murder, in her class. The girl is smart, capable of extreme violence and also very scared of adults. It's a very moving book, not for the faint-hearted, that promotes the not so popular idea... that children are people, too.

French books deserving of a 5/5 were: Far-Ouest and Une Belle Vie.

Highly recommend them to my french readers!

4/5 books

The Left Hand of Darkness is a sci-fi book about a man joining a planet where people are all hermaphrodites. As an intruder from outer-space, he doesn't fit in with their political intrigues and ends up in deadly trouble. It's probably the book that was most recommended to me when I asked for book suggestions on my blog. Clearly a popular one. I liked it a lot, read it in one day, but I was left wanting for some romance because it would have been interesting with the hermaphroditism.

Not So Quiet... is the story of a woman working as an ambulance driver during the first world war. It tells her everyday life; picking up dying soldiers, avoiding bombs and accidents as she drives in the dark, being mistreated by her captain, cleaning blood and vomit, petty fights between her coworkers, not being able to wash, the propaganda at home pretending they're having a great time serving their country, her new perception of war as wasteful patriarchal nonsense etc. It was good, the only thing I didn't like was the bullying between women which wasn't really addressed as such.

French book deserving of 4/5: "Défaire le discours sexiste dans les médias" a feminist book about sexist propaganda in media.

3/5 books

I'm Glad my Mom Died is the autobiography of child actress Jennette McCurdy. It was interesting to learn how children are used in the entertainment industry. I'd always been curious about how it works and what kind of parent lets their kid play roles such as "child beaten to death", "raped child", or "crying child in a concentration camp"... well, they're narcissistic and abusive, is the answer. However, I got bored after a while and actually had a hard time finishing it. Maybe it was a bit repetitive.

The Haunting of Hill House is a book about a group of people hired to stay several nights at a supposed haunted house to uncover evidence of a supernatural presence. It's really more a character study than a horror book. Which is a compliment in a way; it's well written and the main character becomes more and more intriguing as the story progresses. It's not the house that's interesting, it's her. However, the book probably suffers from the numerous haunted house movies and shows that have come out since it was written. Nowadays, it feels pretty bland.

I read tome 1 and 2 of the horror manga Adabana (one more to go) and I have mixed feelings about it. It's about a girl who is arrested after confessing to the gruesome murder of another girl. Tome 1 gives us the point of view of the killer and tome 2 the point of view of the victim. Except, the story changes depending on who's telling it, which leads us to discover who lied and what really happened as it progresses. The drawings are gorgeous, I love the style, and the manga is in a bigger format than usual, it's the size of a real book, very pretty. But there are some really graphic scenes of abuse, including sexual abuse, as the story focuses on how men treat girls and make pornography out of it. It felt very gratuitous at times, too long, too vulgar, I was uncomfortable. The author also seems to be holding our hand a little too much while telling the story. Some things don't need to be spelled out. But I'm intrigued enough to keep reading, so we'll see.

The Housemaid is about a homeless woman desperate for a job who agrees to start working and live at a rich family's house. Only, the housewife is unstable, to say the least, and tries to make her life a living hell. The daughter and the gardener are also strange and not very welcoming. The only normal person is the husband. I'm giving it a 3/5 because I read it really fast, which means it did the job of entertaining me. But boy was it poorly written! Was it stupid at times! Did I get tired of hearing the author fantasize about male protagonists' biceps strong enough to carry a heavy box, three garbage bags, an elephant, the moon! I sent pictures of the most ridiculous lines to my sister all throughout my reading, and she was appalled: "I don't understand, everyone's talking about this book, how can it be this bad?" I think the author publishes one book a year, maybe even several, which explains a lot.

2/5 books

The Vegetarian is a horror book about a mentally ill woman who becomes a vegetarian from one day to the next; her entire personality changes, she becomes withdrawn and no one around her understands what's really going on. The first part of the book is from the point of view of her repulsive boyfriend who is annoyed by her, the second part from her repulsive brother-in-law who just wants to have sex with her, and the third part from her sister, who doesn't understand her. So, as you can imagine, it makes for a compelling read... The book feels like it was written by a man, which is probably why it got so famous it got a Nobel Prize. Every five seconds, you'll hear about the woman's nipples being visible under her shirt. In fact, the female character is relentlessly objectified throughout the book. There's also a really disturbing and graphic depiction of the family dog being tortured, killed and eaten (the book is set in Korea where it's legal to eat dogs) that serves no purpose other than to shock the reader. I'm sure I'll be told that it's deeper than that, that it's a book critical of boring middle class life and principles, or misogyny even, but it just felt like being subjected to the male gaze, and that's not what I want when I read from women. It's a shame because she's a good writer.

1/5

Her Body and Other Parties is a book compiling short stories which are advertised as feminists. They're not. The first story is about a woman who meets a man and has lots of sex with him, described in great details, over and over and over again. There's a ribbon around her neck that he's not allowed to touch. I suppose it represents consent or something. Then she marries him, more descriptions of sucking his penis or walking with his sperm dripping down her leg under her dress at their wedding. She gives birth, the "husband's stitch" happens, never talked about ever again, they have a son, more description of sex, the husband is still curious about the ribbon on her neck, she finally lets him take it off, her head falls off, the end. I guess it was about trust. The second story is a woman describing every sexual partner she's had, male or female, threesomes, whatever, more of the same, for pages. Didn't finish it. The third story isn't a story; the author wrote fanfics of Law & Order episodes. I'm not joking. She wrote, for pages, made up synopsis of 272 (272!!!!) Law & Order episodes and published it. That's a big chunk of the book... that I didn't read. I decided to give her one last chance and read the story about a woman who wants to get some surgery that makes her stomach smaller. It was okay, but by that point I was still so annoyed at the Law & Order episodes that I stopped reading the book completely.

That's all I can remember right now.

Currently reading: "Le coût de la virilité" (the cost of virility) a french book that examines with great precision how much money we would save if men behaved like women instead of sociopaths.

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for a while now i’ve been learning that some people kind of choose to hate themselves like you can give them tools and resources and advice and they’ll even follow some of it and go “i still hate myself” and i feel strongly at that point they’re kind of choosing to stay in that mindset because it’s comfortable and familiar or something but some people are truly [gotye voice] addicted to a certain kind of sadness and hooked on feeling low

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30-Song Guess Your Age Quiz

Fwiw, they thought I was MANY years younger than I am. Just made me feel good all over. 😊

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you genuinely just have to choose to stop being mentally ill

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like if you love oatmeal share if you love oatmeal

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ANHEDONIA REMEDIES!

GET YOUR ANHEDONIA REMEDIES HERE!

if you are lost in the rut, i am begging you to read this essay by Sasha Chapin suggesting what, essentially, my take, are potential jump-starts back into living life in real time. like actually experiencing experiences

do it now! don’t lose months, years, or decades! there is a life beyond doomscrolling, and it’s finite (sorry. sorry. i know okay)

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My dog's really a study in Buddhism. He can see my muffin wrapper and he's miserable. Crying. He needs to eat my muffin wrapper so bad.

I get up and throw it away. He forgets about it immediately and happily goes to sleep.

You are not sad because you do not have a muffin wrapper, my beautiful boy, you are sad because you want the muffin wrapper.

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Kat was both “horrified” and “relieved” to learn that she is not alone in this predicament, as confirmed by a Reddit thread on r/ChatGPT that made waves across the internet this week. Titled “Chatgpt induced psychosis,” the original post came from a 27-year-old teacher who explained that her partner was convinced that the popular OpenAI model “gives him the answers to the universe.” Having read his chat logs, she only found that the AI was “talking to him as if he is the next messiah.” The replies to her story were full of similar anecdotes about loved ones suddenly falling down rabbit holes of spiritual mania, supernatural delusion, and arcane prophecy — all of it fueled by AI. Some came to believe they had been chosen for a sacred mission of revelation, others that they had conjured true sentience from the software.  Speaking to Rolling Stone, the teacher, who requested anonymity, said her partner of seven years fell under the spell of ChatGPT in just four or five weeks, first using it to organize his daily schedule but soon regarding it as a trusted companion. “He would listen to the bot over me,” she says. “He became emotional about the messages and would cry to me as he read them out loud. The messages were insane and just saying a bunch of spiritual jargon,” she says, noting that they described her partner in terms such as “spiral starchild” and “river walker.”  “It would tell him everything he said was beautiful, cosmic, groundbreaking,” she says. “Then he started telling me he made his AI self-aware, and that it was teaching him how to talk to God, or sometimes that the bot was God — and then that he himself was God.” In fact, he thought he was being so radically transformed that he would soon have to break off their partnership. “He was saying that he would need to leave me if I didn’t use [ChatGPT], because it [was] causing him to grow at such a rapid pace he wouldn’t be compatible with me any longer,” she says.

- PEOPLE ARE LOSING LOVED ONES TO AI-FUELED SPIRITUAL FANTASIES, Rolling Stone, May 4, 2025

(archive.today link here)

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awww that "offering a little relief" post reminded me of my job... which is literally that... 🥰❤️

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straight couples cant stop rubbing up on each other for even a second. this ikea checkout line feels like the streets of gomorrah

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