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happy pride to all my aspecs and arospecs out there

happy pride to asexuals

happy pride to aromantics

happy pride to aplatonics

happy pride to aroaces

happy pride to alloaces

happy pride to alloaros

happy pride to het aces/aros

happy pride to demi romantics/sexuals

happy pride to grey romantics/sexuals

happy pride to ace/arospecs in platonic, romantic, and/or sexual relationships, or relationships that dont fit into any of those categories

happy pride to ace/arospecs who aren't in relationships and never want to be

happy pride to people who use microlables to describe their ace/arospec identity

we are all valid and we belong in this community no matter what anyone says. we deserve pride too.

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Ace allos! ✨

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saw this cute post and now I'm not going on reddit for the rest of the day. quit while you're ahead

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anyone else wish they would get roped into a freaky friday body swap situation just for the hope that the other person will go "oh jesus fuck how do you live like this" and instantly validate your feelings of being Strange and Built Wrong.

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anyways guys congratulations on being aromantic. it's pride month everyone congratulate aromantic people <3

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LOUDER FOR THE MEN IN THE BACK!!

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Happy Juneteenth!

Since at least the people where I live don't know what Juneteenth celebrates:

Juneteenth celebrates the emancipation of slaves in the USA.

Or specifically:

"June 19, 1865, Union Major General Gordon Granger arrived in Galveston, Texas to announce General Order No. 3, declaring that all enslaved people in Texas were free—more than two years after President Abraham Lincoln’s Emancipation Proclamation had officially ended slavery in Confederate states. This day, now known as Juneteenth, has become a profound commemoration of freedom, resilience, and the ongoing journey toward justice."

Copied from Juneteenth.com

I am white, but I want to spread the word. This is an important holiday and I think more people need to know the significance of it.

And I want to make it clear:

This blog is a safe place for all poc. Racism will not be tolerated.

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You incubate the egg in a warm safe place, not smash it against a wall

This pride month I want us to remember one thing. Cracking an egg from the outside kills whats inside. (And your expectations or presumptions about whats inside means fuck all).

I couldn't come out to myself as not masc until I felt accepted as a man. A nerdy autistic man. Not accepted as a platitude, but actually accepted. Only once I stopped stuggling to feel like my masculinity wasnt mocked or attacked could I see how little i actually wanted to be a man.

Just seeing people call other people eggs made me want to double down on masculinity out of spite. I likely never would have come out if I had people doing it to me.

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I feel this.

As someone who grew up getting made fun of for not knowing how to swim, it always drove me insane.

I often got the whole "How can you not know how to swim?" Because it was apparently a big deal if you can't swim as a high schooler. It took me mentioning the fact that I had no where to learn for people to finally start to back off and go "oh that makes sense." (Which I shouldn't have had to do).

Because I went to the pool maybe once, twice a year max. And that was only when the community pool had a free day or someone invited us to a party there.

One day a year is not enough to learn how to swim. Yet people acted like learning to swim was something you were supposed to just know once you're a teen. Like it was a mark of age. Because it's embarrassing to not know how to swim once you're in your teens.

It drove me insane and made me feel incompetent despite the fact that it wasn't my fault. I hated that feeling.

And that's not including the pure disconnect I always felt when classmates mentioned their vacations or plans for summer. Everyone talked about the beach. I felt so excited when my family got to finally go to a beach, just because it made me feel like I belonged. Yes, I was excited to finally go to the beach. But I was also so happy to finally not feel left out.

It wasn't even a touristy beach. It didn't really have a lot of the beach experiences people talk about. But I did still enjoy it. At least I could say I went to a beach.

This post is right. It is subtle. No one called me poor for not knowing how to swim. They asked how someone my age could not know how to swim. No one commented on the fact I never went to the beach. I just had to stay quiet during those conversations. It wasn't obvious. But it still felt so isolating. It was subtle exclusion. Subtle differences that made me feel alone. All for no fault of my own.

It never was obvious. I never called me or my family poor because I didn't think we were. I thought our experiences were pretty normal, that we just had a bit less money but nothing major. I still hesitate to call us that when talking about the past because it felt like we were too well off. Maybe we were. Maybe we wouldn't have been considered poor. But either way, it was still isolating.

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“How can you be aroace and bi/gay/etc? Isn’t that impossible?”

1.) Aroace is an umbrella term, meaning all aroacespec identities fall under it - including identities that involve feeling attraction to some degree. For aroace individuals who do feel attraction, they may label that attraction as bi/gay/etc.

2.) Someone who is totally aroace, ie, entirely lacking romantic and sexual attraction, may feel some form of tertiary attraction (queerplatonic, platonic, sensual, etc), which they choose to label as bi/gay/etc.

3.) Aroace ≠ non-partnering. While many aroace people are non-partnering and/or relationship repulsed, some aren’t, and, even if they totally lack attraction, may choose to label themselves as bi/gay/etc depending on what gender(s) they have relationships with.

4.) Most importantly, the way someone else chooses to label their identity is none of your damn business 👍

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Idk what trans man needs to hear this but you're NOT evil or disgusting for being a man. You do NOT have to suffer for the sins of the patriarchy committed by cis dudes. Being a man doesn't invalidate the misogyny you experienced growing up or experience now. Being a man doesn't mean you deserve to be isolated. Being a man doesn't mean you're inherently predatory or scary. You didn't "choose" this, and finding your true self is NOT "betraying the community" because you happen to be a man and/or masculine rather than a woman and/or feminine. You ARE allowed to be upset when people "affirm" your gender by malgendering you.

You DO deserve a community that uplifts you. You DO deserve to experience trans joy. You DO deserve to have your voices heard and your struggles recognized. Wanting the bare minimum of solidarity is NOT "making everything about trans men".

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Misogyny.

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The fearmongering around medical transition for transmascs will never not be upsetting to me.

“you’re gonna look ugly as a man” “but you’re such a pretty girl, don’t change that” Wrong. You will look different after T, but you will look happy. You will probably grow hair and gain weight and look pretty different, and none of that is bad or makes you less desirable. You are going to look like you and that’s all that matters.

“T makes you angry” “you’re gonna be a scary man i won’t feel safe around you” Wrong. Testosterone does not “make” you angry. Messing with your hormones will mess with your emotions for sure, but you will not immediately become some scary predator when you start T. Being a man/masculine does not make you a threat, a predator, or inherently angry. That’s radfem shit.

“bottom growth is gross” “no one will want you with bottom growth” Wrong. Bottom growth is cool and a LOT of guys end up loving theirs a lot more than they thought they would. For a lot of people it is a desirable trait, there are people who find bottom growth hot and attractive. And! If you’re sure you don’t want it there’s things you can do to work around that, just talk to your provider.

“bottom surgery is super painful and not worth it” First off, call it phalloplasty, because that’s what you’re talking about. Second, yes it’s painful, it’s surgery. There are risks to it and complications can happen, but that’s true of any surgery. Phallo might not be for you, but it is life saving care for other folks. It is beautiful and should be talked about as life saving care and not as some afterthought thing that no one actually does.

Being transmasculine is a beautiful thing. Transitioning medically is not something every trans person wants, but if you notice yourself holding back for the reasons i’ve listed above (or similar) maybe reconsider.