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2022 has pass and 2023 has started.
Same us with a new twist.
I am allowed 15% of my paycheck for myself and I’ve lost $250 a month allowance for falling behind on cleaning and we have hired a house cleaning service. I guess I’m literally paying for not staying on top of this service.
We had a good holiday overseas for Thanksgiving and really enjoyed seeing old time family and friends for Christmas and New Years.
Hope everyone had a good year too!
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Domestic Discipline
In 2022, Goddess A added Domestic Discipline to our FLR.
Here’s the basics of DD
Corner Time
Spanking (Punishment/Maintenance)
Writing Lines (same sentence X times)
Writing Assignments on a Subject
Bedroom Time Out
Going To Bed Early
Before I begin if you’re truly looking to add DD to your relationship you should first both be on the same page. When this was added for us it was with the understanding that there would be a a trial period and that if given a task it was to be completed without complaint.
Corner Time-
self explanatory but I’ll point out so parts to ours.
#1 it’s immediate, drop what you’re doing and go
#2 before allowed out, you must first admit why you’re there or wait long enough to be told if you don’t know (2-3) consecutive sessions.
#3 This transitions from public to private very well and when I fall short in public it’s the first place I land once home.
#4 It gives both people a chance to take a breath and think/reflect
#5 differing levels of seriousness- clothed, naked, hands behind back, standing, sitting, kneeling.
Spanking (punishment)
-same as above
-Differing levels of hardness depending on severity of grievance, frequency, or atonement.
-Longer lasting reminder
Spanking (maintenance)
-Used as method of maintaining the level of chores/relational status/expectations or before going out
Writing Lines x100
Handwritten reinforcement of expectation, ideas, or to address a grievance.
-I am not allowed to half heartedly clean
-Goddess deserved my full time, love, and attention
Writing Assignment
-Topic of her choice (subject)
-Conduct research (submissive)
-Length of her choice (400 words)
-Format of her choice (5 paragraphs intro, body, conclusion or blog format, APA, MLA, etc)
-References (her discretion)
Bedroom or Room Time Out
-This is a directed time out to be allowed space to consider your actions or choices.
-or this is a time out away from your partner so you don’t continue to escalate the situation unfavorably for yourself later.
-Restrictions can be applied, such as no TV, phones, computers, etc
Go to bed early
-Similar but no return back to Goddess or family for the day
-Very effective for addressing staying up too late, being unreasonable, or to prep for a big next day
For us,
Corner
My smart mouth puts me in the corner most often
Spanking
My lack of meeting expectations leaves my butt red
Lines
Clear disregard results in Lines
Writing
Misalignment of thoughts, lack of agreeableness, or just research to inform
Bedroom Time Out
-not used
Go to Bed Early
-Not used
How to get started?????
Domestic discipline relationships can work only if both partners agree to take defined roles and believe that it will enhance their relationship. If someone is unwilling to take on a role or doesn’t feel comfortable in it (it can concern not only women but men as well), it’s probably not the best choice to be involved in a domestic discipline relationship. Remember that mutual consent, defined rules, punishment methods, and limits are what makes domestic discipline different from abuse.
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Female Led Relationship
Fuck with the Bull and get the Horns.
It’s rare that I need to close my mouth and stop talking. It’s even more rare that I’m ballsy enough to snap back with disagreement because typically we have good two way communication. When it’s one-way, it’s to address an area I surely understood.
In FLR I like there’s 99% less conflict. It’s really simple- it’s her way or her way or you advise and she decides.
Honestly I love it and rarely do I step out of line, question her, or talk back.
Welp, last night I was frustrated and walked away while she was talking to me, to address not putting away dishes I hand washed and said we’re done (they were done, but needed to dry before I put them away)
Needless to say I got off easier than expected for my childish temper tantrum. Once we were face to face again she had me standing in the corner and talking my scolding.
Here’s a pro-tip
Be Proactive
Be Emotionally Stable
Be Independent
Be Confident
Be Nurturing
All of figuring out FLR with you partner rest on the above foundation.
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2022 Our FLR Took a Turn
I should have said we stepped it up a notch. Goddess A and I have dabbled in FLR for almost three years.
This year is the first that when I fall short of an expectation you will find me nose first in the corner.
I’ve also transitioned full-time to panties amd chastity. Panties are no longer a kink under my work clothes, their all-day, everyday, and I still get embarrassed putting away my clothes from the laundry. Full-time chaste has been enlightening to say the least. I have a few custom cages, but my 99% of the time cage is a 3D printed plastic cage from Oxy-Shop a follower recommended.
This year is the first that she guilt free denied me after sex. I used to be allowed to edge over and over and eventually “earn” an O. Now I’m still edging but her yes’s are a true surprise and a lot less often. If she doesn’t have me stop, I’ll typically give up before she gives in now. The result- me horny much more often, and her satisfied a lot more often.
FLR is different for everyone and this year is a lot different for us too. Recently I changed jobs and have a different schedule. This new schedule has really effected how often I can be home for lunch and that’s typically when I got ahead of my domestic duties. The result- falling short more and finding out the hard way what happens when I do.
I’m expected to get home, change into a dress and heels and clean before Goddess A gets home. I used to be able to do all the chores and never had to be dressed up in front of her unless she had me do so on the weekend (for her entertainment). Me getting home at the same time as her and doing chores is not something either of us are used to. Normally, once she is home it’s us time or family time.
The dillemna- last week I was informed the daily tasks board will be getting done on time and from now on all tasks wether she is home or not will be me dressed up. I’m nervous but agree with her approach.
The fastest turn off besides my lack of attentiveness and affection is me slacking as a house husband and her having to tell or remind me of a normal expectation.
Chasity is relock after sex automatically- this was learned and doesn’t need told.
Panties are all that are allowed and my boy undies disappeared the moment I abused her trust by my packing them while gone for a week for work.
Cleaning has always been mine and she helps when she wants. I understand dressing up gets me focused at hand and me working faster to get undressed and back to normal FLR.
The attitude she deserves and expects is my loving, communitive, and helpful one. The corner quickly reminds me when I’m missing the mark and has replaced spanking (domestic discipline) from last year.
Orgasms have shifted from 1:1; my one to hers and now are granted solely as she sees fit. This has left me exploring pegging and riding toys much more often. It’s quite amazing how after about 30 days denied the brain gets rewired, refocused, and renewed on her.


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Real Life Female Led Relationship 2022 (2.5 yr update)
2022 has been a good year of FLR with my Goddess.
Real life FLR differs greatly from my initial fantasy. Real life is much more meaningful and wholesome.
We’re going on 3 years and this calendar year Goddess stepped up our FLR level and is a confident, loving, and caring goddess while also clearing running our house (in/out) in the manner she expects.
The biggest change this year was her follow through and inspecting what she expected. When I fall short on an expectation she knows exactly the ways to not only make me think deeper on a topic but also what to implement for me to make a meaningful change or new habit.
In the early days FLR was more of a kink and occurred in the bedroom, right after, or preceded it. These days getting locked, cleaning, and her final word is the norm. Our sex life is still amazing and she is as beautiful as ever. The biggest change from Day 1 to now is our dynamic.
After almost 3 years we both know what we like and don’t like and she has the experience to hear me out and make the final call on how we proceed as a family. Our FLR is still very much contained behind our home doors, but does trickle into our lives outside of the house.
When we’re out she isn’t afraid to remind me to straighten up and remind me what I will be met with when we get home if I decide to get out of line around friends or in public.
My favorite addition to 2022 is she doesn’t let me slip out of our FLR routine nearly as often. This makes for a more stable relationship and allows me to stay more focused.
Chastity we have had me in for a long time and often I had decently long breaks for various reasons. These days it’s on more than I would prefer, but I can’t deny the benefits our relationship receives while I’m locked.
2022 punishments have been intensified to the point they are highly effective versus a light suggestive tool in the past. 2021 I was brave enough to bend a rule or push a boundary, these days not so much. The result of her following up on expectation she has set has lead to more mutual respect and punishments now fitting the crime.
From this, I love her words sink deeper in my thought and my actions. It’s no longer a tease and denial or bratty facet of play to see what she will do. 2022 is going to be how Goddess wants 2022 to be and that includes me attentive, respectful, thoughtful, locked, and cleaning daily.
I’m beyond happy with our relationship and our dynamic.
If any readers have questions feel free to PM me and I’ll answer them ASAP.
G
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FLR- Establish what you both want
Take 15 minutes to sit down and compose a list of things you would want out of an FLR relationship.
You should end up with two lists: what you want and what your partner wants.
Further breakdown each into 2 sub-topics: #1 for her- things you really want to have control over and #2 things that would be nice to have/above and beyond tasks.
Here are some ideas for your list: you might want to control his weight through his diet. You may want to be pampered, receive regular massages, control what you watch on TV, have your drinks and snacks brought to you while he does the household chores. The possibilities are endless.
His list: he may want domestic discipline, chores, restrictions, outfits, etc. Try to keep open minded. This is what he feels he wants and needs and in return you can have him do everything you want as a firm expectation and reward his progress and explore his wants at your own pace.
Once you have the two lists, you can discuss what you feel is acceptable, set your expectations, ground rules and move forward with getting started.
For us- we started with chores and restrictions to change my day to day routine and schedule. -The restrictions were a set # of minutes to respond or send a picture, no tv/games without permission + re ask each hour, and until all daily/week day chores were done don’t even think about asking for something.
-This was specific to areas I fell/fall short in for us
My wishlist: chastity, tease and denial, and orgasm control- all of which were on her terms. If she wanted to use her fav toy 🍆 she did. If she wanted it locked, unlocked, teased, denied, or full orgasm she got it.
-since the initial days we’ve explored more kinks and no kinks for periods of time. The baseline FLR expectations as a househusband and chores haven’t changed ever.
What I learned: I really enjoy her in control, my set cleaning routine, and that she makes the decisions and their final. My wishlist items are rewards and a privilege she may allow but I’ve learned to not expect. I love her and her control over me more and more each day.
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FLR Confidence
Confidence isn’t always natural. Sometimes it’s learned, like having a belief in your own skills, your experience level, and self esteem.
If you’re unsure of FLR and want to flourish leading an FLR you must first accept the position your partner is trying to give you, which should be elevating your status and pampering you with love, time, and attention.
It won’t be effortless at first to get the FLR dynamic exactly how you want it and it probably won’t be exactly as the man had hoped. That’s ok, just work on building your knowledge, skills running it, and experience to adjust in the future.
It’s also ok you’re the focus and your focused on getting your needs met first. While yes I enjoy my independence I much more desire her and our time together. Sometimes I do need the reminder that my time can be better spent and my focus needs shifted on doing a better job of addressing the areas she cares more about.
Confidence is both sexy and strong. Her having the confidence to say no to my wants when her expectations weren’t met led us to where we are today, which is growing and being closer than ever before and household productivity through the roof.
Without the confidence I will admit early on starting FLR there were times I wasn’t held accountable and slipped. It wasn’t on purpose, but it needed addressed, and once it was we flourished.
The confidence of her has led to no phones at the table or when going out to dinner or in the car together. It’s also led to all my chores being done before I even think to ask for screen-time. It’s led to going to the gym and eating healthier. It’s led to me giving her massages and taking more showers together. It’s led to better communication and more loving interactions.
While our FLR is mainly lived at home her confidence has grown and position has solidified outside of the home too. I’ve noticed even out with friends and family I still lean over to ask for a soda at dinner or just order water to meet her expectations and our shared goals.
Without her confidence I know we would be back to square one and I would be back to arguments, disagreements, and fights that we no longer have since FLR.
I challenge men to learn to listen and act under a confident woman and I challenge woman to accept the challenge of setting up an FLR and living a loving one.
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FLR Control
If you’re a woman and looking to or been asked to lead an FLR here are some steps to get you started.
First, find out why the man wants an FLR and if it’s all new to you start out by researching the different levels of FLR.
Having to make more or all the decisions can be daunting. One way to balance that out is by getting the man in a routine that makes your day to day less stressful in other areas.
For us, number 1 she decided if I wanted to be controlled and lean towards a level 3 FLR I should show it. She had me do research on common household tasks and make her a list of daily chores and weekly chores which I must do and track completion of in a shared app. Control- I’m not allowed to do anything fun until that is done each day. Weekly tasks I broke down into daily Tues-Fri tasks to stay on schedule.
My number one recommendation is have the man do the research. We call it “I advice, you decide”.
Starting simple is key to build a solid foundation, along with weekly talks allow for everyone to feel comfortable and adjust into their new roles.
Once you form your FLR foundation, the next step for her is to address shortfalls and bad behavior.
Step two is accountability, this can include denial if you’re also trying chastity or if you’re like us and already full-time you can remove privileges, spank, have a sit-down talk, write essays, etc. Whatever addresses the shortfall and works for you both to keep a solid foundation and continuing building a better FLR.
Step three is confidence. If you’re unsure you probably need more time, more commitment, or more support.
Step four, don’t give up and enjoy the extra attention, trust to make decisions, and feel comfortable that he won’t always enjoy or like your decision, put expect that he supports it once made. His chance to let you know is during your weekly talks to see how he feels and how everything is going for FLR level 2+.
Last, mistakes will happen, don’t sweat if one day or week is worse than the last. Just move forward and try to be better.
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Real Life Female Led Relationship (FLR) + Additions
Additions I will cover that we have are:
1.) Routine
2.) Domestic Discipline
3.) Power Exchange (Long Term Chastity, Screen Time, Permission for Free Time / Games / Schedule / Dress&Attire)
4.) Light Sissification / Strapon Training
5.) Edging / Ruined Orgasms
6.) Control / Rules / Expectation Management
In our FLR my routine is this:
For me my day look like this:
-wake up around 4:30am
-gym / personal trainer 5:00-6:00am
-gym shooting basketball 6:00-6:30am
-send good morning message to goddess
-home, goddess unlocks me, shower, possibly edged, relock, start chores go to work by 7:30am
-home by 4:30pm
-complete daily / weekly chores (ask permission to get dressed in a cleaning outfit)
-message goddess when complete if free time is wanted by me
-have free time or complete a dynamically assigned task
-make / have dinner
-cuddle on the couch together or playtime (sex/worship goddess/massage goddess/edge/etc)
Domestic Discipline:
at some point goddess will administer punishments for shortfalls of the day or week. This for me is mainly standing in the corner naked, spankings, or being locked in a humblr—all things I dislike.
Power Exchange:
-Chastity denial is a separate part of our life and over time the amount of times I’m allowed to come have a full orgasm each month has generally reduced and been replaced with ruined.
-Even before FLR she told me no porn and no masterbating as she wanted all my cum to herself.
-Chastity was the easiest way to make sure there we’re any slip ups and makes me horny as hell.
Schedule and Routine:
-I for the most part advice options and things to do on the weekend
-Outside of my normal chores and take I have to ask permission for anything.
-This really helps me stay on schedule and meet her expectations much better than a giant list of rules neither of us can remember.
Rules:
1.) Be locked Daily
2.) Workout M-F
3.) Send Good Morning Message
4.) Complete Daily Chores / Tasks
5.) Ensure her wants or needs are met before asking for any screen time.
6.) Greet at Door when she arrives
7.) Open her doors (car/eating out/etc)
8.) Undivided attention when in her presence. No phone, TV, etc unless she wants it.
9.) Be responsive when apart. 5 mins to reply to messages, unless known why it may take longer prior (meeting, driving, etc)
10.) If allowed to play games, “dinger” will be on, and I have to re-ask each hour to continue.
I thrive with having to ask permission to do anything not already allowed via chores/tasks/free time rules. This allows for her to have flexibility and set different permissions and tasks quickly and easily based on my performance, feedback and how she wants the day to go later on. For me, this amount of control and for us leaves zero room for misunderstandings and helps me stay out of trouble. Personally I prefer asking for permission to drink soda, play games, etc. it helps me stay on track for my goals her or I have agreed to.
Sissification / Strapon Training:
-Being humiliated is one of my kinks outside FLR
-This has evolved a bit. Sexually I like having to dress up and be pounded.
-Shopping or trying on is humiliation that I enjoy the thrill of.
-We still do this sometimes when she sees fit, but also I have to ask permission to do chores in sissy outfits.
-This is where being her house husband really evolved and I became very fast and completing chores to be allowed to change back into normal clothes.
-I do like the submissiveness from it and her teasing about how cute I look and I’m throughly scared to be caught by our yard help or one of our friends.
-When working from home I’m sometimes not allowed to change after my cleaning is done or if something for work comes up midway through my chores. I just love she is in control and says no sometimes when I want out.
Strapon training came from being locked all the time and needed and wanting to be milked to release some hall pressure. Usually she has me edge with a dildo locked and sometimes unlocked. It’s rare but my favorite is when she bends me over and takes me from behind. I drip and leak so much more than doing it myself with a dildo. Idk, just the thought of it to me is hott, and when she grabs my hips or smacks my ass, tells me to say I like taking her cock it’s just a whole new level of submission and kink for me.
Edging / Ruined Orgasms:
-This is an our thing, for her she wants me denied and my balls full. It makes me horny and better in bed during intercourse. She always comes first and I can ask to or ask to be denied (my choice).
-For me I’m so happy to be allowed to either edge or be allowed to have a ruined orgasm as I know without a doubt 95% of the time a full orgasm will not be allowed.
-I will admit, Chastity and being denied can have positive effects on attitude, but for us it’s not a punishment because after a full orgasm I used to act up more and that frustrated her. That’s where other ways were found to address them and are now the staple for addressing issues since it’s effective 24/7 and anytime she needs it.
For Real Life FLR and for different couples, with different levels of FLR I’d say the true staple is addressing the following:
Expectations
Rules
Control
Punishments
Expectations give both parties a clear foundation to build upon and add to once the foundation is solid.
Rules, should be short and simple, to reinforce expectations
Control is a tool that not everyone needs to use, but for me if she says jump I don’t ask how high I just jump. She will tell me how many and how high and correct it if I do it wrong.
Punishments, what works for one won’t work for all. This is really her realm and trying different things.
For me, I have to write lines over and over when I disobey a known rule or expectations. That’s usually assigned along with a 250 or 500 word essay on respect/serving/Etc. Usually in addition I have to update our shared app with a physical punishment like spankings or standing in the corner, which she texts me to add and I have to think about while writing and while waiting to have them administered when she sees fit.
Once a punishment is used to address a shortfall she may discuss it with me, but from there both parties move on. Sometimes for me that includes moving on with additional temporary or permanent rules or tasks around the event or losing privileges or being grounded.
Most notable for me is after a few issues on accident Goddess added for my free time (when allowed) for games that 1.) I have to ask permission 2.) re-ask each hour. Those are permanent. For that week where these were added I also had to wear panties, drink only water, and be plugged while playing. Last- If I didn’t/don’t get a response to the extension games are back to off limits. I retask myself to cleaning when this happens when she is out of the house. If she is home I pamper her or cuddle her and make sure all her needs and wants are met by asking. What I would never do is go and bug her about playing. It’s not a rule, it’s just common sense and knowing that if she wanted me playing games she would tell or allow me. Lastly, this is where the 5 mins to respond to any text came from, because I was playing online 6-7 min matches and would miss a message or immediate task she wanted complete. Now if that happens I’ll turn off the game and go do what she instructs. She doesn’t care about my ranking like I do, and I don’t care about my rankings either because I won’t have any if I’m not allowed to play at all.
To close, while yes FLR can have kink dynamics and BDSM related topics intertwined I want others to know it’s best kept separate if you’re just starting out.
For us, at the end of each week is my time to talk about what I think is going well, what I had trouble with and why, and being up anything I’m curious about or would like to ask to try.
For me- It’s takes time and practice to accept i don’t get way most of the time and she has final say. But from that comes comfort of knowing if / when she wants to she will.

#female led relationship#female led marriage#wife led marriage#house husband#the way of the househusband
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Female Led Relationship In Real Life
FLR explained, the woman has final say on all matters. The man accepts her wishes, her wants, and her punishments. This isn’t the FLR most men dream about in real life which is sexual in nature; I can promise in real life it is much different and more rewarding long term for both parties involved.
For us, yes housework is my responsibility and it started out with her lowering the normal standard that she kept up so that I could get down a routine. Overtime I’ve gotten better and worked longer in rooms and areas that did not meet her standards. I want to say higher, but they were only higher standards to me when we were vanilla. I see now the importance of daily, weekly, and monthly deep cleaning chores and tasks. They really do make the house ready for guests at a moments notice without worry and it really lifts a level of stress off of her which reflects back into us and our time together.
I’ve been timed and my daily chores I can do in 20 mins if I hustle. Normally it takes me an hour in between making her breakfast or getting ready for or after my work. Either way my “right” to ask permission to play video games or have screentime on my phone is once my chores are complete. The weekly tasks I’ve broken down into days to accomplish them easier (for myself), to not get behind, and make sure I meet her expectation of cleanliness.
My fav part of our FLR which has led to has been more love, time, and attention towards her is a phone rule. Dinner at home or out, regardless with friends I have to ask permission to use my phone. Needless to say no one bats an eye as they think it’s great we’re not on our phones. I like to check google reviews and see photos of different food options at a restaurant and it’s almost always a yes when I ask and then I put it away or it goes in her purse. I will say getting to that level of discipline isn’t easy.
In FLR I thrived with any new rules or expectations as soon as Goddess Amy figured out the best punishments that one changed my perspective and made me do risk/reward calculations before taking an action. What worked for her and didn’t cause her too much additional time away from what she enjoyed and was highly effective for me was corner time (30+ mins sometimes) and marking down in my shared chore app her grievances, which I too could see and were addressed with the paddle when she so decided. Unlike fantasy FLR there is nothing fun about having your pants around your ankles and being met with a firm paddle. She knows once I’m over ten that each and everyone will be remembered throughly. She has taken it a step further and makes me recite while I’m being paddled. Again not sexy but to make sure i know what I did and what I should do again.
Writing lines or the same thing over and over on paper takes a lot of time and she doesn’t except sloppy work. When that comes up I know I’m metaphorically fucked. It’s the equivalent of a cold shoulder when we were vanilla and I know a conversation is coming.
FLR isn’t all chores and sex. It’s a means to have a more loving and quality filled relationship. It’s non-standard but really does the trick for us. Of note when you’ve been met with consequences for falling short on expectations it really does change you behavior and moments vanilla you might want to give constructive feedback or argue a point of view. In FLR skip it and if you don’t like the point/topic/discussion try and bring it up at the end of the day or week, and if you really want ask if she wants feedback and if she says yes then maybe; otherwise wait until the end of the day or week.
In real-life FLR I can only give my perspective and maybe some of hers. For me I’d say the most important part is the man accepting she has the authority. Leadership isn’t all about being right, it’s about inspiring follow-ship naturally and accomplishing shared goals of the individuals under you and for the organization. Goddess Amy does that wonderfully and this is where you could say she understands my kinks (motivation) and pessimistic characteristics (frictions). She has a firm grasps on all things me and has goals for me, expectations for herself, our house, and our family. FLR works well for us because I accept and want her authority and she cares about all of the above to ensure each and everyday we move forward and improve. It’s not like the kink where things are expected to be absolutely perfect. She knows what I can handle and pushes the bubble little by little until it’s “perfect”, I look back and think wow what a difference I never thought this was possible.
Have you heard the phrase “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy. If daddy ain’t happy don’t nobody care. “ That phrase sums up FLR. This ties in with communication and roles of FLR. She can easily say be ready we are going out and that means get in nice clothes and get everything ready to go or she can say she’s going out, which means I have the house to myself and if I’m lucky I’ll be given permission to watch TV or play games on my laptop. This ties in with staying on top of the routine she has set for me and other rules like no screentime without the chores being done. Most times I’m fortunate enough to get sceentime when I have the house to myself and sometimes it’s an opportunity for me to address a writing assignment she would like or an addtional chore. Rarely does it include me playing and sending pictures while she is out and about, but either way I’m always responsive and accept what she chooses as I know and believe it has a purpose. I just don’t sometimes fully understand it until later on down the road.
Real-life FLR the man only does what she wants and in ours she has retained meal prep for us and weekday dinners. The weekends I get to grill out and make her meals. Dishes are easy in our house. After a meal we clear the table, some things into rubber ware, some things rinsed in the sink and then into the dishwasher. We have a sign for clean/dirty and the dishwasher gets ran at night once full every couple of days and per my checklist is emptied or check daily.
A big benefit for her is me seeking ways to earn extra privileges ultimately by going out of my way to be on my best behavior, pampering her with love, surprises, and foot rubs. Some days she surprises me with the same to include paid massages and also breakfast in bed.
In public we appear vanilla, with the exception that I may secretly ask permission to have a soda or bend our diet plan a bit with a dessert. I’ve found asking before we go out with friends is better and also she has coded eye brows and looks which convey a silent approval or disapproval as I talk through what I might want when asked.
In addition to not meal prepping every meal since she loves cooking and helping us meet our fitness goals there are a few other things she retains control of. One is laundry, not because she loves it but because only she understands our walk in closet system for her stuff. Every morning I make sure everything is in the hamper and check the dryer- going through and pulling clothes tout of the dryer and separating out her dresses, tops, panties, etc in a way that makes it faster for her to put away herself, along with hanging and putting away all of my clothes neatly. Second the baby’s room there is a fancy rug which gets cleaned a certain way that’s off limits to me. I didn’t ask why and daily just make sure everything is clean and organized. Unlike fantasy FLR you won’t see me begging to do more chores, but you will see me finding areas which I add to my daily to keep off my monthly and deep clean routine to save myself time another day but just maintaining the area better. One example for this is dusting, yes the dreaded dusting. Once despised, I now prefer to address it per room per weekday versus all at once on the weekend. For me it’s less tedious when mixed in with picking up toys, vacuuming, and wiping down surfaces versus a whole hour of it another day.
To end this long discussion one thing that I like most about our FLR is despite me, the man not having final decision is that she gets my feedback 9 times out of 10 before making the final decision. I always feel heard and understood even when I don’t get what I wanted on most big topics, this isn’t the case with little chores or screentime expectations.

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Today was an eventful day.
It started like any other day with chores, feeding the cats/dogs, etc with one exception. Recently the rules were updated that when I do my daily or weekly tasks to ask if I may clean in a humiliating outfit aka sissy outfit.
Non-sexually I don’t enjoy it, but I do love the level of submissiveness I feel from putting on a skirt, panties, and a bralette and the comments Goddess Amy teases me with.
Midway through my chores I had to hop on the computer for work (I’m teleworking for the rest of this week before I go back to work and then we go on a 42 day road trip together). Goddess usually lets me change into my normal clothes but today she asked why I needed to and caught me off guard when I asked. I didn’t have to video conference and just said “I don’t goddess” and for my work project done.
When I was done she told me to leave on the bralette and panties and change to go run errands with her. Trying to find a shirt to hide my double bra straps was tough and I settled on a button down and think it hid it ok compared to a polo or t-shirt.
I felt so submissive the whole car ride and just held her hand. I thought and wondered who might see and where all she was going to take me. We just went a few places and she was kind enough to let me choose a wrap for lunch once we got home.
Once home I wiped down and the table and set out our lunch we picked up on the way home.
We have a newborn and she was still sleeping from the car ride. After lunch Goddess Amy grabbed my hand and had me go to our room and pull down my pants. The last few days since our last discussion I knew I didn’t meet her expectations and this moment would come.
I had 10 coming for giving her attitude one morning, being nosy mid-day, asking her what she was doing once and not being attentive enough to her requests via text the day prior. I received another 5 for buying a 12 pack of beer for a guest without her permission which I was told not to a week earlier and forgot since she already had it covered.
Afterwards, I completed my daily chores and gave her a foot rub on the couch. When we were done she let me edge and have my second ruined orgasm of the month, which while ruined still was amazing to relieve some pressure after days of 1 hour edging sessions with explicit start, midway, and endings of I wasn’t coming.
Left for the day I still have weekly chores, which I’ve broken down by day to make sure I get them completed by my due date.

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Living day to day and full time in FLR versus vanilla has been so comforting. The hardest adjustment wasn’t chastity but staying submissive outside of the bedroom in day to day living.
We don’t have an extreme FLR. It’s very simple—give my attention, time, and love to my beautiful Goddess Amy. This does include chores and tasks, which I’ve come accustom to too and actually enjoy the routine and not getting overwhelmed before someone comes over or she wants it looking better.
This week she has stepped up her expectations and held me accountable for my out of place words and unacceptable attitude that are left to vanilla couples.
I asked her “what are you doing” when she was busy on the phone and I thought we should be going. I have to say a half hour holding my chastity keys with my nose on the wall has me now only worrying about meeting her expectations, realizing she leads and I follow, and don’t need to worry about anyone but myself and my actions.
I have tasks, she has time to do as she wants.
I am locked, she may cum with or without my clitty all she wants.
She may ask what I’m doing or thinking, I’m allowed to think it but not say it without permission or during our weekly syncs to see how I’m doing and to address my performance.
In the near future I know I have Spankings coming. In the same app as where she monitors and I check off my cleaning tasks for the day/week she has a “pow pow” and “in the corner” section.
Recently, in line with my attitude she decided I wasn’t responsive enough and set a 5 min time limit to reply to messages when we are apart or she wants something while I’m allowed to play on my gaming laptop.
Im allowed game or friend-time after all my chores are complete and she gives permission.
Additionally this week I have to re-ask each hour, wear panties, get plugged and have been limited to two hours each session and then have to go run errands or help her where she wants it.
This level of structure, restriction, and control is a big help over vanilla us, do to me getting hyper focused in online games and being “all or nothing” which she has always hated.
FLR has allowed us to be on the same page 24/7 and has cut out fights and disagreements and wasting time addressing them.
For me corner time and a 12” paddle has truly been life changing to get on the same page. It’s unbelievable how much happier we both are with her managing my time and determining what’s needed to move past grievances she has. My opportunity is available by bring topics up, but I’m 100% perfect with everything.
Because someone will ask—I’ve had to ask permission to cum since before FLR and now ask to be denied and get overly excited to ride a dildo and just be allowed to please her, feel inside her and have a ruined orgasm.
In closing, FLR isn’t for everyone and is a full lifestyle change we enjoy in and out of the bedroom.

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Today marks just over 1 month of FLR with Goddess Amy.
Over the last month I’ve learned a lot to include:
She has final words on everything. Most people think FLR is all chastity and worshipping at a Domme’s feet.
While I am locked 24/7 and rarely see a full orgasm it’s much more of making her day easier, not arguing, and both getting sexual gratitude.
I have two chore lists. One is daily and gets done before I’m allowed any “fun time” and the other is a weekly list that must be done by the end of the week — I’ve broken that down into days but the check/inspection is at the end of the week via a shared app where she can check on my status of both. —sometimes I have to clean naked or in a sissy outfit, which is not fun when it’s not tied to being kinky in bed.
Being locked 24/7 is no longer a game it’s a lifestyle that she enjoys. For me it keeps me focused on her and my duties and is unlocked when she says and wants to play with it. It’s taken many many months of off and on to find the right one that allows me to get in and out easily for showers and is comfortable for long term wear.
Rules are pretty straight forward. Be dedicated to her, she has final say, and meet the expectations given.
Punishments are non-sexual. This month I’ve had the paddle a few times, stood in the corner, writing lines, writing essays, and got grounded from screen time. I’m denied 99% of the time, except for ruins when she sees fit.
I’m regularly allowed to edge and train my ass. Both of which didn’t used to be any fun, but it’s now my regular way of play.
When I’m not cleaning or allowed a few hours of fun we are usually out and about, cuddled on the couch, or I’m trying to impress her and turn her on for a hopeful playtime where I know she will come and mine is up to chance.
Stay tuned, new to blogging but not to tumblr which I’m on regularly.


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