A list I made as a teen about how to live, circa 2013
1. Adapt and adjust. Situations change all the time, mentally prepare yourself for anything and everything. Then nothing can take you by surprise.
2. Learn fast. Ask questions, but try to make inferences yourself. Think laterally.
3. Reinvent yourself and be flexible. Don't just stick to your way of doing things, pick up everyone's strengths and drop your own weaknesses.
4. Always pee before a journey. Always!
5. Keep your mind organised. It reflects on everything you do.
6. Be cool, calm and collected. Freaking out has never helped anyone.
7. The moment you think you can do something, you gain the ability to do it. That thing you tell yourself about how you cannot do something is just a mental block.
8. Take interest in what people say. If you speak, you are only repeating what you already know, but if you listen you may learn something new.
9. Never give up. Ever. Even when the odds are against you. Your will is one of the few things that are entirely in your control.
10. Think outside of the box. Be creative and be ingenious. Time for the ordinary is gone.
11. Observe. There is a lot that goes by without people's notice. Slow down, and smell the roses, don't start running and step on them.
12. If you think something that you're about to do will disappoint anyone anywhere in the world, you shouldn't do it.
13. Respect people who do things for you: be it a sweeper, a CEO, your 8-year-old cousin or your mother. Everyone appreciates gratitude.
14. Speak up. Say what's on your mind before it's too late. And once you've said it, move on. Don't live in the past.
15. Strike a balance between how much you think and how much you talk. Extremes are never a wise choice.
16. Once you start disliking a person, everything they do seems annoying. Don't let it get to that with anyone.
17. The person you're going to spend the most amount of time with alone is yourself. Be interesting and don't fear solitude.
18. Inspire people. Ignite their minds and souls.
19. Help others like you are the person in need.
20. Never mock someone else's misery. Step into their shoes to know what it's really like.
21. Humour is everywhere, just waiting to be noticed. Celebrate your successes and find humour in your failures (and also learn from them!)
22. With friends, look for quality, not quantity.
23. Be polite with everyone, especially with people you don't know. Don't take anyone for granted.
24. Money can't buy much. Except for a house, food and all your toys. Having said that, if you let money become your master, you're doomed.
25. The friendships you nurture will have a greater effect on your life than where you work or what you earn.
26. You are not your job. You are not your bankroll. You are not the sum of your possessions.
27. Few decisions will ever shape your future life more than who you choose to marry. To marry well, you must choose well.
28. Your passions will grow out of your values. Make early, wise choices to value what (and who) is good, trustworthy, and praiseworthy.
29. Integrity preserved is honour won.
30. Never confuse the size of your salary with the size of your talent.
31. Find a passion. Pick a hobby, own it: coding, music, juggling—whatever. Get your 10K hours of perfect practice in early and change your life.
32. Don’t bother comparing yourself to others — this only leads to heartbreak, anger, and disappointment. Compare with your past self and see how much you've improved.
33. Most disappointments arise from unmet expectations. Set realistic expectations for yourself, based on your strengths, and then strive to exceed them.
34. Don’t just drive others to meet expectations they’ve committed to — lead, inspire, and help them do it.
35. Don’t set expectations for others when they have not or cannot commit to them.
36. Don’t complain. Either change your situation, learn to cope, or change your perspective.
37. Don’t worry about getting a big salary in your youth: first learn to execute tasks with skill, excellence, and grace.
38. Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.
39. Don’t look down on others because they don’t have what you didn’t earn: your intellect, your beauty, and your culture of birth are undeserved gifts. Stay humble.
40. Failure is an opportunity: no great man or woman ever achieved significance without great failures. Fail forward.
41. Never withhold an apology when it’s merited. Deliver it quickly, sincerely, and personally—before resentment festers.
42. You don’t need to nurture old guilt when you’re forgiven. But remembering the shame can help you avoid repeats.
43. The main thing you need to do quickly is to stop doing things quickly. Trade hurry for calm, confidence, and precision.
44. Get your work done first so you can play without guilt. Even better, make work play and the fun never ends!
45. If you want to develop your passion, stop worrying about the things you do poorly. Go with your strengths!
46. Avoid fights. Seriously. Avoid them like a plague: nobody wins in a fight, even if you walk away unscathed. But when a fight picks you, leave everything on the mat and give it your all. Hold nothing back.
47. If you're bored, you’re doing it wrong.
48. The skills that will help your career most are the abilities to assimilate, communicate, and persuade. Keep learning.
49. Protect your joy. Nothing is easier to lose by over-thinking, overanalyzing, and second-guessing. On the other hand, always consider the long-term consequences of your choices: stupid decisions made in the moment can rob you of years of joy and happiness.
50. Rivers, ponds, lakes, and streams all have different names, but they all contain water. Just as religions do - they all contain truths.
51. It truly matters what you think about. Think well by reading good books, building good, loving relationships, having good conversations, and imitating great people.
52. Be yourself, all the time. People will value you more for your honest opinion than for your flattering lies.
53. Fake it till you become it. If the situation needs you to be more confident, more intelligent, or more competent than you think you are, fake it. You will become it sooner than you think.
54. Be punctual. People mind waiting. If you've said 7 o'clock, it doesn't mean you'll start thinking about leaving then, it means you'll actually be there then!
55. Stay young. Keep the energy alive in you. That zeal for adventure should die with you, not before that.
56. Don't classify people based on economic, social, cultural or financial grounds. If it wasn't their choice, you shouldn't be labeling them for it.
57. When you learn something new, question it's relation with things you already know. Don't collect dots, connect them.
58. Do whatever you do, go wherever you go, and meet whoever you meet with a smile on your face. That's a face nobody minds and everyone wants around.
59. Understand that everything and everyone displays elements of tenderness as well as elements of savagery. Nothing in the world is either one or the other, it's an amalgamation of all emotions within the spectrum.
60. Don't get greedy. All you should really want is only what you really need.
61. Know the value of money. If you do, you'll understand the value of people.
62. Work is work. Develop a sense of dignity of labour. Nothing is more degrading than shying away from regular everyday work.
63. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a pauper.
64. Eat your liquids, and drink your solids. Good digestion is key to good health.
65. Say yes! Yes to trying new things. Yes to meeting new people. Yes to taking the road less traveled.
66. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy clothes. Don't save it all for a special occasion, today is special.
67. Forgive others and forgive yourself.
68. Always remember, this too shall pass.
69. Don't take yourself so seriously. Have a little fun all along the way.
70. Growing old beats dying young. Stay away from things that could get you killed or voiding your life of meaning; including addiction, speed and the like.
71. If you didn't hear it with your own ears, see it with your own eyes, don't invent it with your small mind and share it with your big mouth.
72. Stay fit. Your eating habits are what matter more when you're trying to shed some weight. Eat in moderation and exercise!
73. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up. You can sit around moping in your room any time of the year, any time of the day.
74. If you waste your time on envy, you're doing it wrong.
75. Hell and heaven are not places that are waiting for us in the afterlife. You make your present hell or heaven by the choices you make. Your thoughts are in your control, and so are your actions.
76. How you react to a situation is also completely in your hands. If you can't turn a situation in your favour, surrender control and consequently acquire control.
77. Your mind is capable of creating boundless universes inside it. Close your eyes, and explore the universe behind them. Look inward.
78. Hiding how you really feel and trying to make everyone happy doesn't make you nice, it just makes you a liar.
79. Always follow principles, never people.
80. Betray a friend, and you'll often find you have ruined yourself.
81. Don't earn money for yourself. Share your wealth with the people you love. And with people who are in need. That said, be wise about spending and don't forget to save up!
82. Notice the difference between your physical body and your inner body. That is the eye of the eye, the ear of the ear, etc. When you can answer the question "Who am I?", you'll have understood the difference.
83. You need to gift your loved ones something you rarely ever think about; your time.
84. Don't confuse affluence and happiness. Both are very different concepts. You can have one and not the other; they don't always go together.
85. Everyone's reality is just as complex as your own.
86. It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
87. Fight cruelty with love.
88. An idle mind is the devil's workshop.
89. Build bridges, not walls.
90. Feeling sorry for yourself is an exercise in futility.
91. Initiate a process of self-creation where the nature of your body, your emotion, your mind, and your energy are consciously created by you. When you do this well, you will find you have become the master of your life.
92. Never put off till tomorrow what you ought to do today, or you'll end up putting your whole life away.
93. About all that a man has that he can call his own are his values. When he sells those out, there's nothing left.
94. There has probably been more stupidity committed in the name of manhood than for any other reason.
95. All diets to lose weight and become fit boil down to this: eat less, move more (but everything in regulation).
96. Your stomach is your second brain; treat it well. Drink food and chew liquids. Your intestines will thank you! Doing just this will do wonders for your overall health.
97. If you notice obituaries never mention the amount of money you made, the number of houses you owned, or the number of cases you drove. The thing people do mention is what you have done for your fellow men.
98. Your purpose in life determines how you frame events. You can maintain your joy in the direst circumstances if you find meaning in your life. Dig deep.
99. The bamboo that bends is stronger than the oak that resists.
100. Living well is the best revenge.
101. When in Rome, do as the Romans do.
102. Ask why more often.
103. If you want peace of mind and happiness then believe but if you are in the pursuit of truth then investigate.
104. Grow plants! It is one of the most rewarding things you can do with your time (given enough of it!)
105. The best way to learn a new concept (even for an exam) is to teach it to someone else. Or even yourself!
106. If your better half cooks for you, eat it all and always ask for seconds!
107. A goal without a plan is a wish.
108. Do or do not, there is no try.
109. Better to have and not need, than to need and not have.
110. Live forward, understand backwards.
111. Initialise flag to friend, not enemy. Just like you should be considered innocent unless proven guilty.
112. You have to put in a fair day's work to get a fair day's pay.
113. "Happiness is real only when shared."
114. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of petrol.
115. Give credit. Take blame.
116. Kaal Kare So Aaj Kar, Aaj Kare So Ab, Pal Mein Pralaya Hoyegi, Bahuri Karoge Kub -- Tomorrow's work do today, today's work now; if the moment is lost, the work will be done how?
117. All work and no play make Jack a dull boy.
118. There's nothing wrong with playing the game once in a while! Don't always be a rebel.
119. Let go of the little things.
120. Failure is the greatest teacher.
121. Life is too short to hold grudges.
122. There are better highs than getting drunk, smoking weed, or doing drugs.
123. Be a straight shooter! People appreciate the truth, and if they don't, at least you're clear with them.
124. "It is not the revolutionary, the man obsessed with building a new world, but the traditionalist who dives deep into the romance of life.”
125. "You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him."
126. Step out of your comfort zone. Expose yourself to discomfort, so you can expand your actionable sphere of comfort.
127. Don't try to fix it if it's not broken.
128. A bad workman blames his tools. A good workman focuses on sharpening the tool.
129. The world's greatest lie: at a certain point in our lives we lose control of what's happening to us and it becomes controlled by fate.
130. No guts, no glory. No legend, no story.
131. A man of wealth has many enemies, but a man of knowledge has many friends.
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The Master Puppeteer
He is not the simple man he shows to be.
Not his manner, and nor his talk.
But from his true self, it took him a while to flee.
In the end, he reckoned he should walk,
Into the mass of identities before him and pick,
a handful that thrilled his melancholy humor.
And it never made him sick,
to let these consume him like an abominable tumor.
Flourish inside of him while his own lay dead silent.
There was a new face he would show,
to every creature he ever lent
his eyes to, and a new person would grow.
A master puppeteer he, in due course, became.
To manipulate all and sundry, while he would contain
his own burgeoning sentiments forever; not feeling pain.
He was a little bit of everyone, sound and insane.
Never to lay his cards flat on the table,
until his grasp on your character became complete.
His mystery would blow minds; guised with his amazing fables.
It was all but a grand show; a way to score neat.
‘Cause he was never timid, naïve and silly or whatever people took him to be.
It was his grand strategy to never reveal his true identity.
Mind games rendered his own character inconceivable,
as he sat behind a cloak of emotional opacity.
They would never suspect craft – declare it implausible,
targeting your frailties, he’d navigate right through so easily.
Right through your many walls of security,
and make you swear on the lord above.
He was the man he showed to be,
his distastes, dreads, disposition, and all that fuss.
Indeed, he never meant for you to know,
that he’d be in your head all this while and you wouldn’t cry,
that there were blinkers to your eyes and what’s more,
you would help him as he would into you pry.
Everyone adored him but he didn’t care,
only for a few, would he give up this disguise.
He became a little bit of everybody, and he dared,
to live by mere lies.
But his reasoning would truly befuddle,
for what it seems like, it’s most definitely not,
a sharp mind would be in a state of muddle,
deceit to top off lies for you is all he has got.
This man could be standing among us, in this room,
or as you walk down the street, you wouldn’t see,
if you comprehend these verses, salvage yourself soon,
this man, for all you know, was a description of me.
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If - Rudyard Kipling
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!
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