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Fear of Failure: How It Holds You Back in Love

As a couples counsellor, I often see clients struggling with deep-rooted fears—fears of rejection, failure, or not being “enough.” This is particularly common when it comes to relationships, dating, and intimacy. Whether it’s a fear of approaching someone attractive or a fear of communicating openly with a partner, these fears are often rooted in a powerful misconception: the belief that…

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Signs Your Relationship Is Stronger Than You Think

Many couples underestimate the strength of their relationship, especially when facing challenges. You might worry that minor disagreements or periods of distance mean your relationship is struggling. However, signs your relationship is stronger than you think often go unnoticed because they aren’t always obvious. If you’re wondering about the health of your relationship, it’s important to focus…

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Married at First Sight: Relationship Experiment Gone Wrong?

Australia’s reality TV phenomenon, Married at First Sight (MAFS), has captivated audiences for years, offering an intriguing mix of romance, drama, and psychological exploration. Viewers tune in to watch complete strangers walk down the aisle, hoping that expert matchmaking will lead to lasting love. But as a couples counsellor and psychologist based in Sydney, I can’t help but question the…

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Keeping Your Relationship Safe Over the Holidays

The holiday season, while joyous and festive, can also bring about stress, heightened emotions, and potential challenges for couples. As a couples counsellor based in Sydney, I understand how you might struggle with keeping your relationship safe over the holidays. From juggling family commitments to financial strain and managing holiday expectations, the season can test even the strongest…

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Why Anger Isn't the Enemy in Relationships

One of the most common questions I get as a couple’scounsellor in Sydney is if emotions, like anger, are bad for a relationship. It’s a common misconception that emotions, particularly the strong, difficult ones, are harmful and should be suppressed. But the reality is quite the opposite. Emotions are not only normal but necessary for a healthy, functioning relationship. What matters is how these…

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When Sexual Problems in a Relationship Aren’t Just Physical

As a couples counsellor in Sydney, I often see couples who come to me with sexual issues, assuming there’s a physical cause. The reality, however, is that while physical health can certainly play a role, it’s often emotional and psychological factors that lie at the heart of these concerns. Over time, unresolved conflicts, emotional distance, and past hurts can build up, creating barriers to…

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Self-Esteem VS. Narcissism: How to Foster Healthier & Stronger Relationships

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Seven reasons to end a relationship

Many of us struggle with knowing whether a relationship is the right one for us or not. There are so many factors to consider not only when you first meet and begin to date someone but even more so as you get to know each other and begin to live life together.   Once we are committed to a relationship with a partner, it becomes harder to think of leaving as we get increasingly emotionally and…

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The role of self-care in supporting a partner through addiction recovery

Being in a relationship with someone struggling with addiction can be very challenging, and many couples break up before recovery even begins.However, many does not mean all, or even most, as a good number of couples eventually find the strength to endure. The key might lie in how the non-addicted partner takes care of themselves, enabling them to be a strong support system.Today, we’ll explore…

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What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)?

Have you ever woken up in the middle of the night with a mind full of worries? Ever gotten anxious before going to a big social gathering? Are you always thinking of the worse case scenario before anything happens? Breaking the cycle of these thought patterns is where Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) comes into play. CBT is a widely-used, evidence-based form of psychotherapy that focuses on…

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How to Choose a Couples Therapist in Sydney to Help Rekindle Your Relationship

Taking the leap to try couples therapy is a big step, but after that, you need to decide which therapist to go with. We’d be lying if we said there wasn’t an abundance of choice for couples therapy in Sydney, but this can make finding the right therapist seem daunting. However, with a focused approach, you should easily find a therapist who aligns with your needs (and your partner’s). Here are…

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Unveiling Relationship Realities: Insights on 'Married at First Sight’ by David Fox – Psychologist and Couples Counsellor

Why does “Married at First Sight” captivate audiences across Australia and around the world? What is it about this daring social experiment, where strangers tie the knot at first sight, that keeps people glued to their screens, eagerly anticipating each twist and turn? As a psychologist and couples counsellor, I can’t stress enough how problematic this is in so many ways. While the show…

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Is Marriage Counselling Effective for Resolving Conflicts?

One of the primary reasons couples come to see me is to resolve conflict. It is by no means the only reason as sometimes they need help with rebuilding a lost connection, dealing with mental health difficulties, making difficult choices, improving their intimacy and sex lives or recovering from a breach of trust. In fact, some couples who come to see me don’t appear to fight or argue much at all.…

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Love is Not Enough

Mary sat in my counselling room looking very distressed and highly animated. “He’s a narcissist”, she said as she explained to me that her new husband, Chad, had been lying to her during the time she was pregnant with her fourth child, his first. Mary had met her new husband, who was a few years younger than her, not long after ending a difficult marriage to her ex-husband with whom she had…

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Love will conquer all…Except a personality disorder!

Most of us have heard the saying that Love Will Conquer All. And when it comes to the Disney version of relationships, that does seem to be true, right? We go through the challenges and difficulties of life; we are resilient, and one day, we will finally meet someone who will meet our every need and with whom we can easily solve the riddles of love. Yes? No! In the real world of real…

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Infidelity: Why it Happens in Both Good and Bad Relationships

Having worked as a couple’s counsellor for over 13 years now, one of the early things that struck me in doing this work is the number of couples who have struggled with some form of infidelity or another.  It would seem to me that at least 50% of my clients come in presenting with some variation ranging from flirty text messages and DM’s (direct messages) on Instagram through to emotional…

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My Partner Has Just Cheated on Me – Should I Leave?

I often get this question or a form of this question from many of my clients who come in who have experienced infidelity or some form of betrayal or breach of trust. How do I know whether to stay or leave? As one of my clients said to me: “If I stay and she does it again, would that make me a fool?” Very often, there are children involved as well and so I would then get comments such as “If we…