#fear of failure

[mindfulstudyquest]

the day i get rid of my crazy fear of failure and my procrastination, it will be over for you all.

[raesworld1]

20 Affirmations / Mantras for When You Fear the Unknown:

The universe has my back.

I am supported through every life change.

Everything is always working out for me.

Change is okay. Change is good.

I am open to new experiences.

I am always evolving.

Thank you for this new, exciting adventure.

I can handle any obstacles.

I can handle my emotions.

My soul knows what’s best.

I am open to new opportunities.

I am ready to receive my blessings in divine timing.

What’s meant for me will never pass me.

I am enjoying the present moment.

Thank you Universe(or what you call your higher power) for supporting me.

I am enjoying my life’s journey.

The unknown is filled with necessary lessons and well deserved blessings.

Change is inevitable and it’s always for my highest good.

I have a purpose.

My intuition is always guiding me in the right direction.

You can trust yourself in the unknown. <3

[safe-haven-safe-place]

[girl-that-writes]

I know that being positive in the face of adversity is quite an important thing but I also think that taking a moment to just breathe and entertain the thought of "but what if this happens instead of that" is important too. Not in the sense of, "if this does happen, everything will be over" but actually in the sense of, "if this does happen, it will not be the end because these are the ways with which I can continue".

I just think that knowing life can still be alright if it doesn't go the way you most wish it should, makes facing the adversity a little easier. Makes it less scary. And if something is a little bit less scary, that makes it that much easier to achieve.

[serenityquest]

[inksharkery]

[furiousgoldfish]

For all of you who've been told that you are a failure – or that you will end up a failure, I need you to know that such a thing doesn't exist. There is no person anywhere who is a failure. There are people failed by the system, people who are failed by their families, by their jobs, bosses, the economy, the law, the government, the rich, the oppression, by their own lack of empathy. But nobody is a failure.

Not doing well at any area in life does not make person a failure. People who don't have a career are not failures, people who don't have jobs aren't failures. People who struggle with addiction or homelessness are not failures. People who fall thru the cracks of social systems aren't failures either. Not finding love doesn't equal a failure. Human beings don't fail. We're not meant to follow a structure of life that demands us to constantly struggle against a system that is set so that only a certain percentage could enjoy privileges, while the rest is told we're not good enough.

We're born to be a part of the world, to share the sun and the rain together, to form a community and live more easily relying on each other, we're meant to enjoy affection and acceptance throughout our entire lives, to experience joy and sorrow with support of others, to fill each other's time with conversation and laughter. A person not having these things in life doesn't equal a failure, it's a person who's been denied their birthright. It's a person who is forced to miss out and to struggle, because if they were able to enjoy what is natural to them, they would not be in so much anxiety or pain.

No matter what mistakes you make, or what roads you take, you will never be a failure. Nobody is supposed to fight their entire life alone in order to keep the fear of failure away. It's not a real threat. You cannot fail, as long as you breathe, you're valuable and welcome part of the world.

[mbti-notes]

Hi! INFJ here. Would you be able to elaborate on the dynamics that lead to Level 3 INFJ's being 'overdependent on people who share similar interests'? This seems completely accurate to me. I've always highly prioritized working with the right mentor and collaborators, and don't feel confident in my ability to do my work completely on my own. But I'm not sure how to move beyond this state: I guess Ti development is the key?

There are a lot of factors that can contribute to overdependence. Since you haven't provided many clues as to why you lack confidence, all I can say is that, in INFJs generally, it is often related to issues like perfectionism or fear of failure. For example:

Ni: Do you have realistic expectations of yourself? If your expectations are too high, narrow, or strict, "falling short" will always feel like a threat to you.

Fe: Are you sensitive to disapproval? If so, incurring negative feedback and criticism will always feel like a threat to you.

Ni+Fe: Do you easily suffer from excess guilt or shame? If so, making mistakes will always feel like a threat to you.

If any of the above apply to you, it means further Ni and Fe development is needed, in which case, Ti development isn't on the docket yet. It's important to develop functions in the correct order. In the above mindset, the prime motivator is fear. It means purposely keeping oneself small as a defense against those ego threats, and overdependence is one possible manifestation of that smallness. I don't have a magic wand that can convince people to immediately drop their ego fears. The best way to overcome them is to confront them.

Being independent isn't as simple as just going it alone. Humans are social creatures, so relationships are vital to their well-being. Independence is partly about faith and trust, which gives rise to self-confidence. It means having faith in yourself and having trust in your capabilities. Unfortunately, people often believe that being "capable" means being able to do things well all the time. Not the case.

If you truly believe in your capabilities, it means you believe you can do things well AND it also means you believe you can handle it when you DON'T do things well. You trust that you'll survive, adapt, learn, and evolve. Perhaps the point you're missing is that you have to face challenges, problems, obstacles, mistakes, failures and all the messiness and nastiness in life in order to grow. As long as you live in fear of these things, you'll give up every opportunity to grow. Can you feel genuinely fulfilled knowing that you've never been brave enough to really stand up and stand out as the truest version of yourself?

[amongmoths666]

Me after making a single mistake:

[yourmentalhealthpal]

Embrace your journey: Trust the path you're on and the process you're undergoing. Every step, every stumble, leads you closer to growth and fulfillment. Believe in your journey.

[darkacademiagoddess]

I am already dangerously close to my limit and it's only been a month since school started

[messydoodles]

Failure

fail…

Fail

FAIL

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I don’t wanna fail

I’m not a failure

I can’t fail

I can’t…

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Frost was always interesting to me in MK11 and her whole small story ik about. Villains or characters that want to be nothing but perfection and hurts themselves/others to do so, have always been smth I liked. My interpretation of Frost is a little more than what’s given and what ik. The pressure and desire for perfection and the fear of failure will/can be her downfall

[raesworld1]

AFFIRM IT. CLAIM IT. IT’S YOURS. 🩵

[safe-haven-safe-place]

[moonlit-positivity]

Everything you do in life is a process, so you can slow down and stop expecting immediate results. Learn how to take a deep breath, learn how to anticipate the trials and the errors and the obstacles and the failed attempts, and learn how to enjoy the experience rather than expecting yourself to get it right the first time. 🌸

[serenityquest]